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  • Youth Puts Studies On Hold To Care For Cancer-Stricken Maid In At Her Own Home

    Youth Puts Studies On Hold To Care For Cancer-Stricken Maid In At Her Own Home

    He dreams of pursuing circus arts in an overseas university.

    But Mr Marshall Lim, 22, has put his plans on hold, all so he can accompany his maid home to Indonesia to look after her.

    The helper, Ms Jariyah, 40, has Stage 4 cancer and has decided to return to her hometown in Central Java to reunite with her family after working for Mr Lim’s family for 15 years.

    She has taken care of Mr Lim since she joined the household in 1996 when he was two years old. She also took care of his brother, Mayor, who is now 19 and a polytechnic student.

    Mr Lim said of Ms Jariyah: “She’s my other mother. She treats me and my brother like her sons.”

    Affectionately calling her “Auntie Jar”, he added: “Once Auntie Jar is settled down and better, I can always come home to continue my physical training to audition for circus school.”

    His mother, Ms Margaret Tan, 49, let Ms Jariyah return to her family in Cilacap once it became clear she has only months to live.

    Said Ms Tan, a divorcee: “I discussed with my boys about Jariyah returning home, and we decided Marshall could accompany her back.”

    They left on Sunday.

    Ms Tan made arrangements to pay for her hospital bills using insurance payouts when Ms Jariyah was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer.

    She even raised funds by asking friends to contribute.

    FAMILY

    Breaking down as she spoke to The New Paper on Tuesday, Ms Tan, who would only say she worked in the medical field, said Ms Jariyah had become family.

    She was her pillar of support when Ms Tan got her divorce in 2005.

    Said Ms Tan: “She was in a divorce once too, so I think she understands how it’s like. We bonded over this and found support in each other.

    “She took good care of the family during my divorce. She would give me advice and even talk to the boys.

    “I’m very grateful for that. She even made sure I was eating well. She went through a lot of hard times with me.”

    When money got tight in 2009, Ms Tan could not keep Ms Jariyah.

    Ms Tan said: “I found a good employer for her. She visited at least once every two months when she was with her second employer.”

    Ms Jariyah returned to Indonesia in 2012 but came back to work for Ms Tan in 2014.

    What would have been a happy-ever-after was cut short when Ms Jariyah started getting sick a year later, often running fevers.

    Eventually, she was diagnosed with cancer of the liver last month. It has spread to the lungs and uterus.

    In tears, Ms Tan said: “She’s not my domestic helper, she’s my closest friend. I just can’t accept the fact that she has cancer.”

    They tried treatments and herbal remedies, but ultimately Ms Jariyah decided treatment was “too expensive”.

    She then asked Ms Tan to let her return home to her parents.

    From Cilacap, Mr Lim told The New Paper on Wednesday that he has been looking after Ms Jariyah.

    She has fevers several times a day. He sometimes takes her out, like to the beach, for fresh air.

    Mr Lim said Ms Jariyah’s new house, which she hoped to build with her salary, had been under renovation since January. Due to lack of funds, the work stopped.

    He said: “Auntie Jar and I want to concentrate on getting well first before continuing renovations.”

    His bigger concern now is getting “healthy food” for her.

    MAKING DO

    “There’s a lack of variety in terms of fruit and vegetables, and berries – which are good for fighting cancer but are not available. I buy what is available and make do with what I have.

    “We also brought some quinoa from Singapore.”

    He has been helping with the chores at Ms Jariyah’s house.

    He said: “Auntie Jar’s daughter is still making food for me, so I have to force her to let me do chores or I’ll do it myself.”

    He has not planned when he will be returning to Singapore and does not have a long-term visa to stay in Indonesia.

    Said Mr Lim: “I guess I’ll stay for a month. Longer if possible, I’m not really too sure.

    “I just want her to be happy and healthy. If she’s happy with her family here, then I’ll be happy for her.”

    I’m very grateful for that. She even made sure I was eating well. She went through a lot of hard times with me.

    – Ms Margaret Tan, Ms Jariyah’s employer

    Her friends donate money to Ms Jariyah

    When Ms Jariyah, 40, was diagnosed with cancer, Ms Margaret Tan decided to raise funds for her treatment and for the renovation work on her house back in Indonesia.

    Ms Tan reached out to her friends, who donated money to help. She collected about $1,500.

    Said Ms Tan, 49: “I just want to help Jariyah, she’s important to me. We are not trying to be popular, we just want to do our best to raise funds for her. And I want to thank friends who have donated.”

    Ms Tan said the domestic insurance covers only hospitalisation and she does not know if it can be claimed.

    Ms Jariyah’s hospital bills cost $11,000.

    Ms Tan said: “We only have $15,000 per year for insurance payout, so we can’t afford chemotherapy, which is about $20,000.”

    Ms Jariyah did not consider chemotherapy as she knew it was expensive. The doctor told Ms Tan that Ms Jariyah would probably have months to live without chemotherapy.

    The Foreign Domestic Worker Association for Social Support and Training (Fast)also donated a token sum of $1,000 to Ms Jariyah.

    Fast is a non-profit organisation which promotes social support and skills training for foreign domestic workers.

    Initiated by the Ministry of Manpower (MOM), it was founded in March 2005 and co-ordinates courses for migrant workers here, such as cookery, English and business skills.

    On how they knew of the case, Mr Muhammad Nizam Amlan, manager of Fast, said: “(Ms Jariyah) told a friend about her condition and her friend (a Fast volunteer) came to us about the case (last Wednesday). We thought it was a good way to provide assistance.”

    Ms Tan told TNP she hopes there would be people to help Ms Jariyah.

    She said: “The money would go to having a better living environment for Jariyah and also for treatment, healthy food.

    “We have to keep Jariyah happy, so she has strength to fight the cancer.”

    She shaves head to help maid’s son

    CHARITY: Domestic helper Mariza Canete watches as her employer Isabelle Claisse’s head is shaved at a fund-raiser for her son. ST FILE PHOTO

    Ms Margaret Tan and her sons are not the only employers here who are raising funds for their domestic helpers.

    Earlier this year, The Straits Times reported how an employer, Ms Isabelle Claisse, 38, a lawyer, went bald to raise funds for her domestic helper’s son.

    Ms Mariza Canete’s 11-year-old boy had a “potentially fatal” tumour on his left leg.

    Through two campaigns on Generosity, crowdfunding site Indiegogo’s charity platform, nearly $63,000 was raised.

    Ms Canete, 30, told The New Paper on Wednesday night her son had another operation on his leg earlier this month in the Philippines.

    She said: “It was an infection, but now he’s discharged and recovering at home. He’s better, though he’s still skinny, but his appetite is back.”

    Ms Canete is still working in Singapore while her son is recovering back home.

    To Ms Canete, “forever” will never be enough to express her gratitude.

    She said: “I feel so blessed that there are people who helped to save my son’s life.”

    Ms Claisse, 38, told TNP they are still seeking donations.

    She said: “It really was incredible. Obviously, in many ways it was an awful experience, but I was able to take so many positives from it.”

    Madam Tey Ah Neo is another employer here who helped her domestic helper. In 2014, The Straits Times reported that Madam Tey, a retired accounts manager, paid for Ms Rodalina Dalauidao’s three children’s university education.

    Madam Tey received the Foreign Domestic Worker Employer of the Year award, which was given out by the Foreign Domestic Worker Association for Social Support and Training in December that year.

     

    Source: www.tnp.sg

  • 6 Months Imprisonment For Attacker OF Madrasah Students

    6 Months Imprisonment For Attacker OF Madrasah Students

    A single act of racially aggravated violence wounds the victim, and by extension, the collective interest of society, said a district judge on Friday (May 20) as he sentenced a former security officer to six months’ jail.

    Koh Weng Onn, who attacked three madrasah students on April 1 this year, had pleaded guilty to two charges — causing hurt with racial aggravation, as well as committing a rash act causing hurt.

    District Judge Mathew Joseph noted that 48-year-old Koh, who suffers from a disorder with delusions of persecution, had made 355 police reports since 2008, many of them against Malay and Indian subjects.

    “The racial pattern in these reports poses a risk of the accused getting into similar situations (again),” he said.

    According to court documents, Koh started to have a bad impression of Malays several years ago, when he confronted a group for allegedly talking about him, and claimed that they started to hit him until he ran away.

    Around 7pm on March 31 this year, Koh was walking towards a coffee shop at East Coast Road when he saw two Malay women cycling towards him. He took a chair and pushed it towards them, sparking a dispute.

    A male Malay cyclist, who was behind the women, started having a shoving match with Koh. The police were called, and the parties apologised to each other.

    The next day, he was walking towards the MRT station along Paya Lebar Road at around 7.22am, when he passed a 16-year-old student. He suddenly kicked her and swore at her in Hokkien, leaving his victim shocked by the sudden blow.

    A minute later, Koh passed a 14-year-old student, and swung a plastic bag containing a filled 1.5-litre bottle towards the side of her face.

    As he entered Paya Lebar MRT Station and rode the escalator down, he saw a group of girls riding the escalator in the opposite direction.

    Koh waited till all of them, except the last girl, had passed him, before swinging his plastic bag at the 14-year-old’s face.

    Koh later defended himself, saying that the sight of the three girls, all students of Madrasah Al-Maarif Al-Islamiah, reminded him of the encounter with the cyclists, and thus angered him.

    Calling for a sentence of six months’ jail, Deputy Public Prosecutor Ang Feng Qian noted that Koh had confessed that he committed the offences because the victims were Malay. He also chose the girls specifically because they were young and female, to reduce the chances of retaliation and reprisal, she added.

    Defence lawyer Sunil Sudheesan, who pleaded for a jail term of three months, said Koh’s delusions had contributed to his offences.

    Mr Sunil added that the fact that an anonymous entrepreneur from an Arab-Muslim family had stepped forward to seek legal help for Koh and offered to foot his bills showed that Singaporeans are not “short-sighted”.

    Mr Sunil said: “They know the difference between someone who is a racist and a bigot, and someone who has (a) mental illness.”

    District Judge Joseph noted that Koh’s family had apologised on his behalf previously. “In a world (divided) by sectarian strife, the exhortation to love your neighbour becomes exceedingly crucial. And it’s all the more important for a nation like Singapore,” the judge said.

    Koh’s older brother, Mr Muhammad Johan Koh, told TODAY that the family accepted the sentence, adding: “He knew he committed an offence and needs to face the consequences. After serving his sentence, he will resume his treatment at the Institute of Mental Health. We will get the help we need to get him better.”

     

    Source: www.todayonline.com

  • Meet A Muslim Brother, Malik Abdul Aziz

    Meet A Muslim Brother, Malik Abdul Aziz

    Profil: Malik Abdul Aziz (Mike Tyson)

    1.Dia pernah juara dunia tinju kelas berat.
    2.Dia menjatuhkan spink cuma 90 detik.
    3.masuk Islam, sudah hajji dan pernah khuruj ke Markas Nizamuddin, India
    4.ujarnya:lebih baik miskin tapi bahagia daripada kaya tapi sengsara.
    5.semoga berkah dan tersebar hidayah…

    Aamiin.

     

    Source: Islam Agama Ku

  • Almakhazin: When Anti-Islamophobia Activists Are Islamophobic

    Almakhazin: When Anti-Islamophobia Activists Are Islamophobic

    Over the years, I have met with a lot of Muslims in Singapura, Malaysia and Australia who claim to be concerned about Islamophobia.

    They engage with their surrounding society and government to reduce or eliminate threats to cohesion and co-existence.

    Those who work on this issue can be broadly categorised into 2 groups:

    1. Those who challenge it by promoting Islam.

    2. And those who challenge Islamophobia by making themselves appear acceptable to non-Muslims

    The first group will discuss Islam, what we need to do and promote the religion while participating in the discourse.

    The stance is “We are Muslims. We will not change who we are to be acceptable to anyone else.

    We are happy to engage and discuss. Hopefully that will bring understanding. If it does not, that is alright. We will continue engagement”.

    The second group tries to be accepted. They create videos such as “Happy Muslims” and “We are Muslims dont panic”.

    They tend to attach themselves to rights discourses.

    Their usual argument is that Muslims are a disempowered minority. Their recourse is to work with other disempowered minority groups for mutual support.

    We see these Muslims in support of homosexuality, socialist/ Marxist class struggles etc.

    Their discourse on rights and freedom are taken from liberal values.

    Their main focus is to be accepted.

    In their quest, they change Islam so that others will accept them. They try to be the face of acceptable Islam.

    Their struggle is not about the deen. It is not about Islam in its full scope (the beliefs, the practices, the philosophy).

    Their struggle is against disempowerment.

    So rather than Islam rejecting homosexuality, these Muslims argue that we should support the movement because we are both from minority, disempowered groups.

    Their rejection of Islamophobia is not based on Islam. It is based on a need to be accepted.

    It is about negating disempowerment.

    What they may not realise is that their very response is a product of Islamophobia.

    Their attempt to change Islam, to infuse Islam with values and beliefs that are accepted by the majority or the West, is the very product of Islamophobia.

    They provide the counter-narrative against Muslims who want to live according to Islam.

    Rather than resisting, they have become the purveyors of anti Islam rhetoric.

    They are its product.

     

    Source: Almakhazin SG

  • Grandma Sues Grandkids For Trying To Sell HDB Flat

    Grandma Sues Grandkids For Trying To Sell HDB Flat

    Madam Tan Teck Soon says, for 26 years, she has paid the Housing Board $277 each month – mortgage instalments for the three- room flat that she lives in.

    She paid over $117,000, including upgrading costs and conservancy charges, said the 76-year-old canteen vendor, but she might soon have to leave her home. In March, she said, she learnt her granddaughters were trying to sell the flat.

    To stop this, she has sued both Ms Michelle Ng Li Xuan, 26, and Ms Isabella Ng Su Xi, 25.

    The case is pending in the High Court, and the two sides met for a pre-trial conference on Tuesday, said lawyer Chia Boon Teck, who is representing Madam Tan pro bono.

    Both sisters are registered owners of the flat, which they inherited when their father died in 2009.

    But Madam Tan said she had single-handedly paid for the flat since its purchase in 1990. Her granddaughters were only holding it in trust for her, she said. In her affidavit, she said they were trying to sell it and “swallow” the proceeds.

    The 10th-storey flat in Bedok South was bought under the name of her son – the sisters’ father, Mr Ng King Nguang – said Madam Tan, who was then registered as co-owner of another flat with her older son. The disputed flat has an estimated value of about $330,000 now.

    “The flat was registered under Ng’s sole name at that time with the understanding between Ng and me that I was the sole owner,” she said, adding that she paid the initial sum of $20,000 for the down payment and renovations.

    She was registered as an owner of the flat in 1992, after the other flat was sold. But seven years later, Mr Ng chalked up about $100,000 in debts, she said. He then purportedly asked her for help. She said he wanted her to sell him her share of the flat so he could get an HDB loan on the pretext of paying her.

    She said she did not get any money from the sale, but lent him $61,000 instead. He used the entire sum to pay creditors, she said.

    “I’m not a lawyer. I didn’t understand the implications. My son and I understood the flat still belonged to me,” she told The Straits Times.

    In 1992, Mr Ng divorced his wife, who got custody of Michelle. Isabella, about one then, grew up in the flat with her father and Madam Tan.

    In 2009, Mr Ng died after a heart attack. The sisters inherited the flat, along with his mortgage life insurance payout of $40,200.

    “I did not understand how (they) could sell the flat and throw me onto the streets when I had paid for the flat entirely single-handedly,” Madam Tan said in her affidavit.

    Both sisters denied trying to sell the flat without her knowledge.

    Ms Michelle Ng disputed that Madam Tan had made all payments for the flat. “What I understand is that my dad was the one doing the payments,” she said, adding that she and her sister let Madam Tan live there as it was near Madam Tan’s workplace.

    Ms Ng said Madam Tan made some payments for the flat after Mr Ng died, but that was because Madam Tan was living there then.

    Ms Ng said the flat was an asset passed down to both sisters by their father, which they should be able to sell, and they had offered Madam Tan an alternative place to live – with Ms Isabella Ng at her upcoming BTO flat in Choa Chu Kang.

    Said Ms Michelle Ng, a former marketing executive: “I’m not working at the moment. I’m expecting my second child. I’m not taking the money to go and enjoy myself.”

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com