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  • Ikea Singapore Reviews Support For Pastor Lawrence Khong’s Magic Show After Backlash From Gay Rights Group

    Ikea Singapore Reviews Support For Pastor Lawrence Khong’s Magic Show After Backlash From Gay Rights Group

    Furniture retailer Ikea Singapore is reviewing its support for a magic show staged by a pastor known for his views against homosexuality, a spokesman told The Straits Times on Monday.

    This comes after a backlash over the weekend from gay rights groups, who are unhappy that the retailer’s membership programme, Ikea Family, is one of the supporters of pastor-magician Lawrence Khong’s magic show in July.

    Members of Ikea Family can obtain discounted rates for Mr Khong’s show, Vision, which he is staging along with his daughter Priscilla.

    But Ms Jean Chong, the co-founder of women’s gay rights group Sayoni, said that Ikea’s support for the event “raises the question if Ikea is truly committed to diversity worldwide”, according to an article published on international LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) news portal Gay Star News.

    In response to an unhappy customer on its Facebook page, Ikea said: “We are really sorry for the unhappiness this has caused. We have taken it to our management and they are reviewing it. We’ll come back when we have more information.”

    An Ikea spokesman had reportedly told Gay Star News over the weekend that Ikea Family is promoting the show on its website, but not funding it.

    “Vision is offering our Family members a discount on tickets to a theatrical illusion performance that offers high family entertainment value,” she said.

    Mr Khong, the 63-year-old senior pastor of Faith Community Baptist Church, has been outspoken about his views against homosexuality. Last year, he pledged support for a Islamic religious teacher’s campaign to “wear white”, in protest against the annual LGBT picnic Pink Dot.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • Curse Of The Stanford Duck Syndrome

    Curse Of The Stanford Duck Syndrome

    When Stanford University medical student Tarub Mabud, 24, gets together with his fellow students, they never talk about how hard they study or the challenges they face with their course work.

    “It’s an unwritten rule, when you hang with med school friends, you don’t talk about med school,” he said.

    It has become part of the school culture for students to pretend to be gliding effortlessly through their courses, when they are actually paddling furiously to stay afloat.

    A term has even been coined for this behaviour: Stanford Duck Syndrome.

    While the syndrome is not a proven medical condition, the pressure to keep up appearances could cause students to feel added stress and, in extreme cases, develop mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, psychologists and counsellors told The Sunday Times.

    Stress in elite American universities, especially exacerbated by behaviour like the Stanford Duck Syndrome, has come under the microscope in recent weeks after Singaporean student Ouyang Xiangyu, 26, was charged with four counts of poisoning her lab mates at Stanford.

    She told police that she had been to see a counsellor and psychiatrist last year, and that she was suffering from depression, stress and insomnia.

    At the University of Pennsylvania (U Penn), a 19-year-old freshman committed suicide last year, and reports said her death was linked to the stress of having to maintain good grades. In February this year, her university, which launched a task force last year after two consecutive suicides, released a report which recommended addressing a perceived perfectionist culture among students.

    “Such perceptions may lead to pressures to succeed both academically and socially, that may be unrealistic and lead to feelings of being overwhelmed,” said the report.

    Students have also identified a phenomenon similar to the Stanford Duck Syndrome. Those with “Penn Face” put on a perfect front to hide any emotions – be it stress or sadness – that they might feel.

    But Mr Manud, the medical student who studied at U Penn before heading to Stanford in California, on the west coast, said he did not feel the pressure to keep up appearances on the east coast.

    “On the east coast, it’s a point of pride to not be sleeping – you’re a badass. Here, it’s different… There are times when people are going to feel stressed by work but have to keep up a facade.”

    Some students believe the Californian sunshine and the image of students wearing T-shirts and shorts make everyone feel like they should be calm and relaxed all the time.

    Said Ms Rachel Peters, a physical therapist who graduated from Stanford in 1997 and still works on campus: “You always see people in their bikinis on the lawn. They are lounging in their bathing suits, but they are actually studying.”

    While there are no studies to prove it, Vanderbilt University professor of psychology Steven Hollon said he “wouldn’t be surprised” by the east coast-west coast divide. “It would certainly fit the ambience,” he said.

    But “having to put up the image of perfection is just one more source of stress on top of the work load”, said Mr Kevin Kruger, president of Naspa, an association for student affairs administrators in higher education.

    Across the United States, an increasing number of college students are reporting severe mental health issues.

    Of more than 200 counselling centre directors who were surveyed in the National Survey of College Counselling Centres, 94 per cent said recent trends pointing to a greater number of students with severe psychological problems are apparent on their campuses. The centres also reported that 26 per cent of students were on psychiatric medication last year, up from 17 per cent in 2000.

    Many students “do not handle stress well”, said Ms Amy Lenhart, president-elect of the American College Counselling Association (ACCA).

    Part of it has to do with the different parenting styles that have emerged, she added.

    There are “helicopter parents” who hover excessively around their children tending to their every need, and “trophy kids” – a term used to describe the generation of children unaccustomed to failure – receiving a trophy even for participating in an event.

    “They don’t have the resilience and coping skills that previous generations have,” said Mr Kruger.

    “There is also pressure to get a good job because of the increase in tuition and student debt, which has added to the level of stress among students,” he added.

    A survey by the American College Health Association covering nearly 80,000 students and released last year showed that in the previous 12 months, 86 per cent of respondents felt overwhelmed, 54 per cent felt overwhelming anxiety and about 32 per cent were so depressed that they found it difficult to function.

    Mr Rusty Selix, executive director of policy and advocacy at the Mental Health Association in California, said stress is a major cause of depression and anxiety.

    “For busy graduate students, not getting enough sleep in itself can cause depression and anxiety,” he said.

    Another stress-inducing behavioural pattern that counsellors, psychologists and students raised is the “imposter syndrome”, a phenomenon found both in an academic and professional setting.

    It is a feeling of inadequacy often felt by bright, successful people, who believe they managed to fool others into thinking they are more intelligent than they believe themselves to be. As a result, they often fear being “found out”.

    Said Mr Francisco Gimenez, 28, a biomedical informatics graduate student at Stanford: “It was talked about a lot in the first year. You feel you’re not good enough, seeing everyone else doing amazing things.”

    “Many feel like they do not belong, or they are not worthy, especially those in elite schools,” added Mr Kruger.

    ACCA’s Ms Lenhart said this might be more pronounced now because of social media, where young people are “constantly being evaluated by their peers and they feel like they are under a microscope”.

    But students should never feel like they have nowhere to turn to.

    Ms Lenhart said schools have outreach programmes to make sure students know of the counselling services available, and there is also the National Depression Screening Day, which is an opportunity for students to connect with counsellors for treatment.

    A therapist can help students recognise negative thought processes and encourage them not to isolate themselves.

    “They need to know feelings of depression are real – it is not something just in their heads,” said Ms Lenhart.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • Lee Wei Ling: Honour The Spirit Of What Lee Kuan Yew Stood For

    Lee Wei Ling: Honour The Spirit Of What Lee Kuan Yew Stood For

    On April 6 a journalist from the Chinese evening paper Lianhe Wanbao sought to interview me about my father Lee Kuan Yew.

    This was two weeks after Papa died, yet the outpouring of adulation from usually unemotional and often undemonstrative Singaporeans remained unabated. There were long queues to see Papa’s memorabilia at the National Museum. Stories and anecdotes about Papa continued in the media.

    One example was a short telegram Papa sent home telling when he would arrive and a cryptic one word, “battleship”, which he used to tell his family he wanted steamboat for dinner. Unfortunately, no one understood what he meant and there was no steamboat for dinner. While it was entertaining, I found the story neither newsworthy nor educational.

    One village in Tamil Nadu is planning to build a statue of Papa, another a museum, while a third wants to devote a memorial hall to honour his memory. If Papa were not cremated, he would be turning in his grave in shock and distress.

    Closer to home, I was baffled by the news that our MPs were suggesting naming various structures or institutions after Papa.

    Papa had worked hard to prevent any personality cult from growing around him. It would most certainly go against what he would want and what he stood for in life, such as service to Singapore and Singaporeans, because that was the right thing to do, without any ulterior motive, least of all self-promotion.

    In life, Papa had to face publicity as he galvanised Singaporeans and put his views across to them, to persuade them to accept his decision about what needed to be done for their own welfare. He never courted publicity merely for the sake of publicity. When I wrote articles that mentioned him, I always checked with him before doing so, and his reply would be, “OK, but no hagiography”.

    His reply to an ex-MP’s suggestion to name a monument or public structure after him was simply: “Remember Ozymandias.”

    Ozymandias was a pharaoh in ancient Egypt. A sonnet by the 19th-century English Romantic poet Percy Bysshe Shelley refers to a huge but fragmented statue of Ozymandias with these words carved on its pedestal: “My name is Ozymandias, king of kings: Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair!”

    But nothing remained except the desert. Shelley’s moral was that all prominent figures and the empires they build are impermanent, their legacies doomed to decay into oblivion.

    The best response to Papa’s passing is to honour the spirit of what he stood for, which is the welfare of Singaporeans. There is much that we can all work towards for this purpose.

    Similarly, to fuss over Papa’s personal objects or portrait defeats the purpose that he had strived for so diligently in life, which was the welfare of Singaporeans.

    Yet, what I am told is stirring up Singaporeans is the house Papa lived in which was built more than 100 years ago. In his book, Hard Truths, he said he wanted it demolished because it was too expensive to preserve.

    That he did not want the house preserved is obvious from his will which states: “It is my wish, and the wish of my late wife, Kwa Geok Choo, that our house at 38 Oxley Road, Singapore 238629 be demolished immediately after my death or, if my daughter Wei Ling would prefer to continue living in the original house, immediately after she moves out of the house. I would ask each of my children to ensure our wishes with respect to the demolition of the house be carried out.

    “If our children are unable to demolish the house as a result of any changes in the law, rules or regulations binding them, it is my wish that the house never be opened to others except my children, their families and descendants.

    “My view on this has been made public before and remains unchanged. My statement of wishes in this paragraph may be publicly disclosed notwithstanding that the rest of my will is private.”

    Fellow Singaporeans, let us move on in a post-Lee Kuan Yew era and continue to behave with kindness and consideration towards each other and work for a better Singapore for Singaporeans.

    If we, by the way, also benefit fellow humans who are not Singaporeans, that would not be a bad thing either. We are all born into this life and we shall all eventually die. Our existence between these points in time would be more meaningful and fulfilling if we can help other fellow human beings.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • Malay Grassroots Organisations To Roll Out 10 Porridge Distribution Projects During Upcoming Ramadan

    Malay Grassroots Organisations To Roll Out 10 Porridge Distribution Projects During Upcoming Ramadan

    Malay grassroots organisations will work with immigrant associations to roll out 10 porridge distribution projects during the Muslim fasting month of Ramadan this year, said Minister of State for Health Lam Pin Min on Saturday.

    Calling the projects meaningful, Dr Lam said it will not only help promote the spirit of giving and helping the needy, but will also allow new immigrants to assimilate by interacting with Singaporeans and learning the significance of local ethnic and cultural practices.

    He made the remarks at a talk about integration, organised by the People’s Association (PA).

    Speaking to more than 1,000 people including grassroots leaders, representatives of immigrant associations and students at the ITE College Central, Dr Lam urged Singaporeans and new citizens alike to work with the Government on social integration.

    He said: “Integration is a two-way process…while new citizens need to learn and accept the Singapore way of life so as to integrate better into our society, local Singaporeans must also put in effort to encourage and welcome new citizens to step forward and be active members of the community.”

    And because Singapore must continue to attract new immigrants so as to survive, given its ageing population and low birth rates, social integration thus becomes critical, he added, as he noted the role of the PA in promoting integration.

    Part of its efforts this year is the Happy Project 50 initiative – a series of 50 community service programmes jointly created by grassroots organisations and immigrant associations, of which the 10 porridge distribution projects come under.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • Lee Hsien Loong: Muslim Communities Need To Be Guided And Work Done To Prevent Perverted, Dangerous Ideas From Catching On

    Lee Hsien Loong: Muslim Communities Need To Be Guided And Work Done To Prevent Perverted, Dangerous Ideas From Catching On

    Since 2002, the authorities have released from detention 57 extremists who have been rehabilitated and were deemed no longer to pose a security threat. Of these, there was only one case of recidivism.

    Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong revealed this at the closing of the two-day East Asia Summit on Religious Rehabilitation and Social Integration on Friday (Apr 17).

    He attributed the “resounding success” to the work of the Religious Rehabilitation Group (RRG), formed in 2003, after a crackdown on the Jemaah Islamiyah terror network in Singapore. Mr Lee reiterated that security actions and operational capabilities are not enough to counter the terror threat. Just as important are rehabilitation and reintegration.

    In Singapore’s context, the Prime Minister said the country also needs to address the religious and social dimensions, as part of a broader approach to addressing the problem.

    “Muslim communities need to be guided and work has to be done to prevent perverted and dangerous ideas from catching on. We have to work to build an integrated, harmonious and multi-religious society. So that we avoid problems of marginalisation, religious enclaves, misperceptions and resentments, which can feed on themselves and generate religious extremism and terrorism,” said Mr Lee.

    Mr Lee said race and religion are natural fault lines in any multi-racial country and Singapore is especially vulnerable.

    He said: “In particular, in Singapore, we have a substantial minority of Muslims in our midst, living peacefully with other races and religions. So any terrorist attack invoking the name of Islam in vain will have grave consequences for us.

    “Not just that there will be physical casualties, people maimed or killed, but that it will create anger and mistrust between Muslims and non-Muslims, raise social tensions and quite possibly break apart our society.”

    Mr Lee said the harmony Singapore enjoys is a precious state of affairs – the result of a conscious and sustained effort to build trust and mutual understanding.

    He cited the policy of requiring public housing estates to be ethnically integrated, thereby mitigating the creation of ghettos.

    Another important reason the country has been able to achieve peace and harmony is because of support from Muslim leaders and the community in Singapore.

    He said: “This is an absolute requirement if we are to make any headway in the fight against terrorism. But it is not easy to achieve, because it depends on trust, already been established, and where the trust is not yet strong enough, it is hard to get into a virtuous circle and to start building it, especially when under stress.”

    Mr Lee thanked the Malay-Muslim community in Singapore for coming together and working hard to prevent radical ideology from taking root and spreading.

    Ustaz Ali Mohamed, co-chairman of the Religious Rehabilitation Group, said: “The Singapore’s terrorist rehabilitation approach shows that partnership between the Government, religious scholars, academics and community is crucial in responding to the current operational and ideological threat of terrorism.

    “Being part of this team, RRG believes religious rehabilitation does not just require religious knowledge, but it is a marriage to other great fields and knowledge such as psychology, geopolitics, sociology, and information technology and security studies.”

    LEARNING FROM SINGAPORE’S RRG

    Conference delegates were keen to learn from Singapore. Together with Mr Lee, they were given a tour of the RRG’s Resource and Counselling Centre.

    The centre, located at Khadijah Mosque, was opened about a year ago and it is an important addition to Singapore’s overall counter-terrorism efforts, by providing a one-stop resource centre to religious teachers, researchers and the community at large.

     

    Source: www.channelnewsasia.com

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