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  • 52 Year Old Family Friend Sexually Abuses 3 Young Teenaged Brothers

    52 Year Old Family Friend Sexually Abuses 3 Young Teenaged Brothers

    They fully trusted him with their three sons as he was then working in the boys’ school.

    Instead of paying back their trust, the family friend abused the boys, destroying their lives by robbing them of their innocence and dignity.

    The man, now 52, was working as a school operations support assistant in a primary school in the western part of Singapore when he sexually abused all three youngsters between 2009 and February 2013.

    On one occasion, he even performed obscene acts on the two younger boys while they were in the same room.

    Yesterday, the man, who started out in the primary school as a security guard, pleaded guilty in court to three counts of committing indecent acts on the boys and two counts of sexual penetration.

    Twenty-nine other charges for similar offences and two offences under the Films Act involving an uncertified film and five obscene ones will be taken into consideration during sentencing.

    He cannot be named to protect his victims’ identities.

    We will instead refer to the oldest boy as Ben, the middle one as Carl and the youngest brother as Dennis.

    Deputy Public Prosecutor (DPP) Winston Man said Ben was just 11 when the man befriended him in 2009. The boy trusted him as he was a staff member at his school.

    At first, the man would accompany him home from school.

    After that, he started to take him to the zoo and to various shopping centres.

    The man later got close to the boy’s family and befriended his younger brothers.

    DPP Man said he even bought his victims gifts such as shoes and clothes.

    The man focused most of his attention on Carl as he thought the boy’s parents neglected him. He also felt that Carl was more compliant than his brothers.

    GRATEFUL

    DPP Man said: “The victims’ parents entrusted their children to the accused on the many occasions he took them for outings and meals as they thought that he was genuinely concerned for their welfare.”

    He added that before the offences came to light, the boys’ parents were grateful for the man’s help in caring for their children as they worked very long hours.

    The man, who is represented by lawyer S. K. Kumar, showed his true colours in late 2009 when he took Ben to a staircase landing at Block 406, Bukit Batok West Avenue 4, and performed an indecent act on him.

    Later that year, he took Ben to a second-storey staircase landing in the same block of flats.

    By then, the boy knew he was about to be sexually abused, but he followed him out of fear.

    While there, the man performed oral sex on him.

    The court heard that he took Carl on an outing to Hong Kah North Community Club on December 2012.

    He asked Carl to accompany him to a male toilet and forced the boy to perform oral sex on him.

    About two months later, the man took Carl, who was 13, and Dennis, then 12, to his flat in the western part of Singapore.

    He lured the boys into a bedroom before performing indecent acts on them on a bed.

    The man’s perversions only came to light after he sent the children’s mother a text message on March 16, 2013, asking if Carl could join him at Boon Lay Community Centre.

    He told her he wanted to take the boy out shopping for school shoes.

    Carl kept quiet when she showed him the message.

    Dennis, who was nearby, urged his brother to tell their mother about his ordeal.

    The two boys told their shocked mother about what the man had done to them.

    Ben told her about his own experiences when he came home later that day.

    The boys’ parents made a police report four days later and officers arrested the man on March 22, 2013.

    The case has been adjourned to Oct 4.

    For each count of committing an indecent act on a boy, the man could be jailed up to five years and fined up to $10,000.

    For forcing a boy to perform oral sex on him, he could be jailed up to 20 years and fined. The man cannot be caned as he is above 50 years old.

     

    Source: www.tnp.sg

  • Gay Muslim: Blessed, Parents Accept Me And Partner, Celebrating Aidilfitri Together

    Gay Muslim: Blessed, Parents Accept Me And Partner, Celebrating Aidilfitri Together

    This year Raya is gonna special to me and my partner. It’s our third Raya together as a couple. I come from a Super duper sporting and open minded BIG Malay family while my partner come from a traditional Taiwanese Chinese family.

    Me and my partner has been together for close to 4 years and our age gap is 12 years apart thus he and my parents age gap with him isn’t that far. 3 years ago when I introduced him to my whole family of 8,my mum likes him a lot and even ask him to call her “Mak Cik” instead of Sister (Mum younger bro is younger than my partner) Since then on every Hari Raya eve my mum will specially cooks Chicken Rendang (Partner don’t eat beef) for him and ask me to bring it over to his place on Raya eve and spend time together.(I wrote a post about my mum during Hari Raya 2 years ago)

    Dad on the other hand shows love in a different kind. Well, me and my partner travels a lot during our free time. Dad works as a driver, there was a time where my dad makes an effort to find out about our trip and our flight arrival time where he will wait for us at the airport to welcome and send us home!!

    Mum always reminds me that “if you love someone love doesn’t see any age,gender or race. I’m always happy for you no matter who you are or who you love.”

    Well this year Raya will definetely be a memorable one coz my parents insistently requested me to invite my partner home to break fast together on the eve of Raya! My partner was initially shy about the whole idea but well since it’s his “in laws” request, he can’t turn them down mah.

    Despite my parents not being educated and rich ,I feel blessed to have them and I’m thankful that they accepted me and my partner! I love you Mak & Bapak!

    To end it off,here’s wishing all my Muslim LGBT mates a SELAMAT HARI RAYA!!

     

    Source: GLBT Voices Singapore

  • Yasir Qadhi: LGBT Movement Hypocritical

    Yasir Qadhi: LGBT Movement Hypocritical

    We learn from the Quran that when the Prophet Lūt was preaching to his people, eventually his people threatened him: “Expel the people of Lūt from our town! They are a group that seek to purify us” [al-Naml; 56].

    Alas! History always repeats itself, and the way matters are heading now, I fear it is only a matter of time before mobs begin to gather, and legislation is passed, to ban people who believe in the standard morality of sexuality.

    This vicious onslaught after the Orlando massacre against people who wish to affirm what used to be the mainstream Abrahamic understanding of morality exemplifies the intolerance and bigotry of the very folks who would accuse others of intolerance and bigotry.

    Where is the freedom to believe and practice what I choose? We have agreed to abide by the conditions of American liberalism: to live and let live. We have agreed that anyone who preaches hatred and violence should be marginalized and stopped if possible.

    I agree that I have no right to force my positions and opinions on you.

    Will you, who used to champion for your personal freedoms and ask us to simply let you be, allow me that same privilege?

    ‪#‎Hypocrisy‬

     

    Source: Yasir Qadhi

  • LoveSingapore WearWhite’s Message Is Troubling In Multi-Culural, Diverse Singapore

    LoveSingapore WearWhite’s Message Is Troubling In Multi-Culural, Diverse Singapore

    On May 19, the LoveSingapore Christian network released a Facebook post launching the Wear White movement for 2016, calling on churches in its network to wear white. While the Wear White movement was founded last year by a Muslim religious teacher as a counter-movement to Pink Dot, LoveSingapore, as a Christian group, appears to be taking the lead this year. This year, the Wear White movement is scheduled on the same weekend (June 4-5) as Pink Dot, which will be held on June 4 at the Speakers’ Corner.

    LoveSingapore’s Facebook post, which they said was addressed to the government, church, press and society, contains several points which are troubling. In the second point of the post, the LoveSingapore network calls for churches to arise and move on their convictions regarding public morality. This was followed by Howard Hendricks’ quote which said, “A belief is something you will argue about. A conviction is something you will die for.”

    The juxtaposition of LoveSingapore’s mobilisation call and Hendricks’ quote raises eyebrows. Such rhetoric is questionable, especially in view of this year’s terrorist attacks in Brussels and Jakarta.

    The third and fourth point in the message emphasized the importance of listening to Singapore’s conservative majority and keeping with the core values they possess. It also warned that the conservative majority will push against attempts to promote lifestyles and ideologies that openly and outrightly contradict Singapore’s laws, government’s stated policies, national core values, and the conservative majority’s views on public morality, marriage and family.

    LoveSingapore’s repeated emphasis on the word “majority” is troubling. In Singapore’s multiracial, multireligious society, no particular religion or group can claim to speak for the majority.
    The Humanist Society (Singapore) calls for respectful, informed discussion on the topic, based on reason, evidence, and compassion around the cause.

    Executive Committee Humanist Society (Singapore)

     

    Source: Humanist Society Singapore

  • More Marriages Breaking Down Because Of Same-Sex Infidelity

    More Marriages Breaking Down Because Of Same-Sex Infidelity

    In this day and age, the third party that causes a marriage break-up may not be the usual “other woman” or “other man”.

    Family lawyers say they have been seeing more marriages unravel on account of an affair with someone of the same sex.

    It is not common, but the 20 lawyers and private investigators that The Sunday Times interviewed say it is a noticeable development.

    Many of the lawyers handle one or two such cases a year now. But there were hardly any such cases 10 to 15 years ago. At most, it was just one case every few years.

    Lawyers and counsellors say many of the men and women involved may be gay, lesbian or bisexual, but repressed their feelings to conform to social norms or to please their parents by getting married and having children. But with society more open today, more of them are acting on their feelings.

    Lawyer Tan Siew Kim said: “I think being attracted to someone of the same sex is not so taboo any more. So all these people… feel it is now more acceptable to pursue their happiness, if they meet someone of the same sex.”

    Private investigators say the proliferation of social media and dating websites has made it easier to seek and establish such relationships, especially for gay men.

    Lawyer Gloria James-Civetta said one of her clients was suspicious when her husband, a hair stylist in his 30s, became more conscious of his appearance and was frequently out till late. The private investigator the client hired found that her husband often patronised gay clubs. When confronted, he confessed to being gay and told her he wanted to divorce her.

    Ms James-Civetta said of the couple, who have two children: “He told her he felt pressure from his parents to marry. She felt deceived, like he did not really love her at all.”

    According to counsellors, when women get involved with a same-sex companion, it is usually the result of having developed a strong bond with someone who offers them the emotional intimacy they find lacking in their husbands.

    Lawyers say some women even decide to end the marriage and leave the children to be with their new partners.

    Lawyer Rina Kalpanath Singh, who has handled such cases, said: “They tend to shy away from fighting for custody. They may feel ashamed as same-sex relationships are not so accepted by society yet and they don’t want to put their children through living with two parents of the same sex.”

    Understandably, the discovery that their husband or wife is gay or lesbian is traumatic. And many of these spouses demand a divorce, lawyers say. Ms Singh said: “The betrayal cuts even deeper when they find out the third party is someone of the same sex as their spouse.”

    Lawyers say adultery is not cited as grounds for divorce in cases of infidelity involving same-sex partners. This is because adultery is legally defined as a sexual relationship between a man and a woman who are not married to each other, but to other people. So these individuals file for divorce citing “unreasonable behaviour”.

    Lawyer Helen Chia said: “I’m certain this has been going on for some time. It is just that no one talks about it. The world we live in is more accepting, so people now dare to come out and talk about it.”

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com