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  • Is The PAP Government Being Selectively Pro-Family?

    Is The PAP Government Being Selectively Pro-Family?

    Kirsten Han is a Singaporean blogger, journalist and filmmaker. She is also involved in the We Believe in Second Chances campaign for the abolishment of the death penalty. A social media junkie, she tweets at @kixes. The views expressed are her own.

    Singapore, we are told, is a pro-family country. The government actively introduces policies that will encourage young Singaporeans to get married and have children, and nuclear families are often given benefits in the form of tax rebates and subsidies. 

    Yet there are sometimes stories that make you doubt that stance.

    The New Paper ran an article on 17 November about a family now torn apart: upon returning to Singapore and applying for a Long-Term Visit Pass, married couple Mr Y. C. Chen and Ms Li Qiaoyan realised that Ms Li had been served an entry ban. Her offence was not seeking permission from the Ministry of Manpower before getting pregnant and married. Ms Li is now back in China, while Mr Chen had to quit his job to care for their 10-month-old son.

    Under Singapore’s current rules, existing and former work permit holders are required to obtain permission from the state before marrying Singaporeans. According to The New Paper, the Ministry of Manpower says:

    “MOM reviews all marriage applications on a case-by-case basis. Factors taken into consideration include the economic contributions of the applicants, the ability of the applicants to look after themselves and their family without becoming a burden to the society or state.” 

    The New Paper also reported MOM’s position that “work-permit holders, as transient workers, ought to come to Singapore only for work”.

    There are 980,8000 work permit holders in Singapore. It’s impossible that these men and women are here “only for work”; they don’t just come here to serve us food, work in our construction sites and clean our homes. They come here with all their likes and dislikes, their hopes, dreams and desires. They’re people. It’s hardly surprising that they might meet someone and fall in love. 

    Yet the state doesn’t seem to see them as the multi-dimensional human beings they are. It expects them to serve, and only to serve. When they fall in love and want to get married or have children, they are expected to apply to Singapore for permission, even though it should be none of the state’s business who anyone chooses to marry. The state will then decide if the work permit holder is a worthy (read: economically viable) spouse for the Singaporean.

    This rule even applies to former work permit holders. Come to Singapore on a work permit and your desire to marry your partner – if he/she is a Singaporean – will always be dependent on special dispensation from the Controller of Work Passes.

    Such rules and requirements show us that the state is, perhaps, only pro-a-certain-type-of-family. If you’re a non-Singaporean, if your “economic contribution” is deemed wanting, then maybe your family is not so important after all.

    Source: https://sg.news.yahoo.com

  • Man Leaves Wife And Their 10 Children To Fend For Themselves

    Man Leaves Wife And Their 10 Children To Fend For Themselves

    A single mother and her 10 children are struggling to survive after their father left them for another woman two years ago.

    Over the past year, debt collectors – both legal and illegal – have gone to Madam Rafeah Abdul Kadir’s three-room flat in Hougang to look for her estranged husband, Mr Mazlan Abdul, 37.

    An arrest warrant was also issued for Mr Mazlan after he defaulted on maintenance payments since April this year.

    Meanwhile, he can be seen on Facebook posing for selfies with his girlfriend and dancing with her in a Bollywood club.

    Said an upset Madam Rafeah: “He goes out with his parents and girlfriend to eat at nice places. He’s clearly having a good time. What about his children? What are they supposed to eat?”

     

    Source: www.tnp.sg

  • Malaysian Woman Shares Life Story on Being Married to ISIS Fighter

    Malaysian Woman Shares Life Story on Being Married to ISIS Fighter

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    KUALA LUMPUR: A 26-year-old doctor from Malaysia who claimed she has travelled to Syria to join the jihadist movement revealed the realities of being married to an Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (Isis) fighter on social media accounts, which have since gone viral.

    In a report by Buzzfeed, the woman known as Shams, has been using the moniker ‘Bird of Jannah’ to share her experience of joining the insurgents since she left home in February 2014.

    Sham, who also blogs at  ‘Diary Of A Muhajirah’, said that she thought it was her duty tohijrahor pilgrimage to join the fight in Syria since she is a doctor.

    In her posts, Shams indicated that she flew to Turkey and then crossed the Syrian border, all done without the knowledge of her family.

    Although upset at first, her parents eventually supported her decision, Shams revealed.

    “I never spoke to them before I made thehijrah. I told them only after I have reached Turkey. They were quite upset at first but then they are very supportive and happy,” she responded to a question on social networking website, ask.fm. The account has been deactivated.

    After two months in Syria, Shams revealed that she had entered in an arranged marriage with an Isis insurgent from Morocco, who both agreed to be married without having met each other.

    “I made little steps. I was trembling. Nervous. Scared. My emotions were mixed. Upon seeing me, he gave salam and introduced himself, so did I. Then, it was a long awkward silence. A few minutes later, I flipped my Niqab. He looked at me, our eyes catches each others’. I had palpitation that is faster than the speed of light,” she said in a blog post.

    “He smiled. And he asked a question that I shall never forget for the rest of my life.

    “Can we get married today? After Asr?”

    Deep inside my heart shouted, no. But I have no idea why I answered “Yes”.

    Shams further revealed that she had called her father on the same day to obtain his consent for marriage.

    “On the same day, after Asr prayer, my friend, her husband, an English speaking brother and I went to the nearest internet cafe and made call to my father. Again, I spoke about this matter to him and I could hear my mother was shouting in joy at the back.

    “Later, I passed the phone to the English speaking brother for him to take the consent from my father, as my father is mywali.”

    In her postings, Shams also shared the harsh realities of being married to an insurgent and the loathing fear of losing her husband each time he heads out for the ‘battlefield’.

    She relayed a story of a friend named Umm Habiba, who lost her husband in ajihad. Instead of grieving, the widow was happy and celebrated her husband’s death because it means that that he has ‘become asyahid.

    “We entered the house where I saw almost 20 sisters. Nobody cried. Everyone was smiling. The house smells good. The kids seemed happy and there were plenty of foods strewn on the floor. I was astonished, puzzled.

    Shams described the widow as joyful, wore nice clothes and had makeup and jewelleries on when she visited her.

    “Umm Habiba..” I hugged her. The tears began to flow on my cheeks. I cried like a baby. She took her hand and wiped my tears and hold my cheeks. She said something that amazed me.

    “Umm al Baraa ya Habibty. My husband is a  He is In sha Allāh in the garden of Jannah, married to Hoor-al Ayn. Today is the day of celebration. Today is the day of joy. No one shall cry! Especially you. You’re a new bride, you should always smile,” she said in another one of her blog post.

    “I pulled Habiba closer to me and asked her how she’s doing. She said she’s happy because her mother told her that the father has bought a house in paradise and waiting for them.”

    A week and a half into the marriage, it was Sham’s fear turned a reality. Her husband, Abu al Baraa was preparing himself to leave home for a militant operation.

    Jihadis my first wife, and you’re my second. I hope you understand” he told Shams.

    Shams, who is now pregnant, admitted that it was tough being the wife of an insurgent and sometimes post poetry on her Facebook page, begging her husband to not leave her ‘too soon’.

    The doctor, in her Twitter postings, has also defended Isis for carrying out killings on Western journalists and aid workers.

    Her Facebook account has been taken down on several occasions – as it went against Facebook’s policy that do not permit ‘terrorist groups’ to use the social networking site.

    In August, Special Branch (Operations/Counter Terrorism division) assistant director-general Datuk Ayob Khan Mydin Pitchay confirmed reports of Malaysian women who travelled to Syria for certain purposes.

    However, there is no proof that they are involved with ISIS by offering sexual jihad orJihad Al-Nikahto date.

    According to a Malaysian Insider report last month, senior intelligence officials confirmed that three Malaysian women have journeyed to the Middle East to join up with Isis forces.

    Source: http://english.astroawani.com/news/show/we-shall-meet-in-jannah-malaysian-woman-reveals-married-life-with-isis-militant-44247
  • Pastor Lawrence Khong Supports Muslim #WearWhite Movement

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    Credit: ST
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    I’m so happy that Singapore’s Muslim community is making a vocal and visual stand for morality and Family. I fully support the ‘wear white’ campaign. FCBC, together with the LoveSingapore network of churches, will follow suit on the weekend of 28 and 29 June, island-wide. I look forward to celebrating the Family with the Muslim community and I am pleased to partner with them in championing virtue and purity for the good of our nation!

    LoveSingapore will also be supporting an online Family campaign called FamFest Singapore (www.facebook.com/FamFestSingapore ). This is a unique FaceBook page by TOUCH Family Services. It promotes the right Family values. It celebrates the contributions of the Family in Singapore.

    The family unit is the lifeblood of our nation. The time to stand and defend what is right is NOW.

    Authored by Pastor Lawrence Khong of FCBC

    EDITOR’S NOTE

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