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  • Berlumba-Lumba Hantar Anak Ke Kelas Tuisyen

    Berlumba-Lumba Hantar Anak Ke Kelas Tuisyen

    Pagi ini, saya mendengar sebuah stesyen radio membincangkan isu kelas tambahan atau tuisyen untuk kanak-kanak seawal 4 tahun. Macam biasa, ramai parents membuat call memberi pendapat dan rata-ratanya bersetuju kanak-kanak perlukan tuisyen.

    “Malu lah kalau anak saya tak pergi tuisyen, kawan-kawan sy semua hantar anak pergi tuisyen.”

    “Tuisyen kan sekarang trend. Kita kena follow trend.”

    “Daripada membazir masa di rumah, elok lah hantar anak ke kelas tambahan.”

    Owner pusat tuisyen pun siap called ni,

    “Bagus hantar anak ke pusat tuisyen, sekurang2nya anak-anak tak terkejut bila masuk ke pendidikan formal.Senang lulus ujian Linus. Masuk kelas first.”

    Pemikiran ibu bapa di Malaysia hari ini sangat menakutkan. Berlumba-lumba bersaing untuk menayangkan anak siapa paling cepat pandai. Untuk apa ya?

    Dan kebanyakkannya adalah ibu bapa di kalangan golongan yang agak berada dan berpendapatan tinggi. Tapi, malangnya keberadaan dan kemewahan yang dikecap, gagal ditancap sebaiknya untuk membuat mereka cakna mengenai kepentingan dan keperluan anak-anak yang betul-betul di perlukan.

    Alhamdulillah, sejak dari dulu rakyat Malaysia sedar mengenai isu penderaan fizikal. Mendera dan mrotan akan memberi impak yang berpanjangan kepada perkembangan anak-anak yang berterusan.

    Tapi kita terlupa, selain fizikal, kanak-kanak juga terdera EMOSI dan MENTALnya. Percayalah, penderaan mental dan emosi adalah lagi teruk dari penderaan fizikal. Fizikal kita boleh nampak luaran, mental dan emosi kita tak boleh nampak.

    Kita marah ibu bapa yang dera anak secara fizikal. Tapi kita terlupa pandang diri sendiri.

    Dan minggu ini, pelajar seawal 11 tahun membunuh diri akibat kegagalan beliau di dalam peperiksaan. Sebuah sistem yang membentuk intelektual kanak-kanak, tapi gagal membentuk akhlaq dan sahsiah. Di dorong oleh ibu bapa yang jumud jiwa nya.

    Bila kita nak sedar?

    Tak kan nak berhenti bila di dada akhbar terpampang

    “Pelajar Tadika bunuh diri dan membunuh rakan lain kerana gagal membaca ABC dan membuat kiraan mudah 1+1?”

    Berhenti lah ibu bapa. Semua ini salah. Kita semua salah.

    Ini semua malapetaka. Berhentilah.

  • Fajar Road Double Death: Mother Suffered From Post-Partum Depression When She Jumped With 2-Month Old Daughter

    Fajar Road Double Death: Mother Suffered From Post-Partum Depression When She Jumped With 2-Month Old Daughter

    The deaths of a new mother and her infant daughter at a HDB block in Fajar Road last November were found to have been part of a “deliberate act of suicide”, a Coroner’s Court heard on Tuesday (9 May).

    Koh Suan Ping, 29, had held on to her two-month-old daughter Jaelyn when she leapt from her 12th-floor unit on 23 November 2016 with “clear intent that they would die together”, said State Coroner (SC) Marvin Bay while delivering his findings.

    Both were pronounced dead at the foot of the block at 6.58am and 6.54am, respectively. Her husband had not been aware of what happened until police officers showed up at his home.

    Mounting anxiety, ominous message

    The coroner’s inquiry found that Koh had appeared to be “generally well” throughout her pregnancy but, following Jaelyn’s birth, had faced mounting anxiety over her impending return to work and stress over needing to find a new domestic helper.

    The sales manager was also concerned over the performance of her company and, in seeking to clear her work backlog, had voluntarily reduced her maternity leave period to two months instead of her taking up her full four-month entitlement.

    According to testimonies from her husband and two colleagues, Koh was also upset about being unable to produce enough breast milk to feed her child.

    SC Bay also noted how the Web history of Koh’s smartphone showed that she had looked up “What to do when there is no way out” in Chinese on 19 November 2016, just days before she died.

    Koh had “avoided projecting her true emotional state, but her escalating stresses (were) evident in the messages that she had sent to her colleagues and confidants,” he said.

    ‘Toll on working mothers’

    In his closing statements, SC Bay said that the “truly tragic circumstances” of the case highlight the “reality of post-partum depression” as well as the “toll imposed on working mothers” who have to juggle their childcare duties with taking care of their homes and meeting their professional career responsibilities.

    He added that family members are the “first line of defence” when it comes to a new mother’s mental and emotional health, and encouraged employers to acknowledge the needs of working mothers with new babies while taking steps to ease their burden by “providing better work-life balance, flexible working conditions, and affordable, quality childcare”.

    Source: https://sg.news.yahoo.com

  • Kiasuparent.com Co-Founder: Article Was Invasion Of Family’s Privacy

    Kiasuparent.com Co-Founder: Article Was Invasion Of Family’s Privacy

    The mother who was in the news last week for her harsh reaction to her son’s Primary School Leaving Examination (PSLE) results has given her side of the story, saying that the original article was an invasion of privacy.

    Madam Soon Lee Yong, the co-founder of website KiasuParents.com, was featured in an article by Today on Thursday (Nov 24). In response to his lower-than-expected T-score, she allegedly told her son: “You can forget about getting your Nintendo DS.”

    The article was widely shared on social media, with many netizens sympathising with Madam Soon’s son and criticising her for her harsh-sounding words and parenting style. Some even said that they would buy the gaming device for the boy.

    In an open letter published on KiasuParents, Madam Soon admitted that she had uttered the line: “You can forget about your Nintendo DS.”

    However, she denied that she had said it in response to a text message that her son had sent to her to ask if she was angry, clarifying that it was in fact part of a longer face-to-face conversation with him.

    “I didn’t expect our private conversation to be fodder for a newspaper article,” Madam Soon wrote.

    She explained that she had agreed to the reporter’s request to be present for the release of her son’s results, “but it led to an article that invaded my son’s privacy and affected him – more than his results or my reaction did”.

    She added that she felt betrayed by the failure to honour her request not to reveal her son’s score in the article.

    Madam Soon also addressed those who had offered to buy a Nintendo DS for her son, saying that she had merely confiscated the set that he owned because he was spending too much time on it. She had hoped to use its return as an incentive for him to work harder.

    She also rebuffed comments about her son’s “joyless existence”, revealing that the family had gone for a post-PSLE treat after the exams, and that they will be going for a family trip soon.

    “It’s not a reward for my son because I don’t believe in tying such experiences to grades – we travel for enjoyment and exposure,” she wrote.

    Concluding her letter, Madam Soon expressed hope that her son knew that she loved him regardless of his academic performance.

    “Results are never the end goal; they only provide a form of feedback as to whether your efforts are working, and they are not always accurate. What you must strive for is a good attitude and a willingness to reflect and consider your next course of action. Never wallow,” she wrote.

    She added that the entire experience would help her son understand “why you should never jump to conclusions based on a snapshot of information, and why you can’t believe everything you see or read online”.

     

    Source: http://news.asiaone.com

  • Don’t Despair, PSLE Results Don’t Determine Your Life

    Don’t Despair, PSLE Results Don’t Determine Your Life

    I want friends and parents to do this: share with us your PSLE score and then tell us what you are doing now. It will give hope and motivation to the young ones that PSLE scores don’t necessarily determine your future.

    So let’s start the ball rolling:

    My PSLE score is 221. I am now an Associate Professor in a University.

     

    Source: Khairudin Aljunied

  • Mother And 3-Month-Old Baby Daughter Found Dead At Foot Of Fajar Road Flat

    Mother And 3-Month-Old Baby Daughter Found Dead At Foot Of Fajar Road Flat

    A mother and her baby daughter were found dead at the foot of Block 443B Fajar Road in Bukit Panjang on Wednesday (Nov 23) morning.

    Police told The New Paper (TNP) they were alerted to the case at around 6.40am.

    Officers found them motionless and paramedics pronounced them dead at the scene.

    The mother was 29 years old while the baby was about three months old.

    When TNP arrived at the scene, a neighbour said she had heard a loud sound in the morning.

    Neighbours said they later saw a blue tent and a white canvas sheet covering the bodies.

    Police have classified the case as an unnatural death.

     

    Source: www.tnp.sg