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Disapproving Family And Distance Could Not Stop This Malay Abang And Chinese Gf From Getting Married

Nizam encountered a lot of difficulties while dating his Chinese partner, Margaret. From her parents disapproving their relationship to Margaret being sent overseas, the couple have gone through multiple ups and downs together but are now married and have a 5-year-old daughter.

This is his entry for the contest:

“My name is Nizam and I’m 26 years old this year and I’m married to a Chinese girl, her name is Margaret Soh, she is 23 this year.

“We have a daughter name Nurshiyumie and it sounds like Japanese name.

“So our love story started in 2008. When I knew this girl (my wife) I was only 18 years old. She was chubby, innocent and full of fun. She always smiles.

“We dated for couple of months. We were so happy. I never felt so much happiness before I knew this girl.

“Her laughter brings hope in my life. But the good times did not last and we got a serious dose of parental disapproval and judgmental side-eyes from our relatives.

“When her parents got to know that she was dating me, a Malay guy that had nothing, they sent her overseas to avoid me seeing her.

“My heart broke into pieces. I called her every night when she was overseas to hear her voice.

“I couldn’t eat and I couldn’t sleep. It was like the world was ending.

“She tried to escape from there and wanted to come back here, but she failed.

“Her relative kept away her passport and she actually tried to commit suicide.

“My mind went blank, my heart was aching, it felt like millions of needle poking through my heart, I felt like dying.

“After a month of being separated, she finally came back to Singapore.

“She ran away from her family. She called me immediately and I told her to come to my office.

“I was so happy. No words could describe how happy I was.

“When I saw she came out from a car, we ran to each other and I gave her a tight hug.

“Later as we predicted she was reported missing.

“Eight months of wanted life. Nothing can describe how grateful I am to have a girlfriend like her staying by my side when I really had nothing.

“She cried awake every night, having nightmares and was traumatized.

“I didn’t know what to do. What I thought of is to have a family with her, to take care her for life.

“Since her parents couldn’t do anything, I held her tight, held her and I made a vow to make her my wife and take care of her until the day I was gone.

“We planned to have a kid. I ask her ‘Will you marry me and have a kid with me?’

“She cried and held me tight. She was willing to marry me, give me her future and trust me.

“Time flies and she finally got pregnant. We were so happy and excited.

“We went back to look for our families. She converted to Islam.

“Her willingness made the decision to convert to Islam easier, it’s not about race. It’s about initiative and finally we were married, she put her trust all on me.

“She moved to my parents place. We had to sleep on the floor in the living room where there is no more room for us.

“All was occupied by my sibling. But she did not even complain with her pregnant stomach.

“Because she knew she chose this path with me.

“Until she given birth to our previous baby girl, she was natural birth.

“Looking at her enduring the pain alone, the pain, the look on her face and she sleeps on the floor when she need to stand up to go toilet.

“Sometimes I even saw she cry in the middle of the night. I try my best take care my little sweetheart when she was about few months old.

“I try my best to balance out NS and home. No family support.

“Sometimes, we even have to share one packet of rice together.

“At this point of time, I cannot afford luxury for her. But finally she achieved her dream as a makeup artist.

“Things went smoothly, finally my baby girl is 5-years-old this year.

“I have taken a course and work at a better benefit company.

“I tell myself I am so happy and lucky to have this girl as my wife.

“I want to give her everything, no matter what it takes, I will give her all that I can.

“She deserves all the love from me, my daughter and my wife. No one can replace them.

“We have gone through ups and downs. We love, we cry, we fight.

“Now we celebrate Chinese New Year and Hari Raya together.

“Our daughter look so cute wearing baju kurung and Chinese qi pao.

“Just to share with you, love does not only mean the race or religion.

“Don’t be judgmental toward inter racial love, its about compromising. We need to understand that true love takes time and effort to dismiss all obstacles among us. Race is just a race. Religion is religion.

“All that matters is that those involved are willing to make the sacrifices necessary to be together.

“Compromise each other. Time flies and we both know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together.

“I love you my wife and I will take care of you and your family forever.

“I don’t encourage people to follow us, but I hope in this world there will be more true love relationships, inter racial love because only love can hurt like this.”

Source: http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg

February 12, 2016
Man Rides Electric Skate Scooter Through McDonald’s Drive-Thru While Smoking, Almost Langgar Car In Front

Stomper Gerald saw a man endangering himself by riding a scooter at the McDonald’s Drive-Thru at Kallang Leisure Park on Feb 8.

The man also happened to be smoking and had nearly banged into a car in front of him.

Gerald, who wondered why the man couldn’t simply get off his scooter and order food from the McDonald’s counter indoors instead, said:

“Saw this guy with a scooter at the Macs drive-thru at Kallang Lesiure Park three days ago.

“He was smoking and almost knocked into the car in front..

“I was wondering why he couldn’t have just gotten off his scooter and order food inside. Even motorcyclists don’t go through the Drive-Thru.”

Source: http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg

February 11, 2016
SBS Bus SHA8472U Side-Swept My Car Near Balestier But Never Stop

Appealing for witness on a hit and run accident involving SBS bus.

My car was stationery at the red light, heading towards marymount when SBS 8742U side swipe my driver’s door while making a right turn towards balestier road.

Thank you.

Source: Li Feng

February 11, 2016
Nicole Seah: Low Key Wedding Was Perfect

Being in the political spotlight several years back – she was the youngest female candidate in the 2011 Singapore General Elections and the second most popular politician online – taught Nicole to be cautious about revealing too many details about her life. In fact, she told Her World magazine in May in 2014 that publicity had its price, and it had made her extremely reticent about her personal matters.

However, since moving to work in an advertising firm in Bangkok, Thailand, Nicole is now more open and even chatty about romance and her marriage to Bryan, a 29-year-old Singaporean engineer based in Australia. She declined to reveal his last name.

We find out more from Nicole, also 29, who tied the knot in a low-key ceremony in August 2015, and was in the process of moving back to Singapore from Bangkok for good by the end of December 2015.

“I was crying non-stop during the solemnisation, and so were our mothers,” says Nicole. Corded lace and satin mermaid gown from Rico-A-Mona. Silk flowers, from Inside The Knot.

You’ve had several high-profile relationships previously, but little is known about Bryan. What can you tell us about him?
I met him when I was holidaying in Australia three years ago. Our mums introduced us and his mum later got him to help me with an errand. After spending just one day together, he ended up asking me out for the next two weeks. At first, we didn’t think it was a good idea to get serious as we both lived in different countries. Then he downloaded Whatsapp and Skype the day I left, and we’ve been talking non-stop ever since.

What makes him different from the rest?
I’m very comfortable with him. As someone who used to have a high profile in the media, I like that Bryan sees me as I really am, and doesn’t care about what others think or say.

How have your past relationships shaped your outlook and approach towards your relationship with Bryan?
I appreciate the importance of being in a relationship where both parties respect each other wholeheartedly. There is no room for compromise in that area. It’s also important to be with someone you can count on a friend as well. We’ve taken a very pragmatic approach to our relationship. The decision to be together is a conscious choice we make every day, and this keeps our feelings for each other strong.

Nicole and Bryan at their solemnisation ceremony at the Registry of Marriages.

When did you know that he was the one?
I’ve seen many friends in long-distance relationships and there was always emotional turbulence. Bryan and I work well as a team. Sure, there were challenges along the way, but our relationship is great.

So how did he pop the question?
It was a very HDB-style proposal, as we are both not romantic people. I was in Australia visiting him and we were discussing the future of our relationship when he logged on to the ROM website. We got married on August 21. I don’t have an engagement ring because I feel diamonds are too dressy for everyday wear.

We understand Bryan will be moving back to Singapore. Will this be for good or is there a chance you’ll live in Australia later on?
He misses Singapore very much and we’re both happy to be coming home. To be honest, I don’t see us moving to Australia. I’ve been to a few cities there, but I still prefer living in Singapore. We both want to settle down here.

You had a very low-key wedding with just close friends and family present. Was this deliberate?
Yes, I don’t like fanfare and dealing with too many groups of people. Ours was a very intimate and emotional ceremony.

How did you put it together?
I set up a Facebook chat group to coordinate with everyone, as my in-laws lived in Australia, I was in Bangkok and my family was in Singapore. I managed the occasion like I would a work project with checklists and constant work-in-progress updates. I also checked on everyone to make sure they all knew what was going on, and that they were happy with the plans. The entire process took about three months in total. I know that to many people, it’s a once-in-a-lifetime event, and details matter. But I just have a different way of expressing my commitment to my better half. I also didn’t want to have so many things afterwards as it creates physical clutter in a home. The marriage cert was enough for us.

Did you have a theme?
Not at all. In fact, we dropped by a flower shop in Tanjong Pagar on the day itself for the bouquet because my mum insisted on it. After searching for images, I told the florist that I wanted a simple bouquet with a mix of soft colours.

“I appreciate the importance of being in a relationship where both parties respect each other wholeheartedly.” Crystal-embellished chiffon gown, from Digio Bridal. Hydrangea, David Austin rose tulip and ranunculus bouquet, from Green Point Flowers.

What was the highlight or most precious moment on the day you got married?
It was that moment during the solemnisation when we looked into each other’s eyes and said our vows while Bryan held my hand very firmly. It was quite overwhelming. Every word was significant and meaningful. One particular line in the vows encapsulated what love and marraige are all about: “I vow to always keep our love as pure as it is today.”

Was the wedding what you imagined it would be?
Even as a girl, I’d never thought about my own wedding, so I didn’t have any preconceived notions about it.

Will you be holding another reception later?
Probably. We want to settle back in Singapore first, so timelines are still tentative.

Your wedding outfits were pretty chic and unique. Was that how you planned it?
Not at all. I got my dress in a sale here at 70 per cent off. I liked that it was simple. We bought Bryan’s suit from Uniqlo in Bangkok.

Where did you get your engagement and wedding rings from? Did you choose them or were they a surprise from Bryan?
We looked at rings together in both Australia and Thailand. I ended up getting our bands from Tampines Mall, and during the Great Singapore Sale earlier in 2015. We had a long conversation over the rings on Facebook, and I negotiated with the jeweller to let Bryan change the design if he didn’t like his band. He ended up liking the design I chose for him.

What have you learnt as a newly-wed?
There are more responsibilities when you are dealing with two sets of families!

Any tips for future brides?
I’d tell them to enjoy the process, and to remember that the marriage is always more important than the wedding. Also, everyone will want to have a say in the wedding, and it is easy to become overwhelmed. At the end of the day, remember that your loved ones have your best interests at heart. But you still need to be very clear about what you want, and take ownership of the decisions you make.

This story was first featured in Her World Brides December 2015, which is available at local newstands and major bookstores.

Photography: Vernon Wong
Styling: Steve Thio
Assisted by: Michelle Lee & Ashley Phan
Hair: Reno Tan / Hairloom, using Goldwell
Makeup: Larry Yeo, using Nudestix

Source: www.herworldplus.com

February 10, 2016
Wedding Planner Goes Missing With Wedding Gifts One Week Before Wedding Day

After dating for three years and saving for a year, they were finally ready to get married.

But a week before their big day, their wedding planner allegedly fled with a deposit of $17,000 and a tray full of wedding gifts which included shoes, wallets and watches.

Madam Syafiqah Salleh, 23, and Mr Jumali Majuri, 25, weren’t the only ones allegedly cheated by the wedding planner – three other couples were also left in the lurch.

Newlyweds Syafiqah and Jumali engaged the services of Urbane Wedding Concept in September 2014 after visiting a bridal fair at the Singapore Expo.

The wedding planners, Madam Noorsidah A. Rahim and her husband, had suggested a package with a combined reception for about $22,000.

The couple agreed.

Madam Syafiqah, a process technician, told The New Paper that the first sign of trouble came when the invitation cards were sent out late.

She said: “It was scheduled to be out by last November but it was ready only on Dec 26, less than a month before our wedding.

“After they sent out the invitation cards, they also took the wedding gifts we bought for each other for gift-wrapping.”

The wedding gifts, worth more than $1,000, were supposed to be ceremoniously exchanged between the bride and the groom.

On Jan 8, the couple were scheduled for their final fitting but their wedding planners didn’t turn up.

Madam Syafiqah said: “One day before the fitting, I texted them to ask about the details of the fitting but I didn’t receive any reply. I tried calling but no one picked up.

“At that point, I knew something was wrong. My husband called, texted, sent them Facebook messages and e-mailed them but they were gone without a trace.”

In an attempt to retrieve their wedding gifts and deposit, Mr Jumali, a production technician, also went to the bridal company’s registered address at 66, Tannery Lane.

It was vacant.

“I broke down. I worked a lot of overtime just to get the money and it was all gone,” said Madam Syafiqah.

With a week left to the wedding, the couple’s family contributed money and food to help out with last-minute preparations. They also engaged the services of A.R Ruhana Creations to help out with the food catering and decorations.

Mr Jumali said: “I left most of the decision making for the wedding to my wife. But when (this happened), I quickly engaged another bridal company because we didn’t have time to waste.”

The wedding ceremony was held at the void deck of Block 745, Jurong West Street 73, on Jan 17.

“I was so happy that the wedding turned out better than I expected. I am utterly grateful to my family and my husband,” said Madam Syafiqah.

Another couple who were supposed to wed on the same day suffered the same fate.

Berita Harian reported on Feb 1 that Mr Husni Mubarak Kamaruddin, 27, and Madam Nurshila Mansoor, 26, had paid Urbane Wedding Concept $33,000 and handed over wedding gifts worth $2,800.

Like Madam Syafiqah, Mr Husni was also scheduled for a fitting on Jan 5 but the wedding planner did not show up.

The couple engaged another bridal company just a week before their big day to help out with final preparations.

LESSON

Madam Syafiqah hopes the incident will be a lesson for other couples.

“It’s hard to differentiate wedding planners whom you cannot trust from the ones you can,” she said.

“But just be wary of the ones who are not punctual in fulfilling their promises.”

Both couples have reported the matter to the police and the Consumers Association of Singapore (Case).

Case told TNP it received three complaints – including from the two couples – about the company last month.

An online search with the Accounting and Corporate Regulatory Authority revealed that Urbane Wedding Concept was registered on Jan 9, 2012.

But its licence expired on Jan 9 this year. The status of the business was listed as “live”.

When TNP visited the company’s registered address at Sindo industrial building on Feb 2, the unit had already been occupied by another tenant. Other tenants occupying units on the same floor were not even aware that there was a bridal company in the building.

A security guard, who declined to be named, said the couple who ran the business had moved out from the unit about six months ago for unknown reasons.

Madam Noorsidah’s flat at Bedok South also appeared to be vacant as flyers littered the gate.

A neighbour, who declined to be named, said he had not seen the couple for about two months.

“Just two weeks ago, there were four people knocking on my door, looking for them,” he said.

“The couple don’t usually mingle with the neighbours, so none of us know where they went.”

I broke down. I worked a lot of overtime just to get the money and it was all gone.

– Madam Syafiqah Salleh, 23

Case: File a claim

Consumer Association of Singapore (Case) executive director Seah Seng Choon said customers can consider filing a claim against the business at the Small Claims Tribunals if their deposit has been paid and the business owner becomes uncontactable.

The business has to be listed as “live” on Accounting and Corporate Regulatory Authority.

“If the business owner fails to turn up for the consultation or hearing, or defaults against the court order, the consumer may engage a lawyer to enforce the order,” said Mr Seah.

“If the consumer suspects fraud, he may want to report the matter to the police for investigation.

Consumers who are unsure about their options can approach Case for further advice and assistance.”

Source: www.tnp.sg

February 10, 2016