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  • Lapan Langkah Ibu Bapa Tangani Isu Seksualiti Anak-anak

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    Ramai yang mungkin terperanjat, marah dan terkesan dengan paparan anak-anak kecil melakukan aksi yang tidak seharusnya, semalam. Dan ramai yang meluahkan harapan agar anak-anak kita dapat dibimbing dengan baik demi mengelakkan perkara ini daripada berlaku dalam keluarga sendiri.
    Namun, apakah yang seharusnya dilakukan oleh para ibubapa sebagai intervensi (intervention) berkesan?

    Berikut adalah LAPAN Intervensi yang boleh dipertimbangkan oleh ibubapa untuk tangani isu seksualiti anak-anak:
    1. Menilai-semula sistem nilai dan juga tingkah-laku (behavior) ibubapa sendiri terhadap konsep seksualiti, termasuklah apa yang dituntut agama mengenai batas-batas
    2. Menetapkan house rule atau peraturan keluarga berdasarkan sistem nilai dan tingkah-laku yang selari dengan Islam bagi keluarga-keluarga Muslim.
    3. Faham erti pembangunan dan pembentukan seksualiti sihat dalam diri insan kamil.
    4. Mengetahu tahap-tahap pembangunan anak-anak, dari lahir sehinggalah tahap pos-puberty
    5. Memberi maklumat-maklumat dan menanam nilai secara bertahap mengikut peringkat umur anak-anak (age-appropriate) dan tahap-tahap pembentukan anak-anak
    6. Kenal-pasti isu-isu seksualiti anak-anak yang sedang membesar
    7. Engage anak-anak secara berterusan mengenai isu-isu seksualiti menggunakan pendekatan yang sesuai dengan zaman anak-anak
    8. Terus-menerus update pengetahun ibubapa mengenai bidang seksualiti insani.

    Dasar Asas Perlaksanaan Dalam keluarga:
    1. Lebih AWAL lebih BAIK
    2. Lebih KERAP lebih ELOK
    3. Rebut TEACHABLE MOMENTS
    4. Jadikan diri sendiri (ibubapa) sebagai ASKABLE
    5. Lebih banyak BERDIALOG dari berleter
    6. Lebih banyak MENDENGAR dari bersyarah
    7. Lebih banyak BERINTERAKSI dari menyendiri

    Semoga Allah memberi kita kekuatan untuk menangani cabaran ini demi menjaga kemaslahatan masadepan anak-anak kita semua.

    Allahul Musta’aan

     

    Source: Singapore Hall of Shame, Mohd Khair 

  • Gay Malay Teacher Offer Guidance to Sexually Confused Student

     

     

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    Dear R1C,

    When I was in school, I had a major crush on my teacher. I didn’t tell anyone about it and kept it to myself. I wasn’t sure if that was the right thing to feel because I am a guy. Besides, I wasn’t sure if what I am feeling was wrong towards the society, my family and my religion. As a Muslim raised in a conservative family, I am torn in between my feelings and other people’s expectations.

    But what if this feeling is the right kind of wrong? What if it is not wrong after all?

    Because my actions were obvious and all gays have something called ‘gaydar’ or ‘gay-radar’, my secret feelings were exposed when my teacher confronted me one day. He confessed that he understood my needs and knew how sad it was to be perceived as ‘weird’. From that day onwards, there was no hiding between us because our feelings were mutual. He was my confidante, my good friend and a lover. Although we had a relationship for 3 years and broke up only when I left for poly, I am truly thankful for the guidance my ex-teacher had given me. I would not have been able to survive this harsh world if not for his emotional support.

    I am thankful to God because I found someone who truly cares about me and showed me the importance to love myself and be who I really am when faced with oppositions. My ex-teacher told me I deserved to be happy. When I turned 22, I left home to lead my own life and stayed with my partner. Occasionally, I would return home only to see my mom who was deeply disappointed by my ‘queer’ preference. My dad has disowned me.

    Now, I have become a teacher myself. A similar experience had happened to me as well. I spotted one student who had the same reaction whenever I looked at my ex-teacher. Instantaneously, I knew what I had to do.  Guidance and be a role model.

    To those who hate the PLUs, let it be known that everyone deserves to be happy. We live once and we have the right to choose the kind of life we want to lead for the rest of our lives. It doesn’t make me a lesser Muslim just because I prefer men. You simply can’t force anyone to eat something he don’t like.

     

    Sofian Ryan

     

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  • Guy Wash Private Part Using Toilet Bowl Water

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    Dear R1C,

    Any expert can help me figure this out?

    I had to rush to the toilet (in a shopping mall) because I was having an upset stomach earlier this morning. While entering, another man (cannot write race if not people say I racist) took the other cubicle beside me. Both of us seems to be having a morning competition as there were lots of sound (farts and stuff) and sigh of relief coming out from both our cubicles.

    Once done, I cleaned myself with toilet paper when I heard the sound of flushing coming from the cubicle beside me. However, the guy flushed it a few times repeatedly and there were also sound as if he was using water to clean himself.

    The thought that immediately came to my mind was, where the hell did he get the water from? There was no bidet shower in the public toilet! Next I saw was water flowing from the other cubicle to my side. Lucky I had cleaned myself up and I lift up my feet to avoid the water.

    When I was washing my hands, he also exited his cubicle. He rinsed his hands and left promptly. I turned and noticed that his cubicle floor was totally wet and it was confirmed that there was no bidet shower. I pity the cleaning lady in-charge of the toilet as it was a mess left by the guy.

    I’m just wonder which way is cleaner, using toilet paper or water?

     

    Gordon T

     

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  • Melayu Singapura Senang Terpedaya Dengan Skim Cepat Kaya ‘Galaxy Trio’

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    Laporan media Berita Harian, Sabtu 15 Feb 2014, menonjolkan ciri-ciri Skim GALAXY TRIO yang mirip dengan ciri-ciri skim piramid.

    Salah satu ciri Galaxy Trio yang menonjol adalah ianya tidak memerlukan anggotanya untuk menjual barang. Galaxy Trio tidak mempunyai sebarang produk untuk dijual.

    Anggota Galaxy Trio diberi ganjaran berdasarkan jumlah anggota baru yang berjaya ditarik untuk menyertai skim rujukan atau `referral’ syarikat tersebut. Ciri ini juga begitu mirip ciri piramid.

    Skim piramid adalah HARAM di sisi undang-undang di Singapura dan di banyak lagi negara lain.

    Sesetengah negara Islam juga telah mengeluarkan FATWA yang MENGHARAMKAN skim piramid ini (Contohnya, Malaysia, Mesir dan Arab Saudi).

    Ust Dr Zaharuddin, seorang pakar kewangan Islam, juga telah banyak menulis dan berseminar untuk menjelaskan kenapa SKIM PIRAMID itu HARAM dalam Islam.

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    Lapuran BH juga menonjolkan betapa 80% anggota Skim Galaxy Trio adalah orang Melayu.Mudah2an tidak berlaku lagi kes orang Melayu kena main dengan skim-skim cepat kaya yang mempunyai unsur-unsur gharar atau yang tidak jelas lagi meragukan.WaLlahua’lam bissowab

    Sumber: Mohd Khair, Berita Harian Singapura

  • SG Indian Thinks Government Wants to Ban Hijab and Turban

     

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    Source: Calvin Singh