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  • Commentary: 38 Oxley Is Not The Address Of Singapore

    Commentary: 38 Oxley Is Not The Address Of Singapore

    38 Oxley is Not the Address of Singapore

    After a noisy 2 days in Parliament the matter of Singapore’s Founding Prime Minister’s Mr Lee Kuan Yew’s home at 38 Oxley Road will now be settled through private channels among his three children. This is arguably how it should have been done all along. As the dust settles it is pertinent to make some observations on what this all means.

    First, Singapore works. Our economy continued to hum, people got up and went to work and spent time with their families, the water still ran and the lights still came on. Our institutions and systems have held firm.

    This is the most reassuring and reaffirming observation to make. In fact, it is the only one that really matters. If this had not held true nothing else would be material.

    Second, ending the fiction of a ‘natural aristocracy’. Many of our leaders overinvest in the concept of meritocracy to conclude that we have a ‘natural aristocracy’ that deserves its rights and privileges because they are very intelligent.

    Singapore has special people – they are Singaporeans, and not just Singaporean ‘leaders’. It is Singaporeans who define, embody and refresh the spirit that is Singapore.

    Let us cease the practice of making demi-gods of political leaders. They are only human and in recognising them to be so we are paying them the respect they deserve for coping with life just as we all have to and yet rising (or trying to) above its travails to focus on the bigger picture and the longer term.

    For their part political leaders should not forget that they serve at the pleasure of the people. Leaving aside the matter of the quality of the debate, there was no better affirmation of this than the debate in Parliament. It was a political display to retain the confidence of the people and a necessary one to underscore that we have a democratic system that must not just work but be seen to work.

    Third, 38 Oxley Road is an address in Singapore. It is not the address of Singapore. It is time for Singaporeans and for politicians, current and aspiring, to grasp that Singapore is neither about land or Lee.

    That is a very good thing. It shows that Singaporeans have matured, can keep perspective and know how to separate past from present and also know the difference between myth, however attractive, and practical matters.

    While the personalities involved in this family fracas come out of this politically scarred, Singapore emerges from this stronger and better.

    The Merlion may have been spitting in disgust recently but it is not drowning in despair. Its eyes look out at the horizon not at its navel or its tail. Our future lies out there and with it, dangers to deal with and opportunities to seize. Nothing has changed that and nothing will.

     

    Source: Devadas Krishnadas

  • Man Sets Fire To Flat After Fight With Wife

    Man Sets Fire To Flat After Fight With Wife

    A man, who had been arguing with his wife on the phone, ended up setting fire to his Choa Chu Kang flat.

    One of his tenants and her 3½-year-old daughter were in the flat at that time.

    The Saturday evening blaze destroyed the flat but, fortunately, no one was hurt.

    The dramatic events were recounted to The New Paper by the tenant’s husband, who wanted to be known only as Mr Johnson.

    The 29-year-old said his wife had told him that from their room, they heard their landlord arguing angrily with someone on the phone.

    Then, it went quiet.

    About 15 minutes later, at about 7.40pm, smoke wafted into their room.

    Before they could figure out what happened, they heard frantic knocks on their door.

    It was their landlord, dressed in only his boxers, screaming: “Come out!”

    Mr Johnson, his wife, also 29, and their daughter had just moved into the 12th-storey flat at Block 688A, Choa Chu Kang Drive, earlier that day.

    As the fire progressed, residents were hit by the acrid smoke from the burning 12th-storey unit.

    Then, they heard sounds of explosions.

    “My landlord was sitting at the stairs, crying,” added Mr Johnson.

    “He was crying and kept apologising. He said he had wanted to kill himself but got scared when the fire grew bigger.”

    The man had started the fire by burning bedsheets.

    The 45-year-old was later arrested by police.

    A Singapore Civil Defence Force spokesman said about 40 residents living on the 12th, 13th and 14th storeys were evacuated from the block.

    The fire was put out by a water jet and no one was injured, he added.

     

    Source: www.tnp.sg

  • $20,000 Wedding Cancelled After Fight Between Bride And Groom

    $20,000 Wedding Cancelled After Fight Between Bride And Groom

    It was supposed to be a happy occasion at a wedding banquet in a five-star Sentosa hotel on Saturday night. But things turned sour and only the groom was present – there was no bride.

    The groom, who called the wedding off the day before, was said to have entertained guests and was not seated at the main table with family members, but with guests, reported Shin Min Daily News yesterday.

    There were also three to four empty tables, believed to be reserved for the bride’s guests.

    There were 12 tables in all and the groom, who wanted to be known only as Mr Liu, said about $20,000 had been spent.

    The 26-year-old told Shin Min that a week before the banquet, he and his fiancee, also 26, got into an argument.

    “She slapped me seven times. My shoulder and chest were also bruised by her,” he said, adding that the incident upset him and his parents.

    His fiancee is pregnant with his child. She told Shin Min that she is four to five months pregnant.

    Mr Liu said he met her when he was in a polytechnic and claimed he waited for three years before he was able to win her heart.

    After the recent argument, Mr Liu thought things through and made the painful decision to call off the wedding a day before.

    “I think the problems between two people need to be worked out first before marriage. So I informed my fiancee about it. But since the wedding banquet had already been arranged, we decided to carry on with it and apologise to the guests,” he said, adding that he treated it like a family gathering.

    “I’ve donated the money from the banquet guests’ red packets to charity.”

    Mr Liu said he had bowed in apology to guests on Saturday and read out an apology letter to seek their understanding.

    His fiancee said that she had hit Mr Liu only once, and had her reasons for doing so.

    “Before the wedding, he (Mr Liu) said again that our marriage would break apart because of our quarrelling. It made me very angry, so I slapped him. My nails had scratched him, but I didn’t hit him seven times,” she said.

    She added that her future in-laws were also difficult. This posed problems for her matrimonial matters and upset her.

    “I’m also pregnant so my emotions are not stable. And because of many problems that cropped up, I was very unhappy. I haven’t been able to rest well for two weeks.”

    The fiancee also said she could not imagine that the wedding would still take place.

    “He (Mr Liu) only wants my child and doesn’t think about marrying me any more. Even if he wanted to, it’s one-sided. His parents would not approve,” she said, adding that even if she were able to mend things with the groom, the episode would leave a scar on her.

    But Mr Liu claimed that he would not give up loving his fiancee even though the wedding has been called off.

    “I hope to take her for counselling so that she can better control her emotions and not be so violent. I’m willing to wait for her and have our wedding ceremony,” he said.

     

    Source: http://news.asiaone.com