Tag: blame

  • Commentary: Maybe Non-Malays Would Not Vote For A Malay In An Open PE, But PAP, LKY And LHL Are Jointly Blamed For This

    Commentary: Maybe Non-Malays Would Not Vote For A Malay In An Open PE, But PAP, LKY And LHL Are Jointly Blamed For This

    Dear Prime Minister,
    if you sincerely believe that the Chinese majority and other non Malays would not vote for a Malay in an open presidential contest, you are probably right. But you also must be honest and have the courage to admit that your old man, your party and yourself are jointly to blame for it. All of you had the opportunity to forge unity among Singaporeans but you blew it, perhaps due to the ill advice and instigation of others who have no stake in our future.
    The distrust and discriminatory policies directed against the Malays are the main cause. The ill effect of these discriminatory policies, I suppose, would make the Chinese ask themselves why should they vote for a Malay as president if on the whole they cannot be trusted.
    For decades we have wasted the opportunity to get our youth to think and act as one people. Friendship built up from young would last a lifetime. Such friendship can naturally be forged when young men train, struggle, laugh and even cry together while performing their national service. The same thing goes with prejudice and suspicion. They also last a lifetime. The marked absence of Malays in the armed forces, especially in the navy and airforce is telling. The silly explanation to justify your government’s actions – no space for halal kitchen in naval vessels, etc – shows your contempt towards the discriminated community. Though only males are involved in national service, as head of their families such prejudice and distrust would somehow be transmitted to their spouses and children. I don’t have to belabour the point.
    Beside this there are other policies that are equally prejudiced and divisive like the SAP schools and selective immigration policies, just to name a few.The sad thing is, such policies are still in place.
    If you and your party have done it right for Singapore there would not have been necessary to have a reserved PE or even the GRC. After all we are Singaporeans are we not? You should give meaning to our national pledge – regardless of race, language or religion!
    Your calls for unity in the face of current threats sound hollow.

     

    Source: Mohamed Jufrie Bin Mahmood

  • Husband Having Scandals, Who Should You Blame?

    Husband Having Scandals, Who Should You Blame?

    Few months ago, aku terkejut dapat satu PM dari sorang sis ni. Aku tak ingat the content exactly. Yang aku ingat cuma this line from a long PM, “Sis, saya nak tau apa hubungan awak dengan suami saya.” Dari bulat muka kecik tu, aku clicked View Profile. Laki siapa pulak yang aku da “kacau” ni.. Sampai kat profile cik kak ni, aku nampak gambar suami dia. Berair mata aku, terkekek2. Its not the first time aku kena “serang” dengan isteri orang yang cemburu buta. Aku paling pantang perempuan yang tuduh2 tak gunakan akal.

    Kalau suami korang like gambar Janna nick, means dia ada affair dengan Janna Nick ke? Korang PM tak si Janna nick tu? Kenapa dia tak boleh tanya suami dia, “Awak ada affair ke dengan perempuan ni?” Kalau suami jawab ye, then too bad lor. Kalau suami kata tidak, then investigate further lor but please eh, nak investigate, kena cerdik. Bukan main mengkhinzir buta. Aku pernah dapat few PMs from few ladies yang kononnya agree dengan postings aku bab cheating husbands ni. Setakat ni, aku da received about 5 PM for the same issue. Husband dia ada perempuan lain and isteri ni fully aware, tapi dia mati2 salahkan perempuan tu sebab rosakkan rumahtangga dia. Aku da banyak wasted my precious time dengar stories camni. Si isteri tak terima bila aku tanya why they stay in that kinda marriage. Husband jenis suka tukar2 partner. Banyak GF.

    These wives pulak susah payah pergi serang si gf ni kat rumah dorang. Malukan gf ni kat FB. Hina dia. Condemn dia rabak2. Abih si suami tu apa? Mangsa keadaan? Malaikat? Suci dalam debu? Pls la, wake up la eh. If you choose to stay with a cheating husband, then zip it. Jangan ceritakan aib suami pada sesiapa. If you need help to get out of the marriage, then go through the proper channel. Jangan sedap mulut blame one party je. Cheating is not a mistake. Its a choice. Dia tak hormat you as a wife and you are okay with that, so live with it. Yang aku tak faham, why si isteri ni beriya2 salahkan perempuan tu je. Padahal si suami tu, da tau ada isteri, ada anak2, masih nak ada scandal.

    So salah siapa sebenarnya? Hati kita semua milik Allah SWT.  Nak tawan hati, kena doa and mintak pada Allah. Kadang2 kita cintakan orang melebihi cinta kita pada Allah.  So kita akan diuji dengan benda yang paling kita sayang.. Tiap kali ada masalah, try to do a root cause analysis. Muhasabah.. Tanya macam2 soalan yang berkaitan dengan why..

    Why.. <soalan>
    Why.. <soalan>
    Why.. <soalan>
    Why.. <soalan>
    Why.. <soalan>

    At the end of the whys, in shaa Allah you akan jumpa a solution. May Allah SWT eases the affairs of all the sistas yang tengah tension pikirkan if their husband is cheating on them ke tidak. May Allah SWT help all of you to do the right thing. I will not entertain anymore topics about husbands for a while. Da muak.

     

    Source: Khainis Tahir

  • Open Letter To SMRT: Don’t Be Too Quick To Shift Blame To Deceased Staff

    Open Letter To SMRT: Don’t Be Too Quick To Shift Blame To Deceased Staff

    We have heard it all before.

    You say you are sorry. And that you share our sadness.

    But you will return to your families and sleep easy tonight, while we mourn a tragic loss. Tomorrow morning, you will not have to make the dreadful trip to the mortuary to identify the lifeless and mangled body of a loved one. How can you say that you share our sadness? You do not understand our grief.

    Yet you ever-so eloquently say that you are “very saddened by the loss.” But to you, the two young lives lost today are just a statistic; A number that you have to account for in the face of public outrage. Just collateral damage. Soon, you will forget. Your career goes on. Your life goes on.

    To us they were beloved sons, brothers, cousins, nephews, friends. Brilliant human beings who had promising futures ahead of them.

    Honest young men who woke up one morning, had breakfast with their families, and eagerly showed up for work. Brave young men who, a few hours later in the hot midday sun, responded to a train track fault only to be struck by a train. They followed your orders only to be betrayed.

    As Muslims we try to live life right, to be kind to others, and live life knowing that one day we will return to our Maker. We do not fear or resent death.

    What we resent are your attempts to clear yourselves of any fault, insisting that you have observed all the standard operating procedures. If you did everything right, then your standard operating procedures must be flimsy.

    Your carefully maneuvered words make us wonder: are you attempting to shift the blame to the deceased? You know it is easy to blame someone who can no longer speak for himself.

    Instead of being so quick to protect your interests, seek the humanity deep within you to acknowledge your mistakes and learn from them to ensure that this tragedy does not happen to any one else’s son. Will you take responsibility? Or will your public relations team continue to craft words to protect you from blame?

    At this point, the families are grieving at the loss of a beloved. But grief will soon turn into anger.

    The author is a relative of one of the deceased who passed on in the SMRT train tragedy on 22 March 2016 at 11.10 a.m.

     

    Source: http://kentridgecommon.com