Tag: Female

  • ‘Superwoman’ Tidak Wujud

    ‘Superwoman’ Tidak Wujud

    Wanita tetap perlukan sokongan semua orang di sekitarnya dan boleh lakukan lebih lagi untuk majukan masyarakat bersama kaum lelaki, kata Ketua Pegawai Eksekutif PPIS, Cik Maznah Masop

    SOALAN (S): Apakah trend mengenai wanita Melayu/Islam yang anda lihat hari ini?

    JAWAPAN (J): Wanita hari ini lebih berpendidikan, lebih ramai bekerja serta lebih lantang dan berani meluahkan pendapat mereka, lebih-lebih lagi dengan adanya media sosial.

    Mereka tidak lagi hanya membincangkan peranan mereka sebagai ibu dan isteri, bahkan sebagai anggota masyarakat. Mereka bercakap tentang budaya, kepercayaan mereka, isu tentang hijab, misalnya, perkembangan semasa dan dasar pemerintah.

    Ini trend positif tetapi kami juga berhati-hati. Ada cara untuk meluahkan pandangan secara objektif untuk memastikan apa yang kita luahkan boleh dikaitkan dengan orang lain, bukan kita syok sendiri sahaja.

    S: Apa isu wanita Melayu/Islam yang menjadi keprihatinan anda?

    J: Saya prihatin mengenai wanita, yang dalam tekanan kehidupan hari ini, hilang arah, matlamat dan nilai pegangan hingga boleh menjejas tingkah laku moral mereka.

    Apabila ini berlaku, ia boleh mendatangkan kesan ke atas anak-anak mereka yang mungkin hilang panduan atau menjejas hubungan suami isteri.

    Contohnya, dahulu kita dengar tentang suami mempunyai hubungan sulit. Sekarang, kita dengar tentang wanita juga terlibat dalam hubungan sulit. Ada hamil dengan anak bukan daripada suami mereka. Secara anekdotal ini sedang berlaku.

    S: Apa pendapat anda tentang wanita berpendidikan yang menjadi suri rumah?

    J: Saya memahami keperluan duduk di rumah selama beberapa tahun, tetapi saya tidak pasti apakah ia perlu berlarutan.

    Jika seseorang dianugerahkan bakat, saya fikir ia satu pembaziran jika beliau tidak keluar bekerja untuk menyumbang kepada masyarakat.

    Ini pendapat peribadi saya, mungkin ada tidak setuju.

    Sudah tentu ada wanita juga menghadapi isu apabila keluar bekerja seperti isu penjagaan anak mereka. Tetapi harap-harap mereka boleh huraikan isu itu dan mendapat sokongan keluarga.

    Mereka juga mempunyai sokongan struktur dengan tersedianya pusat jagaan kanak-kanak atau pusat jagaan pelajar.

    Jika kita jelas bahawa peranan wanita lebih daripada berada di rumah sahaja, kita boleh lakukan lebih lagi untuk memajukan masyarakat kita bersama kaum lelaki.

    S: Apa pendapat anda tentang peranan suami dan bapa dalam konteks kehidupan hari ini di mana wanita juga turut keluar bekerja?

    J: Kaum lelaki perlu mengubah pemikiran mereka dan sedar bahawa wanita berperanan penting, bukan sahaja di rumah, bahkan dalam masyarakat.

    Mereka perlu lebih proaktif dan menyokong isteri mereka yang berpendidikan untuk menyumbang kepada masyarakat.

    Perubahan minda ini harus ditangani sekarang. Ini kerana wanita akan menghadapi lebih banyak cabaran sedang penduduk menua.

    Wanita akan memainkan peranan tambahan menjaga orang tua, selain perlu mengimbangi kerjaya dan menjaga anak-anak.

    Lelaki mesti mengubah pemikiran mereka dan turut proaktif memainkan peranan juga.

    S: Apakah pendapat suami anda tentang jawatan anda sebagai CEO (ketua pegawai eksekutif) sebuah pertubuhan untuk wanita?

    J: Isunya bukan saya menjadi CEO. Isunya ialah saya menyumbang secara aktif kepada masyarakat. Perkara ini kami persetujui sebelum kami berumah tangga.

    Beliau tahu ini laluan kerjaya yang saya pilih dan beliau menghormatinya.

    S: Bagaimanakah anda mengimbangi kerjaya dan keluarga?

    J: Saya mempunyai sistem sokongan baik di rumah, baik daripada suami mahupun ibu bapa saya.

    Satu episod mencabar bagi saya ialah apabila saya perlu menjaga ibu bapa saya yang sakit. Ayah saya, sebelum beliau meninggal dunia, menghidap barah dan ibu saya telah menjalani pembedahan penggantian pinggul.

    Saya bersyukur kerana turut mempunyai sokongan kukuh daripada adik-beradik saya.

    Di tempat kerja saya mempunyai majikan dan pekerja yang memahami keadaan saya dan membolehkan saya bekerja secara fleksibel. Saya juga mempunyai seorang pembantu rumah yang banyak membantu.

    ‘Superwoman’ tidak wujud dalam dunia ini. Seorang wanita perlu sokongan semua orang di sekitarnya.


    BIODATA

    NAMA: Maznah Masop

    USIA: 44 tahun (Julai ini)

    KERJAYA:

    • 2009 – sekarang: Ketua Pegawai Eksekutif (CEO) Persatuan Pemudi Islam Singapura (PPIS)
    • 2005 – 2009: Ketua, Pembangunan Dana, Madrasah Al-Irsyad Al-Islamiah
    • 1998 – 2003: Pengarah, Amni Management & Promotions Pte Ltd
    • 1994 – 1998: Eksekutif, Perdaus

    KELUARGA:

    • Dua anak perempuan berusia 17 tahun dan 15 tahun
    • Suami jurutera di sebuah syarikat berbilang negara

    PENDIDIKAN:

    • Ijazah Sarjana Muda Sastera (Ekonomi), Universiti Nasional Singapura (NUS) 1993
    • Diploma Undang-Undang Syariah, Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM) 1998

     

    Source: http://beritaharian.sg

  • Convicted New Delhi Rape Perpetrator Blames Victim

    Convicted New Delhi Rape Perpetrator Blames Victim

    NEW DELHI — In the months after the death of a young woman who was brutalized and gang-raped on a moving bus in New Delhi in 2012, thousands of politicians, activists and ordinary citizens crowded India’s airwaves and its public spaces to say their piece about the crime.

    But there was no comment from the six slight, ordinary-looking men accused of her murder. Whisked in and out of the courtroom past shouting crowds of journalists, they listened impassively to testimony and offered monosyllabic answers on the stand. Courtroom guards said they hummed Bollywood tunes under their breath. Their opinions were anyone’s guess.

    Now, one of the men on death row for the crime, Mukesh Singh, has told a British filmmaker that the young woman invited the rape because she was out too late at night and that she would have lived if she had submitted to the assault.

    “You can’t clap with one hand,” said Mr. Singh, who was convicted of rape and murder, though he denied taking part in the assault. “It takes two hands. A decent girl won’t roam around at 9 o’clock at night. A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy. Boy and girl are not equal. Housework and housekeeping is for girls, not roaming in discos and bars at night doing wrong things, wearing wrong clothes. About 20 percent of girls are good.”

     Mukesh Singh, Credit Associated Press

    The comments, released as part of a publicity campaign for the film, called “India’s Daughter,” were met with outrage in India, in part over why the filmmaker, Leslee Udwin, had been permitted to interview the defendant in jail.

    After complaints by the home minister, an Indian court issued a restraining order, stating that Mr. Singh’s interview created “an atmosphere of fear and tension with the possibility of public outcry and law and order situation.” The order said the film violated four Indian statutes, including one against “intent to cause alarm in the public” and another banning acts “intended to outrage the modesty of a woman.”

    Ms. Udwin said the order amounted to a ban.

    “That means they have banned a film which is in the public interest without having seen it, without having requested a copy of it,” she said. The film will be distributed through social media, she added.

    “No intelligent person can watch this film and not understand that these remarks are not being promulgated,” she said.

    The woman, a 23-year-old physiotherapy student, had been to see “Life of Pi” with a male friend, and they boarded the private bus without realizing that it was off duty and that the six men aboard had been driving the streets in search of a victim. After knocking her friend unconscious, they took the woman to the back of the bus and raped her, then damaged her internal organs with an iron rod. An hour later, they dumped the pair on the roadside, bleeding and naked. The woman died two weeks later of her injuries.

    In the interview, for a film that will air Sunday on the BBC, Mr. Singh said the woman had provoked the deadly assault by resisting the rape.

    “When being raped, she shouldn’t fight back,” he told the filmmaker, Ms. Udwin, according to a transcript provided by the BBC. “She should just be silent and allow the rape. Then they’d have dropped her off after ‘doing her,’ and only hit the boy.”

    In footage from the film, Mr. Singh tonelessly narrates the assault, saying that he heard the woman screaming for help but that his brother instructed him to keep driving as they “dragged her to the back” and “went turn by turn.” Afterward, he said, he saw the youngest of the assailants, who was 17 at the time of the crime, withdraw something from her body.

    “It was her intestines,” Mr. Singh said. “He said: ‘She’s dead. Throw her out quickly.’ ”

    He called the killing “an accident.”

    Ms. Udwin, at a news conference in New Delhi, said the film crew had interviewed Mr. Singh for 16 hours and had seen no sign of remorse. “He is almost like a robot,” she said.

    According to police records, the men divided the pair’s possessions: Mr. Singh took one cellphone, and Vinay Sharma, 20, took the other. Pawan Gupta took the man’s watch and 1,000 rupees in cash, a little less than $20. Akshay Kumar Singh took the woman’s rings. The juvenile was given a bank card and some cash.

    Months before the trial, Mr. Singh’s brother, Ram Singh, hanged himself with his bedsheet in his prison cell. The juvenile defendant, whose identity has not been made public in accordance with Indian law, was sentenced to three years in a detention center, the heaviest sentence possible in India’s juvenile justice system. The remaining four men pleaded not guilty; they are appealing their death sentences.

    Mr. Singh told the filmmaker that he believed the harsh sentences, instead of acting as a deterrent, would drive more rapists to kill their victims. “Before, they would rape and say: ‘Leave her alone. She won’t tell anyone,’ ” he said. “Now, when they rape, especially the criminal types, they will just kill the girl. Death.”

    Source: www.nytimes.com

  • Terengganu To Implement Dress Code Targetted At Female Tourists

    Terengganu To Implement Dress Code Targetted At Female Tourists

    PETALING JAYA: Tourists who intend to visit Terengganu must now abide by a dress code, as outlined by the state government.

    According to the the state government news portal Teganukita, a circular with guidelines on attire will soon be released to all Malaysian travel agents and Malaysian tourism headquarters in neighbouring countries, including Singapore, Indonesia and Thailand.

    The website states that the guidelines are targeted at tourists, especially female tourists.

    State Tourism and Cultural Affairs chairman Datuk Mohd Jidin Shafee said that he was certain the new ruling, along with the implementation of the syariah criminal enactment (Takzir) 2001, would not deter tourists from visiting the state.

    Mohd Jidin, who is also Permaisuri assemblyman, however, clarified that action will only be taken once the circular is released.

    “Before legal action is imposed on women who wear revealing attire in public, to the point that the dressing causes fervency (kegairahan), a letter with guidelines will be issued,” he was reported as saying.

    Mohd Jidin explained that a meeting was held with the Terengganu Islamic and Malay Heritage Council (Maidam) to prepare guidelines, which specify the dress code acceptable according to Islamic rulings.

    He explained that ever since the ruling on attire was announced by Mentri Besar Datuk Ahmad Razif Abdul Rahman two weeks ago, both local and international tourists have abided by the specific guidelines.

    Terengganu is a major tourist destination due to its pristine beaches and world famous islands like Pulau Redang and Pulau Perhentian, which attract thousands of visitors each year.

    According to a source, the ruling does not require men and women to comply 100% with the Islamic dress code. However, visitors and locals must dress decently.

    Those who fail to do so will be called for counselling. In the case of underage perpetrators, parents will also be called in to attend counselling sessions, the source said.

    It is understood that a meeting will be held Monday to further clarify the guidelines.

     

    Source: www.thestar.com.my

  • 14 Year Old Girl Arrested In Malaysia For Trying To Join IS

    14 Year Old Girl Arrested In Malaysia For Trying To Join IS

    KUALA LUMPUR (THE STAR/ASIA NEWS NETWORK): Police have detained a 14-year-old girl suspected of trying to join the Islamic State terror group.

    The girl, who is from Muar, was arrested by the Bukit Aman Special Branch Counter Terrorism Division before she could board a Cairo-bound flight at KL International Airport at about 7.30pm on Tuesday.

    Inspector-General of Police Tan Sri Khalid Abu Bakar said the girl was planning to marry a 22-year-old Malaysian student in Cairo.

    Both of them would then go to Istanbul before securing passage to Syria.

    “We discovered that she had been in contact with two Malaysian militants based in Syria. We will investigate further to uncover the mastermind behind the recruitment of Malaysian girls for the IS,” he said in a statement yesterday.

    “We will not allow Malaysia to be used as a training ground or hideout for terrorists and militants. Anyone in support or in league with any terrorist will be detained.”

    The girl was arrested under the Security Offences (Special Measures) Act 2012.

    Intelligence sources said the girl’s would-be husband is a student at Cairo’s Al-Azhar University.

    It is learnt that the girl, who studied at a tahfiz institute in Shah Alam, had attempted to go to Cairo without her family’s consent. She had even threatened to kill herself if her parents did not let her go.

    “The girl was hard-headed when interrogated by Bukit Aman officers,” a source said.

    The latest arrest brings the number of people linked to terrorism arrested in Malaysia to 68 since February 2013.

    Among those arrested were navy and air force personnel and civil servants, including an Energy, Green Technology and Water Ministry officer.

    Sources said the trend of Malaysians joining the IS was continuing despite the arrests.

    Just last month, a young Malaysian couple, with their infant son, managed to elude the authorities to go to Syria to join the terror group.

    “They went to Bangkok before taking a flight to Istanbul. They then entered Syria via a land route,” a source said.

    It is believed that the family went to Syria late last month.

    Bukit Aman is still hunting five known militants who are believed to have links to IS and the Abu Sayyaf terror group based in the Philippines.

    Khalid urged anyone with information on the militants to contact the nearest police station or the counter-terrorism division at 03-2266 7010 or 011-2104 6850, or e-mail [email protected].

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • The Debate On Female Modesty – #SaveYourDaraCampaign Vs #LearnRespect

    The Debate On Female Modesty – #SaveYourDaraCampaign Vs #LearnRespect

    A lot of stupid things have been said in the great debate over women in this country, and you hear a lot of victim-blaming arguments from those who somehow believe that women need to restrict themselves to live safely in a society of supposedly dominant men. The idea that a woman must carry herself meekly or swaddle her body in “modest” clothing to avoid attracting male attention is ridiculous, and shows not only a lack of self-restraint but also a lack of respect for 50% of the world’s population.

    Thus, it’s understandable that outrage erupts over hare-brained ideas like a certain local magazine’s#SaveYourDaraCampaign.

    The effectiveness of campaigns like this one aside – it doesn’t work; ask the Christians, they’ve been trying it for ages – the major issue here is not the idea of abstinence-only sex education, as it looks to combat the social ills of baby dumping and illegitimate children. While teaching young women about contraception would arguably be a lot more effective than abstinence, we can see how it would be favourable in the eyes of the more puritan members of our society.

    The issue that everyone is up in arms about is that “a lot of importance was given to how we carry ourselves, how we dress to not arouse men,” according to one of the participants.

    Why is this a problem? It’s simple. This is victim-blaming at it’s most insidious level, subliminally suggesting to young women that the burden falls on them to control men’s sexual impulses by becoming meek, by dressing modestly or conservatively. It’s as if men are not physically or mentally capable of being in control of their own sexuality, and thus the women must limit theirs or face threats to their chastity. Not only is this idea demeaning to women, but also to men as it paints them as little more than lustful animals with no self-control, slaves to their impulses.

    Certainly, there are some men who buy into this way of thinking, populating online forums with proclamations against the dressing and behaviour of women in this day and age, screaming obscenities and graphically describing the sexual things they would do to those same women. This maladjusted community of disenfranchised men is more of a concern that needs to be addressed than#SaveYourDara, if we’re to be honest with ourselves.

    I am not condoning women who wear revealing clothes at all times. Civilized society does ask that we maintain a modicum of modesty after all, and a well-dressed woman is just as appealing as a seductively dressed lady. However, a woman should not be forced to deny her own sexuality and her right to dress as she pleases for fear that it be held against her in the facetious argument that she is “asking for it”. A woman does not necessarily dress up for men. It is not an open invitation for sexual advances or assault, and we need to come to terms with that fact as a society.

    The campaign we should be conducting is #LearnRespect.

    As men, we must learn to respect that women have the right to dress in ways that are appealing to them, whether conservative or not. We must respect that sex and all the pleasures that come with it are not owed to us in any way. It doesn’t matter if you bought her a RM1,000 necklace or took her to dinner at a 5-star restaurant. You are owed nothing, least of all a woman’s body.

    As men, we need to respect ourselves and learn self-restraint. We are not animals driven crazy by the mating instinct; we are in control of our every action and as such we must take responsibility for our mistakes, our lapses in judgement.

    Some will say that women too need to learn self-respect when it comes to their dressing and demeanour, and I will not argue the point as all of us need to learn to respect ourselves. But enough of blaming the victim whenever undesirable sexual situations arise. We need to be a better society than that, and teaching our young women, the hopes of our nation, that they must make themselves less for the sake of those who refuse to learn self-control is not the way forward for anyone.

     

    Source: www.freemalaysiatoday.com