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  • NUS Law Prof Lynette Chua Launch Book Called Mobilizing Gay Singapore

    Credit: http://www.usp.nus.edu.sg/
    Credit: http://www.usp.nus.edu.sg/

    SINGAPORE — What are the legal restrictions and political norms that affect the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community? How did they organise themselves and engage the state, eventually organising the first public gay rally, Pink Dot, in 2009?

    These are the themes examined in a new book by law professor Lynette Chua from the National University of Singapore (NUS) on the LGBT movement. Launched yesterday, the 168-page volume was based on in-depth interviews with gay activists here and government statements and media reports on the issue. Called Mobilizing Gay Singapore, it looks at the LGBT movement’s emergence, development and strategies, and how the roles of law and rights play out in the process.

    Speaking to TODAY at the book launch at the NUS Centre for Asian Legal Studies at the Faculty of Law, Associate Professor Chua said the book is aimed at trying to understand the social-legal history of the movement. The book, she said, could have a reflective impact on activists regarding their roles and could be informative for those who are not knowledgeable about the movement. The book was written in her personal capacity as a social-legal scholar and does not represent NUS’ views, she said.

    During the panel discussion at the launch with Assoc Prof Chua, NUS law professor Michael Hor and NUS Department of Sociology Assoc Prof Daniel Goh, an audience member asked how local political parties could take a stronger stand on the LGBT movement.

    In response, Assoc Prof Goh said political parties have to be pragmatic to remain in the game and cannot be the vanguard of a movement that is about minority rights.

    Added Assoc Prof Chua: “Like it or not, many of the activists believe the desire for a state of equal rights for LGBT or legal reform will not come from the opposition party … The Opposition is simply too weak just trying to get a foothold in local politics.”

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    Source: TODAY, singaporelawwatch.sg

     

     

  • SG Gay Activists Conduct Forum for Gay Youths Entering NS

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    About “You think, I thought, Who confirm” series

    You Think, I Thought, Who Confirm? is a new series of forums and talks to discuss the issues that matter to gay youths today. An open, friendly environment provides participants to ask anything and everything that they have always heard a lot about, but never really knew what the answer actually was. A panel of speakers, mostly fellow youths and some professionals, will be invited to speak and share about their thoughts and experiences to dispel the misconceptions and myths that befuddles our gay youths today. Ultimately, participants will be able to leave each event confirming facts and understanding themselves better. 

     
    Fall-In is the first forum of the series, focusing on the experiences and myths surrounding being a gay soldier in NS.

     
    About Fall-In
    Most of us would have watched ABTM or Army Daze with that sassy gay bunkmate. Yet, how is it like really to be gay in NS? Fall-In brings together a group of NSFs and NSmen to share their stories and experiences of the gay Singaporean sons. Find out what declaring 302 means to your NS life and future, if you should come out to your buddy and bunkmates and most importantly, whether being gay really matters at all when we are serving our nation.
    Fall-In features a panel of speakers from different backgrounds who will share what it is like to come out during National Service or to remain in the closet. Either way, we hope the experiences will shed some light and dispel some common myths about being gay in NS.
    Details
    Date: 7 June 2014
    Time: 1930hrs
    Venue: TBA to registered participants
    Register for the forum: http://bit.ly/1ia2amt

    Source: SG Rainblow

  • Lapan Langkah Ibu Bapa Tangani Isu Seksualiti Anak-anak

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    Gay couple in school uniform caught making out in Sengkang Compass Point Photo Credit: SGHallofShame

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    Ramai yang mungkin terperanjat, marah dan terkesan dengan paparan anak-anak kecil melakukan aksi yang tidak seharusnya, semalam. Dan ramai yang meluahkan harapan agar anak-anak kita dapat dibimbing dengan baik demi mengelakkan perkara ini daripada berlaku dalam keluarga sendiri.
    Namun, apakah yang seharusnya dilakukan oleh para ibubapa sebagai intervensi (intervention) berkesan?

    Berikut adalah LAPAN Intervensi yang boleh dipertimbangkan oleh ibubapa untuk tangani isu seksualiti anak-anak:
    1. Menilai-semula sistem nilai dan juga tingkah-laku (behavior) ibubapa sendiri terhadap konsep seksualiti, termasuklah apa yang dituntut agama mengenai batas-batas
    2. Menetapkan house rule atau peraturan keluarga berdasarkan sistem nilai dan tingkah-laku yang selari dengan Islam bagi keluarga-keluarga Muslim.
    3. Faham erti pembangunan dan pembentukan seksualiti sihat dalam diri insan kamil.
    4. Mengetahu tahap-tahap pembangunan anak-anak, dari lahir sehinggalah tahap pos-puberty
    5. Memberi maklumat-maklumat dan menanam nilai secara bertahap mengikut peringkat umur anak-anak (age-appropriate) dan tahap-tahap pembentukan anak-anak
    6. Kenal-pasti isu-isu seksualiti anak-anak yang sedang membesar
    7. Engage anak-anak secara berterusan mengenai isu-isu seksualiti menggunakan pendekatan yang sesuai dengan zaman anak-anak
    8. Terus-menerus update pengetahun ibubapa mengenai bidang seksualiti insani.

    Dasar Asas Perlaksanaan Dalam keluarga:
    1. Lebih AWAL lebih BAIK
    2. Lebih KERAP lebih ELOK
    3. Rebut TEACHABLE MOMENTS
    4. Jadikan diri sendiri (ibubapa) sebagai ASKABLE
    5. Lebih banyak BERDIALOG dari berleter
    6. Lebih banyak MENDENGAR dari bersyarah
    7. Lebih banyak BERINTERAKSI dari menyendiri

    Semoga Allah memberi kita kekuatan untuk menangani cabaran ini demi menjaga kemaslahatan masadepan anak-anak kita semua.

    Allahul Musta’aan

     

    Source: Singapore Hall of Shame, Mohd Khair 

  • Gay Malay Teacher Offer Guidance to Sexually Confused Student

     

     

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    Dear R1C,

    When I was in school, I had a major crush on my teacher. I didn’t tell anyone about it and kept it to myself. I wasn’t sure if that was the right thing to feel because I am a guy. Besides, I wasn’t sure if what I am feeling was wrong towards the society, my family and my religion. As a Muslim raised in a conservative family, I am torn in between my feelings and other people’s expectations.

    But what if this feeling is the right kind of wrong? What if it is not wrong after all?

    Because my actions were obvious and all gays have something called ‘gaydar’ or ‘gay-radar’, my secret feelings were exposed when my teacher confronted me one day. He confessed that he understood my needs and knew how sad it was to be perceived as ‘weird’. From that day onwards, there was no hiding between us because our feelings were mutual. He was my confidante, my good friend and a lover. Although we had a relationship for 3 years and broke up only when I left for poly, I am truly thankful for the guidance my ex-teacher had given me. I would not have been able to survive this harsh world if not for his emotional support.

    I am thankful to God because I found someone who truly cares about me and showed me the importance to love myself and be who I really am when faced with oppositions. My ex-teacher told me I deserved to be happy. When I turned 22, I left home to lead my own life and stayed with my partner. Occasionally, I would return home only to see my mom who was deeply disappointed by my ‘queer’ preference. My dad has disowned me.

    Now, I have become a teacher myself. A similar experience had happened to me as well. I spotted one student who had the same reaction whenever I looked at my ex-teacher. Instantaneously, I knew what I had to do.  Guidance and be a role model.

    To those who hate the PLUs, let it be known that everyone deserves to be happy. We live once and we have the right to choose the kind of life we want to lead for the rest of our lives. It doesn’t make me a lesser Muslim just because I prefer men. You simply can’t force anyone to eat something he don’t like.

     

    Sofian Ryan

     

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  • No Muslim Should Join PinkDotSG

     

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    I have a dream.

    It is late-June. The day of the Pinkdot activity at Hong Lim.

    Muslims are also gathering. By the thousands. But not at Hong Lim. But at numerous stadia around Singapore – Bedok, Hougang, Tampines, Yishun etc stadia. We gather to celebrate the Sanctity and Sacredness of the Family in Singapore.

    It is a fun and festive atmosphere. Families are having picnics. Amidst that, Asatizahs give talks.

    As the sun sets, we all gather for salatul Maghrib. Those who can, stay on till Isha. Its the first night of Ramadhan and we all pray tarawikh.

    Prior to the day itself, our Mufti makes a strong stance against the LGBT movement. Emphasis is made that no Muslim should join the Pinkdot activity. As it is tacit approval to acts so heinous in the sight of Allah azzawajal.

    In conjunction with PERGAS, a series of ‘roadshow’ talks are held in the satellite mosques, talking about the dangers of the LGBT movement and Liberal Islam. At the same time, there is full publicity for the show of support in the stadia on the same day of the Pinkdot gathering. The legion of Social Media enthusiasts encourage the youths to attend the gathering in support of the Sanctity and Sacredness of the Family.

    This is my dream.

    It is not impossible. Subhanallah. MUIS has great potential to lead our community. They organised the salat istisqa. I was at Razak mosque. A VAST MAJORITY of Singaporeans stayed back after Jumuah salat to perform the Istisqa in Jemaah and stayed back for the khutbah.

    Lo and Behold, the next day Allah azzawajal sent the rain.

    Imagine what Allah azzawajal will be willing to do if we close ranks and show our resolve to push back against acts heinous in Allah’s eyes. If we sit back and continue in our state of docility, the pinkdot mvt will keep on pushing their agenda. And pretty soon, there will be Gay Pride parades down Jalan Sultan and Orchard Road, with images of gays in drag being beamed across the world, and the Sultan Mosque is the backdrop. A stark reminder of our docility, when we should be struggling for the Deen of Allah.

    I have a dream. It can be a reality. If MUIS and PERGAS decide to wake up from their slumber. And truly lead the community.

    Wallahua’lam. Have a wonderful night in the remembrance of Allah. Let my dream be our collective dream. And let us make sincere doa that Allah azzawajal sends his Nusrah. And protect our Aqeedah and that of our progeny for many generations to come.

     

    Source: Syed Danial

    Read more on Syed Danial and his personal views:

    Of LGBTQ Lobby and Liberal Islam – Trends in the Muslim Community