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  • Male Cosmetic Doctor Charged With Molest Of Male Patient

    Male Cosmetic Doctor Charged With Molest Of Male Patient

    A cosmetic doctor allegedly molested a male liposuction patient three times – twice after injecting him with stupefying drugs in a hotel room, where he had taken him to “recuperate”, a court heard yesterday.

    Tan Kok Leong, 49, went on trial accused of three charges of outraging the modesty of a 33-year-old Malaysian doctor, who cannot be named due to a gag order. He faces another two of administering drugs so that he could molest him.

    The court heard that he first touched the fellow doctor’s genitals during a liposuction procedure on his waist at Life Source Medical Centre at Novena Medical Centre on June 6, 2013.

    On July 5 that year, he performed another liposuction procedure on the man at the clinic and then told him that he had booked a room for him at the nearby Oasia Hotel, where he could rest afterwards.

    In an agreed statement of facts, Deputy Public Prosecutor Victor Lim said that when the pair got there, Tan told his patient he would inject him with the sleeping drug Dormicum and painkiller Rosiden.

    Tan then allegedly pulled down the other doctor’s shorts and took photographs of his genitals.

    Both men stayed at the hotel the next day, when Tan allegedly repeated the two offences.

    The defence argued that the complainant could not have been molested during the June 6 liposuction as his girlfriend, also a doctor, was present along with another doctor.

    Lawyers Edmond Pereira and Vickie Tan said the complainant was fully awake during the procedure and had consented to the photos being taken at the hotel.

    Tan was a partner at Life Source Medical Practice, which has since closed, and was licensed to perform liposuction.

    The maximum punishment for outrage of modesty is two years’ jail, a fine and caning. For administering of stupefying drugs, the maximum is 10 years’ jail and caning.

    The hearing continues.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • Meet Vietnam’s Gay Power Couple: US Ambassador And His Husband

    Meet Vietnam’s Gay Power Couple: US Ambassador And His Husband

    HANOI — Since their December arrival in Vietnam, US Ambassador Ted Osius and his husband have become the most prominent gay couple in the South-east Asian country.

    Mr Osius and Mr Clayton Bond landed with their toddler son shortly before the government abolished its ban on same-sex marriage. Now the couple, who recently adopted an infant girl, find themselves ambassadors of the nascent LGBT rights movement spreading across the country.

    “A lot of young people have reached out to me on Facebook, to say: ‘We are happy to see somebody who is gay and is happy in his personal life but also has had professional success’,” Mr Osius said in an interview. “I don’t think of it as advocating as much as supporting Vietnamese civil society in doing what it is already doing.”

    The Communist government’s revised marriage law, while not officially recognising same-sex marriage, and its tolerance of pride events has made Vietnam a leader in gay rights in South-east Asia, potentially opening up opportunities to attract the tourist “pink dollar” and business executives seeking a more tolerant environment.

    Yet young gay Vietnamese say they can be ostracised in a patriarchal society in which heterosexual marriage and parenthood are seen as the path to happiness. The legal changes also sit oddly in a country that more broadly curbs political dissent, Mr Phil Robertson, deputy Asia director at Human Rights Watch, said in an e-mail.

    Mr Osius, 53, and Mr Bond frequently appear together at official government gatherings and media events. Mr Osius — who is on his first posting as ambassador and has also worked in Indonesia and India — always introduces his husband and often talks about their children, who are 19 months and five months.

    “This is a core interest of ours with regard to human rights,” said Mr Bond, 39. “People see us as an openly gay couple with kids serving our country. I hope people find that inspiring.”

    ‘ROLE MODELS’

    While a small number of celebrities have held same-sex weddings, Mr Osius and Mr Bond are the most prominent gay couple in Vietnam, said Mr Tung Tran, director of ICS, a Ho Chi Minh City-based group that advocates for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender rights. They are also embraced by the larger population, reflecting the closer relationship being forged by Hanoi and Washington.

    “They are the full package,” Mr Tran said by phone. “They are married. They have a family. They are successful. They are our role models.” This year 25 Viet Pride events will take place across the country, up from 17 in 2014, said Mr Tran.

    Mr Osius, a career diplomat, co-founded GLIFAA, a US association for LGBT employees and families in foreign affairs agencies, in 1992. There are now six openly gay US ambassadors, including Mr Osius, Ambassador to Australia John Berry and Ambassador to Denmark Rufus Gifford, said Ms Regina Jun, president of the group.

    Mr Osius’ posting to Vietnam comes amid improved relations between Vietnam and the US, former enemies that have shared economic goals and strategic concerns about an increasingly assertive China in the region. Vietnam’s civil society is relatively robust, Mr Osius said, even as its human rights record in other areas remains a hindrance to even warmer ties.

    ‘MEDICAL METHODS’

    Vietnam held about 125 political prisoners at the end of 2014, fewer than in previous years, in part because of a drop in convictions, according to the US State Department.

    “Vietnam is trying to figure out what kind of country it wants to be and it doesn’t want to be China,” Mr Osius said. “There is more openness. There is more inclusiveness in government.”

    On gay rights the country has some way to go. Same-sex relationships can be viewed as bringing bad luck to a family, said Mr Luong The Huy, legal officer at the Hanoi-based Institute for Studies of Society, Economy and Environment.

    “Families are usually the last people LGBTs come out to,” he said by phone. “The reactions can be harsh. Some are involuntarily treated by medical methods or get locked up in the house.”

    ‘MORE RESTRICTIVE’

    In other parts of South-east Asia including Thailand, the push for gay rights has stalled. Countries such as Brunei and Malaysia can punish those who engage in gay behaviour under Sharia law, Mr Robertson said.

    In Singapore, sex between men is illegal although rarely prosecuted. The city-state banned a song and video by Taiwanese singer Jolin Tsai’s about same-sex relationships, the Straits Times reported on May 26.

    “In many ways the region is getting more restrictive,” Dr Jamie Gillen, a researcher of cultural geography at the National University of Singapore, said by phone. “Vietnam is something of an outlier. Vietnam has a live-and-let-live mentality.”

    On the evening of July 31, Mr Osius and Mr Bond attended the kick-off of Hanoi’s Viet Pride weekend, which featured a bicycle rally through the heart of the city. He addressed about a hundred Vietnamese in a hall where rainbow banners covered a wall. Speaking in Vietnamese, Mr Osius urged the gathering of young people to simply be who they are.

    “This stuff hits right at home,” he said after the speech, tears welling. “Yeah, it hits right at home.”

     

    Source: www.todayonline.com

  • Abusive Gay Man Hid Sexuality From Wife, Denied Custody Of Triplets

    Abusive Gay Man Hid Sexuality From Wife, Denied Custody Of Triplets

    A man who hid his homosexuality from his wife for 13 years has been denied joint custody of their triplets, not because he is gay or HIV-positive, but because of his “appallingly poor decision-making ability”, a judge has said.

    The 49-year-old wife has been awarded sole custody, in a rare legal move which is justified only in exceptional circumstances which show that joint custody is not in a child’s best interests.

    Neither party can be named in the case, in which the businesswoman obtained an interim divorce in 2011 based on unreasonable conduct – ending a 15-year marriage. At issue before the court was the care, control and custody of the children as well as the division of matrimonial assets.

    Justice Vinodh Coomaraswamy said in judgment grounds released yesterday: “The husband is in the same position as any parent, whatever the gender or sexual orientation, who has displayed… appallingly poor decision-making ability.”

    The couple’s triplets were conceived through in-vitro fertilisation, which the judge noted exacted a high toll on the mother emotionally, physically and psychologically.

    The wife found out about her husband’s double life only in 2009, after she hired a private detective.

    “I am unimpressed by the husband’s capacity for truth-telling,” said Justice Vinodh.

    In 2012, the man had posted a picture of himself wearing only underwear on a website called Manjam, on which he sought other men for short-term trysts.

    He also described himself there as a childless 35-year-old when he was, in fact, 10 years older and the father of triplets. He also lied by saying he was HIV negative.

    The judge cited his tryst with a gay partner who led a ” particularly reckless and dissolute lifestyle”. The drug-taking partner had in 2009 been found unconscious and naked under the bed of another homosexual lover, who lay naked and dead in bed. A coroner’s inquiry found he died of brain damage due to drug intoxication.

    The husband was convicted of drug possession and consumption and jailed for six months in 2013, He was declared bankrupt in 2012.

    He had also assaulted his wife, leading her to take out to a Personal Protection Order in 2010.

    The judge said all these factors showed “an ability to make decisions which are positively detrimental to his own welfare”, as well as his kids’ long-term interests.

    He ruled that the husband was to have no more than two hours a week of supervised access, plus telephone access – limits which were already in place.

    The husband defended himself while the wife was represented by lawyer Tang Gee Ni.

    Overall, the judge awarded a 60:40 division of the matrimonial assets in favour of the wife out of a joint pool of $2.65 million. This was based on the direct and indirect contributions of both parties to the family and factored in the father’s $327,529 lump sum maintenance for the children.

    As the husband was a bankrupt, the court had no powers to touch his assets vested under the Official Assignee’s control.

    Justice Vinodh ordered that he settle the $123,391 debt to discharge the bankruptcy with the 40 per cent sum he is entitled to from the sale of the couple’s Sembawang property in 2011. This was a condition precedent to effect a “just and equitable” division of the matrimonial assets, he said.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • Man, 26, Charged With Committing Sex Offences Involving At Least 10 Underage Boys

    Man, 26, Charged With Committing Sex Offences Involving At Least 10 Underage Boys

    A 26-year-old man was charged on Tuesday with committing sex offences involving at least 10 underaged boys.

    Goh Jun Guan faces 30 charges involving boys who were aged between 10 and 15 years old at the time.

    The alleged offences, which took place between 2012 and 2014, include giving and receiving oral sex from some of the boys as well as touching the genitals of some and getting them to touch his.

    He also stands accused of persuading some of the boys to send him photos of their genitals or videos of themselves masturbating, and of sending them similar photos and videos of himself via WhatsApp.

    These alleged acts happened at a different locations, including public toilets in Jurong West Public Library, Pioneer Mall, and Jurong Point Shopping Centre.

    For each count of sexually penetrating or being sexually penetrated by a boy under 14 years of age, Goh could be jailed up to 20 years and also fined or caned.

    For each count of procuring the commission of obscene acts by the boys, he could be jailed up to five years, fined up to $10,000, or both, on the first conviction.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • My Husband Dumped Me For Another Man

    My Husband Dumped Me For Another Man

    A RUDE SHOCK
    It was our 20th wedding anniversary and I’d planned to surprise Nick with a big celebration. I wanted to invite his close friends to the bash but I didn’t have their phone numbers, so I secretly accessed Nick’s handphone contact list while he was in the shower. We usually respect each other’s privacy but that night, I was unusually curious.

    I flipped to his photo gallery and was taken aback to see many pictures of him and his business partner, Joe*. One showed my husband and Joe on the beach, posing topless with their arms wrapped around each other. They struck the same pose in the other picture, but this time, Joe – who is openly gay – was planting a kiss on Nick’s cheek.

    My mind whirled. On one hand, the pictures could mean nothing. Nick and Joe were best friends and as close as brothers – they did almost everything together. Joe was even godfather to my children. On the other hand, no straight man would take such intimate shots.

    I contemplated asking Nick about the pictures, but I didn’t want to start an argument. I put his phone back and got ready for bed. I decided not to overreact – I had an anniversary party to plan and nothing was going to ruin it, I told myself.

    SEEING IS BELIEVING
    The party was a huge success. Nick was pleasantly surprised and nearly teared up – he was touched that I had gone to all the trouble. Looking at him, I felt so loved. There’s no way this man would do anything to hurt me and our children, I thought.

    But the niggling feeling I’d had all week just wouldn’t go away. I found myself watching Nick and Joe’s every move – were they sitting too closely together? Why did they constantly whisper to each other? That hug they’d just exchanged – was it a friendly one or something more intimate?

    I suddenly wanted the party to end. I had developed a huge headache thinking of the what-ifs. When we finally got home, I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t erase the image of Nick and Joe from my mind. I got out of bed, quietly took Nick’s phone out of the bedroom, and searched for text messages between Joe and him.

    My heart sank at what I found: SMSes peppered with “I love yous”, “can’t wait to feel your body next to mine” and “you looked good last night, naked”. There was so much “dirty” talk, I was blushing.

    I wept in silence – my femininity had taken a beating. Nick and I had been married for two decades and we’d never once exchanged sexy texts. We did exchange “I miss yous” and “I love yous”, but had never engaged in phone sex. Nick was also not into public displays of affection. He was a fiercely private man but here he was, snapping intimate shots with and sending messages of love and lust, to his best friend.

    NOT GETTING MY SEXY BACK
    I sat there in my living room mulling over what I’d just chanced upon. I pondered what I could have done wrong that made Nick switch camps. Was it the sex, which had been almost non-existent of late? Maybe Nick was bored with our unadventurous romps.

    Come to think of it, our sex life was mostly functional – it was either to make babies or because I was craving it – although it made sense now why Nick had a fetish for certain sex positions, given his homosexual tendencies. Or maybe I’d grown unattractive to him – I’d put on weight, my tummy bore the scars of childbirth and my thighs were dimpled with cellulite.

    Nick, on the other hand, had kept himself in shape. I thought that maybe I needed to hit the gym more often and go on a diet so Nick would be attracted to me once again. But he’d always told me that I was gorgeous in his eyes and that he didn’t want me to change a thing about myself. He couldn’t have strayed because of my deteriorating looks, right?

    Maybe I needed to seduce my husband back into my arms. I went back to bed and tried to wake him up with my kisses and caresses. He smiled, hugged me tightly, murmured how tired he was and promptly went back to sleep. I tried to initiate sex over the next few days but when I finally succeeded, Nick seemed very far away – he was going through the motions but we weren’t connected emotionally at all. I decided then that it was time for us to have a serious chat.

    TRUTH HURTS
    My children were visiting their grandparents at the upcoming weekend, so I set up a “date night” with Nick. I cooked a nice dinner, and after dessert and some wine, asked him for the truth.

    I confronted him about the photos, the sexting and our lacklustre sex life. He seemed stunned at first, then heaved a big sigh – not of anger, but relief. I’d expected him to deny everything. In fact, I was desperately praying that he would prove me wrong – but he didn’t.

    Instead, he took my hand, stared deeply into my eyes and said: “I’m so, so sorry that you had to find out this way.” My heart fell and the tears I’d been holding back came gushing out. I just didn’t understand it – why had he married me if he was into men? How could he like men and yet sleep with me? Was I merely a decoy as he attempted to portray a normal life to his family and friends? Did he even love me or was that an act too?

    I spat out these questions as I struggled to understand how my seemingly perfect life had just come undone. Nick explained that he’d only realised he was attracted to men when he was in his 30s. He found himself checking out good-looking guys, although he dismissed the confusing feelings at first and tried to fight his urges. But he lost the battle about six months later when he visited a gay bar during an overseas work trip and was strongly attracted to someone he met there.

    They had a one-night stand and even continued a long-distance relationship. Nick had visited him several times after that, in the guise of going away for work. Although the affair fizzled out within three months, Nick had then realised that he was gay. We had been married for at least 10 years by that time.

    The only person who knew of his turmoil was Joe, who gave him a shoulder to cry on. They grew even closer and fell in love. It seemed that Joe had always carried a torch for Nick. But he’d never thought Nick would reciprocate… until then.

    They say hindsight is 20/20, and I realised that the signs were right under my nose all along: Nick and Joe’s regular sleepovers at each other’s homes, their constant getaways, their common love of buying each other expensive gifts, and how they liked to go off by themselves even when we were in a group.

    I felt so betrayed. My husband had been carrying on with his lover behind my back for five years and I was the last to know. I didn’t know which was worse – that he’d cheated on me or that his dalliance was with another man.

    TOUGH CALL
    I asked for a divorce. I told Nick that I couldn’t accept his philandering ways. My husband tried to change my mind, saying that he still loved me. He asked me to stay and let him take care of the family. Nick said if he wasn’t a responsible man, he would have abandoned us a long time ago. He begged me to think about our kids and how they would be affected by our break-up.

    I almost caved in when he said that, but I just couldn’t accept being cheated on. So I asked Nick to choose – I’d try and save our marriage if he ended things with Joe. But all he said was: “Please don’t put me in that position.”

    I knew then that I’d lost him, so I insisted that we file for a divorce. Nick grudgingly agreed. I also asked him to back me up when I broke the news to our kids – I told them that he and I weren’t getting along anymore due to a communication breakdown. I didn’t want my children to know the real truth as I wanted to protect whatever innocence they had left.

    My children were devastated as they were very close to their father. But we reassured them that he would still spend as much time as he could with them. I haven’t forgiven him – I don’t think I’ll ever be at peace with what happened. I find it very hard to trust men now. Maybe one day, I will get over this… one step at a time.”

    * Names have been changed.

     

    Source: www.herworldplus.com