Tag: Muslim

  • “Wahai Lelaki, Tolonglah Jangan Pakai Tshirt Atau Jersi Bila Pergi Majlis. Biadap Tahu Tak?”

    “Wahai Lelaki, Tolonglah Jangan Pakai Tshirt Atau Jersi Bila Pergi Majlis. Biadap Tahu Tak?”

    Gambar sekadar hiasan. Lelaki oh lelaki… Bila bercakap soal fesyen, lelaki memang jenis suka pakaian yang simple, kasual, dan senang. Berbeza sikit dengan kaum hawa yang begitu particular dan teliti tentang fesyen.
     
    Setiap hari, perempuan mesti akan fikir nak pakai baju apa, nak pakai colour apa, nak match-kan dengan apa, nak make up macam mana, nak bawa handbag yang mana, nak pakai kasut apa, style tudung macam mana, rambut nak ikat ke tak, dan macam-macam lagi. Banyak betul benda yang bermain di fikiran kaum wanita.
     
    Kalau lelaki pulak, asalkan ada baju dan seluar, sarung terus, dan siap! Tak payah pening-pening kepala nak fikir macam-macam. Janji pakai baju. Lol.
     
    Tapi masalahnya… Bila dah terlalu biasa dengan sikap “asalkan pakai baju”, lelaki akan jadi tak kisah tentang dress code atau etika pemakaian, terutamanya bila pergi majlis. Hari-hari pakai tshirt, hari-hari pakai jersi, hari-hari pakai jeans, hari-hari pakai selipar, hari-hari pakai seluar pendek, hari-hari selekeh dan tak kemas, sampai pergi majlis pun tak reti nak pakai elok-elok.
     
    Paling mudah dan paling common yang kita selalu pergi tentunya majlis perkahwinan. Boleh kata hampir setiap minggu mesti dapat jemputan ke majlis walimatulurus pasangan pengantin baru. Tak kiralah sama ada majlis kahwin kawan baik ke, majlis kahwin kawan sekolah rendah ke, majlis kahwin ex ke, majlis kahwin saudara mara ke, atau siapa-siapa kahwin sekali pun, inilah majlis yang paling biasa kita datang.
     
    Dan dalam setiap majlis pun, mesti akan ada orang yang boleh buat kita sakit mata bila melihat. Saya tak pasti dengan korang semua. Tapi saya memang suka perhati cara pemakaian kaum lelaki bila di sesuatu majlis. Pada saya, kalau nak datang ke mana-mana majlis, lelaki mahupun perempuan kenalah ada etika dan cara pemakaian yang betul.
     
    Malangnya, ramai yang tak kisah pasal ni. Perempuan tak ada masalah sangat. Yang masalah sekarang ini ialah kaum Adam. Macam saya cakap tadi, perempuan memang sangat teliti dari segi pemakaian. Bila pergi bersukan, mereka akan pakai baju sukan. Bila pergi kelas, mereka akan pakai pakaian yang sesuai untuk dibawa ke kelas. Bila pergi majlis pulak, pastinya kaum perempuan akan melaram sakan.
     
    Namun lelaki… Pergi bersukan pakai jersi atau tshirt, pergi shopping mall pakai jersi atau tshirt, pergi kelas pun pakai jersi atau tshirt, pergi sana sini semua pakai jersi atau tshirt, termasuklah pergi ke majlis. Perasan tak? Seolah-olah lelaki macam dah tak ada baju lain nak pakai. Pergi majlis pun nak pakai jersi atau tshirt bulat tak ada kolar ke bang? Seriously?
     
    Dear men, Tolonglah serius sikit dalam bab etika pemakaian ke majlis. Nak pakai jersi pergi bersukan atau pergi shopping mall semua tu tak jadi masalah. Tak ada orang kisah pun. Tapi tolonglah berhenti pakai baju-baju macam tu bila pergi ke majlis.
     
    Biadap tahu tak?
     
    Kalau anda nak tahu, sesebuah majlis yang dirai semestinya didatangi dengan etika pemakaian tertentu walaupun tidak disebut di dalam kad ucapan. Dan etika pemakaian tersebut sudah tentu melarang tetamu daripada memakai jersi ataupun tshirt yang dianggap tidak sopan.
     
    Sekurang-kurangnya, pakailah pakaian yang lebih proper seperti tshirt polo berkolar. Engkau tu nak pergi majlis, bukan nak pergi melepak. Lagi sedih bila tengok lelaki datang ke majlis pakai tshirt atau jersi bersama pasangan yang berpakaian serba elok
     
    Pasangan bukan main cantik, pakai pun proper, siap make up, siap pakai tudung branded mahal, setting rambut cun-cun, siap pakai heels sebab dia tahu dia rendah, ditambah pulak dengan clutch di tangan. Memang stylo dan sangat lengkap.
     
    Tapi yang lelaki? Tak kisah langsung. Main sarung je mana-mana tshirt atau jersi yang ada, pakai jeans, pakai kasut sport, settle. Pada dia, mungkin dah elok sangat dah cara pemakaian dia tu. Bang, tak nampak ke pasangan kau tu gigih gila dress up nak pergi majlis dan nak jumpa kau? Kau takkan la tak ada rasa malu langsung?
     
    Hmmm…Mungkin ada yang bertanya, “Habis tu nak pakai apa?” Ini antara 6 senarai pakaian yang sesuai untuk majlis:
     
    1. Tshirt berkolar atau Tshirt Polo berkolar
     
    Tak semestinya brand Polo. Yang penting ada kolar. Tapi, bukan baju kolar kain jersi tu.
     
    2. Baju kemeja
    Lengan pendek boleh, lengan panjang pun boleh. Kemeja memang pilihan paling selamat.
     
    3. Nak lagi up, pakai siap dengan blazer
    Hanya untuk yang berani sahaja.
     
    PENTING: Segala jenis pakaian yang kau nak pakai tu mestilah bergosok dan tak renyuk.
     
    Sebab pernah je jumpa sebelum ni, pakai baju seluar semua dah elok, tapi langsung tak bergosok. Facepalm terus. Oh lupa, jangan pakai topi, pouchbag (perokok atau vapers suka bawak), dan pastikan rambut kilat berminyak. Nak lagi style pakailah pomade. Hehe.
     
    Bukan susah pun. Serius tak susah. Kalau perempuan yang nak kena bersiap berejam tu pun sanggup pakai cantik-cantik, kenapa lelaki tak boleh? Tapi untuk lelaki sebenarnya tak payah spend time sampai sejam pun. Soal pemilihan pakaian je yang kena ubah sikit.
     
    Come on guys, you can do better than this. Harap lepas dah baca artikel ni, korang akan ubah mindset dan segera perbaiki cara pemakaian.
  • Fundraising For The Late Finn Dawkins’ Wife And Son

    Fundraising For The Late Finn Dawkins’ Wife And Son

    On the 12th of September, a family’s world was irrevocably changed due to the sudden and unexplained death of Finn Dawkins. He has left behind his loving wife and wonderful little boy who at the tender age of 4 struggles to understand the finality of their circumstance. Finn Dawkins served his community with a measure of loyalty and compassion that was both selfless and constant.

    Everything he did was only carried out with the best of intentions for anyone he came across or helped. This was a humble man of his word that would go above and beyond for the ones he held close, even putting aside his own wants or needs to help others in their circumstance. There are many in the Perth community who will confirm that his presence left an indelible mark on many families, especially those who required his legal support and compassionate advice.

    But his passing has also left a mark of grief and severe hardship for his devastated wife and son, Maryiam and Laith Dawkins. Maryiam herself endures ongoing physical pain of living with multiple severely debilitating health conditions which impact her on an almost daily basis, and with long-term implications this also prevents her from securing suitable employment that she would be able to withstand.

    Despite her own hardships, she has always given everything she can back to the community and has even coordinated emergency relief and aid to hundreds of families in need. Never would she have thought that she would find herself in such a difficult circumstance for herself and her young son, facing not only unforeseen future of health-related impacts, but also now untold expenses due to outstanding debts and funeral related expenses, which make looking for a new place to call home incredibly difficult.

    The generous nature of this beautiful family and their work did not always allow for a comfortable profit margin nor a future-proof safety net. We are asking for all those who have been touched by Finn’s legacy or Maryiam’s courage to donate however much they can spare to ensure her time in need does not go unnoticed.

    This community can never repay the Dawkins for the advocacy, activism and charity that it has facilitated and truthfully neither Finn nor Maryiam would ever expect a single thought in return. However, it is time to show a family that is close to the hearts of so many, that they’re not alone and they don’t have to struggle. The goal is to get them on their way to thriving, rather than just merely surviving while the funeral related grief and expenses continue to roll in. No amount is too small or too great.

    Those who want to donate, please go to: https://www.gofundme.com/support-maryiam-and-laith

  • Malay Woman Teach Thousands Of Non-Chinese Students Mandarin

    Malay Woman Teach Thousands Of Non-Chinese Students Mandarin

    From teaching Mandarin to her non-Chinese colleagues and neighbours a decade ago at her house in Taman Scientex, Pasir Gudang, Azlen Sugito now has five centres in Johor, Melaka and Selangor.

    The 33-year-old has introduced her own teaching modules and guide books to teach non-Chinese students Mandarin at her centres in Taman Bukit Dahlia, Pasir Gudang; Bandar Baru Utama in Johor Baru; Taman Saleng, Kulai; Cheng, Melaka; and Taman Puchong Utama, Selangor.

    Azlen said she has helped thousands of students, mainly Malays, Indians and people from Sabah and Sarawak, converse in Mandarin.

    From teaching Mandarin to her non-Chinese colleagues and neighbours a decade ago at her house in Taman Scientex, Pasir Gudang, Azlen Sugito now has five centres in Johor, Melaka and Selangor.

    The 33-year-old has introduced her own teaching modules and guide books to teach non-Chinese students Mandarin at her centres in Taman Bukit Dahlia, Pasir Gudang; Bandar Baru Utama in Johor Baru; Taman Saleng, Kulai; Cheng, Melaka; and Taman Puchong Utama, Selangor.

    Azlen said she has helped thousands of students, mainly Malays, Indians and people from Sabah and Sarawak, converse in Mandarin.

     

     

    Source: The Star

  • Analysis: Islamic State Distortion Of Hijrah: Emigrating For A Lost Cause

    Analysis: Islamic State Distortion Of Hijrah: Emigrating For A Lost Cause

    Since 2015 there have been at least a dozen Singaporeans investigated by the Singapore authorities for harbouring intention to travel or emigrate to the self-proclaimed Islamic State (IS). This year four individuals were detained for the same reason. In September, IS issued a propaganda video featuring a Singaporean who is known to have gone to Syria to join IS. In the brief three-and-a-half minute video, Megat Shahdan Bin Abdul Samad calls on Muslims to relocate to IS-controlled territories or locations where the group’s influence is present.

    He quotes a hadith or Prophetic saying that implicitly affirms that the duty of hijrah will not cease until the Final Hour (Doomsday). While most people would ignore or reject such a call, especially coming from a terrorist group, there will be a few who will fall prey to extremists’ exploitation of hijrah and other Islamic concepts. They include the literalists and those who understand the hadith without using appropriate tools of enquiry and interpretation used in the science of hadith. Like Shahdan, they would believe that relocation to IS fulfils a religious obligation.

    The Origin of Hijrah

    IS’ promotion of hijrah calls for a deeper examination of the concept. To begin with, what was the cause of hijrah as reported in Islamic history? Why did Prophet Muhammad encourage Muslims to emigrate? How should Muslims react to calls for hijrah? And why should terrorist propaganda and interpretation draped in scripture be roundly dismissed?

    Hijrah is Arabic for emigration. In the early days of Islam, Prophet Muhammad and his followers were ill-treated and harassed by polytheist Meccan Arabs over differences in religious beliefs. They were subjected to economic and social boycott and barred from marriage and trade. When these tactics failed to stop people from converting to Islam, the pagan Quraish clan resorted to physical abuse. This triggered the first hijrah to Ethiopia which was then ruled by a Christian king named Negus.

    The Quraish intensified their violence when they learned that several Muslims secretly sought refuge in Medina. The clan also plotted the assassination of the Prophet. This marked a serious escalation of efforts to stop the practice of Islam, from mistreatment to violence, including an assassination plot against the Prophet.

    These developments led to Prophet Muhammad’s emigration to Medina. This marked the second and final hijrah in Islamic history. Viewed in its historical context, hijrah was in effect a means to preserve the basic right to practise one’s faith and to protect one’s life.

    Distortion of Hijrah by IS

    IS however exploited hijrah to build up their human capital and resources in their newly-established ‘caliphate’ which they declared in June 2014. The group’s online magazine Dabiq (later known as Rumiyah) and weekly online Arabic newsletter An-Naba’, for instance, frame hijrah as a religious obligation, an act of worship that would bring a Muslim close to God, and a manifestation of true faith.

    IS claims that Islam requires Muslims to live in an Islamic state that practises Shari’ah law over a territory governed by non-Muslims or by Muslims administering man-made laws.

    IS asserts that Muslims should leave his country (especially in the Middle East) which was created based on the colonial era Sykes-Picot “false border demarcation” and relocate to IS to support the caliphate and redraw the borders. Both Hadith and Sunnah (Prophetic tradition and practice) were distorted to back these arguments. Shahdan’s video is a clear example of such distortion.

    The Correct Understanding of Hijrah

    IS’ narrative on hijrah needs to be debunked for its so-called religious justifications.

    Contrary to IS claims, hijrah to IS is not among the best forms of worship and does not make a Muslim closer to God. Many acts of worship bring a Muslim closer to God, from regular prayers and repentance to generous donations and charitable acts. A hadith was reported to have implied that whoever comes to the mosque of Quba (in Medina) and prays in it will have a reward similar to performing an umrah (small pilgrimage).

    This suggests that location is not fundamental to get closer to God but the performance and quality of a ritual. Hijrah to IS to achieve this goal is unnecessary.

    IS falsely claims that Prophet Muhammad instructed Muslims to sever ties with family and tribe by performing hijrah. The hadith was, in fact, a directive for a newly-converted Muslim to detach himself from the religious practices of his people, not blood ties. This is to distinguish himself from the other faith groups through his observance of religious obligations.

    Maintaining good relationship with non-Muslim family members is part of Islamic teachings. This is evident in the Prophet’s behaviour towards his two pagan paternal uncles. Hence, there is nothing Islamic when a Muslim leaves his family and heads to IS – like what Shahdan did – with the hope of receiving blessings from God and die as a martyr.

    Way Forward: Migration from Literalism

    Lastly, Prophet Muhammad was reported as saying that hijrah will not cease until repentance is ceased. Repentance will not cease until the sun rises from the west (a major sign of the end of time). Although the hadith is authentic, its reading must be complemented with the understanding of its implicit objective. Hijrah in this hadith does not suggest a physical relocation but rather a change in mindset and behaviour.

    Islam promotes progressive thinking and positive change in life. A believer must think of ways to become a better person each day to benefit not only himself but those around him including animals and nature. A Muslim who learns Islam by heart and perseveres to ponder upon its teaching marks a ‘hijrah’ in his cognitive attitude towards his faith, from a literalist to a pragmatist. Hijrah is also a manifestation of a paradigm shift.

    A Muslim who constantly seeks to upgrade his knowledge so that he could be of service to others is expressing a form of hijrah towards becoming a useful and productive Muslim. Similarly, a Muslim who strives to distance himself from evil is making hijrah towards becoming a better Muslim who understands his religion holistically. These counter-narratives can be understood from other prophetic sayings such as “An emigrant is one who ditches mistakes and sins”. In another hadith the Prophet was reported as saying: “An emigrant is the one that ditches from anything that Allah has forbidden.”

    The fall of IS’ de facto capital Raqqa is not likely to lead to a decline in the propagation of literalist, narrow and extremist interpretations of Islamic scriptures. IS will decentralise and exploit social media platforms to the fullest to maintain its hold over its followers and to radicalise even more vulnerable segments of society.

    Given this scenario, it is imperative that action be taken not only to debunk extremist teachings through various means but also to disseminate widely moderate and progressive values which will act as a ‘firewall’ against false, deviant and divisive ideas.

    *Muhammad Saiful Alam Shah is an Associate Research Fellow with the International Centre for Political Violence & Terrorism Research (ICPVTR), a constituent unit of the S. Rajaratnam School of International Studies (RSIS), Nanyang Technological University, Singapore. He is also a religious counsellor with the Religious Rehabilitation Group (RRG).

     

     

    Source: Eurasiareview

  • Jalaluddin Hassan Kembali Bergelar Suami, Kerusi Urut RM20,000 Jadi Hantaran

    Jalaluddin Hassan Kembali Bergelar Suami, Kerusi Urut RM20,000 Jadi Hantaran

    AKTOR veteran, Datuk Jalaluddin Hassan sah bergelar suami kepada wanita pilihannya, Rapidah Abdul Ghani, dalam satu majlis ringkas semalam.

    Jalaluddin, 63 tahun, dan Rapidah, 44, dinikahkan oleh abang pengantin perempuan dalam majlis yang berlangsung di Masjid Bandar Tun Hussien Onn, kira-kira jam 11 pagi semalam.

    Jalaluddin menyerahkan mas kahwin berjumlah RM300 kepada Rapidah, namun jumlah wang hantaran dirahsiakan.

    Rapidah menerima lima dulang hantaran, termasuk sebuah kerusi urut berharga RM20,000, dan menyerahkan tujuh dulang hantaran sebagai balasan.

    Jalaluddin sebelum ini mendirikan rumahtangga dengan Hashimah Mad Ehsan yang meninggal dunia pada November 2016 akibat komplikasi penyakit paru-paru berair dan buah pinggang.

    Oktober lalu, Jalaluddin memberitahu media dia sedang dalam proses mengenali seorang ibu tunggal yang dikenali melalui laman sosial Facebook.

     

     

     

    Source: Astro Awani