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Chinsese Couple Helped Malay Woman And Husband Who Suffered Heart Attack At A Wedding

Stomper Maimunah will always be grateful to the nurse and the couple who stepped forward to help her husband when he collapsed at a colleague’s wedding.

In a phone interview with Stomp, Maimunah recounted her story:

“I was at a wedding with my husband and grandson when my spouse suddenly collapsed.

“There were so many people at the event and but many of them were too shocked to come forward.

“Some of the people there even pronounced my husband dead. I was crying hysterically as I couldn’t believe it.

“Then a woman came forward and declared that she was a qualified nurse. She conducted CPR on my husband.

“She did all she could to save my husband.

“My grandson and I were both crying hysterically, during this tough time a couple approached us.

“During this tough time a couple approached us. The wife hugged me, prayed for me reassured me that everything will be fine.

“They provided me some emotional support that helped me regained my sanity.

“The CPR was successful and they managed to revive my husband but he failed consciousness.”

Maimunah added that her husband was rushed into the ambulance as soon as the paramedics came.

However, strict policies meant that only one person could travel in the ambulance with her husband.

At this point, the couple who had offered support to Maimunah told the distraught woman that they’d bring her grandson to the hospital.

Fortunately, Maimunah was able to convince the paramedics to allow her to bring her grandson in the vehicle.

At the hospital, Maimunah’s husband was admitted to the Intensive Care Unit (ICU) and was put on life support.

While she was waiting for her husband to recover, she noticed that the caring couple from the wedding had made their way to the hospital.

Maimunah said:

“I don’t them but they were there to offer support.

“There were so many people at the wedding but this couple rushed down to see how my husband was doing.

“I was very touched by their caring act.

“They have become like family to me.

“They bought food for my family and even made sure that it was halal. They kept praying for me even though we’re not of the same religion.

“They were supportive.”

Maimunah added that her husband has since made a speedy recovery but still has breathing difficulties.

She also mentioned how the couple had come to the hospital a few days later to visit her husband and the family.

Maimunah told told Stomp:

“I am really very thankful to them. I don’t even know how to say ‘Thank you’.

“I feel so touched.

“I just want to extend my gratitude to the couple and the nurse for helping me in my time of need.

“It is very rare to see people like these nowadays.”

Source: http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg

May 20, 2015
Bryan Kwa: Stop Stigmatising Sexual Minorities

Last Friday’s letter (“Distinguish between helping gays and supporting an agenda” by Mr Leo Hee Khian) cautioned against affirming same-sex attraction.

Mr Leo wrote that in Denmark, where there is same-sex marriage, “married homosexuals have been found to die at an age about 20 years younger than their heterosexual counterparts”.

This statistic is disputed. It is drawn from a paper published by the Family Research Institute, a partisan organisation associated with the Christian right and branded as a hate group.

Its founder Paul Cameron has been censured by numerous professional organisations. He was also dropped from membership in the American Psychological Association for violating its ethics code.

The American Journal of Public Health published a study of mortality among Danes in same-sex marriages, which concluded that “claims of drastically increased overall mortality in gay men and lesbians appear unjustified”.

In fact, supporting gay rights improves public health.

The New England Journal of Medicine published an editorial last month supporting same-sex marriage.

The doctors highlighted that “a fundamental tenet of all medical care is the acceptance of patients as they are, for who they are, with respect and without prejudice or personal agendas” and posited that “same-sex marriage should be accepted both as a matter of justice and as a measure that promotes health”.

Make no mistake, this is not about ideological standpoints. This is a public health issue; homophobia kills.

A study by Columbia University’s Mailman School of Public Health, published in the journal Social Science & Medicine, found that LGB (lesbian, gay, bisexual) individuals who lived in communities with high levels of anti-gay prejudice have a shorter life expectancy, compared with their peers in the least prejudiced communities. The same study also found that the rates of suicide, homicide/violence and cardiovascular diseases were all substantially elevated among sexual minorities living within high-prejudice communities.

Considering such findings, how may the Government reconcile its heteronormative and heterosexist policies with the stated vision and mission of the Ministry of Health?

The science is clear. It is imperative that we stop stigmatising sexual minorities and start upholding their rights.

For all the moral grandstanding, surely we can agree that literally driving people to their death is unquestionably amoral.

Bryan Kwa Jie Wen

Source: www.straitstimes.com

May 19, 2015
Isteri Menderita Tiada Tempat Mengadu, Suami Panas Baran Dan Ringan Tangan

Inilah dia rahsia dari ‘Camelia’ yang saya telah udarakan. Beliau meminta pendapat dan nasihat anda:

“Saya telah bernikah nak masuk 2 tahun dan hanya berkenalan bersama suami seblom kami bernikah hanya 4 bulan. Kami berkahwin dan ini adalah perkahwinan yang kedua untuk the both of us dan masing2 ada anak sendiri.

Selepas berapa bulan berkahwin, kami sering bertengkar. Saya tak dapat berjumpa dengan anak2 saya kerana suami tidak suka akan mereka. Suami saya panas baran dan sering skali jalan tangan. Saya pulak kuat melawan kerana saya ingin menegak kan diri saya yang sering kali tidak bersalah.
Saya dilarang untuk bertemu dengan keluarga dan tidak dibenar kan ada apape komunikasi dengan mereka.

Suami sering menggertak untuk mencari yang lain dan sering menggeluarkan kata2 kesat & even let me feel so down dengan cacian dia. Worst, setiap kali saya menggamuk kerana tak tahan dengan sifat ego, sombong dan riak dia, saya akan dipukol teruk.

Kami dikurnia kan anak yang telah pon masok 6 bulan dan suami tetap bersifat demikian. Even when I am pregnant, saya dipukol tanpa belas kasihan & biler saya nak melahirkan anak dia nik fiza, he can even quarrel with me about the past.

Saya dah tak tahan dengan sikap dia fiza. Saya runsing, kalau setiap kali saya mahu pulang ke pangkuan keluarga saya dan tidak ingin bersama dia lagi, dia akan memukul saya dan mengugut saya yang dia akan berjumpa dengan bapa saya bawak perempuan. Saya tidak ingin menyusah kan bapa saya dan dia amat menyukai dengan suami saya cuma saya tak pernah cerita kepad bapa saya siapa sebenarnya suami saya kerana bapa saya jantung nya bukan larh begitu sihat.

Saya pernah dipukul di khalayak orang tapi tak siapa membantu. Mungkin kerana tidak ingin campor hal ruma tangga saya atau mungkin kerana takot akan muka benggis dan tattoo di badan suami.

He wasn’t like this before we got married and a few months after marriage. Saya runsing. Nak lari, tiada tempat menggadu as I’ve let down a few of my family yang dah tahu tentang kisah saya dan suro saya meninggal kan nya. Tapi setiap kali saya melihat wajah anak saya…. There is always that holds me back.

Kalau nak bercerita lagi fiza, memang tak kan habis. Banyak yang berlaku jadi saya pendek kan dan ringkas kan. I need help, seriously I do…..

Terima kasih fiza. Hope that you can give your pendapat too. Thanks.”

Source: Fiza O

May 19, 2015
Rail Corridor Turns Into Sins Avenue At Night

A spot along the Rail Corridor near Sungei Kadut Avenue has been turned into an outdoor brothel at night.

Men gawk at a handful of foreign women, who sit in rows. When a deal is struck, the woman guides her client into a narrow pathway carved out of the tall lalang grass.

TNP staked out the area on Wednesday and Thursday. Between 9pm and 10.30pm, we witnessed a steady stream of men going into the state-owned land.

One of them, who gave his name only as Salim, initially told TNP that he used the trail as a shortcut to Yew Tee MRT station.

When pressed further, the Bangladeshi in his late 20s said with a smile: “Inside, there are also Ah Muis (Hokkien for girls), so I take a look while on my way. But I never try them – there are many mosquitoes.”

Some workers claimed that a makeshift brothel has been in business in the area for the last five months, moving locations frequently within the Rail Corridor.

From our observation point about 50m across a muddy canal, we could see men looking at four women seated on plastic chairs.

Closer to Sungei Kadut Avenue, a group of men peddle contraband cigarettes which they stash in the bushes.

Source: www.tnp.sg

May 18, 2015
HOME: Ihumane To Turn Away Refugee Boats

By Humanitarian Organization for Migration Economics (HOME)

Singapore should demonstrate leadership to the humanitarian crisis that is happening with the Rohingyas, who have been victims of systemic persecution, discrimination and rampant abuse. We also urge the Myanmar government to stop persecuting them to prevent the mass exodus of asylum seekers.

Even though Singapore did not ratify the 1951 Convention on the Status of Refugees, under international law the Singapore government has to adhere to the principle of “non-refoulement” – not to expel anyone back to places where they may experience persecution.

The crisis involving the Rohingyas is one that has to be resolved by ASEAN and not one country alone. But for Singapore to say that it is not in a position to accept refugees goes against the values of cooperation and humanitarianism and we urge the government to re-consider its decision.

Singapore need not accept and re-settle all who seek political asylum. It can work with other ASEAN governments and civil society, both locally and abroad, to ensure that the asylum seekers have temporary housing, food and medical attention while their cases are processed by the the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees (UNHCR). The solution should not be to turn these boats away as the Singapore government did in 2012 when it refused entry to 40 stranded asylum seekers after their vessel sank off the coast of Myanmar on December 5 and sought to dock in Singapore waters.

An ASEAN inter-agency framework for action should be established and all countries should work together to resolve this crisis in a sustainable way. But even as this framework is being put in place, rather than abandoning them to their deaths, Singapore should do its part and provide them with protection.

This statement has the support of the following individuals:

Lynn Lee, Terry Xu, Jennifer Teo, Rachel Zeng, Joshua Chiang, Shelley Thio, Roy Ngerng,

Source: www.theonlinecitizen.com

May 18, 2015