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  • Rafeah Abdul Kadir: No Choice But To Be Superwoman For My Children

    Rafeah Abdul Kadir: No Choice But To Be Superwoman For My Children

    In a small three-room f lat, she lives with nine of her children – three sons and six daughters aged between three and 17.

    The 35-year-old also has two other daughters, but gave one to each of her sisters when they were just toddlers because she was not able to take care of them.

    Madam Rafeah Abdul Kadir’s youngest daughter, three, suffers from a number of ailments including a lung condition, epilepsy and cerebral palsy.

    And just last year, her husband, the sole breadwinner of the family who brought home $800 monthly, left her for another woman. They were married for 17 years.

    Yet, Madam Rafeah said quietly but firmly: “Don’t pity me. I have made it this far and I will continue to survive.”

    But she wasn’t always this strong.

    In fact, when she caught her husband red-handed cheating on her with his colleague last November, she was devastated.

    “I even begged him to come back. I couldn’t imagine life without him,” she told The New Paper.

    “But he didn’t. He did not even visit us to see the kids,” she added, softly.

    “I was upset for the first few months, but I had my kids to think of and I couldn’t let them down,” said Madam Rafeah as she played with her youngest daughter, Nurqistina.

    It is clear that she has since got past the heartbreak and betrayal.

    She spoke about her husband, who worked as a cleaner, matter-of-factly.

    Today marks her first Hari Raya as a single mother.

    The family plans to visit her parents and her inlaws.

    She will cook rendang (a traditional Malay beef dish) after the visits and they will have dinner as a family at home.

    She is adamant that her husband’s absence will not hamper the festivities.

    Breaking out into a shy smile, she recalled how they have survived this year.

    Her typical day would begin at about 7am with Madam Rafeah cleaning the house.

    She then gets her children ready for school. Then, she does the marketing and cooks for the family.

    Madam Rafeah proceeds to do the laundry after that.

    Not being able to afford tuition, she helps the younger children with their homework.

    She laughed as she said: “I’m simply a teacher and these are my childcare students.”

    And she does all this with young Nurqistina at her hips.

    She said: “I have no choice but to act like a super woman. It’s what any mother would do for her children.”

    With a grin, she added: “Sometimes, even I don’t know how I can do all this.”

    Challenges

    Of course, there have been challenges, says Madam Rafeah, who cannot work as she has to care for her daughter full-time.

    “Sometimes it is a struggle for me because she goes in and out of the hospital and I have to rely on my older children to take care of household matters,” she said with a sigh.

    Nurqistina’s bills are subsidised fully by KK Women’s and Children’s Hospital.

    Madam Rafeah added: “January was a tough time for me because I was still coping with my husband’s leaving and I also had to get my kids ready for school.

    “I didn’t have enough money to buy school supplies like books and bags.”

    She had to cut back on some expenses to afford these supplies.

    Madam Rafeah receives $800 from the North East Community Development Centre, $980 from the Islamic Religious Council of Singapore (Muis) and another $300 from the Lee Foundation.

    Her eldest son, 17, who is studying at the Institute of Technical Education, sometimes helps out by taking on part-time jobs.

    Despite having nine mouths to feed, she insists that the money she receives is sufficient and is grateful for the support.

    “I’m so glad to be receiving all this help,” she said. Her plight is known to some in the Malay community.

    Last Sunday, Fatimah Mohsin Wedding Gallery treated Madam Rafeah and her family to a makeover and a photo shoot.

    “Everyone was so happy – and so I felt happy as well,” she said.

    This year, her family’s clothes were provided by First Lady & Second Chance.

    During the interview at her house in Hougang yesterday, a father and daughter pair came to Madam Rafeah’s flat to hand over some groceries and cash.

    Mr Zul Abdul Karim, 40, a taxi driver, said: “My wife read about her story on Facebook and we decided to come here to give alms.”

    So far, four families have donated basic necessities and cash in the past week to Madam Rafeah, who said she does not rely on these donations nor does she expect them.

    “While I’m grateful, I can also survive on my own,” she said.

    But one kind of support she hangs on to is moral support.

    Her parents and her in-laws, who live on the second storey, constantly check in on her to see if she is okay.

    But it is nine of her close childhood friends that she relies on most.

    “Every time I feel myself getting overwhelmed and start to break down, I just let my friends know through our group chat on Whatsapp,” she said, with a smile.

    They call themselves “My fair ladies” and they are ready to provide words of strength whenever she is struggling.

    “That is all I need to go on,” she said.

    She added: “Of course, this year, Hari Raya is different because I have to take care of everything from cleaning the house to going to the market.

    “But at least, I’m happy. And so are my children.

    “It will still be a good Hari Raya.”

     

    Source: http://news.asiaone.com

  • Goh Meng Seng: What Is Government Doing About PRC Vice Menace?

    Goh Meng Seng: What Is Government Doing About PRC Vice Menace?

    Caution: The following links are websites that sex peddlers put up to promote commercial prostitution. A FB friend wanted me to post this because he wanted MDA and the relevant authorities like anti-vice unit to take actions against the people behind these websites. The following the message written to me:

    The following websites are the PRC prostitutes solicting themselves in Singapore, some operatte from HDB flats, some condos and some landed properties, some work full time using their tourist visa, some are students working part time, some are 陪读妈妈.

    http://sgperfectlovers.com/
    http://sgbeautycity.com/
    https://dangelsz.wordpress.com/
    http://www.sexydreamgal.com/
    https://dangelsz.wordpress.com/
    http://www.shenhua69.com/
    http://www.mygongzhuwang.com/
    http://www.bluemoon8891.com/
    http://www.sgcityangel.com/index.html
    http://www.sweetprcbabes.org/
    http://www.fl8090.com/
    http://shuijing6868.com/
    http://bonkersroom.com/
    http://www.newfateinsg.com/

    i want to ask the relevant authorities including MDA, if solicitng sex service via internet is an offence? Ask the immigration dept if these bitches holding tourist or 陪读妈妈 are allowed to work as prostitutes, worse are those PRC students and employment pass holders who may not be so easily detected working here as prosittues
    if these are people who violated our laws, is our “police” going to take action or “close both eyes” and allow them to continue to operate their sex service here?

    i want to ask HDB if these kinds of “activities” are allowed? we have sons and daughters studying, some of these bitches are operating in areas where renowned schools are situated.

     

    Source: Goh Meng Seng

  • Assailant Intolerant And Cowardly But Let’s Forgive

    Assailant Intolerant And Cowardly But Let’s Forgive

    By Andrew Loh

    Neo Gim Huah has been sentenced to three weeks’ jail for voluntarily causing hurt to teenager, 16-year old Amos Yee, on 30 April.

    Neo, 49, had struck Yee in the face outside the State Court while the latter was on his way to a pre-trial conference.

    A posse of media reporters and cameramen were present when the incident happened, and several videos of it later made its way online.

    Neo told the court on Monday that he wanted to teach the teen “a lesson” for disrespecting Singapore’s former prime minister, Lee Kuan Yew.

    Yee had made and posted an eight-minute video ridiculing and castigating Mr Lee, and compared him to the Christian religious icon, Jesus Christ, in an unflattering manner, saying both men were “power-hungry and malicious”.

    Yee is facing charges for the video and for a caricature of Mr Lee and the late British prime minister, Margaret Thatcher.

    “The accused sought to maximise the publicity that would be generated by his intended course of action by deliberately choosing the time and place – while the victim was on his way to the State Courts to attend a pre-trial conference,” District Judge Ronald Gwee said in his judgement.

    Judge Gwee said “a strong message must be sent to the public at large and particularly to like-minded persons as the accused that his brand of vigilante justice must never be allowed to take root.”

    Since the incident almost two weeks ago, members of the public have largely condemned Neo’s actions.

    Indeed, Law Minister K Shanmugam described Neo’s deed as “quite unacceptable”.

    Others have called for Neo to be taught a good lesson himself.

    There are still others who are now, after yesterday’s judgement, calling for Neo’s background to be unearthed, and to further punish him by hounding his business into closure.

    We must refrain from doing such things, and take the higher ground and forgive Neo, now that he has been sentenced and more importantly, he has also apologised to Yee and his family.

    Some of us (and there are not a few) cried foul when Amos Yee himself was hauled up by the police in a most unnecessary manner – arresting him at his home, handcuffing him, requiring him to post bail, having his passport impounded, dressing him in prison clothes with the word “PRISONER” emblazoned on his back, shackling his feet, and basically parading him in front of the media – even though he has not been found guilty of any offence.

    The way the state (and the media, which have sought to demonise the boy) has gone about this is disturbing indeed.

    There are many questions about how Amos Yee is being treated by several quarters, including the silence from our elected members, none of whom has publicly raised concerns about whether throwing the book at a boy is the right thing to do.

    Yet in the middle of all this – including repeated abuse online by pro-establishment, pro-Lee Kuan Yew supporters – Amos Yee has not sought to do as others have done to him.

    Indeed, when Neo assaulted him outside the State Courts, Amos Yee merely put his palm to his cheeks and walked away.

    He didn’t chase after Neo.

    He didn’t shout back at Neo, who had reportedly challenge Amos Yee to “sue me”.

    Amos Yee didn’t ask his parents to file a police report.

    He went about his business in court that day, which subsequently saw him being remanded again, till this day.

    Amos Yee sought no vengeance.

    But this was not the first time that the teenager was dealt such violence or threats of such violence.

    After his video was first published, a purported grassroots leader threatened to “cut off his dick and stuff into his mouth”, while others called for and encouraged the rape of Amos Yee while the boy was in remand.

    Others have made vile and obscene references to his mother as well.

    In short, Amos Yee has been thrown before the courts, misrepresented and smeared in the mainstream media, threatened and assaulted, abused and ridiculed by a pro-establishment lynch mob, a mob which now hails Neo as a “national hero”.

    Yet, throughout all this utterly shameful behaviour directed at him, Amos Yee has not sought to react in the same childish manner.

    Instead, he has even defended the right of the grassroots leader to say as he pleased, even if it were threats the man was making.

    I believe that Amos Yee has forgiven the man, an adult man.

    In fact, it would be more accurate to say that Amos Yee probably found nothing to forgive at all, for that is what he believes in – the freedom which must be accorded to everyone to say and express as he would.

    And so we return to Neo whose actions are the epitome of intolerance and cowardice.

    According to news reports, Neo – in a rather grandiose self-righteous manner – told the court “he hoped everyone would learn from this”.

    Well, he is not wrong.

    But it is Neo, more than anyone else, who needs to learn from this incident – to learn that being intolerant is not how society progresses, and that striking a boy and then cowardly flee is an entirely shameful and disgraceful act.

    Indeed, instead of Neo teaching Amos Yee a lesson, the truth is the other way round – that Neo should learn from a young boy who, despite all the abuse heaped on him this past one and a half month, has chosen to smile at his abusers, stand his ground on what he believes even if meant going to jail, and forgive those adults who claim to know “the way of the world” (as Neo himself claims to) but instead behave like barbarians.

    So, let’s not behave in the same manner as those like Neo would.

    Let us forgive and move on.

    Neo has made a mistake and has apologised. He too has a family who worries for him.

    Leave his business be. Let him make his living.

    And respect his admiration for Lee Kuan Yew, even if we do not agree with it.

    For this is what Amos Yee would want.

    Let us not do violence against others, in any form, in the name of defending or seeking justice for Amos Yee.

    It is forgiveness which will take us forward, not hatred, intolerance and abuse.

     

    Source: www.theonlinecitizen.com

  • Do Not Support LGBT Movement In Singapore If You Do Not Understand The Global LGBT Agenda

    Do Not Support LGBT Movement In Singapore If You Do Not Understand The Global LGBT Agenda

    Hi Friends,

    Pink Dot is round the corner. Saw the new video, quite emotive.

    Please think twice before you decide to throw in your support. All the talks about diversity, tolerance and love sounds all well and good. They are but empty rhetoric. The real issues are deeper than what you can see. It is not as simple as just letting two people doing what they want to do behind closed door.

    Pink Dot is part of the global LGBT movement. Part of their agenda is to hijack the schools and influence the sexuality education. They want to tell your children that sodomy is acceptable. They want schools to teach that your child can choose which gender they want in a sexual relationship. They want your children not to limit themselves to the opposite gender when looking for a relationship. This is part of the reality of this movement.

    If you do not fully understand this movement in the global context, please refrain from throwing your support to something that you are not familiar with. If this movement succeed in Singapore, all of us will have to live under the consequences of its success. Are you aware of the consequences?

    The picture below is taken from a document used by pro-LGBT organisation AWARE in 2009. For two years they used it to conduct sexuality education to secondary schools. MOE issued a statement after terminating their service, “In particular, some suggested responses in the instructor guide are explicit and inappropriate, and convey messages which could promote homosexuality or suggest approval of pre-marital sex.”

    http://www.moe.gov.sg/…/…/moes-statement-on-sexuality-ed.php

    http://www.birminghammail.co.uk/…/parents-launch-petition-s…

    http://www.christian.org.uk/…/parents-anger-over-explicit-…/

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/…/Parents-lose-right-over-sex-ed…

    http://globalnews.ca/…/alberta-parents-soon-cant-pull-kids…/

    https://www.lifesitenews.com/…/lesbian-i-use-math-class-to-…

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qyDLdixTRk

     

    Michael Lee

    Source: We are against Pinkdot in Singapore

  • The Gender Challenged Are Blessed With Opportunity To Prove Love For Allah SWT

    The Gender Challenged Are Blessed With Opportunity To Prove Love For Allah SWT

    “I am born like this and like that, therefore I have the right to behave in such and such manner.”

    We are all born with the carnal self, so what do we do with that? Yes, we have the right, and that right is to direct that carnal self to goodness.

    We all are born as God’s servant, therefore we have the responsibility to make sure that the rights that we think we posses are not wrongs to Him. All of us are tested with different feelings and inclinations, it is a challenge, but it is also an opportunity for us to prove our Love for Him. We should be free to Love Him by unshackling ourselves from the control of our carnal selves.

    If we take care of our responsibilities (Waajibaat), rights will be fulfilled. If we focus only on rights (Huquq), is there guarentee that responsibilities will be fulfilled? Rights are demands while responsibilities are services. A community of service (Khidmah) is what we want. Service to God, One’ self, Fellow Human Beings & The rest of the Creations.

    Let us all Return to Fitrah.

    ‪#‎wearwhite‬

     

    Source: Wearwhite

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