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I’m Willing To Convert To Be With My Malay Muslim Gay Partner

I’m a chinese and i met a guy whom i really like. He is a malay. We liked each other and we always enjoy each other’s company a lot. He is a nice guy, someone i can get along well and he knows how to make me happy. However, we had a complicated issue that makes us difficult to be together. It was religion. Because of that, he decided to let us go and he stopped himself from falling in love with me. He like me but yet to fall for me. He said it is hard for us to be together and he wouldnt let himself to love me.

At that point of time, i really do not want any religion commitment and he knows about that. However after losing him, i thought about it and realised i am willing to convert to islam for him. I don’t mind doing it for him. But i dont think this is good because religion is very important and i am supposed to convert for myself, not for anyone.

The problem is.. i havent had the chance to tell him about the fact that i dont mind converting for him. I’m not sure if he still likes me. He may have moved on already since it has been a month since that day he told me we cannot be tgt. It is highly possible he may like someone else already? He is strong in his mind, if he had alr said he wouldnt love me he may have already let us go. I still think of him all the time, i cant get rid of him off my mind. We are still friends. We only met up once after that day we cleared things up.

So we met recently and we still cross the boundaries of friends. Some of our actions are clearly more than just friends. The way we look into each other’s eyes and we hug each other really tight before we part. I told myself, enjoy those moments i have with him that day. Dont think about anything else. When we talk through text, he tend to use that chance to avoid me to stop himself from talking too much with me.

What am i supposed to do.. Should i just tell him that i wouldnt mind converting to islam for him so that religion would no longer be an issue? Regardless whether he still likes me a not, should i just tell? Because 10 years later, i think i will regret for not saying it out. Or should i wait for the next meetup and see how it goes? If we’re still good and i could feel that he still likes me, then by then i go for it?

Feel free to give me your opinions. Thank you everyone for reading.

Source: Gay SG Confessions

February 23, 2015
Employment Agencies Call For FDWs To Undergo Professional Training In Singapore

Employment agencies in Singapore are calling for domestic workers to undergo professional training here so that they can become skilled workers. This comes after Indonesian President Joko Widodo said last week that the country wants to stop sending its women overseas as maids to preserve the country’s “dignity”.

Although no time frame for the stoppage has been given, the Indonesian manpower ministry has been ordered to come up with a “clear road map” on when this can take place.

According to estimates by the Indonesian Embassy, there are about 125,000 Indonesian domestic workers in Singapore. The number accounts for about half of all such workers in the Singapore, say industry players. Hence if Indonesia stops sending its women overseas as maids, employment agencies here say the impact could be bad.

The president of the Association of Employment Agencies (Singapore), Ms K Jayaprema, said that for the employers, “if we were to lose this source, then we will have a very small pool of alternative workers we are looking at now – who come from Philippines, Myanmar, Sri Lanka and India, and in the Philippines we are having our own set of problems at this point in time.”

“For the domestic workers themselves, what is going to happen is they’re going to lose whatever protection that they have been receiving from the Indonesian government and they will become undocumented workers. They will continue to come in – because there are just too many exit points which they can freely move in from – we’re looking at Jakarta, we’re looking at Batam and we’re looking at Semarang,” she added.

The employment agencies added that competing with other countries for a limited pool of domestic workers could also spell higher costs and a longer processing time for employers. The agencies also noted that traditional sources are imposing restrictions to protect their workers. For example, the Philippines plans to introduce a quota system on domestic workers coming to Singapore.

The agencies said finding alternative sources to hire domestic workers will also be a challenge. The owner of Best Home Employment Agency, Mr Tay Khoon Beng, said: “All the traditional sources of supply are thinking of how to better protect their women. At the moment, for example, Myanmar has a ban on all licensed recruiters to send domestic helpers to Singapore. The Philippines has got a quota system now for Singapore, due to unresolved placement fee issues.

“For non-traditional sources, it’s very difficult to open up a new market. For example, the Ministry of Manpower has piloted a two-year project on the Cambodian market. In the two years, we are supposed to bring in 600 Cambodian helpers.

“18 months has passed and the pilot group only managed to bring in about 400 Cambodian workers. And I was told that as high as 50 per cent of these Cambodian workers have either left Singapore or changed employers.

“So it takes time to open up a new market and employers may not adapt to the new market as well.”

To mitigate the effects of a potential supply cut, Mr Tay suggested implementing a mandatory professional course for these workers. He said: “For Indonesia specifically, they wish to train their helpers to meet the standard we require before exporting them. However, I also see at the moment, they may have difficulties to train their helpers to meet our standard.

“So instead of a bottleneck and allowing the ban to happen, why not they continue to export the unskilled helpers to us and we being an education hub will then work out with the employer to upgrade the skill of all these women so that at the end of the contract, they are fully trained, skillful and can go back to being a better skilled person.

“I think we need employers to understand that this is a new reality. Definitely there will be inconvenience caused to them, in terms of the helpers having to take time off to take courses, and at the same time they have to subsidise many of these skilled courses.”

Agencies said other issues like high placement fees also need to be addressed. Currently, the placement fee can range from zero to S$3,000 or S$4,000 – which is equivalent to about eight months of a domestic worker’s monthly pay.

Ms Jayaprema said: “We should only recognise the two-month fees that Singapore agencies are allowed to collect from the domestic workers as service fees. So we do not want to allow any of the source cost to be brought to Singapore as placement fee and allow the agencies to collect this on behalf of the foreign agencies, because that’s what makes the whole figure looks very large. This will be a better solution.”

Source: www.todayonline.com

February 23, 2015
Why Are There So Many Foreign Freelance Prostitutes In Singapore?

I would like to remain anonymous on this submission. This is merely to highlight and I am not a victim of the issue/matter. I have also reported what I know about this issue to the police based on the fact that it is a criminal offence – illegal prostitution. I hope TRS will put this up to not only question why such people are imported into the country but also to warn people out there.

I came across this chat on a 22 year old Chinese National soliciting for prostitution jobs via social media chat app, WeChat, in Singapore. She offers freelance sex, with or without condom. She accepts payment via her qq account which can be paid via AXS. (Why is this even allowed on our AXS?!?)

As all of you should know by now, this is obviously illegal as legal prostitution takes place in Geylang via a registered prostitution house. Legal prostitutes are issued with the yellow pass and undergo HIV tests monthly.

This is also a threat to social well-being. What if she gets pregnant and blackmails the man since all of them are eager to get citizenship/pr over here. It is going to break up families. Most of you will be saying that too bad the man who did it chose it and should face the consequences. However, think again, why should we even allow a chance for such things to happen?

As we all should also know by now, WeChat have already caused distress among women here in Singapore but yet no actions can be taken or be taken. If we can have a censorship board that censors many parts of the movie, media that is controlled, does the media authority not have the right to shut down this app here in Singapore?

However, what I am truly perturbed by is why is the Singapore government importing such people into the country? She has only been in the country for 6 months and this implies that she is one of the newer batches granted a work pass here in Singapore. We are importing vices into our country!

LY

TRS Contributor

Source: www.therealsingapore.com

February 21, 2015
‘The Purge’ Comes Alive In Moscow

MOSCOW (AFP) – A Russian couple allegedly carried out a string of murders targeting homeless people in Moscow to “clean up” the city, investigators said on Friday.

Moscow’s Investigative Committee said it had detained a 20-year-old man on suspicion of seven murders and a 25-year-old woman believed to have taken part in four of the killings.

“The detained man said he committed the murders with the aim of ‘cleaning up’ the city,” investigators said.

The man is suspected of committing the murders in Moscow, “choosing as his victims homeless people who were fond of drinking alcohol” and carrying out the crimes in lonely places at night, the investigators said in a statement.

According to Life News website, the couple killed several people who were simply drinking in parks. It quoted their first alleged victim’s father, Alexander Yevseyev, as saying his 35-year-old son Sergei had simply gone out to have a beer with a friend in a wooded park and was stabbed 107 times in a frenzied attack.

The killers’ second alleged victim was a man who lived in a communal flat but spent much of his time drinking in parks, Life News reported, while the rest of their victims were actually homeless.

The couple were captured after they knifed a street cleaner, who survived and managed to identify them to police, Life News added in a report.

It said the operation to capture them was carried out together with the powerful FSB security service.

Russia does not issue official statistics about the number of homeless people but is believed to have three to four million out of an official population of more than 140 million.

In Moscow, homeless people often huddle at mainline railway stations or sleep in metro trains.

In 2007, a notorious serial killer, Alexander Pichushkin was jailed for 48 murders in Moscow’s Bitsevsky Park.

Source: www.straitstimes.com

February 21, 2015
Gongsi Raya: How Non-Chinese In SIngapore Celebrate Chinese New Year

With almost every shop draped in red and gold screaming dong dong jiang at maximum volume, I think it’s safe to say that a big chunk of our population is onto Chinese New Year fever. Chinese New Year on our little red dot is almost like a nationwide holiday. But amidst all the dusting and eating, have you ever wondered our non-Chinese friends are up to during the long holidays (this year’s especially)? There is apparently, more to the Chinese New Year for our non-Chinese friends than just mindless lo hei meals and visits to their friends’ house for pineapple tarts and bak kwa.

How could anyone not get into the Chinese New Year spirit with shops draped in red and gold?

Malay Mr. Muhammad Aaron Ridzuwan bin Roslan has been paying New Year visits to his Chinese friends since the age of 13. He commented on how Chinese New Year “is like Hari Raya” where he’d take the chance to catch up with his friends over steamboat meals. When asked if the meal has to be Halal, he graciously answered, “It’s the Chinese’s occasion, so as long as there is no pork, it’s fine with me.” It was particularly meaningful when Hari Raya and Chinese New Year last fell on the same month from 1996-1998. The term ‘Gongsi Raya’ was coined to symbolized the double celebrations within the two ethnic communities. Both Muslims and the Chinese had kept their house open for visitations that promoted the respect and tolerance for our well-known cultural diversity.

Some of our non-Chinese friends don’t only partake in lo hei, they actually think of it as a fun Chinese tradition.

But it turns out not all of our non-Chinese friends are actively partaking in house visits. For Indian student Ms. Shreeya Valentina Rai, instead of lo hei-ing with her friends, she will be spending the holiday bartending at Tippling Club. “Hey, it’s double pay after all,” laughs the 23-year-old NTU student. “But on the rare occasion that our family gets invited for a Chinese New Year meal, I participate in the lo hei; it’s quite fun actually.”

Instead of working their holidays away, some would on the other hand, take the chance to organize a get-together with their family. Working aside, Ms. Shreeya does also take the holidays to spend time with her family. “It’s a public holiday so everyone is free,” she quips. Ms. Shahidah Sayadi, a Malay Muslim who works at the Ministry of Law, agrees. “We’d mostly sit at home and watch the holiday special shows! But sometimes we have family gatherings and we’ll arrange for potluck dinners.” For our Indian friend Mr. Rahul Rajasabhal, a 25-year-old NUS undergraduate, spending quality time with his family during the holidays is not just limited to lounging by the sofa, where he chooses to get more into the Chinese New Year spirit. “I’d usually help my mum and grandma bake pineapple tarts because my sister and I love to eat them! I really look forward to the food and I’ll use the time to just relax and catch up on work. I’d also, somehow, use the holidays to tidy up my room because it’s nice to have a fresh start even though I don’t really celebrate it.”

Things are of course, a little different for the mixed ethnicity couples. Fashion Blogger Andrea Chong says that Imran Rahim, her Muslim boyfriend, will accompany her to house-visits on the first day of Chinese New Year. Besides treating it like a “normal family gathering”, Malay Muslim Imran also pays his respect to the Cantonese elders by greeting them “gung hei fat choi”! Besides house visiting, some mixed ethnicity couples will also travel to the hometown of his/her significant other to celebrate the New Year with the other side of the family. The act of travelling overseas to get into the New Year atmosphere can also be seen in the Chinese as well! I mean, it is after all, a long weekend with four days of holidays.

For those who are on an exchange programme with our local universities, they got into the Chinese New Year spirit by hanging out at the gaily-lit Chinatown. Mikael Gross, a Swiss exchange student who has returned to Switzerland, recounted how he spent the holiday with a group of other students on exchange. “To celebrate Chinese New Year in Singapore was kind of ‘special’ because Singapore is a city with a huge Chinese community… feels kind of authentic”. After a dinner at “one of those tourist trap restaurants”, they joined the annual Chinese New Year parade where he enjoyed the cheerful crowd. “The truth is Chinese New Year wasn’t as exciting as they say on the internet. But we enjoyed it nevertheless, like everything on exchange.”

So whilst you are busy indulging in the Chinese New Year festivities, don’t forget about your non-Chinese friends and have them over for a short get-together for two. Have them also share what it’s like during their New Year celebrations and perhaps join them for a more complete food and culture exchange experience.

Source:www.makansutra.com

February 21, 2015