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  • Adab-Adab Dalam Pertunangan

    Adab-Adab Dalam Pertunangan

    “Bila dah bertunang, bila awak dah buat satu ikatan (perjanjian) dengan seseorang, tak kisahlah sama ada satu tika dulu, dia yang datang approach awak dulu, atau awak yang datang approach dia dulu, jangan mudah pandang atau jatuh hati pada orang lain. Pejam mata, fokuskan hati dan mata hanya pada satu insan sahaja”

    Kami serentak menoleh.

    “Apa maksud ustaz?” seorang dari kami bertanya.

    “Dugaan bertunang ni lain. Tak sama kalau awak bercouple saja – saja tu. Dulu, kalau sekadar bercinta, dugaan dia tak besar mana. Balik – balik awak akan bergaduh berdua je. Gaduh – gaduh, esok lusa baik semula. Lepas tu jadi balik. Macam itulah. Tapi bila mana dah bertunang, dugaan dan ujian yang datang tu lain macam sikit. Kebiasaannya mesti melibatkan orang yang ketiga”
    Kami terdiam.

    “Perasan tak, dulu duduk sorang – sorang, tak ada orang nak kenal, sekarang ni duduk je dekat restoran ke mana – manalah, dan – dan macam drama dalam tv, tetiba je ada orang nak kenal lah. Masa nak bayar bil, tiba – tiba kena sapalah, ada orang senyum lah, masa tu lah, syaitan akan main peranan. Depa akan bisik.

    “Perempuan ni lagi baik dari tunang hang”

    “Kau tengok dia ni, sopan je, cantik pulak tu. Inikan perempuan yang kau cari”

    “Masih ada masa lagi nak patah balik. Sekaranglah. Sure, tak akan menyesal”

    “Cuba dulu, mana tahu berkenan. Kalau tak berkenan, tak ada masalah”

    Ustaz tiba tiba berhenti. Kami masih menanti dengan penuh minat.
    “Cekalkan hati kalian. Jangan mudah berpaling. Memang betul, orang yang awak semua akan nampak tu akan jauh lebih baik daripada apa yang awak ada ketika itu. Tapi bukan ke tugas seorang lelaki ni adalah memimpin. Memimpin isteri dan anak – anak menjadi lebih baik. Kalau mereka tak pakai tudung, ajarkan supaya mereka pandai. Kalau mereka tak tahu bab agama, ajarkan sampai mereka faham”

    “Bukankah kita juga bermula dari kosong satu tika dulu, Jadi kenapa perlu mencari yang sudah sempurna, sedangkan kita masih punya harapan untuk mengubah sesuatu menjadi sempurna”

    “Masa dah bertunang ni, buanglah segala perangai lama yang tak elok tu. Kita nak dirikan masjid. Sebelum kita melangkah masuk ke dalam masjid tu, kita kena pastikan diri kita ni bersih, suci. Kalau boleh tak ada pun sedikit titik hitam dalam hati. Barulah Allah redha”

    Kami mengangguk perlahan.

    “Apa pun, jangan suka sangat pegang hati awak erat – erat. Serahkanlah pada tuhan. Dia pegang, dia akan jaga hati awak baik – baik. Bukan kah dia yang menentukan soal jodoh, soal kematian, dan soal apa pun asbab terjadinya sesuatu dalam hidup awak. Serahkanlah pada dia. Dia tahu mana yang terbaik untuk awak, dan seluruh kehidupan awak. Suka seseorang tu jangan suka sangat. Boleh jadi kita rasa dia baik untuk kita, tapi sebenarnya belum tentu”
    “Istikharahlah”

    “Tuhan pasti akan beri yang terbaik untuk seluruh kehidupan awak”

    Saya terdiam lama.
    “Ya, inshaAllah. Moga Allah redha”

  • 12 Kelebihan Suami Simpan Janggut, Rupanya Isteri Pun Dapat Untung Sama (No 8 Paling Isteri Suka)

    12 Kelebihan Suami Simpan Janggut, Rupanya Isteri Pun Dapat Untung Sama (No 8 Paling Isteri Suka)

    Buat isteri yang selama ini rasa geli atau kurang gemar jika suami anda simpan janggut tidak kiralah janggut sejemput atau jambang, inilah masanya untuk anda ubah persepsi itu. Bagi yang suka dengan ‘aksesori’ lelaki yang satu ini, sememangnya anda seorang isteri yang beruntung kerana ‘aksesori’ ini banyak kelebihannya!

    Selain mendapat pahala berganda kerana ia merupakan sunah Rasulullah SAW, kajian yang diterbitkan dalam “The Journal of Evolutionary Biology” mengatakan wanita lebih cenderung inginkan lelaki yang berjanggut dan melihat lelaki sebegini sebagai rakan kongsi jangka panjang.

    Oleh itu, ayuh baca fakta unik ini untuk lebih meyakinkan anda bahawa lelaki yang menyimpan janggut bukan sahaja memberi manfaat buat dirinya sendiri malah turut bermanfaat untuk isterinya.

    1. Malaikat tadah air wuduk yang jatuh dari janggut

    Ketika zaman Rasulullah SAW ada seorang sahabat yang berjanggut nipis yang sedang mengambil wuduk untuk bersembahyang di masjid. Melihatkannya, Rasulullah SAW tersenyum dan memalingkan mukanya. Sahabat itu menyangka Rasulullah SAW senyum kerana janggutnya yang nipis itu dan memalingkan mukanya kerana tidak suka pada janggutnya itu.

    Keesokan harinya, lelaki tersebut datang ke masjid setelah mencukur janggutnya. Apabila terserempak dengan Rasulullah SAW, lelaki itu melemparkan senyuman tetapi Rasulullah SAW tidak memandang langsung kepada lelaki tersebut. Ini membuatkan dia bertambah hairan lalu mengajukan pertanyaan kepada Baginda.

    “Wahai Rasulullah, mengapa hari ini kamu tidak senyum kepadaku seperti sebelum ini?” Jawab Baginda, “Sebelum ini aku nampak malaikat berebut-rebut untuk menadah air wuduk yang jatuh dari janggutmu tetapi apabila kamu mencukur janggutmu tidak ada lagi malaikat yang menunggu dijanggutmu wahai sahabat.”

    2. Kurangkan tanda penuaan dan awet muda

    Seorang ahli dermatologi dari London bernama Dr. Nick Lowe mengatakan bahawa janggut membantu melindungi kulit agar tetap sihat, mengurangkan tanda-tanda penuaan sekali gus membuatkan lelaki awet muda. Ini kerana pendedahan terhadap sinaran matahari yang sedikit membuatkan lelaki yang menyimpan janggut kelihatan lebih muda berbanding mereka yang tidak mempunyai janggut.

    3. Buatkan wajah sentiasa hangat

    Rambut merupakan penebat yang membuatkan lelaki kekal hangat, begitu juga dengan janggut kerana ia merupakan sebahagian daripada rambut yang ada pada wajah. Carol Walker, Konsultan Trichologist dari Birmingham Trichology Centre mengatakan janggut dapat menahan udara sejuk sekali gus menaikkan suhu leher terutamanya jika berada pada cuaca yang sejuk. Ini kerana janggut mempunyai kelebihan dalam menyerap dan menyimpan haba di dalam badan.

    4. Beri perlindungan daripada sinaran ultra violet

    Hasil kajian dari University of Southern Queensland menerusi jurnal bertajuk “Radiation Protection Dosimetry” mendapati bahagian wajah yang tertutup dengan janggut rata-ratanya sepertiga lebih rendah terdedah dengan sinaran ultra violet yang membahayakan sekali gus memberi perlindungan terhadap sinar ultra violet matahari 90 hingga 95 peratus. Bahkan kajian yang dijalankan di Australia juga membuktikan perkara yang sama.

    5. Kurangkan gejala asma dan alahan

    Jika anda mengalami alahan debunga atau debu dan gejala asma, janggut sebenarnya membantu sebagai penapis bagi mengelakkan kuman sampai ke permukaan wajah. Lebih besar janggut yang anda simpan, maka lebih banyak bahan pencemaran yang dapat ditapis setiap hari.

    6. Melembapkan kulit wajah

    Kulit wajah terbina dengan ejen pelembap tersendiri yang dikenali sebagai ‘sebaceous glands’. Ia bertindak untuk mengeluarkan minyak semula jadi yang menjadikan kulit kekal lembap. Dengan menyimpan janggut yang tebal, ia akan membantu melindungi kulit wajah anda daripada terkena angin yang boleh menyebabkan kulit menjadi kering.

    7. Elak masalah jerawat

    Menyimpan janggut juga boleh membantu melindungi kelenjar sebum daripada dijangkiti oleh bakteria jerawat, vulgaris, sekali gus mencegah terjadinya masalah jerawat dan bintik hitam.

    8. Sensasi ciuman yang berbeza

    Wanita lebih menikmati ciuman dengan lelaki berjanggut berbanding lelaki yang wajahnya mulus tanpa janggut. Ini kerana janggut akan membuatkan pasangan rasa geli sekali gus menambahkan keintiman saat mencium suami.

    9. Pahala buat isteri

    Sebaik sahaja isteri celik mata dari tidur, rebutlah peluang pahala dengan merenung wajah suami dan kemudian usap lembut janggut suami dari dagu hingga ke penghujungnya.

    10. Galak kesuburan wanita

    Kajian oleh para saintis dari Massachusetts Institute of Technology, Amerika Syarikat berjudul “The Amazing Fact of Human Body” mendapati janggut lelaki mengandungi hormon testosteron yang amat diperlukan bagi kesuburan wanita. Ia membantu menstabilkan kitaran haid selain menggalakkan pertumbuhan telur wanita dengan cara sentuhan dan belaian pada janggut atau jambang suami.

    11. Calon ayah yang baik

    Kajian dari University of New South Wales dalam jurnal bertajuk “Evolution and Human Behaviour” mengatakan bahawa wanita berpendapat lelaki yang memiliki janggut adalah lebih menarik serta dilihat sebagai calon pasangan dan ayah yang baik.

    12. Sesuai dijadikan pasangan romantik

    Hasil kajian yang dijalankan ke atas wanita Britain berusia 18 hingga 44 tahun mendapati tarikan yang dimiliki oleh selebriti terkenal seperti George Clooney, Brad Pitt dan David Beckham adalah disebabkan oleh wajah mereka yang berjambang. Mereka juga menyifatkan lelaki berjanggut paling sesuai dijadikan pasangan romantik.

    * Ingat ya suami! Walaupun banyak kelebihan, pastikan janggut atau jambang anda sentiasa dibersihkan dan dirapi selalu agar ia tidak menyebarkan bakteria dan kuman untuk diri anda mahupun orang lain terutamanya isteri.

     

    Source: www.pesonapengantin.my

  • Saudi Crown Prince Promises To Destroy ‘Extremist Ideology’ And Revert Saudi Arabia Back To ‘Moderate Islam’

    Saudi Crown Prince Promises To Destroy ‘Extremist Ideology’ And Revert Saudi Arabia Back To ‘Moderate Islam’

    As his country experiences the early pangs of a cultural and economic transformation, Saudi Arabia’s crown prince vowed Tuesday to destroy “extremist ideologies” in a bid to return to “a more moderate Islam.”

    Speaking at the Future Investment Initiative conference in Riyadh, Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salman said the moves will put the kingdom in lockstep with many other nations as it seeks to transform its economy over the coming decades.

    “We want to lead normal lives, lives where our religion and our traditions translate into tolerance, so that we coexist with the world and become part of the development of the world,” he said.

    It’s a move sure to rile the ultraconservative clerics who have held sway in the kingdom, even if that sway appears to be waning. At the same time, the prince’s declaration will be heralded by Saudi Arabia’s increasingly youthful population and the outside world, on whom the kingdom will rely in its quest to overhaul its finances.

    “Seventy percent of the Saudi population is under the age of 30. In all honesty, we will not spend 30 years of our lives dealing with extremist ideologies. We will destroy them today and immediately,” bin Salman said.

    He continued, “Saudi was not like this before ’79. Saudi Arabia and the entire region went through a revival after ’79. … All we’re doing is going back to what we were: a moderate Islam that is open to all religions and to the world and to all traditions and people.”

    Conference attendees broke into applause.

    ‘Righteousness is on our side’

    Royal shake-up in Saudi Arabia

    Royal shake-up in Saudi Arabia

    Bin Salman’s reference to 1979 was doubtless a nod to a tumultuous year for Saudi Arabia that included Shiite militants overthrowing the secular Shah of Iran and Sunni fundamentalists seizing the Masjid al-Haram, or Grand Mosque, in Mecca. That same year, the country’s Shiite minority staged a deadly revolt in Al-Hasa province.

    The Saudi monarchy responded by shoring up ties with the Wahhabi religious establishment and restoring many of its hardline stances. For instance, it shut down the few movie theaters in the kingdom.

    Saudi police release woman in miniskirt video

    Wahhabism is a form of Islam that bans the mixing of sexes in public and puts myriad restrictions on women — among them, the requirement that they need permission from a male guardian to work or travel. Saudi Arabia’s religious police were given great leeway to enforce the restrictions.

    The tentacles of Wahhabism reached deeply into Saudi life, influencing its courts, politics and foreign policy, as elder kings with tight relations to the religious establishment ruled for the next few decades.

    In 2015, King Salman bin Abdulaziz Al-Saud took the helm, along with bin Salman, ushering in a new era of Saudi politics. The king promoted bin Salman to crown prince, making him heir apparent, in June.

    The two curbed the authority of religious police, taking away their power to arrest citizens. They allowed the first music concerts in decades, cracked down on religious incitement and granted women a growing list of rights — most notably the right to drive, which will take effect next year.

    “Some clear steps were taken recently and I believe we will obliterate the remnants of extremism very soon,” bin Salman said at Tuesday’s conference. “I don’t think this is a challenge. It reflects our values of forgiveness, righteousness and moderation. Righteousness is on our side.”

    The challenges ahead

    Saudi activist hails end of ban on women driving

    Saudi activist hails end of ban on women driving

    Watchdog groups say Saudi Arabia has a long way to go. Weeks ago, the kingdom said it planned to indict “radical” Twitter users who were “harming the public order.”

    Amnesty International, Human Rights Watch and the Committee to Protect Journalists have reported in recent months that the kingdom still targets peaceful activists and jails reporters, while state clerics incite hatred against the Shia minority and the Saudi-led coalition in Yemen perpetrates crimes against children.

    Little girl opens the world's eyes to Yemen conflict

    In applauding the move to allow women to drive, Human Rights Watch’s Liesl Gerntholtz told CNN last month that Saudi women still face a plethora of hardships in daily life — namely laws that govern the guardianship of women.

    “This prohibition on driving is just one in a vast series of laws and policies which prevent women from doing many things,” she said. “The guardianship rule stops women from making every decision in her life without the assistance of a male relative, even if that relative is her 7-year-old son.”

    It’s also worth noting that while the world and many in Saudi Arabia — including the Saudi Senior Scholars Council, the kingdom’s highest religious body — commended the royal order allowing women to drive — many Saudis took to Twitter to promote the hashtag, #The_People_Refuse_Women_Driving, as Wahhabi sheikhs predicted, “This is the end of Saudi.”

    Economy, culture collide

    saudi women driving

    Spokeswoman defends progress in Saudi Arabia

    While permitting women to drive might seem like a cultural move, bin Salman also painted it as an economic one that will bring more women into the workforce. It’s no coincidence that he raised the economic aspect of pursuing a more tolerant Islam as he delivered his remarks at the investment conference in the Saudi capital on Tuesday.

    The crown prince faces the daunting task of revamping the Saudi economy, and quickly. He is spearheading a reform plan called Vision 2030 that aims to wean Saudis off government aid and diversify an economy almost wholly dependent on oil.

    Oil, whose prices have dropped precipitously in recent years, directly or indirectly employs roughly 70% of the population. Meanwhile, Saudis pay no taxes and receive free education, free health care and subsidies for most utilities.

    In 2015, the International Monetary Fund forecast that the Saudi economy would run out of financial reserves by 2020.

    The government has been able to reduce subsidies for gas and water. There is a proposal to sell a chunk of the state-owned oil company, Aramco, which could raise a substantial sum. On the flip side, efforts to cut bonuses and benefits for Saudi government officials did not pan out and the notion of taxing Saudis is a nonstarter.

     

    Source: http://www.cnn.com

  • 3 Arrested For Setting Off ‘Dangerous Fireworks’ On Top Yishun Carpark On Deepavali According To Police Statement

    3 Arrested For Setting Off ‘Dangerous Fireworks’ On Top Yishun Carpark On Deepavali According To Police Statement

    Three men in their 30s have been arrested for setting off dangerous fireworks at a multi-storey carpark in Yishun, the police said in a statement on Tuesday (Oct 24).

    The men, aged between 30 and 32, had set off the fireworks at the top deck of the carpark at Block 419A, Yishun Avenue 11, at 12.07am on Deepavali (Oct 18).

    After extensive investigations, officers from Ang Mo Kio Police Division identified the three men involved in the accident.

    Two of them were arrested on Monday (Oct 23), while a third was arrested on Tuesday.

    Investigations are ongoing.

    If convicted of the offence of discharge of dangerous fireworks, they can jailed for up to two years and/or fined between $2,000 and $10,000.

    Last Friday, another man was arrested for setting off fireworks on the same day at a Housing Board block in Ang Mo Kio.

    The 37-year-old was arrested two days after the police were alerted to the case.

    The use of fireworks in Singapore was first regulated in 1968, when rocket-type fireworks were banned after they were found responsible for a third of the 150 fires that broke out during Chinese New Year that year.

    In 1972, this became a total ban with The Dangerous Fireworks act, which had stricter penalties.

     

    Source: http://www.straitstimes.com/

  • Boy With Autism Went Missing At Childcare, My First Skool’s Outing

    Boy With Autism Went Missing At Childcare, My First Skool’s Outing

    Parents, do you have any bad experiences with the child care, My First Skool? It is so scary that the teacher only realized that the autism boy went missing after the boy was found at Yishun MRT station.

    ***

    This is what happen in my son school today (24 October 2017). School name is My First Skool (Blk 140 Serangoon North Ave 2).

    10.48am – I received a call from school teacher saying that my son is missing from school.

    10.53am – Yishun mrt staff called up saying that my son is there.

    Thereafter i rushed to Yishun and yes is really my son. Really thanks god he is fine. So after that i went back to school and i hope i can talk to the school principal and teachers nicely. But what they told us is really driving us crazy. Below is what the class teacher told us.

    10.15am – She bought half of the class students which is around 7 students to outside the class to water and clear the plants.

    10.30am – All students back to class.

    10.31am – She found that my son is missing.

    And by this time i go more crazy… I was thinking the timing is not tally. So i question back.

    Me : Yishun mrt called us at 10.53am and told us my son is there so is impossible he can took bus 73 go to Ang Mo Kio mrt then to Yishun mrt.

    Principal : Teacher please think carefully.

    Teacher : I maybe remember the timing wrongly.

    At this point i went really crazy and told them off. Please stop making up story! So you dun really know what time my son went missing?????? If now i cant find my son how??? What you going to do???

    All i ended the conversation with them.

    I know someone will ask why my son will do all this when he is big enough to know this is wrong. But please note he is an autism kid and he been in this school since toddler, principal and all teachers in the school know about his situation.

    And ya as a parents i did ask my son to say sorry to the teachers as it is wrong to run away from school.

    I seriously need thanks AWWA teachers teaching my son to remember my contact number if not i might not be able to find son and i might have lost my son forever.

    Thanks god my son is fine.

    Everyone who read this post please help to like and share. This can happen to my son it can also happen on other kids in the school. This is really unacceptable.

     

     

    Source: J.O.