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  • AWARE: Legal, Societal Discrimination Leaves LGBT People Vulnerable To Abuse

    AWARE: Legal, Societal Discrimination Leaves LGBT People Vulnerable To Abuse

    I read with dismay that a man extorted large sums from a male teacher by threatening to reveal their sexual relationship to the Ministry of Education and the teacher’s school (“Man pleads guilty to extorting S$197k, gifts from male teacher he had tryst with”, TODAYonline, Jan 12).

    These criminal acts were carried out by an unscrupulous individual. But he was enabled by the atmosphere of secrecy that our society has collectively imposed on LGBT people.

    While any married person might fear exposure of adultery, the teacher in this case faced further vulnerability because of the legal, societal and institutional discrimination that treats same-sex relationships as invalid and shameful.

    Section 377A of the Penal Code stigmatises sexual activity between men, LGBT people are not protected against employment discrimination, and same-sex relationships are routinely censored from media representation.

    As long as we demand that these relationships stay furtive, the people in them will remain vulnerable to abuse.

    Indeed, the prevalence of sexual blackmail was cited by British parliamentarians in the 1960s as one reason for decriminalising homosexuality.

    The experience of the Sexual Assault Care Centre (SACC) at the Association of Women for Action and Research (AWARE) reveals a similar disturbing issue: Section 377A can discourage some men from reporting sexual violence against them to the police.

    They fear that in describing the sexual assault or their interactions with their attackers, they will reveal that they have, themselves, violated Section 377A, and thus be, themselves, subject to police investigation.

    Most people face great social and emotional barriers to reporting sexual assault.

    For some, Section 377A adds the fear that the authorities will treat them not as the victim of a crime, but as a perpetrator.

    The Government’s position that the law will not be proactively enforced does not adequately allay this concern.

    Individuals are understandably nervous about whether such a stand will truly override the weight of the written law, which plainly says they have committed a crime.

    Moreover, for someone who has faced a potentially traumatic sexual assault, even if he is not subsequently prosecuted, the prospect of police investigations for an alleged crime can be enough to deter reporting.

    His attacker is, therefore, never held to account.

    The extortion case and SACC’s experiences show some of the great human costs of a supposed moral stance against homosexuality.

    As long as our society continues to discriminate against LGBT people, we will aid and abet their abuse.

    The opinion by Jolene Tan, Programmes and Communications Senior Manager, Association of Women for Action and Research, was published in Voices, Today, on 19 Jan 2015.

    Source: www.todayonline.com

     

     

  • Zulfikar Shariff: Malays’ Non-Confrontational Attribute Prevents Them From Raising Discrimination Issues More Frequently

    Zulfikar Shariff: Malays’ Non-Confrontational Attribute Prevents Them From Raising Discrimination Issues More Frequently

    When we raise issues of discrimination in Singapura, one common response from non-Malays (usually Chinese) is that…

    “It cannot be true. Why have I not heard of this before? I know some Malays and they did not tell me this.”

    There are several obvious reasons.

    1. You may know them but you do not really get to know them. They do not share with you.

    2. You are actually not interested to know. You just want to defend the system.

    3. You do not understand the culture and interaction style of the Malays.

    The Malay culture seeks to avoid conflict. They do not like confrontation.

    If saying something may make someone else uncomfortable they will rather keep quiet.

    Some accuse Malays of “Tidak apa” attitude. This attitude is actually born out of their desire for peaceful relations.

    Two of the main characteristics of Malay interaction are musyawarah and muafakat, usually translated as consultation and consensus building respectively.(Haacke, 2003, p. 4).

    However, while these words are translated into English, what they mean have not been fully understood.

    They mean much more than their translations.

    They miss the subtleties of musyawarah and muafakat as social and political traditions.

    Muafakat, which is a desired outcome of musyawarah, exists in the Malay social interaction as part of budi(Chong, 2012, p. 34). Budi in turn, is a key concept of Malay culture, and forms “part of the ethnic “self-image” of the Malay “bangsa, nation, race’”(Goddard, 2000, p. 87).

    Wan Norhasniah Wan Husin(cited in Chong, 2012, pp. 10-11) identify budi as a social norm that encompasses the Malay world from the Peninsula to Sulawesi, Borneo and the Malay groups in the Philippines.

    It refers to the Malay mode of social interaction that emphasizes harmony, good treatment of others, kindness and peaceful relations(Chong, 2012, p. 10; Goddard, 2000, p. 87).

    According to Dahlan, ‘‘budi is composed of virtuous qualities such as hemah tinggi (generosity), hormat (respect), ikhlas (sincerity), mulia (righteous), timbang rasa (considerate), jaga hati (caring), budi bicara (discretion)…’’

    He further notes that ‘‘the budi thinking man is never direct and forthright in his ways: his ways are subtle…to be blunt, direct and forthright especially if the end result is negative…is considered rude and out of tune in the Malay polite system…

    Hence a budi thinking man is by nature polite and conflict-avoiding’’(cited in Paramasivam, 2007, p. 95) .

    Muafakat can then be understood as the outcome of a social tradition that forms the Malay self-image which emphasizes virtue, subtlety, discretion, harmony and peaceful relations. It is not simply consensus building. Decision making has to lead to contentment and peaceful acceptance of every party involved.

    Muafakat, musyawarah and budi are part of the Malay identity. It is so strongly held that it is one of the most defining attributes.

    And the Malays expect a similar response. They expect those they interact with to similarly show these characteristics they hold as important.

    And when they stop showing these characteristics, it is a sign that for them, the relationship may be over.

    And do not expect anymore muafakat or budi from them.

    References:

    Acharya, A. (2003). Democratisation and the prospects for participatory regionalism in Southeast Asia. Third World Quarterly, 24(2), 375-390.

    Chong, J. W. (2012). ” Mine, Yours or Ours?”: The Indonesia-Malaysia Disputes over Shared Cultural Heritage. Sojourn: Journal of Social Issues in Southeast Asia, 27(1), 1-53.

    Goddard, C. (2000). ” Cultural Scripts” and Communicative Style in Malay (” Bahasa Melayu”). Anthropological linguistics, 81-106.

    Haacke, J. (2003). ASEAN’s diplomatic and security culture : origins, development and prospects. Richmond: Routledge.

    Paramasivam, S. (2007). Managing disagreement while managing not to disagree: Polite disagreement in negotiation discourse. Journal of Intercultural Communication Research, 36(2), 91-116.

     

    Source: Zulfikar Shariff

  • Top 5 Tips To Staying Safe In Johor Bahru!

    Top 5 Tips To Staying Safe In Johor Bahru!

    Robberies, snatch-theft, carjacking and even attempted kidnapping – we have all heard our share of horror stories told by Singaporeans about their experiences in Johor Bahru (JB). Some are utter fantasy but (unfortunately) most have more than an element of truth to them.

    No, we are not saying JB is an unsafe place and that Singaporeans should avoid it altogether. By all means, if you want to lepak at JB, go ahead! it is the perfect place to find lepak spots to chill.

    But it would help you and your lepak buddies if you read these 5 tips to stay safe in JB!

    1     Know your terrain

    Don’t go in blind. Knowing what is in store helps keep you ahead of the game, or in this case, the muggers! Some areas in JB are more prone to mugging incidents than others.  The petrol kiosk near the CIQ is notorious for the spate of crimes involving Singaporean victims. Other places to avoid is the Taman Universiti and Taman Sri Tebrau.  You can find out more of such places to avoid here.

    The funny thing is, most of these places earned their notoriety because of the sheer numbers of Singaporeans flocking there. If you can, avoid these places. If you can’t, then you need to read the rest of the tips.

    2     Don’t take shortcuts.

    Whether traversing a mall, big open areas or driving from one place to another, never, ever take short cuts. No matter how many times you visit JB, just know, the robbers LIVE there. What you think you know, they know much, much, much better. In fact, even more betterer!  Keep to open, well-lit areas with a reasonable amount of vehicular or foot traffic.

    However, even this may not be enough. There have been cases of Singaporeans and Malaysians themselves who were robbed by thieves on two-wheels as they are walking on pedestrian paths along busy roads.

    So, what else can you do?

     

    3     Do not flaunt your wealth

    Especially for the Makciks, keep those gold chains/bracelets/necklaces for special occassions like your son’s wedding. No need to wear them if you only want to go shopping at pasar Larkin or Giant. The muggers can spot you from miles away…

    Don’t carry too much cash with you too! If you need plenty of cash, change your currency in Singapore instead of JB and keep it safe and close to you. Counting your cash out in the open will only make you become a target.

    4     Always be alert

    Sometimes you feel so high after a very satisfying grocery run or a seafood meal by the sea. You feel so high and happy while you are digesting that ikan pari bakar, that you let your guard down.  You walk but don’t notice the vultures moving in place before striking. Before you know it, your wallet and other belongings are gone.

    For the drivers, always lock your vehicle. If someone knocks on your car window, don’t bring down the window fully.  It’s not being rude. It’s being safe.

    Those of you who are constantly glued to your smartphones or tablets, you need to get off your mobile devices! Put that phone down and look up and around you. Any strangers acting suspiciously? It pays to err on the side of caution but don’t  go around looking like the whole of JB is trying to go out with your girlfriends.

    5     Stay humble and keep a low profile

    Finally, smile. For the Muslims, smiling is a form of sedekah (giving alms). Smiling is a sure way to disarm a tense situation and to form allies with the people you meet there. If you act like your father owns the restaurant, scolding the wait staff or making excessive demands, no one will help you if you get robbed in front of the restaurant.

    When shopping, no matter how much you want to go, “Wah cheap ar!” when you spot the latest bargains, don’t! Just get it and go.

    Before you do, remember to smile at the staff that served you.

     

    Have any other tips to stay safe in JB or any other places? Write in to [email protected] or go to our Facebook page.

  • Warning! Look Out For Card-Knife Robbers In JB!

    Warning! Look Out For Card-Knife Robbers In JB!

    Subhanallah…to all Singaporeans, pls be care with this…incident at JB!

    Share to all…yah.

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    Breaking News, Rakyat Malaysian

    Just now, according to info received from a traffic police friend, there are already six car owner made police reports…if there is someone holding a name card and knock at your car window asking for direction, please do not open you car window as there is a cutter placed under the name card which is used for slashing victim’s face and rob.

    Please be extra careful!

    Kindly convey this message!

    Please also send to those who are not driving too, for the same of their friends who are driving.

    Breaking News

     

    Slashing

    Source: Arshad Hussin

  • Panic Over Unattended Bags At Queen Street And Woodlands Checkpoint

    Panic Over Unattended Bags At Queen Street And Woodlands Checkpoint

    Two unattended bags gave bystanders cause for worry in separate incidents – at a bus terminal in Queen Street and at Woodlands Checkpoint – last Friday.

    Chinese evening daily Lianhe Wanbao on Saturday reported witnesses as saying they were afraid the bags – a backpack and a luxury handbag – contained explosives.

    Police officers were seen surrounding the suspicious-looking bags, which were later claimedby their owners.

    Mr Xu Wei Lin, who was at the bus terminal on Friday, said: “The Jakarta bombing was still fresh in everybody’s mind.”

    On Thursday, a bomb went off in Jakarta, killing eight people and injuring more than 20. Militants from the Islamic State in Iraq and Syria terrorist group have claimed responsibility for the attack.

    The owner of the bag found in Queen Street was a Mr Wong.

    The 50-year-old electrician told reporters he was using the bag, which contained clothes and electrical appliances, to hold a spot in the queue while he parked his electric bicycle nearby.

    The Malaysian, a permanent resident in Singapore, said he has been doing the same thing – using a bag to hold his place in the queue – for a year now.

    Every Friday, he takes the bus back to Johor Baru, and a connecting bus to Kuala Lumpur to visit his 80-year-old mother.

    He said: “I saw the police car, but I did not realise that they were here because of my unattended bag.

    “I didn’t expect it to cause any misunderstanding.”

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

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