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  • Stop Telling Muslim Women to Have Children

    Stop Telling Muslim Women to Have Children

    I just like to advise the public especially fellow Muslims that people should stop telling us women to have kids. I for one have decided on this a long time ago.

    The endless cycle of family members, relatives, long-distance aunties and uncles, masjid aunties and even strangers asking mede me feel as though i am obligated to produce an offspring for them to look at and adore, as if they invested money in me and waiting for their returns. I tell you i am going to explode anytime soon and it just make me so frustrated. Honestly i am tired of saying InsyaAllah just to please them, when i actually dont even want to settle down and have kids.

    I dont hate men or any Malay man. I dont dislike children too. But i hate the fact that people’s mindset of women it for that very purpose.

    So now i fight my case and hope these reasons will give confidence to other women facing the same dilemma and give them the confidence they need.

    1. You don’t need any reason to not have children.
    2. No one has the right to dictate whether or not you reproduce. Simply put, no obligation to give your parents grandchildren.

    Lastly, please stop asking such question like “Don’t you feel incomplete? Like something is missing?” or “Adik tak sunyi ke?” or “I will pray for you to get married and have children.” or “Adik tidak memenuhi pegangan Islam adik” because this is what i want, that’s why.

     

    Nadirah

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  • Help! Mother Of 5 Young Children Faces Massive Financial Obstacles, Determined To Turn Life Around Without Abusive Husband

    Help! Mother Of 5 Young Children Faces Massive Financial Obstacles, Determined To Turn Life Around Without Abusive Husband

    Please find it in your Heart to help by donating what you can, sharing her story with friends and family, and sharing her fundraiser campaign on your social media.

    Anyting you can do will be appreciated even if it is your prayers for the success of this campaign. We thank you for your time in reading this.

    As my Friend cope with the very unexpected things that happen in her life right now. She was abused again and again by her husband.

    This page is set up as a place to gather encouragement and strength. Upon this tragedy let’s come together and show our support to her and her 5 kids. Senya (My Friend) was not employed after she got married her financial dependence post married made her limp,so limp that she didn’t have the back bone to confront her Satanic Husband. Her Husband have crush her facial bones! he abused her and left her with kids and as well bills to pay.She is on PPO currently since 2014, and her Husband didn’t provide for her and the kids till now. With no food at home. She had piled up of arrears with town council, power supply and home loan. This is going to be a Long, rough road to travel with her 5 kids. She is now failing for a divorced. All her kids age is between 12 and below. As we know school will resume on January. Please help her with her utility bills as the family is using PAYU and sometimes can’t afford to top up they would be in dark. They are in immediate need of financial contributions to help with current expenses.

    To those who would like to donate directly to her bank account is under POSB SAVINGS 170-49122-0 and to those whom wish to contact me can do so through my email address [email protected]

    My goal is to minimize the financial obstacles they are having right now. We cannot understand the struggle they are having. We need to form a network to help them financially, emotionally and physically and rebuild her so she comes back better than ever. It’s not easy while starting over.  God Bless all of you..

     

    Source: https://give.asia

  • Beware Of This Hougang Nanny, Our Baby Became Drowsy And Sick After Her Care

    Beware Of This Hougang Nanny, Our Baby Became Drowsy And Sick After Her Care

    <Facebook complaint by Clara Ong>

    PLEASE TAKE NOTE ON NANNY (DIAH JAMARI) staying at Blk 446 Hougang ave 8 #XX-XXXX. My Daughter had been hospitalise for 4 days after sending to her. Because she’s sick and Super drowsy. Nanny claims that baby’s tired just not enough sleep. But Doctors told us baby’s behaving this way not due to not enough sleep.

    Today, police IO called me and told me that they will need to come down to speak to us to further investigate because they just checked and found out that multiple reports was Made against this nanny over the same reason that babies got drowsy after sending to Nanny’s place. When admitted my baby girl to hospital, nanny doesn’t response or reply any of our messages.

    When we go down her house and confronted nanny about it, she keep changing her story and say that this is due to baby not enough sleep. As a parent, how can we not be worried about our baby girl as she’s barely one year old and yet she have to go thru so many scans and X-ray, whereby is harmful to her body because the radiation is strong. When we told nanny about the scan and X-ray that baby’s going thru, nanny still can replied us with a inhuman reply “is only one time scan so nevermind”. What kind of reply is that.

    When we asked nanny what did she do to my baby girl. Nanny claims that she did nothing and even start giving excuse say that baby’s all the way playing on her own and she didn’t carry our baby at all BECAUSE SHE CLAIMS THAT MY BABY GIRL IS TOO HEAVY FOR HER TO CARRY. if you are telling me that the nanny is big and heavy can’t carry I could understand but you are telling me a small baby you can’t carry? Then why do you even agree to take care of babies or even being a babysitter or nanny? Nanny even called police and claims that we accused her. And even slam her door on us.

    When police arrived at the doorstep, she became another person, she came down and wear make up and even dress up herself and talk so nicely and politely to the police. Really didn’t know what Did she do to my baby girl and cause her this way but currently we are waiting for her blood test result to be out. And also just received news of another baby just took blood test and under investigate because of this nanny.

    P.S:// Please kindly share around to promote awareness of this to prevent innocent babies from getting hurt again.

    Source: www.allsingaporestuff.com

  • Netizens Lash Out At Woman Who Suggested The Lower Income Should Not Give Birth To Too Many Children

    Netizens Lash Out At Woman Who Suggested The Lower Income Should Not Give Birth To Too Many Children

    A lady by the name of Syazwani decided to post her rant on Facebook regarding family planning in Malaysia. In her rant, she even backed it up with a couple of research articles as she wanted to spread an intellectual advice to others.

    She said, “You know your husband’s income is RM800-RM1000, then don’t give birth to so many children until 5-6 kids la. Until you trouble yourself, until you don’t even have money for food and drinks. Then, you blame the government.” “In these times, if your pay is below RM1000, it is only enough to sustain one child. No need to make a whole team of children. Be smart in planning (on having) children.”

    To ensure that people truly understand her message, she even broke down the cost of living with only RM1000 as income. House: RM400 Transportation: RM200 (perhaps only a motorbike) Water and Electricity Bills: RM200 Total so far: RM800 Remaining: Only RM200 Syazwani, who is a Economics degree holder, goes on to explain this is why many people only eat rice and budu without other side dishes. “It is burdensome for a person with RM1000 salary to share food with 7 other people.”

    The Universiti Sains Malaysia graduate even included what the possible negative outcome of this life quality could bring. 1. More robbery or stealing cases because it is difficult to find proper income. 2. Children grow up in unhealthy conditions due to lack of nutrition as their diet is not according to the food pyramid. 3. Too many (negative) social cases because there isn’t enough time to too many children.

    To further validate her message, she added steps to solving this problem. 1. Government should implement a ONE child to ONE family law. 2. Control your lust or consume birth control pills 3. If you want many children then find a better paying job before doing so, so that later it is easier to bring them up. 4. Do two jobs. 5. Wife has to work too. The young graduate also mentioned some typical methods used in family planning such as Intrauterine Contraceptive Device (IUCD), condoms, birth control or contraceptive pills, etc.

    Although there were some who agreed to her post, shockingly, most netizens disagreed with her, even to the point of calling her ideas stupid and backwards. A lot more others started to spread hate towards her. “What a stupid woman. Did she put her brains in her butt or what?” “Talk without using your brains!” One very angry man even condemned her intelligence, while many others criticised her for saying such statements because she is not married. “You memang don’t have brains. Your parents sent you to study so that you’ll be intelligent in both religion and knowledge in this world. But you put your intelligence beneath your feet, bodoh.” Not sure about you but her statement makes a lot of sense to me.

    Source: www.worldofbuzz.com

     

  • 4 Children Injured In Suspected Militant Attack On Indonesia Church

    4 Children Injured In Suspected Militant Attack On Indonesia Church

    Indonesian authorities on Sunday arrested a suspected militant who threw an explosive device at a church in the eastern island of Borneo and injured four children.

    Police in East Kalimantan province said the attacker had been imprisoned on terrorism charges in the past.

    “A suspected low-impact bomb was thrown…Four children were injured and four motorcycles were damaged,” East Kalimantan police spokesman Fajar Setiawan said, adding police were looking into links with radical networks.

    The attack took place at 10am in the parking lot of Oikumene church in the town of Samarinda.

    Indonesia has seen a string of Islamic State-linked attacks this year, the biggest of which was a gun and bomb assault in the capital Jakarta that killed four people.

    Authorities are concerned about a resurgence in radicalism and say there are hundreds of Islamic State sympathizers in the world’s biggest Muslim-majority nation.

    President Joko Widodo said he had ordered an investigation into the attack.

    “I have ordered the police chief to take firm action and thoroughly investigate the perpetrator,” Widodo said in a statement.

     

    Source:  www.reuters.com