A Chinese funeral and Malay wedding were seen co-existing in the same shared space within the vicinity of Blk 256 Pasir Ris. According to the Jan. 14 post by Maidin Packer, the guests at the wedding stood still to pay their respects as the procession moved along on foot.
Some members of the funeral procession reciprocated by nodding to acknowledge the guests.
The next time you need a real-life example of how far Singapore has come, remember that this is the Singapore you know but don’t read about very often in your textbooks.
Recently, a young Malay woman Xiaoxiao Budaqqkecik posted a comment and uploaded a video of a Chinese funeral that lasted for several days at her void deck.
She also brought in example of how Malay void deck weddings would not be easily tolerated due to the noise, and questioned how this could easily escalate into hate comments and complaints from residents who would call the police. To know more about Xiaoxiao Budaqqkecik comments, click here.
Several Chinese Singaporeans have also expressed their views on the video. Here are their comments:
Some chinese won’t agree with this doe .. but all I’m saying is you respect my culture and I’ll respect yours. Malay wedding is not the same place every week. And we only do on the weekend. Same as chinese but they weekdays also have yet we don’t complain much. It’s just that we really want to get along and respect each other culture. Not comparing but this is the fact that is happening in singapore you guys always complain but when one malay speak up, you just can’t seems to agree. Like that then very hard lorr. – Authored by Xiaoxiao Budaqqkecik
Every culture has its own quirky display of happiness and sadness. Certain occasions, we can be loud and flamboyant; at times we embrace it quietly. And that’s what makes us uniquely Singaporeans. Singaporeans have high tolerance towards many things. We earned it!
Let’s face it guys, we live in HDB. We share common spaces, and that’s the great thing about living so close to one another. We learn to accept each other’s erratic behaviour and admittedly we grow fond of it. When it comes to sharing, we must give and take.
Let’s not bicker on the issue of tolerance and question our steel hard social cohesion.
Our parents have done it peacefully, why can’t we? Think about it.
Not trying to be racist or rude here but what if this were to be a malay wedding?
Confirm people will complain till the police come. I won’t talk about how bright was the light and people talking loudly last night and the other night.
But hey, what if that was our “rewang”? Confirm you guys complain and police will come also. This is noisy but I don’t mind at all, I don’t mind since early in this morning till now about this noise.
I don’t mind my son afternoon nap is being disturb. I don’t mind about my health problem due to this noise. Cause I respect your culture. Even if this noise will end for few days.
But just imagine if this were to be a malay wedding …. I believe there will be alot of complaining. I’m gonna keep this and last night video in case on my wedding day there will be complains.
All I asking is for everyone to respect each other culture and stop complaining!
If I can respect yours why can’t you??
Authored by Xiaoxiao Budaqqkecik
EDITOR’S NOTE
This is the reality living in HDB.
The principles of coexistence and tolerance are important as bases for building mutually acceptable relationships between highly diverse communities within a larger society.
Singapore is a multi-racial and multi-religious society. Different racial and religious groups have their own beliefs and practices, understanding one and another can build networks of trust across different communities. Being mindful when speaking can also avoid clashes – a careless comment may ignite an argument which may in turn snowball into bigger-scale disputes.
We would think that the strong bonds and trust between people was the key.
