Tag: Islam

  • Woman Told Off Man For Physically Abusing Tudung-Clad Wife But Victim Played Down Incident

    Woman Told Off Man For Physically Abusing Tudung-Clad Wife But Victim Played Down Incident

    I will tell you why the Asian mentality is extremely hopeless sometimes.

    Boarding on a Malindo Airlines flight from BKI to KUL on OD1003.

    This man on the right repeatedly slapped the lady in tudung on her head a few times over – I heard about 3 smacks and turn around to see his hand moving towards her head again. It was a loud smack that we all could hear and shocked me enough to turn around. Lady was crying as they walked to board the plane.

    Many others including myself saw it and no one seems to care or was too busy staring at their phones to notice! There’s these two big burly looking men walking right behind the couple and myself and I am positively sure they saw it too.

    When I told him off and raised my voice – the two men told me to hush and not to create trouble. They then pat the man in red on the back and told him to just calm down, bincang nanti and looked over to the girl and said Sudah, Sudah. Girl looked at me and told me “no no it’s ok. Sudah biasa takpe masalah sahaja”

    They then also turned around and told me that people have troubles and don’t worry about it. They also asked if I really did see it?

    And also here we are in an airport about to board the plane – you would think that security and staffs are constantly alert and observant.

    No one else said a thing. No one.

    How have we as a society – and unfortunately I see this much more in an Asian society, turn a blind eye even when something that is obviously wrong happening right in front of you?

    All these bunch of people standing around us – I am so sad and disappointed to be living amongst you. I am so sad that we let a man hit a woman in public and let him get away with it. I am sad that when confronted this woman who was hit, think it’s ok for her partner(which I am assuming he is) to treat her like that in public. I am annoyed that Malindo staff standing right at the door of the plane said nothing and allow this man to board the flight.

    For every time that you say nothing, do nothing and not speak up when someone use aggression onto you or another person – you are silently encouraging and applauding this person’s action.

    Violence against women is never right. Violence against men is also never right. Violence against anything will never be right.

    It is an even bigger problem when you as a victim choose to brush this off and let your aggressor get away with their actions. I am extremely sad because it clearly shows our education and society has failed to create a safe environment for victims to feel safe if they are attacked. I am sad because our education system (if there is any…) has failed to raise strong independent women. We have failed to raise men to have respect.

    There is nothing right about this situation at all.

     

    Source: Bea Meow

  • In The Aftermath Of Pinkdot And Wear White

    In The Aftermath Of Pinkdot And Wear White

    To many, Pink Dot SG is probably the figurehead of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) rights agenda in Singapore. It is, to some extent, the local equivalent of Gay Pride.
    Pink Dot has been held at the Speakers Corner at Hong Lim Park since 2009. But only this year has Pink Dot faced significant opposition, particularly from a campaign known as Wear White.
    Why is this so?
    Why Pink Dot 2014 has faced greater opposition
    The reasons why Pink Dot 2014 has faced greater opposition have been concisely summed up in the following statement on the Wear White website:
    The movement’s genesis was from our observations of the growing normalization of LGBT in Singapore. However, we recognize the conduct and it’s support among Muslims is due to the lack of understanding and connection with Islam and our fitrah. We thus came together initially with the expressed purpose of reminding Muslims not to participate in the LGBT event on 28th June.
    The first reason lies in the growing efforts to normalise LGBT lifestyles in Singapore, together with efforts to sanction certain forms of disapproval. Although controversies have arisen over the years, such as the debate in Parliament over section 377A of the Penal Code in 2007, and the AWARE (Association of Women for Action and Research) saga in 2009, several events have intensified the debate in 2014. Early this year, the Health Promotion Board (HPB) stirred controversy in its FAQs on Sexuality by claiming that “[a] same-sex relationship is not too [different] from a heterosexual relationship”. In the debate that ensued, complaints were lodged against National University of Singapore (NUS) Professor Dr Syed Muhd Khairudin Aljunied for describing “alternative modes of sexual orientation” as “wayward”, and as “cancers” and “social diseases” to be “cleansed”. According to NUS, he acknowledged “poor judgment in the tone and choice of words” after he was counselled by the university.
    The second reason is the preservation of religious identity. While the debate has often been portrayed as one between religious conservatives and secular liberals, the video promoting Pink Dot 2014 explicitly threw religion in the mix by featuring a hijab-wearing Malay-Muslim woman and an individual wearing a crucifix. A number of Muslims took offence at this. Among the responses included an open letter titled, “A letter to Muslimah Sister Regarding her Support for PinkDotSG2014“. The Singapore Islamic Scholars and Religious Teachers Association (PERGAS), Fellowship of Muslim Students Association (FMSA), and Masjid Ugama Islam Singapura (MUIS) have since drawn a line in the sand, whether directly or indirectly. Likewise, the Catholic Church and the National Council of Churches in Singapore have made statements calling upon Christians not to support Pink Dot.
    What is at stake here
    At stake in the LGBT debate are competing notions of human dignity, sexuality and the family. Although both sides of the debate hold unequivocally that human beings are rights-bearing individuals, there are marked differences in their appreciation of human nature.
    On one view, marriage – the comprehensive, exclusive and permanent union based on the sexual complementarity of a man and a woman, which is intrinsically ordered to produce new life – is a personal and social good. It fulfils and enriches human personality, and provides the foundation for procreation, family and society. Human dignity is attained by taming desire and directing it according to reason. Therefore, there are both substantive and procedural norms governing sexual expression.
    On the other view, an essential aspect of human dignity is that of self-actualisation or self-realisation, part of which is sexual expression. Reason is instrumental to desire, and the only norm governing sexual expression is consent. Marriage and family, then, are emotional unions based on commitment.
    These two competing conceptions strike at the heart of society and cannot simply be relegated to one of mere opinion or preference. At the moment, the former view is the dominant one in society. Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong said in 2007:
    Singapore is basically a conservative society.  The family is the basic building block of our society.  It has been so and, by policy, we have reinforced this and we want to keep it so.  And by “family” in Singapore, we mean one man one woman, marrying, having children and bringing up children within that framework of a stable family unit.
    Recent surveys conducted by the Institute of Policy Studies have shown that Singapore continues to remain conservative.
    Given that “[the] family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society”, as affirmed by the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, there will be significant impact on society, whether society adopts one view or the other.
    In fact, the Singapore Government has recognised the social benefits and costs when family is affected. The Shared Values White Paper (Cmd. 1 of 1991) writes:
    12. The sanctity of the family unit is not a value unique to Singapore. All major faiths consider this a cardinal virtue. The family is the fundamental building block out of which larger social structures can be stably constructed. It is the group within which human beings most naturally express their love for parents, spouse and children, and find happiness and fulfilment. It is the best way human societies have found to provide children a secure and nurturing environment in which to grow up, to pass on the society’s store of wisdom and experience from generation to generation, and to look after the needs of the elderly.
    13. In recent decades many developed countries have witnessed a trend towards heavier reliance on the state to take care of the aged, and more permissive social mores, such as increasing acceptance of “alternative lifestyles”, casual sexual relationships and single parenthood. The result has been to weaken the family unit. Singapore should not follow these untested fashions uncritically.

    How the Government has contributed to the culture war

    The Government has repeatedly cautioned against “culture wars”. For example, then-Minister for Home Affairs Wong Kan Seng cautioned in 2009, “We must not import into Singa­pore the culture wars between the extreme liberals and conservatives that are going on in the US.”
    However, in 2014, the Government has itself fanned the flames of the culture war in Singapore by its own doing.
    The first was the controversy over the HPB FAQs on Sexuality, which both conservatives and liberals recognised as a significant shift in the Government’s stance. Gay Star News praised it as a “groundbreaking move”, while PERGAS and Faith Community Baptist Church (FCBC) senior pastor Lawrence Khong made similar observations, to great consternation. The Government’s defence of the FAQs that followed can only be described as weak and self-contradictory (see “Welcome to the Animal Farm: MOH’s response to HPB FAQs on Sexuality“).
    The second was the Government’s statements in response to the Wear White campaign. Minister-in-charge of Muslim Affairs Yaacob Ibrahim said that those who “express support for a cause or a choice of lifestyle should express it in a way that does not divide the community”. These statements were perceived as Government bias against conservatives, sentiments which were perhaps best expressed by Lam Jer-Gen in a letter to TODAY, “Expressions of pro-family support are not divisive” (25 June 2014):
    I disagree with Minister-in-charge of Muslim Affairs Yaacob Ibrahim’s views…
    Why should the Government allow groups, such as the one that organised the Pink Dot event, to promote alternative lifestyles, yet criticise pro-family groups and consider their expressions of support for a cause or a choice of lifestyle divisive?
    Once again, the Government’s response has been little more than a bare denial (see “Impressions of Government Bias in Culture Wars“).

     

    Conclusion: Where do we go from here?
    During the debates on section 377A of the Penal Code, Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong said:
    … I do not think it is wise to try to force the issue.  If you try and force the issue and settle the matter definitively, one way or the other, we are never going to reach an agreement within Singapore society.  People on both sides hold strong views.  People who are presently willing to live and let live will get polarised and no views will change, because many of the people who oppose it do so on very deeply held religious convictions, particularly the Christians and the Muslims and those who propose it on the other side, they also want this as a matter of deeply felt fundamental principles.  So, discussion and debate is not going to bring them closer together.  And instead of forging a consensus, we will divide and polarise our society.
    I should therefore say that as a matter of reality, the more the gay activists push this agenda, the stronger will be the push back from conservative forces in our society, as we are beginning to see already in this debate and over the last few weeks and months.  And the result will be counter productive because it is going to lead to less space for the gay community in Singapore.  So it is better to let the situation evolve gradually. [Emphasis added]
    As noted in a previous post, the least the Government can do is to level the playing field in a democratic society by guaranteeing equal rights of freedom of speech and freedom of conscience.

    There are two possible approaches to realise this:

    1. Ban all forms of lobbying. While this is a possible approach, this would raise serious questions about the state of democracy, freedom of speech and freedom of conscience in Singapore. It is not a preferable option.
    2. Permit lobbying by both sides. This is an approach which best comports with democratic principles though, in the Singapore context, the Government will most likely have to mark out the boundaries in such debates with clear and bright lines.
    Any effort perceived as being biased towards one side or the other is likely to provoke a backlash against the Government.
    At the rate things are going, it is foreseeable that both Pink Dot and Wear White will remain a part of the Singapore landscape for a long time.
    Source: http://ionsg.blogspot.sg
  • Walid Jumblatt Abdullah: Don’t Let Secular Fundamentalism Be The Norm

    Walid Jumblatt Abdullah: Don’t Let Secular Fundamentalism Be The Norm

    I refer to the letter “Efforts of Pink Dot ambassadors should be lauded, not condemned” (May 13). I take issue with the statement that “it is important to not let religious-driven emotions cloud our judgment when it comes to contentious issues such as this”.

    It is problematic for two reasons: It assumes all religious beliefs are based on “emotions” and are therefore irrational; and it promotes the idea that in our version of secularism, ideas based on religious or moral convictions should not enter the public discussion.

    Each one of us has a code of values that defines what is moral or not, and which can be based on religious or non-religious ideas. Neither is inherently more rational or emotional than the other; both sets of values must be open to scrutiny and critiques once they enter the public domain.

    Every citizen has a right to air his/her views as long as they do not violate any law. Religious-based views, as our Prime Minister has said, can be aired in the public domain and can contribute towards public discourse.

    To dismiss one set of values before it is properly discussed, and to disallow religious-based opinions from entering the public realm of ideas, sounds to me like secular fundamentalism, which is not the version of secularism Singapore practises.

    However, I agree with the letter writer that there is no room or need for attacks on the Pink Dot ambassadors’ personal character. One must discuss the issue itself and not attempt character assassinations of those championing a particular cause.

    At the same time, just as the ambassadors have a right to propagate their beliefs, others must be given the same right to critique their actions. Doing so based on reasoned arguments should not be equated with personal attacks, and is to be expected when entering the public domain.

    It must be noted that religion is dear to many people, as much as freedom and notions of liberalism are to others. Expecting religious people not to base their judgments on their beliefs is, unfortunately, fallacious.

    Discussions on notions of morality and what is acceptable will be here to stay and will probably intensify in the coming years.

    I hope all sides will remain civil in this discussion and that none will be discriminated against for whatever beliefs are held. All sides must also make it clear that attacks on one’s character should be avoided under any circumstances.

     

    Source: www.todayonline.com

  • Mohd Khair: Disrespectful Of Pink Dot To Feature Muslims As Ambassadors

    Mohd Khair: Disrespectful Of Pink Dot To Feature Muslims As Ambassadors

    As a Singaporean, I have friends, neighbours, colleagues, associates, clients and vendors who come from all walks of life, regardless of race, language or religion. And that’s typical of any Singaporean.

    We respect each other’s religious beliefs, social customs and ethnic practices.

    Non-Hindus know that the cow is a sacred being among our fellow Hindu Singaporeans. We respect that belief. We don’t poke fun on it. We don’t provoke by asking our Hindu friends to promote any activities that demean the sacred cow or that promote the consumption of cow. That’s NOT what we do as Singaporeans. We respect each other. We don’t make fun nor offend nor provoke each other’s cultural, ethnic or religious sentiments. Even if there are Hindus who consume beef, hypothetically speaking, we Singaporeans take that as an exception rather than the rule. If such Hindus were to do it, again hypothetically speaking, they could do it within their private spheres and we Singaporeans don’t generalise that Hindus now consume beef. That’s blasphemous.

    Likewise, non-Muslims know that our fellow Muslim Singaporeans do not consume pork. We respect that belief. We don’t poke fun on it. We don’t provoke by asking our Muslim friends to promote any activities that glorify pig or that promote the consumption of pork or that suggest that pork is halal. That’s NOT what we do as Singaporeans. We respect each other. We don’t make fun nor offend nor provoke each other’s cultural, ethnic or religious sentiments. Even if there are Muslims who consume pork, hypothetically speaking, we Singaporeans take that as an exception rather than the rule. If such Muslims were to do it, again hypothetically speaking, they could do it within their private spheres and we Singaporeans don’t generalise that Muslims now consume pork or that pork is now halal in Islam. That’s blasphemous.

    Likewise, the organisers of this year’s pinkdot event are well aware that the lgbt lifestyle option is not Islamic and is not accepted by Muslims in Singapore. And yet, as in previous years, they keep on featuring Muslims as if the lgbt lifestyle option is part of being Muslims. Featuring Muslims as ambassadors of pinkdot and advocating that such act is laudable are instead provocative and confrontational. They know and yet again disrespect the cultural, ethnic and religious sentiments of Muslims in Singapore. They know and yet again provoke.

    Isn’t that blatantly disrespectful?
    Isn’t that outrightly confrontational?
    Isn’t that very unSingaporean?

     

    Source: Mohd Khair In We are against Pinkdot in Singapore

  • Efforts Of Pink Dot Ambassadors Should Be Lauded, Not Condemned

    Efforts Of Pink Dot Ambassadors Should Be Lauded, Not Condemned

    I refer to the report “Varsity students to launch independent LGBT network” (May 8), in which the ambassadors for this year’s Pink Dot event were announced.

    Some activists and individuals from certain religious communities have since reacted harshly, to the extent of attacking the ambassadors’ personal character, calling them heretics and questioning their religious values.

    The outburst and name-calling are uncalled for. While religion plays a role in shaping the public’s opinion on morality issues, it should not be the only determinant.

    This is especially important in Singapore’s context of a secular and diverse society, where the views of all faiths and belief systems should be given fair consideration, even if some of these are in the minority.

    For comparison, a Muslim lawmaker in Australia, Mr Ed Husic, recently supported the legislation of same-sex marriages in the country, despite his religious convictions, because he understands the importance of the issue to the lives of some.

    The Pink Dot ambassadors speak on behalf of LGBT people and their families, transcending race, religion and social class. It is a brave effort that should be lauded, not condemned.

    It is important to not let religious-driven emotions cloud our judgment when it comes to contentious issues such as this. Otherwise, we will not be able to have discussions in a mature and civil manner.

     

    *This article was written by Hairol Salim and first appeared on Voices, Today, on 13 May 2015.

    Source: http://www.todayonline.com/

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