Tag: malay

  • Singapore Graduate Marries Malay Man In Secret Against Racist Mum’s Wishes

    Singapore Graduate Marries Malay Man In Secret Against Racist Mum’s Wishes

    I first got together with my Malay Muslim husband when I was 17 and I converted when I was 18. 2 weeks after I turned 21, we got married and have been happily married for the past 4 years. When I got married, I didn’t dare tell my racist mother as I was the only child. We also faced a lot of resistance from his mother because I wasn’t Malay. My mum only knew about my marriage after I graduated from university. I didn’t tell her not because I didn’t have the guts, but it was because I didn’t want her unkind words to poison my new marriage.

    She’s tolerating of my husband now, and she’s unable to make anymore snide remarks on seeing that I’m a thousand times happier living with him than I was with her. I went for the Islamic religious courses, do believe in Allah, but until today my mum has no idea that I converted. I don’t eat pork and I never found the Islamic laws to be much of a restriction to my daily life.

    I think when you’ve found the right guy to stick with you through thick and thin, nothing else matters. But choosing the right guy is really really important. Everything else is just secondary. Choosing my husband when I was 17 was the best decision of my life. I can’t imagine what my life would have turned out to be without him.

    Btw, he’s 12 years older than me, so I had lots of people judging us. People would ask, why you marry a Malay guy. And each time I faced their questions with a strong pride in my voice, “why not?” That usually shut them up. When we go out we overheard other people’s remarks like “got no Chinese guy to find meh?” But I never had to give them any fucks because I’m proud of my choice, and proud of my interracial marriage. Let the haters bitch as much as they want.

     

    Source: https://www.allsingaporestuff.com

  • Denying Husbands Sex Is Abuse: Malaysian MP

    Denying Husbands Sex Is Abuse: Malaysian MP

    A Malaysian lawmaker came under fire on Wednesday (Jul 26) for saying that women who deny their husbands sex were subjecting them to “psychological and emotional abuse”.

    Che Mohamad Zulkifly Jusoh, an MP from the ruling coalition, said during a parliamentary debate on domestic violence that husbands often suffer emotional attacks rather than physical abuse.

    “Even though men are said to be physically stronger than women, there are cases where wives hurt or abuse their husbands in an extreme manner,” said the lawmaker, an UMNO member.

    “Usually, it involves wives cursing their husbands – this is emotional abuse. They insult their husbands and refuse his sexual needs. All these are types of psychological and emotional abuse.”

    Marina Mahathir, a prominent women’s rights activist and daughter of former Prime Minister Mahathir Mohamed, said the lawmaker’s view was “based on ignorance”.

    “Women have a right to say no to sex – this is an old notion that when you marry a women you own her body,” she told AFP. “It does not work that way. It is ridiculous to say men are abused if women say no to sex.”

    The 58-year-old lawmaker, from the state of Terengganu also said that denying a Muslim man the chance to marry a second wife amounted to abuse.

    It is legal for Muslim men in Malaysia to have as many as four wives. But they must obtain permission from a shariah court to marry more than one.

    The MP made the comments on Tuesday during a debate on amendments to domestic violence legislation.

     

    Source:http://www.channelnewsasia.com

  • I Boyan Also Cannot Get Financial Assistance From Mendaki

    I Boyan Also Cannot Get Financial Assistance From Mendaki

    Never like Mendaki since last time. All my financial application was decline due to my race is Boyanese and not Malay. Bleargh! Still deduct my pay. Take my pay for free uh? Aku kerja bukan untuk kasi korang free free k.

    Dont comment and say ‘ sedekah dengan ikhlas” NO this is not sedekah this is mencuri!

    Whether i donate or not, its between me and ALLAH SWT. how much i donate its between me and HIM. There’s a no need for people to know or proud abt it.

     

    Source: Jiliah Jimahat

  • 6 Reasons Why Fandi Ahmad Should Not Run For Presidency

    6 Reasons Why Fandi Ahmad Should Not Run For Presidency

    Halimah Yacob, Salleh Marican and Farid Khan – three names that have not inspired confidence in their race to the Istana. Singaporeans are getting desperate to the point of encouraging presidential hopeful, Dr Tan Cheng Bock to become Malay. And then there’s Singapore’s favourite footballing son, Fandi Ahmad – a popular choice, even though we don’t see him qualifying as a candidate.

    Will Fandi make a good President?

    Here are 6 reasons why Fandi Ahmad should totally not become President:

    1. He is not educated. He was from a vocational school and has never graduated from a university like many of our very elite millionaire Ministers. Even though he became rich from playing football and his business interests, he is still not considered elite like our Ministers.

    2. Fandi doesn’t have the look of a President. He doesn’t have a back comb, and wear large glasses like our current President who is very Presidential and charming. When Tony Tan speaks, the room is quiet (because people fall asleep). Compare that to Fandi. Wherever he turns up, people make a lot of noise and mob him. How very un-presidential. Who would support Fandi?

    3. He is too handsome. The only President that was handsome was the late President Yusof Ishak. He will make all the men jealous. They will ban their wives from going to Istana open houses and National Day parades. We don’t want that too happen do we?

    4. Fandi is a sporting legend and national icon. How many sporting icons have served in public office? Sporting icons contribute back to the country through their grassroots work. Don’t meddle in the work of the elite leaders and the natural aristocrats of our land.

    5. For a prospective Malay President, he has too many friends from other races to be called truly Malay.

    6. Lastly, Fandi Ahmad is too humble. His humility is the stuff of legend, just like the man himself. Presidents cannot be too humble because they need to keep the political elites and natural aristocrats in check.

    There you have it, 6 reasons why abang Fandi shouldn’t run for Presidency. We totally don’t want a down-to-earth, humble, handsome and capable President who is Malay.

    Convinced yet?

     

    Rilek1Corner

     

    Disclaimer: We would totally vote abang Fandi if he runs for Presidency. Totally. We know Singaporeans would too. 

  • Lack Of Credible, Capable Candidates In Presidential Race A Worrying Sign

    Lack Of Credible, Capable Candidates In Presidential Race A Worrying Sign

    The Malay community in Singapore should stop bickering about the “Malayness” of the three potential candidates for September’s presidential election.

    What is of greater concern is that despite the election being reserved for Malay candidates, only two – Salleh Marican and Farid Khan – have stepped forward to announce their intentions to run. The third, Speaker of Parliament Halimah Yacob, has only hinted that she is looking to run for the nation’s highest office.

    The fact that only two individuals from the private sector have announced their intentions is indeed worrying for the Malay community. Could this be seen as the Malay community being incapable of producing enough potential leaders to serve our country?

    To be fair, the requirement for private-sector candidates to have been heads of companies with paid-up capitals of $500 million in shareholders’ equity on average over three years immediately disqualifies most Singaporeans, regardless of their race.

    This issue aside, I have been talking to community leaders to better understand if there really is a dearth in potential Malay leaders here. Most of them pointed out that there are successful individuals who are more than capable of performing the duties of a president.

    Names such as Shafie Shamsuddin, CEO of PT Trans Retail, which operates the Carrefour supermarket in Indonesia, and Bahren Shaari, CEO of the Bank of Singapore, were brought up. Former Members of Parliament such as Zainul Abidin Rasheed and Abdullah Tarmugi were also mentioned.

    To date, however, none of these individuals has stepped forward to announce an interest to contest the election.
     
    Community showing signs of progress

    But are they the only Malay candidates capable of competing in the election?

    The Malay community has made tremendous progress since independence. There are more Malays now holding important roles in the Singapore Armed Forces. We have successful Malay businessmen and scientists. The number of Malay graduates has been increasing throughout the years. We even have two full ministers in the Cabinet heading important ministries.

    But despite all these achievements, I think it is a shame that, thus far, only two members of the community have stepped forward to throw their hats into the ring.

    It is like looking for a top striker to play in our national football team. Despite all the efforts made, the team have been unable to find someone capable of filling Fandi Ahmad’s boots.

    I have heard of complaints from the community that Singapore should have a Malay president again.

    “It is time. I think a Malay president should be elected as it is a symbol of our community’s success throughout the years,” said a friend of mine a few years ago.

    She pointed out that it is only fair that a Malay is given a chance to head the republic, pointing out that since the country’s first president Yusof Ishak, there have been three Chinese, two Indians and an Eurasian holding the post.

    Then again, do we elect a candidate into the Istana just because he or she is Malay? Or are voters going to choose the best person for the job?

    Potential Malay leaders out there but…

    I recently had a discussion with a community leader on Malay leadership in Singapore. He pointed out that there are potential leaders out there who have been identified for future roles in shaping the country.

    However, he also noted that these people may be contented with their jobs and are therefore reluctant to step forward to serve the nation.

    “There are Malays out there who can (do the job as president) but they are unwilling to do so. They have their reasons. Privacy is one of them and you have to understand this is not any job. This is the presidency we are talking about,” he said.

    Another veteran community leader whom I met said that the times have changed and that the younger generation of Malays are driven more by personal success in the private sector. Hence, there is a lack of interest in community service or public service at the highest levels among them, he added.

    “Do you think that they have time to give back to the community? I don’t think so!” he said.

    He has a point. Personally, I have friends who have successful careers in the private sector and are unwilling to give back to the community.

    “I contribute to Mendaki every month. That should be enough,” is the common answer I get whenever I ask them about serving the community.

     

    Source: https://sg.news.yahoo.com