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  • When Must We Be Tolerant And When Are We Asking Too Much?

    When Must We Be Tolerant And When Are We Asking Too Much?

    My friend related a story to me over the weekend…

    His company employed a Muslim worker for the first time since the company started. The staff did well and got along well with the rest of the employees. Not long later, my friend employed another 3 more Muslim workers.

    This is when things gets a bit complicated. The Muslim workers started asking for a prayer room and also longer lunch break on Fridays for them to attend Mosque. Not wanting to appear discriminating against them, my friend agreed and informed the team leader to re-distribute the workload on Friday so that the Muslims could go for prayer. The rest of the team members were then asked to double up. This cause a bit of morale problem within the company as others are unhappy because all are paid the same salary. Over time, the productivity of the team was noted to have gone down due to longer absence from duty.

    The office also has a pantry where workers could use during their lunch break. This time, the Muslim workers asked if they could have their own fridge and microwave oven since the old one had been used for non-Halal food. Again, being religion sensitive, my friend agreed and bought new items for the pantry.

    A year later, my friend noticed that there is clearly a separation in the company. There are different utensils and also washing items for Muslims.

    At one point of time, the Muslims workers even asked if they could have a separate pantry which by now, my friend openly rejected the idea.

    The workers explained that they felt their religion was not respected by others as they were using the common table cloth to clean the table after eating pork and the taps were oily (presumably lard) when they were using it. They asked if the management could stop other workers from bringing in pork/lard into the pantry and they are okay with other non-Halal food.

    Now my friend is in a dilemma. While he respect the Muslim’s religious obligation, he does not want to impose other’s religious restriction and deprived other of their rights. He is wondering where should he stop?

    Gordon Tay

    *Article first appeared on https://www.facebook.com/gordon.tay.75/posts/972387889460449

     

    Editor’s Note: 

    Let’s refrain from making insulting comments on this issue. It is a real issue, which also applies to other religious customs and cultural customs too. Where do we draw the line between tolerance and over-demanding? It is important to be able to have open, logical discussions about such issues.

     

    Source: www.therealsingapore.com

  • Outrage As Filipino Eats Hotdog At Halal Arnold’s

    Outrage As Filipino Eats Hotdog At Halal Arnold’s

    A netizen, DjNiqzam DjNiqzam complained on facebook that he came across a Philipino lady eating her own hotdog at the Halal Arnold’s restaurant in Yishun on Saturday.

    The netizen had taken a photo of the woman eating there and shared it on the Arnold’s at Yishun Facebook page.

    He explained that the manager at the store, who was also a Philipino, did not do anything about the woman eating on the Arnolds plate.

    Understandably, netizens were not impressed. His post received close to 100 shares in half a day and many commented that this was not acceptable:

     DJNiqzam later also explained in further detail what the manager on duty did:

    “What i can say here is that, the philipino manager did not do a proper job in handling this matter cos he himself a Philipino and is Not a Muslim. He cant feel what we Muslims feel and futhermore this thing happen in a Halal restaurant! What he did is that, he took an oil strainer paper and pass it to the lady to place the hotdog on it since it cannot be place on the plate! WHAT??!! When i raised my voice towards them then they packed the hotdog back into their bag! My 2nd comment asking for some to share my post as to create awareness to others to show abit of respect towards Halal restaurant. What should not be done! Some may know and some may not.”

    Netizens commenting on the thread said that it is important to highlight issues such as this so that people know the rules and needs for Halal restaurants. However at least one person also noted that we shouldn’t be jumping to conclusions as it could actually be a halal hotdog:

      

    In response to the doubt about the meat used in the hotdog, DJNizqam said that it was still a concern:

    In fact, it seems he is right as according to the MUIS Halal certification terms and conditions at s2.1, doubtful food items cannot be brought onto a Halal food premise at all:

    2.1 Doubtful and non halal products/raw materials must not be stored, used, sold or brought into the presmises applied for certification.

    What is still worrying is the way that the Arnold’s Manager handled the situation when they are also unlikely to know the meat used in the hotdog. Should managers in Halal certified eateries be better trained to know how to handle such situations?

     

    Source: www.therealsingapore.com

  • Masjid Al-Ansar Tersergam Indah Semula

    Masjid Al-Ansar Tersergam Indah Semula

    Penantian penduduk Bedok untuk menunaikan solat di dalam Masjid Al-Ansar baru berakhir hari ini dengan perasmian oleh Menteri Bertanggungjawab bagi Ehwal Masyarakat Islam, Dr Yaacob Ibrahim.

    Setelah hampir tiga tahun, masjid itu akhirnya dibuka kepada orang ramai sempena solat Jumaat hari ini.

    Masjid gah yang terletak di tapak bangunan lama di simpang antara Bedok North Avenue 1 dengan Chai Chee Street itu menjalani kerja pembinaan semula sejak September 2012.

    Keseluruhan bangunan masjid lama kecuali menara dirobohkan agar masjid serba baru dapat dibangunkan.

    Masjid itu pada mulanya dijangka siap dalam suku keempat tahun lalu namun ditangguhkan ke awal tahun ini disebabkan kerja meluaskan ruang besmen masjid untuk memuatkan lebih banyak kenderaan.

    Kos pembinaan masjid juga bertambah daripada $12.3 juta yang dijangka kepada $15.92 juta.

    Antara peningkatan yang dijalankan ke atas Masjid Al-Ansar termasuk peluasan ruang solat. Ia kini boleh menampung sehingga 4,500 jemaah berbanding 3,500 jemaah sebelum ini.

    Masjid itu turut dilengkapi kemudahan buat warga emas dan golongan kurang upaya seperti lif dan tanjakan.

    Bangunan sementara Masjid Al-Ansar, yang terletak di 161A Bedok North Avenue 1, mungkin dirobohkan bulan depan.

     

    Source: http://beritaharian.sg

  • More Muslim Marriages Ending Before Five Years

    More Muslim Marriages Ending Before Five Years

    People married for five to nine years made up the largest group of divorcing couples in Singapore in the past two decades.

    But Muslim couples are bucking this trend and splitting up earlier. In the 2003 marriage cohort, for example, 14 per cent of Muslim marriages dissolved before the fifth anniversary, compared with 10.5 per cent who did so between the fifth and ninth year. This trend can be seen from the 1999 cohort onwards.

    For non-Muslim marriages in 2003, 9.2 per cent of couples broke up between the fifth and ninth year, while 5.1 per cent did so before the fifth anniversary.

    Those who work with divorcing Muslim couples say the trend could reflect how a greater proportion of Muslims marry young or remarry than non-Muslims.

    In 2013, 1.2 per cent of Muslim grooms and 5.2 per cent of brides were below 21 years old. For non- Muslims, these were 0.4 per cent and 1.6 per cent respectively.

    It is similar for remarriages. While remarriage is on the rise among Singaporeans in general, it is particularly common among Muslims. About a third of the community’s weddings in 2013, or 30.3 per cent, involved at least one partner who was not tying the knot for the first time.

    This compares with a quarter of such marriages, or 23.7 per cent, among civil marriages, according to the Women’s Charter.

    Family lawyer Abdul Rahman said most of the Muslim couples in divorce cases he handled got married by 23 years old.

    “Their marriages face greater risk of breaking down earlier because they are ill-prepared financially and emotionally.”

    An earlier government report also showed that break-ups are more common in remarriages.

    Said Madam Azita Abdul Aziz, director of social services at welfare group PPIS: “Such couplings tend to be more vulnerable because couples bring baggage from previous marriages and there may be comparisons with their former spouse and disagreements over parenting of stepchildren.”

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

     

  • 10 F*****-Up Trends Of Modern Malay Weddings

    10 F*****-Up Trends Of Modern Malay Weddings

    I am sure, like for  f sure, some people cringe at my posts in facebook or even twitter. F it. I find it exciting at the rate of  transformation to the malay cultures  (I have no locus standi to say about other cultures non?) especially post Pinterest, Oncewed, Tumblr, Etsy (hereafter shall be refereed as POTE syndrome) . Major transformation can be seen in marriage customs i.e basic requirements to a proper wedding ala hipster. To make my life easier and your reading more enjoyable, let me put my observations in tabulated form, I shall call it 10 fucked-up trends in modern malay weddings.

    1. Pre-engagement and Post-engagement This consists of (1) selection of bridemaids and bestma(e)n which I don’t f understand till today, an engagement in malay culture is called bertandang/merisik, a very small ceremony between families, why do you need 7 twins sisters and brothers to sit next to you?  (2) pre-engagement, katanya to immortalize the moment, probably the state of masih virgin lah tu. Usually taken place in Palace of Justice, don’t forget the awkward handsignage “Hitched” “soon to fuck halal way” so sweet like nutella.  (3) ceremony – normal style (4)  post-engagement photoshoot [refer to point 2]
    2. Bachelorette party/Bridal shower – malay men for some good reason are not affected with POTE syndrome, its more to meleis ladies.  Apparently once must celebrate pre f-halal-way before a wedding, the rich kids would throw  it at  Flora Terrace, Sekeping or the tres chic once would have it in Harrods KLCC, superficially sipping dajeeling tea while savouring scones and biscuits (whilst calculating the bills that about to be divided amongst themselves) . Don’t forget make it a theme party, pay RM 500 (go dutch) and make it a party ala Chanel. Black & White, CC symbol printed on A3 papers as table mats, get free samples vials, products, condoms throw it in a chanel like paper bag, and  called it survival kit for brides. The climax of the party, Novelty Cake katanya, selections of black, Asian, arab, Caucasian penises erected as a centerpiece.  Snap a photo, Instagram it,  caption, Wild night for ladies! Sad she is getting married in 2 weeks time! tag : #(hername)gothitched #sistersforlife.
    3.  Bridemaids & bestmen – First of all, no malay wedding requires 14 oompaloompa sitting next to the brides or grooms at any time. Well even if you must do it, make it tasteful, to drop the idea.  (p/s at least if you want to oompaloompa-ed your bestfriends, please pay for the clothes, people have commitments too, not just to POTE weddings.
    4.  RSVP cards – This is the failure part, RSVP card or respondez-sil-vous-plait is actually a courtesy card to tell the bride/groom that I am attending your ceremony/reception, usually for small wedding, or reception that are booked  per head bases, well who wants to pay for people who don’t attend right? So you would have this card to reconfirm your attendance. Well it is ridiculous to have it in malay wedding that are held in Flat Pekeliling/Khemah depan rumah jiran tetangga kan? Or in simple language, buffet reception. When I get these kind of cards, I die a little inside, blame it on Pinterest.
    5. Candybar & Guestbook – It looks awesome, if you have a barn theme wedding, and you have a controled amount of crowd, if your wedding is as per point (4), congrats mate, you are just stupid, especially if your candies are selection of candies from Giant, the RM1.00 per packet ones. Pack it in doorgift bag. As to  the guestbook, I once attended a wedding where they had this table before the entrance door and all guests must right something, and imagine the Pak Cik and Mak Cik from Meru with WTF-look not knowing what to write in the book, ended up writting bismillah, and sign.
    6. Photobooth – This is the best. Apparently it’s a must, to make your wedding more modern and chic to have a photobooth. It look even more ridiculous when your reception is not in Dewan Felda, but small dewan, like Dewan Section  19 Shah Alam. No proper lighting, must be a atrocious view. Don’t forget the hand sign “I’m next” “Hitched” “Fucked” “I’m gay” “Virgin mary” “Kak Odah dara” .  A big signage at the entrance “sudi tag kami di #TukiminWedsEton” ridiculous.
    7. Post-wedding Photograph – Refer to Point (1). Ridiciculous. Thank god,  they don’t have post Halal-fuck photoshoot. I would die.
    8. Baby Shower – Babe, what you need is a proper doa selamat, call tok imam, have a prayer. Not a baby shower, eat chocolate cake from diapers, wrap the preggie with tissue rolls game. Things get even more ridiculous here.
    9. Baby 1st Photshoot – Chunk your baby in your best bag, (Cik Ta had her’s in her Birkin, probably at your level, Longchamp/ faux Chanel bag would be the options),  take photo, official photos please, edit it, post it on Instagram and suddenly you are a power couple, now you are known in abbreviation emblem like, TE for Tukimin Eton, and your baby gets one too, like baby WL, baby KK, baby B.
    10.  1st year anniversary – Throw a big party, and since you survive your 1st year, automatically you have to license to throw a show ala Oprah to give wedding advice, katanya when 1st I saw him in “usually hipster places, like Wedvrtsjfday”, I know our relation ship will last till Jannah #Tilljannah. begitu…

    Jazakallah Sisters.

    (Pardon me if there is typo errors or gramaticall errors, I just don’t give a F, its not like its a PHD Dissertation))

    Please comment, nicely.

     

    Source: http://rizalyaakub.blogspot.sg