Tag: parenting

  • KL Abam Lashes Out At Malaysians Who Don’t Know How To Care For Their Children

    KL Abam Lashes Out At Malaysians Who Don’t Know How To Care For Their Children

    And so the story has turned out that the fire that broke out at the tahfiz school, killing students and wardens, is now highly likely due to arson, by boys aged between 12 and 18 who are now in police custody. Allegedly because the boys from the tahfiz school chided them for taking drugs – syabu to be specific. And at the time of arrest, they have all been tested positive of the said substance. (added: or ganja) These boys went and stole gas tanks, filled containers with petrol, blocked the exit door with a mattress, set the gas tanks alight and ran off.

    A 12 year old. 12. A boy who’s supposed to have sat for UPSR but instead got himself involved in killing 20+ men and children. A 12 year old. Friends, this is the sad, sad reality. The disparity in lifestyle and education is still very wide, even in the heart of our capital. While kids on Jalan Ampang go to private schools, monitored closely by their parents, some kids a few hundred meters away in Keramat are high on drugs, with their parents either totally oblivious or not giving a fuck about their children’s whereabouts or activities. Yes, I say fuck. Because I’m angry. With the kids. But more so with their parents.

    If you think you’ll suck at raising children, if you think you don’t know what’s best for your children, then don’t have children. Because of your negligence, your lack of guidance, your nonchalant “ah biar lah diorang” attitude, other parents have lost theirs. But when your own children roam the streets at 3am in the morning, riding their bicycles recklessly in groups, in the middle of the road, and get mowed down by a motorist, you cry murder. No. They didn’t die because they got mowed down, they died because you let them loose at 3am to get mowed down.

    And fuck the rest of you who are against the death penalty for drug dealers. If they have zero, absolutely ZERO conscience when it comes to selling drugs to a 12 year old, then they deserve to die. You don’t even want to guide your children, and yet you expect them to become successful and support you when you’re old? Fucking wake up. You don’t deserve it. You created these monsters. Bila lah orang kita ni nak sedar. Sedih dok pikir. Sampai bila nak macam ni. Kalau tak nak jaga anak, jangan gatai nak beranak.

     

    Source: JN

  • Jangan Bermimpi Nak Bergelar Ibu Bapa Kalau Tiada Tahap Kesabaran Yang Tinggi

    Bagi yang mengenali aku, pasti mereka mengetahui yang aku merupakan seorang yang begitu baran dan tinggi egonya. Bukan mudah untuk aku bersabar dengan orang-orang yang menyakiti aku. Tetapi wahai rakan-rakanku, ajaibnya, aku mampu bersabar dengan bayi yang meraung dan kanak-kanak yang begitu nakal dan degil sekali.

    Sehingga ke hari ini, tidak pernah walau sekali aku meninggikan suara apatah lagi memukul anak-anak buah aku atau kanak-kanak lainnya. Aku yakin ini adalah anugerah Allah kepada aku. Apabila kanak-kanak ini bertindak nakal, aku akan menegur mereka dengan tegas dan diselangi dengan gurauan.

    Apakah salah kanak-kanak yang tidak berdosa ini? Mengapa begitu mudah kita menyakiti mereka? Tidakkah kita ketahui bahawa kanak-kanak itu adalah realiti kita sewaktu kecil? Pernahkan anda disakiti sewaktu kecil? Sekiranya tidak, maka mengapakah anda menyakiti kanak-kanak tersebut? Sekiranya anda pernah disakiti sewaktu kecil, mengapakah anda melampiaskan dendam itu terhadap kanak-kanak yang tidak berdosa ini?.

     

    Wahai para ibu dan bapa, sekiranya anda tidak mempunyai ketahanan sabar yang tinggi, janganlah sesekali anda mengimpikan untuk mempunyai anak! Mungkin pada awalnya anda hanya akan berimaginasi betapa indahnya mempunyai anak tetapi selepas anda mempunyainya, barulah anda tahu ujian Allah yang sebenar. Bersabarlah dengan kanak-kanak! Mereka langsung tidak berdosa!.

    Sekiranya kanak-kanak itu begitu nakal dan tidak menghormati orang lain, adakah anda akan menyalahkan mereka atau anda akan menyalah diri anda sendiri?! Bagaimanakah didikan anda terhadap mereka? Bukankah ibu dan bapa itulah yang mencorakkan kehidupan anak mereka? Kutuk dan marahlah diri anda dahulu sebelum memarahi mereka.

    Wahai rakyat jelata, adakah kita hanya akan terus menerus mendiamkan diri dengan segala perlakuan binantang terhadap kanak-kanak? Jenayah yang membabitkan kanak-kanak termasuklah penderaan bayi dan serangan seksual atau pedophile. Apa yang menggerikan lagi, jenayah ini semakin meluas! Ianya benar-benar menakutkan!.

    Adakah kita hanya melepaskan tanggungjawab ini kepada pihak berkuasa atau kita bersatu dan berganding bahu bekerjasama dengan mereka?!. Ayuhlah bertindak, jangan hancurkan masa depan kanak-kanak ini.

    Baran aku tiada tandingan tetapi kesabaran aku terhadap kanak-kanak tiada batasan! Lelaki sejati tidak akan pernah menyakiti kanak-kanak apatah lagi menodai mereka!. Saya ada sediakan pamplet tentang ini untuk anda sekiranya anda berminat untuk edit, print serta sebarkan kepada masyarakat. anda boleh berikan email kepada saya.

     

     

    Source: OhMyMedia

  • Parenting Begins With The Light Of Rasulullah

    Parenting Begins With The Light Of Rasulullah

    Salam Zulhijjah, everyone!

    May Allah shower His blessings and love in this blessed month and help us in obedience. AMin.

    MashaALLAH.

    It was a speechless experience learning with a mashaAllah Hubabah Umm Islam from Tarim, Yemen.

    Nothing is happiness, except be with people who reminds us of Akhirah, of Rasulullah, and of Jannah.

    Allow me to summarise a little of what we learnt, inshaAllah.

    May this little benefit.

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    Women & Parenting

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    1.Parenting begins before marriage – so choose your spouse carefully.

    2.Parenting begins during the intercourse – so always remember to recite the du’a: “”I am having relations in the name of Allah. O Allah save us from Satan and keep him away from the children You grant us”. The child that is born after the recitation of this dua will never be harmed by Satan.
    (Bukhari, Muslim)

    3.Parenting begins at home – if you want the light of Rasulullah to enter your home, so take care of these 3:

    • TAHAJJUD = Wake them up, and let them play during tahajjud.
    • AZAN = Protect azan by be silent, and  reply the azan with an intention for Allah.
    • AURAH= If wewant to see and dream of Rasulullah, take care of our aurah even at home.

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    4.Parenting begins with Lafaz Jalalah – the word ALLAH.

    • Teach them to recite Surah Al-Ikhlas 10 times every day, because Allah will build a house for you in Jannah.
    • Teach them to recite “Subhanaallah Wabihamdih Subhanallahil Azimi Wabihamdih, because Allah will build a garden for you in Jannah.

    5. Parenting must be with a SMILE & SOFTNESS.

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    Women & Fitnah

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    How to live life in this zaman of fitnah?

    1. Prepare for death every day – so take care of solah on time and be in khusyu’.
    2. Zikir Allah in the breath every day – do not zikir dunya, because dunya is just like the wing of an insect.
    3. Do good always – to Muslims and non-Muslims. Never help people for soem ulterior motives. Do it for Islam.
    4. Take care of time – In a hadith Qudsi, Rasulullah said, Allah said “There is 24 hours in a day. 20 hours I give it to you, 4 hours, make thime for me.” So, make our zikir more than our words.
    5. Depend our hearts only to Allah – Becasue Allah is wth those hearts who are broken.
    6. Take care of our 5 prayers, because those do not pray has destroys his religion.
    7. Take care of the Quran – All good, all cure, all Rizq, comes from the Quran. So recite Surah Yasin, Surah Waqiah, Surah Mulk, Surah Kaf, Surah Maryam, and all other Surahs in the Quran.

    And Hubabah gave wasiah to recite these inshaAllah:

    • Istighfar 70 times per day
    • Selawat 1000times in the day, 1000 times at night.
    • Ya Latif 1000 times per day

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    Women & Modesty

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    • What is real modesty?

    It is to let go of embarrassment – have real tawakkal and leave everything to Allah.

    • How to take care of modesty?
    1. Take care of Allah’s right openly and secretly.
    2. Take care of her religion – Always have this in mind “Allah is watching you”
    3. Take care of education  – When you teach a man, you teach a man. But when you teach a woman, you teach a generation.
    • How to teach a woman?

    1.Teach them women’s fiqh – They MUST know their menses, haidh, nifas, istihadhah, bath, and others.

    2. Take care of our communication with men.

    – Do not laugh loudly in public.

    -Do not be alone with man of non-mahram.

    -Do not talk too much.

    3. Take care of clothing.

    4. Have respect towards parents and the elderly.

    5. Live the lost Sunnah

    MashaAllah.

    This is the little that I can share.

    But inshaAllah, if there is more I will update in this blog biiznillah.

    Maas Salamah.

     

    Source: https://suaidahsalimblog.wordpress.com