Tag: Pink Dot

  • Counsellor: Distinguish Between Helping Gays And Supporting An Agenda

    Counsellor: Distinguish Between Helping Gays And Supporting An Agenda

    Some people, including some university student groups, have assumed that the solution to help youth with same-sex attraction is to push for the cause of affirming their alternative sexual identity at all costs.

    These groups include The G Spot (Yale-National University of Singapore College), tFreedom (Tembusu College, NUS), Gender Collective (University Scholars Programme, NUS), Kaleidoscope (an independent Nanyang Technological University group) and Out To Care (Singapore Management University).

    Yale-NUS College also organised an Ally Week in March to support the ideology that alternative sexual identities must be affirmed.

    As a counsellor with more than a decade of experience helping youth with same-sex attraction, I urge caution against such an assumption.

    Even in countries where same-sex marriage laws have been passed – for example, in Denmark – the quality of life of homosexual individuals has not improved.

    Rather, married homosexuals have been found to die at an age about 20 years younger than their heterosexual counterparts.

    This statistically significant difference cannot be ignored by anyone who truly cares for homosexuals.

    It makes all sense to ask: Why do homosexuals affirmed in their alternative sexual identities, and even those who are married, not enjoy the same quality of life as their heterosexual counterparts?

    This should eventually lead us back to question the starting assumption: Does helping an individual with same-sex attraction equate to pushing for the same-sex marriage agenda or affirming his alternative sexual identity at all costs?

    Many of my friends with same-sex attraction live healthier, more fulfilling lives today not because they have been affirmed of an alternative sexual identity, but because of loving support rendered that enabled them to work on their social-emotional difficulties and to accept themselves.

    Their specific sexual dispositions should play little role in their identity.

    They are not pushing the same-sex marriage agenda.

    This is especially important for society to understand, so that we do not confuse the goal of loving homosexuals with an agenda to change the moral laws of society.

    We should love homosexuals and ensure they are not bullied or discriminated against.

    But to link this to a need to push the same-sex marriage agenda would be a wrong conclusion.

    It is, hence, of grave concern to see the developments in our student campuses.

    Expertise in navigating through this sensitive issue holistically and factually is sorely missing.

    Leo Hee Khian

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • In The Aftermath Of Pinkdot And Wear White

    In The Aftermath Of Pinkdot And Wear White

    To many, Pink Dot SG is probably the figurehead of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) rights agenda in Singapore. It is, to some extent, the local equivalent of Gay Pride.
    Pink Dot has been held at the Speakers Corner at Hong Lim Park since 2009. But only this year has Pink Dot faced significant opposition, particularly from a campaign known as Wear White.
    Why is this so?
    Why Pink Dot 2014 has faced greater opposition
    The reasons why Pink Dot 2014 has faced greater opposition have been concisely summed up in the following statement on the Wear White website:
    The movement’s genesis was from our observations of the growing normalization of LGBT in Singapore. However, we recognize the conduct and it’s support among Muslims is due to the lack of understanding and connection with Islam and our fitrah. We thus came together initially with the expressed purpose of reminding Muslims not to participate in the LGBT event on 28th June.
    The first reason lies in the growing efforts to normalise LGBT lifestyles in Singapore, together with efforts to sanction certain forms of disapproval. Although controversies have arisen over the years, such as the debate in Parliament over section 377A of the Penal Code in 2007, and the AWARE (Association of Women for Action and Research) saga in 2009, several events have intensified the debate in 2014. Early this year, the Health Promotion Board (HPB) stirred controversy in its FAQs on Sexuality by claiming that “[a] same-sex relationship is not too [different] from a heterosexual relationship”. In the debate that ensued, complaints were lodged against National University of Singapore (NUS) Professor Dr Syed Muhd Khairudin Aljunied for describing “alternative modes of sexual orientation” as “wayward”, and as “cancers” and “social diseases” to be “cleansed”. According to NUS, he acknowledged “poor judgment in the tone and choice of words” after he was counselled by the university.
    The second reason is the preservation of religious identity. While the debate has often been portrayed as one between religious conservatives and secular liberals, the video promoting Pink Dot 2014 explicitly threw religion in the mix by featuring a hijab-wearing Malay-Muslim woman and an individual wearing a crucifix. A number of Muslims took offence at this. Among the responses included an open letter titled, “A letter to Muslimah Sister Regarding her Support for PinkDotSG2014“. The Singapore Islamic Scholars and Religious Teachers Association (PERGAS), Fellowship of Muslim Students Association (FMSA), and Masjid Ugama Islam Singapura (MUIS) have since drawn a line in the sand, whether directly or indirectly. Likewise, the Catholic Church and the National Council of Churches in Singapore have made statements calling upon Christians not to support Pink Dot.
    What is at stake here
    At stake in the LGBT debate are competing notions of human dignity, sexuality and the family. Although both sides of the debate hold unequivocally that human beings are rights-bearing individuals, there are marked differences in their appreciation of human nature.
    On one view, marriage – the comprehensive, exclusive and permanent union based on the sexual complementarity of a man and a woman, which is intrinsically ordered to produce new life – is a personal and social good. It fulfils and enriches human personality, and provides the foundation for procreation, family and society. Human dignity is attained by taming desire and directing it according to reason. Therefore, there are both substantive and procedural norms governing sexual expression.
    On the other view, an essential aspect of human dignity is that of self-actualisation or self-realisation, part of which is sexual expression. Reason is instrumental to desire, and the only norm governing sexual expression is consent. Marriage and family, then, are emotional unions based on commitment.
    These two competing conceptions strike at the heart of society and cannot simply be relegated to one of mere opinion or preference. At the moment, the former view is the dominant one in society. Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong said in 2007:
    Singapore is basically a conservative society.  The family is the basic building block of our society.  It has been so and, by policy, we have reinforced this and we want to keep it so.  And by “family” in Singapore, we mean one man one woman, marrying, having children and bringing up children within that framework of a stable family unit.
    Recent surveys conducted by the Institute of Policy Studies have shown that Singapore continues to remain conservative.
    Given that “[the] family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society”, as affirmed by the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, there will be significant impact on society, whether society adopts one view or the other.
    In fact, the Singapore Government has recognised the social benefits and costs when family is affected. The Shared Values White Paper (Cmd. 1 of 1991) writes:
    12. The sanctity of the family unit is not a value unique to Singapore. All major faiths consider this a cardinal virtue. The family is the fundamental building block out of which larger social structures can be stably constructed. It is the group within which human beings most naturally express their love for parents, spouse and children, and find happiness and fulfilment. It is the best way human societies have found to provide children a secure and nurturing environment in which to grow up, to pass on the society’s store of wisdom and experience from generation to generation, and to look after the needs of the elderly.
    13. In recent decades many developed countries have witnessed a trend towards heavier reliance on the state to take care of the aged, and more permissive social mores, such as increasing acceptance of “alternative lifestyles”, casual sexual relationships and single parenthood. The result has been to weaken the family unit. Singapore should not follow these untested fashions uncritically.

    How the Government has contributed to the culture war

    The Government has repeatedly cautioned against “culture wars”. For example, then-Minister for Home Affairs Wong Kan Seng cautioned in 2009, “We must not import into Singa­pore the culture wars between the extreme liberals and conservatives that are going on in the US.”
    However, in 2014, the Government has itself fanned the flames of the culture war in Singapore by its own doing.
    The first was the controversy over the HPB FAQs on Sexuality, which both conservatives and liberals recognised as a significant shift in the Government’s stance. Gay Star News praised it as a “groundbreaking move”, while PERGAS and Faith Community Baptist Church (FCBC) senior pastor Lawrence Khong made similar observations, to great consternation. The Government’s defence of the FAQs that followed can only be described as weak and self-contradictory (see “Welcome to the Animal Farm: MOH’s response to HPB FAQs on Sexuality“).
    The second was the Government’s statements in response to the Wear White campaign. Minister-in-charge of Muslim Affairs Yaacob Ibrahim said that those who “express support for a cause or a choice of lifestyle should express it in a way that does not divide the community”. These statements were perceived as Government bias against conservatives, sentiments which were perhaps best expressed by Lam Jer-Gen in a letter to TODAY, “Expressions of pro-family support are not divisive” (25 June 2014):
    I disagree with Minister-in-charge of Muslim Affairs Yaacob Ibrahim’s views…
    Why should the Government allow groups, such as the one that organised the Pink Dot event, to promote alternative lifestyles, yet criticise pro-family groups and consider their expressions of support for a cause or a choice of lifestyle divisive?
    Once again, the Government’s response has been little more than a bare denial (see “Impressions of Government Bias in Culture Wars“).

     

    Conclusion: Where do we go from here?
    During the debates on section 377A of the Penal Code, Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong said:
    … I do not think it is wise to try to force the issue.  If you try and force the issue and settle the matter definitively, one way or the other, we are never going to reach an agreement within Singapore society.  People on both sides hold strong views.  People who are presently willing to live and let live will get polarised and no views will change, because many of the people who oppose it do so on very deeply held religious convictions, particularly the Christians and the Muslims and those who propose it on the other side, they also want this as a matter of deeply felt fundamental principles.  So, discussion and debate is not going to bring them closer together.  And instead of forging a consensus, we will divide and polarise our society.
    I should therefore say that as a matter of reality, the more the gay activists push this agenda, the stronger will be the push back from conservative forces in our society, as we are beginning to see already in this debate and over the last few weeks and months.  And the result will be counter productive because it is going to lead to less space for the gay community in Singapore.  So it is better to let the situation evolve gradually. [Emphasis added]
    As noted in a previous post, the least the Government can do is to level the playing field in a democratic society by guaranteeing equal rights of freedom of speech and freedom of conscience.

    There are two possible approaches to realise this:

    1. Ban all forms of lobbying. While this is a possible approach, this would raise serious questions about the state of democracy, freedom of speech and freedom of conscience in Singapore. It is not a preferable option.
    2. Permit lobbying by both sides. This is an approach which best comports with democratic principles though, in the Singapore context, the Government will most likely have to mark out the boundaries in such debates with clear and bright lines.
    Any effort perceived as being biased towards one side or the other is likely to provoke a backlash against the Government.
    At the rate things are going, it is foreseeable that both Pink Dot and Wear White will remain a part of the Singapore landscape for a long time.
    Source: http://ionsg.blogspot.sg
  • Walid Jumblatt Abdullah: Don’t Let Secular Fundamentalism Be The Norm

    Walid Jumblatt Abdullah: Don’t Let Secular Fundamentalism Be The Norm

    I refer to the letter “Efforts of Pink Dot ambassadors should be lauded, not condemned” (May 13). I take issue with the statement that “it is important to not let religious-driven emotions cloud our judgment when it comes to contentious issues such as this”.

    It is problematic for two reasons: It assumes all religious beliefs are based on “emotions” and are therefore irrational; and it promotes the idea that in our version of secularism, ideas based on religious or moral convictions should not enter the public discussion.

    Each one of us has a code of values that defines what is moral or not, and which can be based on religious or non-religious ideas. Neither is inherently more rational or emotional than the other; both sets of values must be open to scrutiny and critiques once they enter the public domain.

    Every citizen has a right to air his/her views as long as they do not violate any law. Religious-based views, as our Prime Minister has said, can be aired in the public domain and can contribute towards public discourse.

    To dismiss one set of values before it is properly discussed, and to disallow religious-based opinions from entering the public realm of ideas, sounds to me like secular fundamentalism, which is not the version of secularism Singapore practises.

    However, I agree with the letter writer that there is no room or need for attacks on the Pink Dot ambassadors’ personal character. One must discuss the issue itself and not attempt character assassinations of those championing a particular cause.

    At the same time, just as the ambassadors have a right to propagate their beliefs, others must be given the same right to critique their actions. Doing so based on reasoned arguments should not be equated with personal attacks, and is to be expected when entering the public domain.

    It must be noted that religion is dear to many people, as much as freedom and notions of liberalism are to others. Expecting religious people not to base their judgments on their beliefs is, unfortunately, fallacious.

    Discussions on notions of morality and what is acceptable will be here to stay and will probably intensify in the coming years.

    I hope all sides will remain civil in this discussion and that none will be discriminated against for whatever beliefs are held. All sides must also make it clear that attacks on one’s character should be avoided under any circumstances.

     

    Source: www.todayonline.com

  • Homosexual Undergraduate Jailed And Fined For False Declaration, Blood Found Infected With HIV

    Homosexual Undergraduate Jailed And Fined For False Declaration, Blood Found Infected With HIV

    An undergraduate who falsely declared that he had not had sex with another male when donating blood was jailed for 15 weeks and fined $10,000 on Monday.

    The 23-year-old had pleaded guilty to the offence at Bloodbank@Dhoby Ghaut, Health Sciences Authority, at Dhoby Ghaut MRT station, on Dec 19, 2012.

    He cannot be named due to a gag order.

    Investigation showed that the defendant had declared that he had not “had sex with another male” when he in fact had been having a regular sexual relationship with a male partner since 2010. He also had sex with a male stranger sometime in December 2011 after a few drinks.

    The blood he donated was found to be infected with Human Immunodeficiency Virus or commonly known as HIV.

    His lawyer Christine Sekhon had asked the court to consider a short detention order (SDO) for the young offender to minimise the stigma and disruption to his studies.

    But Deputy Public Prosecutor Joshua Lim said the SDO was entirely inappropriate in cases of this nature where the principles of general deterrence must apply because of issues of public health and safety.

    He reiterated that the prosecution accepts the defendant’s explanation that he donated blood only because he was asked at short notice by his two other friends to join them to donate blood.

    The sentence of jail and fine sought by the prosecution, he said, should not be seen as the prosecution taking a more charitable approach to such offences. Indeed, if an accused person uses the blood donation procedure for cynical purposes such as blood testing, the prosecution will seek a significantly higher sentence.

    To ensure that patients’ lifelines are not compromised or jeopardised, he said the court must send the unequivocal, unmistakable and unambiguous message that the law does not, cannot, and will not be lenient with a person who is economical with the truth during blood donation, and who, in doing so, puts the nation’s valuable blood supply at risk.

    District Judge Lim Keng Yeow said it is patently obvious that it is irresponsible and reprehensible to lie concerning the questions posed to potential donors.

    “Innocent persons who have to depend on donated blood should never be put in danger by what is administered to them. They and their families should never even be put in fear that the blood they receive could cause them grave harm rather than do them good,” he said.

    The maximum penalty for the offence is a $20,000 fine and two years’ jail.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • Efforts Of Pink Dot Ambassadors Should Be Lauded, Not Condemned

    Efforts Of Pink Dot Ambassadors Should Be Lauded, Not Condemned

    I refer to the report “Varsity students to launch independent LGBT network” (May 8), in which the ambassadors for this year’s Pink Dot event were announced.

    Some activists and individuals from certain religious communities have since reacted harshly, to the extent of attacking the ambassadors’ personal character, calling them heretics and questioning their religious values.

    The outburst and name-calling are uncalled for. While religion plays a role in shaping the public’s opinion on morality issues, it should not be the only determinant.

    This is especially important in Singapore’s context of a secular and diverse society, where the views of all faiths and belief systems should be given fair consideration, even if some of these are in the minority.

    For comparison, a Muslim lawmaker in Australia, Mr Ed Husic, recently supported the legislation of same-sex marriages in the country, despite his religious convictions, because he understands the importance of the issue to the lives of some.

    The Pink Dot ambassadors speak on behalf of LGBT people and their families, transcending race, religion and social class. It is a brave effort that should be lauded, not condemned.

    It is important to not let religious-driven emotions cloud our judgment when it comes to contentious issues such as this. Otherwise, we will not be able to have discussions in a mature and civil manner.

     

    *This article was written by Hairol Salim and first appeared on Voices, Today, on 13 May 2015.

    Source: http://www.todayonline.com/