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  • Macam Mana Nak Tahu Pasangan Kita Setia Atau Tidak?

    Macam Mana Nak Tahu Pasangan Kita Setia Atau Tidak?

    Setia, senang diucap tapi susah nak dilakukan. Ada beberapa faktor yang menyebabkan pasangan hilang kepercayaan lalu kesetiaan hilang.

    Bagaimana anda boleh menjadi seseorang yang setia atau melihat seseorang itu seorang yang setia.

    1. Menghormati Antara Satu Sama Lain

    Pasangan yang setia akan mendengarkan dengan teliti antara satu sama lain.

    2. Menggunakan media sosial dengan sebaiknya

    Mereka akan menjaga interaksi mereka dengan kawan yang berlainan jantina. Menjaga mata, tangan dan hati. Di laman sosial, mereka akan mengelakan untuk menggoda dan tergoda seperti chatting bagi mengelakan wujudnya ketidaksetiaan.

    3. Menjaga Hal Peribadi

    Pasangan yang setia akan selalu menjaga hal peribadi untuk anda dan pasangan sahaja. Jika jadi sesuatu, si dia akan cepat-cepat cari anda dan cerita segalanya kepada anda. Selain itu, pasangan setia akan menjaga perkara peribadi agar tidak bocor ke media sosial.

    4. Sentiasa Beri Sokongan

    Sokongan dan dorongan sangat penting dalam sebuah perhubungan. Pasangan setia akan sentiasa memberikan sokongan anda. Jika ada seseorang yang memalukan anda, pasangan anda akan membela anda dan bukan ikut terketawa.

    5. Berkemunikasi Secara Profesional Dengan Orang Yang Berlainan Jantina

    Pasangan yang baik akan bertindak seolah-olah pasangan mereka ada disisinya. Dengan itu, mereka akan menjaga jarak dengan mereka yang berlainan jenis. Mereka juga tidak akan bermain mata, menyentuh mahupun cuba untuk menggoda.

    6. Selalu Buat Keputusan Bersama

    Dalam satu hubungan, membuat keputusan adalah sesuatu perkara yang penting. Pasangan yang setia akan berbincang untuk menentukan keputusan mana yang lebih penting.

    7. Bersifat Terbuka

    Pasangan yang setia akan bersifat terbuka. Mereka tidak akan menyimpan rahsia baik tentang perkara kecil dan besar.

    8. Mengutamakan Pasangan

    Bila berlaku sesuatu, pasangan yang setia akan segera memberi tahu kepada pasanganya. Mereka akan mengutamakan pasangan berbanding kawan, orang tua mahupun media sosial.

  • China Wants This Malaysian Port To Rival Singapore

    China Wants This Malaysian Port To Rival Singapore

    The Straits of Malacca have been a gateway for China for centuries in its quest for power.

    A story blended from Malaysian history and folklore says an emperor sent a princess called Hang Li Poto marry the Sultan of Malacca in the Ming Dynasty, offering a ship filled with gold needles. He also sent a blunt message. “For every gold needle, there is a subject. If you can count the number of needles, you will learn the true extent of my power”, the emperor reportedly said in a letter.

    Hundreds of years later, China is again seeking influence in Malaysia as it spreads its economic and military clout through South-east Asia. It is investing billions in a US$7.2 billion (S$9.8 billion) redevelopment that will see Malacca, long the haunt of Chinese traders, become a new deep sea port.

    It is also providing funds for infrastructure projects down the eastern seaboard of Malaysia, key heartland areas for Prime Minister Najib Razak ahead of an election that could be held this year. New roads and bridges may help him woo ethnic Malays, but the money could come at a long-term cost.

    “The closeness with China is an Achilles heel for Najib,” said Dr Mustafa Izzuddin, a fellow at the ISEAS-Yusof Ishak Institute in Singapore. “While investment coming in will balloon government coffers and boost the economy, the opposition is using the China card to criticise the government for becoming too close to China and accusing it of selling Malaysia’s sovereignty.”

    China’s investment in Malaysia has risen since Mr Xi Jinping took power in 2012, with the president describing ties with Mr Najib as the “best ever”. Beijing is readying a state visit by Mr Xi to Malaysia in the coming months, according to three people with knowledge of the plans who asked not to be identified given the sensitivity of the discussions.

    China has committed to import goods worth US$2 trillion from Malaysia over the next five years (a nearly eight-fold jump from 2016 imports over that period), invest up to US$150 billion in the country and offer 10,000 places for training in China.

    Mr Najib brought home US$33.6 billion in deals when he visited China in November — the biggest haul yet between the countries — plus an agreement to buy four patrol boats from China.

    China has been Malaysia’s largest trading partner since 2009, displacing Singapore, with two-way trade last year valued at US$83.4 billion. China is Malaysia’s biggest export market.

    Malaysia, like Singapore, has strong historical links to China. About a quarter of its population is ethnically Chinese, and traders for centuries stopped at ports in Malacca and Penang to sell silk, tea and porcelain while buying cinnamon and nutmeg. There is even a fusion cuisine based on Chinese and Malay ingredients, called Peranakan or Nyonya.

    Chinese companies accounted for 8 billion yuan (S$1.6 billion) in construction projects in Malaysia in 2015, DBS analyst Chong Tjen-San said in an April report — nearly half the total value of projects clinched by foreign contractors.

    “We are going to be drawn into the economic gravity of China,” said Mr Steven CM Wong, deputy chief executive of the Institute of Strategic and International Studies Malaysia, at a conference on Mr Xi’s Belt-and-Road trade project in Kuala Lumpur last month. “Just as if you are in North America, you are drawn into the economic gravity of the United States,” he said. “This is not what we want or we don’t want. It’s just the way things are.”

    Still, the money risks being caught up in domestic politics. Mr Najib’s critics, including former premier-turned-opposition leader Mahathir Mohamad, say the country will need to cede influence to China in exchange for its money, and that local businesses will lose out.

    “Much of the most valuable land will now be owned and occupied by foreigners,” Dr Mahathir wrote on his blog in January. “In effect they will become foreign land.”

    Mr Najib, in an article published in May in the South China Morning Post before a visit to China, said that he made “no apologies for wanting to build world-class infrastructure for Malaysia that will, with local ownership being preserved, open up huge swathes of our country”. His office did not respond to requests for comment.

    Some analysts said Najib risks being painted as too close to China. While the countries both claim parts of the disputed South China Sea, for example, Malaysia has been mostly quiet on China’s military build up in the region.

    “There are perceptions that Najib is being bought by the Chinese,” said Professor Bridget Welsh, a political scientist at John Cabot University in Rome and author of The End of UMNO? Essays on Malaysia’s Dominant Party.

    “Within Malaysia, China’s interventions have the potential to bring about greater ethnic tensions and political instability, as well as affect Malaysia’s relationships with its neighbours,” she said.

    The Malacca Strait already has sufficient port facilities, according to opposition Selangor state legislator Teng Chang Khim. “Why can’t you make use of the present ports?” Mr Teng said at the Belt-and-Road conference.

    Deputy Secretary General for Trade Isham Ishak said the government would seek to balance its relationship with China.

    “We want to make sure that there’s fair value in terms of investments from China into Malaysia,” he said at the same conference. “It’s not only about Chinese products coming in, Chinese money coming in, and Chinese foreign workers coming in.”

    Investment in infrastructure is good for Malaysia whether it comes from China or the US, according to Mr Xu Bu, China’s ambassador to the Association of South-east Asian Nations.

    “Whoever comes to power that really doesn’t matter,” he said in a July interview. “Whoever comes to power in Malaysia, the leaders or the people in Malaysia they need investment.”

    Mr Harrison Cheng, a senior analyst with Control Risks in Singapore, said there were signs of unease in some quarters of Mr Najib’s United Malays National Organisation about Chinese investments.

    Still, UMNO’s core voters are more interested in bread-and-butter issues, he said. “There has yet to be any strong signs of a serious backlash within UMNO and the public.”

     

    Source: http://www.todayonline.com

  • Zainal Sapari Reached Out To Lee Siblings Through Pantun, Tells Them Blood Thicker Than Water, Family More Important Than Money

    Zainal Sapari Reached Out To Lee Siblings Through Pantun, Tells Them Blood Thicker Than Water, Family More Important Than Money

    As the debate continued into its second day in Parliament, PAP MP Zainal Sapari, a former teacher, used a very Malay way to impart some valuable advice to the Lee siblings.

    In the pantun, Zainal Sapari reminded them that your worldly possessions cannot be taken with you when you pass away. It was not worth risking family ties because of the riches.

    Wang hilang boleh diganti
    Harta ada tak dibawa mati
    Jangan kesal kemudian hari
    Bila ikatan keluarga tidak ada lagi

    Ibubapa hidup berdamai
    Banyak berkorban setiap hari
    Adik beradik jangan bercerai
    Biar kasih sayang bersimpul mati

    #38OxleyRoad

    Very the Malay but very the spot on. Blood is thicker than water, your family is more important than your money.

     

    Source: Zainal Sapari

  • Woman Writes About Being Abused By Boyfriend Over Nothing

    Woman Writes About Being Abused By Boyfriend Over Nothing

    A woman was beaten up by her boyfriend… because he saw a call log from a cabby’s contact number and thought she was cheating on him.

    Stomper Kelvin alerted Stomp to a Facebook post written by the girl herself, telling her part of the story about how her then-boyfriend hit her.

    The Stomper is a friend of the woman, and would like to highlight her situation.

    He said:

    “I would like to warn all the young ladies out there to be careful of this man, and hoping that the local authority can do something about this seriously.

    “However he has deleted his Facebook account since he was being tagged by my friend on this post.”

    The post shared by the woman claimed that her boyfriend got upset over minor things “like some stingray photos or egg photos or something… I don’t even wish to elaborate.”

    She recounted the disrespectful way he treated her:

    “I remember asking him why he can talk to girls and all while I can’t he told me this; man and woman can never be equal. I respect his thoughts even if I disagreed to most of them. Eventually I forgot to respect my own thoughts… and so did he.”

    One day, in a drunken stupor, he wanted to check her messages and look through her phone. She obliged because she had nothing to hide.

    “Apparently he got upset and wanted to take a look into my phone (which is not a common practice for us), with nothing to hide I proceeded to unlock my phone and pass it to him.

    “Then he went through my call logs and saw this number 6××× ×××× and he tried calling it back and made a fuss.

    “Anyway that’s the call you receive from booking a taxi when your cab arrives.

    “Taken aback by his ridiculously skeptical assumption I got pissed and snatched my phone back telling him what that number is.

    “This was when he snapped and evolved or transform to the demon within him. It’s as though he was possessed because how he flicked instantly.”

    She recalled how he proceeded to drag her wherever he wanted and slapped and beat her repeatedly.

    She used her hand and arms to shield her face, thus getting bruises.

    When he was checking her phone a second time, she quickly dashed out to call the police.

    Even in front of her parents, he was apparently unapologetic and admitted that he had beaten her.

    The woman said she shared her story to put an end to the mistreatment, “If he doesn’t want to end this mental torture then I think people should know the truth.”

     

    Source: http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg

  • Abusive Gay Man Hid Sexuality From Wife, Denied Custody Of Triplets

    Abusive Gay Man Hid Sexuality From Wife, Denied Custody Of Triplets

    A man who hid his homosexuality from his wife for 13 years has been denied joint custody of their triplets, not because he is gay or HIV-positive, but because of his “appallingly poor decision-making ability”, a judge has said.

    The 49-year-old wife has been awarded sole custody, in a rare legal move which is justified only in exceptional circumstances which show that joint custody is not in a child’s best interests.

    Neither party can be named in the case, in which the businesswoman obtained an interim divorce in 2011 based on unreasonable conduct – ending a 15-year marriage. At issue before the court was the care, control and custody of the children as well as the division of matrimonial assets.

    Justice Vinodh Coomaraswamy said in judgment grounds released yesterday: “The husband is in the same position as any parent, whatever the gender or sexual orientation, who has displayed… appallingly poor decision-making ability.”

    The couple’s triplets were conceived through in-vitro fertilisation, which the judge noted exacted a high toll on the mother emotionally, physically and psychologically.

    The wife found out about her husband’s double life only in 2009, after she hired a private detective.

    “I am unimpressed by the husband’s capacity for truth-telling,” said Justice Vinodh.

    In 2012, the man had posted a picture of himself wearing only underwear on a website called Manjam, on which he sought other men for short-term trysts.

    He also described himself there as a childless 35-year-old when he was, in fact, 10 years older and the father of triplets. He also lied by saying he was HIV negative.

    The judge cited his tryst with a gay partner who led a ” particularly reckless and dissolute lifestyle”. The drug-taking partner had in 2009 been found unconscious and naked under the bed of another homosexual lover, who lay naked and dead in bed. A coroner’s inquiry found he died of brain damage due to drug intoxication.

    The husband was convicted of drug possession and consumption and jailed for six months in 2013, He was declared bankrupt in 2012.

    He had also assaulted his wife, leading her to take out to a Personal Protection Order in 2010.

    The judge said all these factors showed “an ability to make decisions which are positively detrimental to his own welfare”, as well as his kids’ long-term interests.

    He ruled that the husband was to have no more than two hours a week of supervised access, plus telephone access – limits which were already in place.

    The husband defended himself while the wife was represented by lawyer Tang Gee Ni.

    Overall, the judge awarded a 60:40 division of the matrimonial assets in favour of the wife out of a joint pool of $2.65 million. This was based on the direct and indirect contributions of both parties to the family and factored in the father’s $327,529 lump sum maintenance for the children.

    As the husband was a bankrupt, the court had no powers to touch his assets vested under the Official Assignee’s control.

    Justice Vinodh ordered that he settle the $123,391 debt to discharge the bankruptcy with the 40 per cent sum he is entitled to from the sale of the couple’s Sembawang property in 2011. This was a condition precedent to effect a “just and equitable” division of the matrimonial assets, he said.

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com