Tag: religion

  • Shafiqah Othman Hamzah: Why I Am Against Institutionalised Religion

    Shafiqah Othman Hamzah: Why I Am Against Institutionalised Religion

    I think I have, on many occasions, explained that I do not like using the term “religion” all that much. I prefer to substitute it with “spirituality” for very personal reasons. But today, I’d like to explain some of the many reasons why the word “religion” plays little to no role in my life, and why I feel like it is irrelevant.

    I can already hear people calling me blasphemous.

    Please do not get me wrong, for what I am truly against is not religion, like Islam, Christianity, Buddhism etc. but in fact, “institutionalised religion.” And that does not mean that I am against institutions as well. I do believe that we need some systems of operations and governing in our lives in order to avoid chaos, but I feel like governance in religion is something that should not exist. Isn’t religion supposed to be personal?

    All around me, I see people arguing who is right and who is wrong, who will go to Heaven and who will go to Hell. There are Muslims vs. Christians, and to make things worse, even Muslims against other Muslims as well. The situation in Malaysia speaks for itself. The demonising of other religions, including other sects of Islam that is not Ahl Sunnah Wal Jamaah, or even Sunni Syafie for that matter, goes to show that our government is trying to dictate how we practise our religion.

    There are far too many people in Malaysia (let alone the world) for us to try to advance one particular theology. Not only is this an offence to the diversity that God has bestowed upon us, but it creates a great divide between our citizens. The world wouldn’t be in peace if we all believed in the same thing; we would be in peace if we had a mutual understanding of our differences.

    Which brings me to my next point. The moment someone thinks that their theology is the one and only infallible truth, they immediately hold a monopoly on God. This can be seen when Malaysia banned the use of “Allah” in the Bahasa Malaysia translated version of the Bibles. Yes, they banned it for theological reasons, but as you can see, this is where the problem comes in.

    No matter how differently your theology or understanding of something may be, at the end of the day, we are all parts of the same whole. No one owns God. This is against the idea of a universalistic God. Islam does not own Allah, but Allah owns everything. And if the reason behind the ban is to prevent Muslims from getting confused, than you have to question the faith of your own followers instead of putting them in a bubble. You’re not protecting them, but rather, placing them in deeper ignorance.

    Institutionalised religion also promotes blind belief through coercion and fear. You have to think a certain way because someone above you says so. You have to do a certain thing because someone above you says so. But you don’t really understand why you’re doing it. You were raised to not question, but to just follow. And out of fear of the consequences that may come, you blindly agree with everything that is being spoon-fed to you because you were taught to believe that questioning is a sin.

    The most heart-breaking thing about institutionalised religion for me is that it also teaches us to judge a man not based on his character and how he treats others, but by the way he dresses. Spirituality has been taken over by superficiality. Institutionalised religion insists on playing God.

    Religion is the act of believing in God, and institutions establish a systematic way of doing things. Institutionalising religion then ultimately means establishing a system of how to believe in God. How can this be possible when there are over 6 billion people on Earth? And how could anyone ever think that we are authorised to dictate the spirituality of Man as though we’re God Himself?

    It should not come as a surprise to anyone at all that our world is filled with such diverse views. No two people think the same way and whoever thought that it was best to turn us into a monolith should understand that all their attempts are futile.

    Why is it so hard for people to agree to disagree with each other without inflicting pain or harm towards the other? Are we that conceited and full of ourselves to think that our opinions and upbringing is the one and only infallible truth? To me, one of the best things to do to honour God is by honouring and respecting the diversity that He has given us on this Earth. We are, after all, a part of His creation.

    It’s one thing to be against another religion for holding a different view, but institutionalised religion can cause even adherers from the same religion to go against each other. At the current rate of increasing Islamophobia that is happening across the globe, we need Muslims to unite more than ever now instead of merely denouncing each other for different opinions.

    There is no systematic way to live, let alone believe in God. Personal matters of the heart aren’t something Man should meddle with. It is none of our business, and definitely not in our place to judge. This is the reason why it is so important for us to be kind to each other, because we don’t know each other’s stories.

    We are all equal before the eyes of God. Just because I don’t think or dress like you, it does not make me more or less of a Muslim.

    * This is the personal opinion of the columnist.

    Shafiqah Othman Hamzah

     

    Source: www.themalaymailonline.com

  • Lee Hsien Loong: Racial Harmony Here An Unusual And Unnatural State Of Affairs, Need To Be Worked On Continuously

    Lee Hsien Loong: Racial Harmony Here An Unusual And Unnatural State Of Affairs, Need To Be Worked On Continuously

    Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong said Singaporeans of all races and religions are able to live peacefully side by side despite the fact that the country’s racial and religious harmony is an “unusual and unnatural state of affairs”.

    Mr Lee spoke at a Harmony Dinner at the Singapore Expo on Wednesday evening (Apr 15), an event organised by the Taoist Federation to celebrate its Silver Jubilee.

    “There are studies of different societies and there was one study called a report on ‘Global Religious Diversity’ looking at how mixed different societies were – and in fact they ranked Singapore as the most religious diverse society out of 232 countries in the world, and we were the most religiously diverse,” said Mr Lee.

    “The most different religions, the most intermingled, all the world’s major faiths are present in Singapore and many smaller faiths too. And yet we enjoy racial and religious harmony, and we live peacefully and happily side by side every day,” added the Prime Minister. It is something that should be continually worked on to be preserved, he said.

    Mr Lee said building a multi-racial and multi-religious society is a key ideal that Singapore was founded upon.

    Quoting the late Mr Lee Kuan Yew, the Prime Minister said Singapore does not belong to any single community, but to everyone. Mr Lee said the Taoist Federation worked hard to foster good relations between the different religious groups in Singapore.

    All 10 constituent religions of the Inter-Religious Organisation (IRO) were also present at the Harmony Dinner, and Mr Lee called on the religious leaders to lead by example.

    Said Mr Lee: “Your communities look to you as role models. How you counsel and lead your congregations, your flocks, will shape religious relations in Singapore. So I am very happy that so many of our religious leaders are committed to building trust and friendships with other communities.”

    “We also of course need to keep our society open and inclusive. We can be any race, any religion, but we are also – at the same time – all Singaporeans together. And we have learnt to trust and respect our different races and religions, and to live peacefully with one another,” he said.

    The IRO said racial and religious harmony is also enhanced by having more dialogues between people of various faiths.

    “It is educating everyone as to what another religion has and if you have better understanding of another religion besides your own, that’s when you have a better understanding and that’s where you will have peace and harmony,” said IRO President Gurmit Singh.

     

    Source: www.channelnewsasia.com

  • I’m Willing To Convert To Be With My Malay Muslim Gay Partner

    I’m Willing To Convert To Be With My Malay Muslim Gay Partner

    I’m a chinese and i met a guy whom i really like. He is a malay. We liked each other and we always enjoy each other’s company a lot. He is a nice guy, someone i can get along well and he knows how to make me happy. However, we had a complicated issue that makes us difficult to be together. It was religion. Because of that, he decided to let us go and he stopped himself from falling in love with me. He like me but yet to fall for me. He said it is hard for us to be together and he wouldnt let himself to love me.

    Gay SG Confessions - Religion 1

    At that point of time, i really do not want any religion commitment and he knows about that. However after losing him, i thought about it and realised i am willing to convert to islam for him. I don’t mind doing it for him. But i dont think this is good because religion is very important and i am supposed to convert for myself, not for anyone.

    The problem is.. i havent had the chance to tell him about the fact that i dont mind converting for him. I’m not sure if he still likes me. He may have moved on already since it has been a month since that day he told me we cannot be tgt. It is highly possible he may like someone else already? He is strong in his mind, if he had alr said he wouldnt love me he may have already let us go. I still think of him all the time, i cant get rid of him off my mind. We are still friends. We only met up once after that day we cleared things up.

    So we met recently and we still cross the boundaries of friends. Some of our actions are clearly more than just friends. The way we look into each other’s eyes and we hug each other really tight before we part. I told myself, enjoy those moments i have with him that day. Dont think about anything else. When we talk through text, he tend to use that chance to avoid me to stop himself from talking too much with me.

    What am i supposed to do.. Should i just tell him that i wouldnt mind converting to islam for him so that religion would no longer be an issue? Regardless whether he still likes me a not, should i just tell? Because 10 years later, i think i will regret for not saying it out. Or should i wait for the next meetup and see how it goes? If we’re still good and i could feel that he still likes me, then by then i go for it?

    Feel free to give me your opinions. Thank you everyone for reading.

     

    Source: Gay SG Confessions

  • Gongsi Raya: How Non-Chinese In SIngapore Celebrate Chinese New Year

    Gongsi Raya: How Non-Chinese In SIngapore Celebrate Chinese New Year

    With almost every shop draped in red and gold screaming dong dong jiang at maximum volume, I think it’s safe to say that a big chunk of our population is onto Chinese New Year fever.  Chinese New Year on our little red dot is almost like a nationwide holiday. But amidst all the dusting and eating, have you ever wondered our non-Chinese friends are up to during the long holidays (this year’s especially)? There is apparently, more to the Chinese New Year for our non-Chinese friends than just mindless lo hei meals and visits to their friends’ house for pineapple tarts and bak kwa.

    How could anyone not get into the Chinese New Year spirit with shops draped in red and gold?

    Malay Mr. Muhammad Aaron Ridzuwan bin Roslan has been paying New Year visits to his Chinese friends since the age of 13. He commented on how Chinese New Year “is like Hari Raya” where he’d take the chance to catch up with his friends over steamboat meals. When asked if the meal has to be Halal, he graciously answered, “It’s the Chinese’s occasion, so as long as there is no pork, it’s fine with me.” It was particularly meaningful when Hari Raya and Chinese New Year last fell on the same month from 1996-1998. The term ‘Gongsi Raya’ was coined to symbolized the double celebrations within the two ethnic communities. Both Muslims and the Chinese had kept their house open for visitations that promoted the respect and tolerance for our well-known cultural diversity.

    Some of our non-Chinese friends don’t only partake in lo hei, they actually think of it as a fun Chinese tradition.

    But it turns out not all of our non-Chinese friends are actively partaking in house visits. For Indian student Ms. Shreeya Valentina Rai, instead of lo hei-ing with her friends, she will be spending the holiday bartending at Tippling Club. “Hey, it’s double pay after all,” laughs the 23-year-old NTU student. “But on the rare occasion that our family gets invited for a Chinese New Year meal, I participate in the lo hei; it’s quite fun actually.”

    Instead of working their holidays away, some would on the other hand, take the chance to organize a get-together with their family. Working aside, Ms. Shreeya does also take the holidays to spend time with her family. “It’s a public holiday so everyone is free,” she quips. Ms. Shahidah Sayadi, a Malay Muslim who works at the Ministry of Law, agrees.  “We’d mostly sit at home and watch the holiday special shows! But sometimes we have family gatherings and we’ll arrange for potluck dinners.” For our Indian friend Mr. Rahul Rajasabhal, a 25-year-old NUS undergraduate, spending quality time with his family during the holidays is not just limited to lounging by the sofa, where he chooses to get more into the Chinese New Year spirit. “I’d usually help my mum and grandma bake pineapple tarts because my sister and I love to eat them! I really look forward to the food and I’ll use the time to just relax and catch up on work. I’d also, somehow, use the holidays to tidy up my room because it’s nice to have a fresh start even though I don’t really celebrate it.”

    Things are of course, a little different for the mixed ethnicity couples. Fashion Blogger Andrea Chong says that Imran Rahim, her Muslim boyfriend, will accompany her to house-visits on the first day of Chinese New Year. Besides treating it like a “normal family gathering”, Malay Muslim Imran also pays his respect to the Cantonese elders by greeting them “gung hei fat choi”! Besides house visiting, some mixed ethnicity couples will also travel to the hometown of his/her significant other to celebrate the New Year with the other side of the family. The act of travelling overseas to get into the New Year atmosphere can also be seen in the Chinese as well! I mean, it is after all, a long weekend with four days of holidays.

    For those who are on an exchange programme with our local universities, they got into the Chinese New Year spirit by hanging out at the gaily-lit Chinatown. Mikael Gross, a Swiss exchange student who has returned to Switzerland, recounted how he spent the holiday with a group of other students on exchange. “To celebrate Chinese New Year in Singapore was kind of ‘special’ because Singapore is a city with a huge Chinese community… feels kind of authentic”. After a dinner at “one of those tourist trap restaurants”, they joined the annual Chinese New Year parade where he enjoyed the cheerful crowd. “The truth is Chinese New Year wasn’t as exciting as they say on the internet.  But we enjoyed it nevertheless, like everything on exchange.”

    So whilst you are busy indulging in the Chinese New Year festivities, don’t forget about your non-Chinese friends and have them over for a short get-together for two. Have them also share what it’s like during their New Year celebrations and perhaps join them for a more complete food and culture exchange experience.

     

    Source:www.makansutra.com

  • Malay Woman Seeks Hongbao Help From Gilbert Goh

    Malay Woman Seeks Hongbao Help From Gilbert Goh

    Hi Gilbert

    I heard you are giving $100 Ang bao to people who need it ya.

    Well… I do need it as my hubby is the only breadwinner with basic pay of $1380 per month.

    We have two boys.. age of 7 yrs old & 8 yrs old.

    We can’t afford to pay school bus which cost $58/per person per month.

    I will personally send my boys to school everyday by bus.

    Every Monday my elder son will start at 9.45am until 6.30pm as my boys are in the afternoon session.

    After I send my elder son.. I need to go home to get my 2nd son ready for school. So i must reach the school before 12pm as my 1st son will be out for lunch @12pm.

    After that I will go home, cook & wait and at about 6pm I will be out to fetch my boys.

    My 2nd son also will have morning session every Friday.

    For Monday & Friday I will travel by bus 6 times a day just to fetch my boys to school.

    On Tuesday-Thursday I will only travel 4 times a day. I have to make sure that our EZ link has sufficient amount if not we will just walk home with me carrying two school bags.

    By the way for your info…my 2nd son is a asthma patient and every 3 months he will have his check up @KKH. His next appointment on April.

    We don’t own any flat as we are still waiting for any balance flat.

    Right now we stay in a rental flat 1-room 1-hall with my younger brother & his family.

    I will send you pictures how our living condition is. Thank you & good night.

    Tanti Mohd

    Editor’s note: we will transfer our Chinese new year charity angpao of $100 to the needy family – regardless of race, language and religion.

     

    Source: Gilbert Goh