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  • AMLA: New Rules To Be Implemented For Muslim Couples On Marriage And Divorce

    AMLA: New Rules To Be Implemented For Muslim Couples On Marriage And Divorce

    Muslim couples who are minors will have to attend a compulsory marriage preparation programme, while couples seeking a divorce also have to attend a marriage counselling programme, as part of a string of changes to the Administration of Muslim Law Act (AMLA) passed in Parliament on Tuesday (Aug 1).

    Muslims who are younger than 18 and want to get married must attend and complete a marriage preparation programme approved by the Ministry of Social and Family Development. These sessions are aimed at helping couples better understand, clarify and address any concerns that they and their families may have about marriage.

    They will also learn essential skills like how to build a stable marriage and family at marriage education workshops for the minor couples to learn essential skills and knowledge to build a stable marriage and family.

    Parents of these couples, who will now also be required to give consent to the marriage, are also encouraged to be involved in such sessions. Previously, only the consent of the wali, the lawful guardian for the marriage of a Muslim woman, is required.

    Muslim marriage numbers are on the rise, while minor marriages – where at least one party was below 21 years at the time of marriage – have been in “steady decline.” Divorce rates have also remained stable.

    Nevertheless, Minister-in-charge of Muslim Affairs Dr Yaacob Ibrahim pointed out that minor marriages are more “vulnerable”. Citing the trend of Muslim marriages involving younger grooms, the recent marriage cohorts have seen one and a half times the divorce rate compared to older grooms, he said.

    “This move thus reinforces the importance of parents’ or guardians’ support in a minor marriage as their guidance, especially in the crucial initial years of the marriage, is critical to help younger couples build strong marriage foundations for a lifetime,” said Dr Yaacob.

    To provide greater support for divorcing Muslim couples, they will be required to first attend the Syariah Court’s Marriage Counselling Programme, before seeking a divorce, so as to see if the marriage can be saved.

    About 64 per cent of divorce cases in the last five years involved at least one child of the marriage under 21 years old, with more than 85 per cent of these involving at least one child under 14 years.

    Since the Syariah Court introduced the programme in 2004, over 33,000 couples have been counselled, and almost half of these marriages have been saved, said Dr Yaacob.

    If the couples decide to go ahead with the divorce, this programme will provide the platform to discuss care and living arrangements for their children, while counsellors on hand can refer them to other services like financial assistance or education support for school-going children.

    The Syariah Court will also have the power to refer parties for further counselling or a family support programme at any stage of their divorce proceedings.

    For instance, it can order a registered medical practitioner, psychologist, counsellor, social worker, or mental health professional to examine and assess the child.

    The AMLA covers the three public agencies – the Islamic Religious Council of Singapore (MUIS), the Registry of Muslim Marriages (ROMM) and the Syariah Court – dedicated to implement and administer the provisions of the Act.

    The AMLA was last amended in 2008 to strengthen these key institutions, as well as to improve the quality of life for the Muslim community in Singapore.

    Several amendments were also made to enhance the management of Muslim assets, most notably the wakafs (Muslim endowments) and the Mosque Building and Mendaki Fund (MBMF).

    In 2017, MUIS disbursed $3.1 million of the revenue generated from wakafs to various beneficiaries such as mosques, madrasahs, and Muslim organisations. This amount is nearly 3 per cent more, or about $90,000, compared to the previous year.

    Of the total disbursement, more than $1.52 million was channelled to 27 mosques to help fund upgrading projects and to support mosque programmes.

    “All these are a result of MUIS’ management of the wakafs, which include careful planning to ensure maximisation of wakaf returns, and attracting good tenants for wakaf properties…We must continue to ensure that the wakafs are well managed so as to maximise their potential,” said Dr Yaacob.

    To enable MUIS to better safeguard against the mismanagement of wakafs, there will be expanded grounds under the AMLA to which a trustee or mutawalli (those appointed to manage the wakaf) can be removed. For instance, when a mutawalli fails to furnish information or particulars as required by MUIS, or fails to allow MUIS’ inspection of wakaf properties, accounts, and records. This is to ensure greater transparency and clarity, and to allow for more timely intervention.

    Current provisions enable MUIS to do so when it appears that the wakaf has been mismanaged, or if there have been no trustees appointed. However, for these conditions to be met, the wakaf “might already be in jeopardy”, explained Dr Yaacob.

    Additionally, the appointment of a new trustee to a wakaf will be void unless there is MUIS’ prior approval in writing, so that MUIS can ensure that the individuals appointed as trustees are qualified to manage the wakaf.

    A court must also not entertain or proceed with any proceedings relating to the appointment or removal of wakaf trustees and mutawallis, as it will fall on parties to work with MUIS to such matters.

    MUIS will also be able direct a portion of the income of the wakaf towards a sinking fund, primarily for the upkeep and development ofthe wakaf , such as repairs or installation works.

    Citing how many of the trust deeds of older wakafs do not specifically address long-term upkeep of the wakaf, including that of the creation of a sinking fund to maintain it for the long run, Dr Yaacob said that such properties often fall into disrepair given the lack of sufficient savings or reserves.

    Lastly, he reiterated that the MBMF can be tapped for the purchase of new or additional land or property for existing and future mosques, as well as for the building or maintenance works of any religious education premises or facilities.

    Wrapping up his speech, Dr Yaacob said: “The amendments we are proposing today seek to better protect Muslim families because they are the very building blocks of a strong and resilient community.We want to reinforce our institutions so that they are effective in serving the community.”

    He added: “We want to enhance the management of our assets so that the community continues to benefit from them and prosper.”

     

    Source: http://www.todayonline.com

  • Race Matters When It Comes To Marriage And Other Personal Issues

    Race Matters When It Comes To Marriage And Other Personal Issues

    Singaporeans still prefer someone of the same race when it comes to things like marriages in the family, helping them run their businesses or to share personal problems with, a survey on race relations in Singapore showed.

    In general, the survey also found that respondents from minority races were more accepting of the Chinese, compared with the Chinese being open to other races, for various roles and relationships. The survey was commissioned by Channel NewsAsia and the Institute of Policy Studies which involved 2,000 respondents, weighted to Singapore’s demography.

    Although the overall finding was that Singaporeans try to live out multiracial ideals, less than a quarter (21 per cent to 24 per cent) of Chinese respondents said they would accept Malay Singaporeans and Indian Singaporeans marrying into their family.

    In comparison, Malays were more receptive to other races — 63 per cent would accept a new Chinese family member, and 41 per cent would accept Indians. The figure for Indians was 50 per cent towards Chinese and 30 per cent towards Malays.

    In terms of personal relationships, Chinese respondents were also less likely to share their personal problems with people of other races. Less than half of them (43-48 per cent) would confide in people from other races, while between 53 and 84 per cent of Malay and Indian respondents said they would do so.

    In terms of economic activity, such as getting someone to help manage a business, there was a general preference across all races for getting a Chinese to do the job.

    More Malays preferred Chinese (82 per cent) to Indians (47 per cent) in helping them in their business. It was the same case among Indians, with 72 per cent open to Chinese help, compared with 42 per cent for Malays.

    Racial preferences were less noticeable when it came to social interactions. About two-thirds of Chinese respondents were amenable to Malays and Indians sharing a meal at their homes or playing with their children and grandchildren. This proportion was higher for Malay and Indian respondents — between 77 per cent and 89 per cent.

    Eight in 10 of all respondents also said they were not told by their parents not to mix too much with people from other races when they were growing up and they have made friends with people from the three main racial groups.

    About 60 per cent of respondents who have children also said they have spoken to their children about the differences among the races, the customs and practices of other races, as well as why racism is bad for society.

     

    Source: www.todayonline.com

  • Reasons For Divorces Differ In And Out Of Court

    Reasons For Divorces Differ In And Out Of Court

    It appears that divorcees tell a different story in and out of court when asked why they broke up.

    One in four respondents cited adultery as the main reason for their divorce, going by a survey of about 130 divorcees presented last month by Dr Jessica Leong .

    This figure is similar to official data on Muslim divorces, but contradicts that of non-Muslim divorces.

    Figures from the Department of Statistics show that for non-Muslim divorces last year, only 1 per cent of the plaintiffs cited adultery as the main reason for divorce.

    Instead, over half said they split due to “unreasonable behaviour” during divorce proceedings. And 45 per cent split because the couple “lived apart or were separated for three years or more”, while 2 per cent cited “desertion” as the main reason.

    Dr Leong’s survey figures on the main reasons for divorce could be closer to the truth.

    Lawyers told The Straits Times that a person filing for divorce usually finds it too costly to prove that the partner had committed adultery. He must usually hire a private investigator, who will give a report of his surveillance findings, and the investigator may need to appear in court. The person with whom the adultery took place must also be named as a co-defendant, and some people do not know the name of the third party in the marriage.

    Lawyer Michelle Woodworth said: “The difficulty in obtaining the evidence and the costs in doing so are key considerations for clients making a decision against citing the fact of adultery. Often, a plaintiff may choose to proceed on the fact of behaviour instead.”

    Another lawyer, Mr Rajan Chettiar, said people may also not mention adultery because of their ego. “Men may feel that they ‘lose face’ if they tell the court that their wives had an affair with another man.”

    The 134 divorcees surveyed were asked to give “one specific personal example or event to illustrate the main indicator leading to the divorce”. Six of them did not answer.

    The question was an open-ended one, and responses were then classified into several categories such as relation problems, including “loss of love” and conflicts with in-laws (14 per cent), and communication problems (13 per cent).

    Respondents were also asked to select, from a list of 18 options, the factors that contributed to their marital instability.

    There were gender differences.

    Nearly half the men said nagging or complaining contributed to the broken marriage, while only 27 per cent of women said so. About 56 per cent of men said “loss of love” was a factor, while only 38 per cent of women said so.

    Mr Joel Chua, who attended Dr Leong’s presentation and has had over a year of experience as an intern counsellor, said: “Men are emotional creatures too, just that they may not be as expressive about it.”

    They could feel a loss of affection with their ex-spouse, and the lack of sexual intimacy may play a part.

    “Some men have mentioned, without being asked, that there was less sexual intimacy with their spouses when there was more tension in their marriages,” added Mr Chua.

    Counsellors said it was also important for couples to communicate well, in away that is mutually respectful. Dr Leong suggested more public education in pre-tertiary and tertiary schools, when people tend to start dating.

    “We can teach respect and trust in relationships, and they can bring these values to marriage later on,” she said. “They may even identify indicators of troubled marriage and… alert their parents to blind spots they may have in their marriages.”

     

    Source: www.straitstimes.com

  • Yaacob Ibrahim: Muslim Marriages Becoming More Resilient

    Yaacob Ibrahim: Muslim Marriages Becoming More Resilient

    Muslim marriages in Singapore are becoming more resilient, said Minister-in-charge of Muslim Affairs Yaacob Ibrahim on Monday (Oct 5) at a seminar aimed at better understanding marriage trends and challenges among Malay-Muslim couples.

    However, Dr Yaacob warned that marriages between young couples, as well as remarriages, remain vulnerable and called for a preventive and upstream approach to address the needs of these couples, both before and after marriage.

    He encouraged a culture of lifelong learning, where couples seek marriage education and proactive support.

    “New trends are emerging and therefore, we have to get for ourselves a new skill set in dealing with some of these new challenges that we are facing today,” said Dr Yaacob. “I always believe that information and awareness is important. I think we need to keep people informed. Such seminars are important for us to use this material to share with would-be couples.

    “I always believe that marriages are not made in heaven, they are made on earth. You have to work at it. And I think by sharing information, people understand better, that … you need to be able to find the right level of engagement between you and your spouse.”

    About 300 people, including social service practitioners, attended the seminar.

     

    Source: www.channelnewsasia.com