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  • The Tudung Issue: Open Letter to the Prime Minister

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    MalayForum2-1Dear Prime Minister,

    Wishing you a very Happy New Year.

    I hope that what I am going to say here will help to make you reconsider your stance with regard to several issues which the Malay Muslim community has long been unhappy about, the latest of which concerns its women folks’  desire to wear the tudung wherever their employment may be.

    To say that the Malay Muslim community is sad and disappointed with your decision to still disallow its woman folks in certain sectors of employment to don the tudung is an understatement.

    As usual the mainstream media tried to paint a different picture with its lopsided report. The Berita Harian topped it up with a group photo of seemingly happy, smiling people to give the false impression that the community is happy with your decision. I do not see any sensible reason as to why they should be smiling.

    Inso far as this issue is concerned the community has been keeping track of statements made by your ministers, including those of the Minister in charge of Muslim Affairs and members of Parliament from your party over the last few months.

    I read the statement you made after last Saturday’s dialog session several times over to try and make some sense of what you were saying and what message it was supposed to convey.

    I find it strange that in spite of having lived among Malay Muslims all your life and after more than 50 years lording over the people – 55 years of PAP rule since 1959 – you and senior members of your party still do not understand the psyche of the Malays and their steadfastness over their religious faith.

    Perhaps you have been relying too much on feedback from the mainstream media and from people around you who may include those who regard themselves ulamas and who have the tendency of making a virtue of telling you only what they think you would like to hear.  Many among them may have mastered the art of posturing or are simply playing the PR game.

    If you continue to rely on the mainstream media – in this case the Berita Harian,which many in the community feel is being micro managed by your Minister in charged of Muslim Affairs – for your feedback and be counseled largely by people around you,chances are you will remain blissfully ignorant of what the Malay ground is really saying.

    Some are already saying that the Prime Minister seems to think that he is now mightier than God since he has the power to easily overrule what has been made obligatory by the religion.

    They are not happy that they have to subject themselves to the discretion and whims and of the government even in carrying out certain aspects of their religious obligation.

    Granted that not all Muslim women will want to put on the tudung even if they are allowed to. That is their personal choice and they are answerable to God for their defiance. As for those who choose to don the tudung it is felt that there should not be an earthly power to prevent them from doing so. Even the Constitution guarantees them the freedom to practise their religion.

    You also warned against a ‘push back’ from the other communities should we insist on having it our way.

    At the same time you noted that the issue over the tudung was an old one and that you fully appreciate the desire of those who want the headscarf to be able to be worn by women more freely. According to you the change has got to be gradual.

    It can be agreed that change has got to be gradual. We have no quarrel with that and have been patiently waiting for change to happen. There has not been muchprogress since the 10 years that the issue last surfaced. We are neither asking for any concession nor are we taking anything away from or even depriving the other communities of anything, let alone intruding into their space.

    As such the likelihood of any push back from the other communities is very remote.It is only your government that is making it sound so threatening. Singaporeans are very rational  people and when given the proper explanation as well as by citing examples shown by other countries where Muslims make up even smaller numbers there is less likelihood that they would raise any objection.

    As things stand today, there is no evidence that members of the other communities are unhappy if Muslims women are allowed to wear the tudung no matter where their places of employment may be. They have got so usedto such sights. Contrary to what you think, my experience shows that they are quite supportive of our effort. This only goes to show how out of the touch you and your government are with the ground.

    I shall not dwell into the example you mentioned, equating the tudung issue with the putting up of Chinese language signs on the circle line as I feel that it is irrelevant in this discussion and totally out of context. This can be discussed at another forum.

    ButI agree that the issue at hand is broader than the tudung itself. I suppose you are trying to say that you have to be fair to followers of the other faiths, hence the term ‘push back ‘. I suppose the breath of the issue also include the need to broaden the common space and your government’s declared intention to build an inclusive society.

    I find this argument quite hollow and insincere. On the one hand you and yourministers talk about broadening the common space and the government’s desire in building aninclusive society. But on the other hand and in practice you are shrinking the common space by importing large numbers of immigrants mainly from the People’s Republic of China, India and the Philippines to swarm our limited space and in the process making life less bearable for Singaporeans. This has also further reduced the percentage of Malays compared to the others. Again no worries about any push back.

    But what is so annoying and detestable to the Malays is the carving out of areas and making them exclusive to non Malays and Muslims. In case you miss the point I am referring to your long time discriminatory national service policy which bars us from large sectors of the armed forces, especially the in the more specialised areas in the army, the air force and the navy.

    You have turned these sectors into exclusive domains of the non Malays and non Muslims.And you still have the audacity to talk about broadening the common space andbuilding an inclusive society? Can there be more hypocritical than this. We are taken to be fools.

    The psychological, and to a certain extent, economic, damage this destructive policy has done to the nation as a whole and to the Muslims in particular is incalculable.This is no way to build a united multi ethnic nation. Of course you are not worried about any push back since non Malays make up an overwhelming 86.6% of the population.

    For the sake of our future as a peaceful, united and progressive nation urgent steps need to be taken to make right where you have gone wrong.

    You may begin by allowing our Muslim female nurses to don the tudung and gradually the other sectors like the Customs and Immigration, the Civil Defence and the rest. This should be followed by changes to other areas. Let us celebrate our diversity in unity.

    Sincerely yours,

    Mohamed Jufrie Mahmood

     

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  • Parents Should Often Listen and Communicate With Their Children

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    Ian Johari Monteiro

    My mind is buzzing at the moment … I just had a very heart-warming moment with one of my weaker lot of pupils. During his ceramics class, he’d asked me if he needed to glaze the side of the base of his soap dish and I said yes but just a touch for otherwise the glaze would melt and stick to the kiln shelf and would have to be smashed to be removed. Later on, the external instructor came up and said he needed to remove the glaze from the side of the base. He insisted that I had instructed him to do so indignantly. He threw his glaze brush in a tantrum and kept repeating that I had asked him to do so. Had I not stepped in, he would have probably proceeded to smash the bisque wares on the table.

    What happened next could only be done with the years of experience I have under my belt. Had I been 10 years younger, I would have flared up right back in his face.

    I took him out of the classroom and calmed him down and asked him to relate to me what would transpired. The only thing he could tell me was (with tears streaming down his face) “Why is it no teacher ever believes me? I know I’m from the last class! I know I’m stupid but when ever I try to explain myself, no one ever believes me! I’m always at fault! But I’m not always wrong, you know!”

    I could only feel one thing … that this was an emotion suppressed over a long time. He had been taking it and taking it and taking it and he finally snapped.

    I looked right at him and told him, “You’re NOT stupid and never let anyone tell you otherwise. Yes, you have difficulties with your studies but I know your past, I was your form teacher for 2 years, remember? I’ve been your Art teacher for 5 years now! You told me nobody cares about your studies at home and you never get any kind of help with your work.

    You just had a bad start but that doesn’t always mean you have to finish last!

    Look at me. I teach Art, only Art. Other teachers look at me like I’m some kind of joke, a waste of breathable air in school. They forget that I have been a Form Teacher for 12 years before this. They think I’m stupid too, that’s why I don’t teach any major subjects.”

    He blurted, “But you’re very good at what you do! You’re talented!”

    “And so are you! You just haven’t found your passion yet … Art and teaching children have always been mine. I’m lucky.” I added.

    What happened next was totally unexpected. He threw himself against me and hugged me tight, sobbing into my dirty apron. “Sir, you’re one of the few teachers who ever listens to me before answering. You’re not a joke, you’re very talented. I always try to do my best in your class. I’m not the best artist but you’ve never put me down about my work. I wish more adults were like you …”

    I patted his shoulder, took a step back and looked him right in the face. “Sometimes, being an adult can also be very difficult. Promise me whatever difficulty you face in life, it will never make you a bad person but a better person. Now, enough already. Wash your face, freshen up and apologize to the instructor because firstly, she didn’t know of my instructions to you. Secondly, she’s not from the school and doesn’t know you very well and thirdly, be big enough to know that she is an adult and deserves your respect just as one day, you will deserve it from someone as well.” I stood there as everything I had asked him to do was carried out with a smile.

    A few things ran through my head at that moment.

    How many times have we, as adults, lost our temper because we had a bad day, at someone younger or even a child? Do we know what a child in Singapore has to go through these days? How many times have be brushed off a child JUST because he is a child? Have we ever listened to a child’s side of the story? Or do we immediately assume that a child is not capable of being honest or giving a true account of things? How many adults do we know of who would NOT embellish the truth to protect their own skin?

    I’m just glad one child now know someone who will listen to him if he needs someone to do so.

    Authored by Ian Johari Monteiro

     

    EDITOR’S NOTE

    This is such a moving story that we just have to share it. Kudos to Ian Johari Monteiro for writing this beautiful piece.

    Parents should often listen to their child, pay attention to every detail, and offer your support, instead of screaming because not every child has the tendency to deal with yelling. The more you listen to your child, you will help your child to established a sense of connections with you, they will feel comfortable to express their feelings to you at anytime with no hesitation. Not saying it’s an easy process but it can be done if you only take a minute to just listen and you’ll be amaze to see how soon this child will start to have a closer relationship with you as a parent. 

    To those parents who are obsessed with success, here’s something you should think about from today onwards. Success can never be thought of as more important than moral values. The journey is actually more important than the destination and if no ethics were involved in the journey then the destination has no value at all. A person has to feel good about how they achieved their success in order to feel good about it.

     

  • Handicapped Driver Got Fined $100 For Parking at Handicap Lot

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    Stomper dukun says he was issued a parking ticket on Sunday (May 11) for parking in a handicap lot — even though he was a handicapped driver.

    He even had a handicap parking label displayed on his vehicle.

    Said the Stomper:

    “I was booked by Certis Cisco officer Siti Farhanah for parking at a handicap lot last Sunday (May 11) at about 10.53am.

    “I am a handicapped vehicle driver with a valid handicap label on my vehicle.

    “Since when is a vehicle with a valid handicap label are not allowed to park at handicap lots?”

    Source: http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/singaporeseen/this-urban-jungle/driver-issued-100-fine-for-parking-at-handicap-lot-despite-label-on-his-car

     

    EDITOR’S NOTE

    To all parking wardens, please check the all the labels on the vehicle. Sometimes there are too many labels, so take your time to look through each and every one of them.

    To all drivers, please display your parking labels correctly where visible to avoid getting any parking ticket from parking wardens.

    Human errors do happen especially when you are tired or have an urgent need to run to the toilet. Not everyday our body and mind are in tip-top condition, right?

    So take a chill pill and this matter can easily be resolved with just an email or a phone call.

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  • Orang Indon Bingit Sebab Rendang Asal Padang Bukan Singapura

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    Beberapa hari lalu sewaktu ada kerjaan di Singapore, saya ketemuan dengan seorang teman di daerah Ang Mo Kio Singapore. Karena sedang kangen dengan masakan Indonesia, maka saya minta teman tersebut mengajak saya makan rendang,masakan khas Padang yang biasa terdapat di restoran padang, seperti terdapat di food court Lucky Plaza Orchard rd.

    Teman singapore saya siang itu tidak punya banyak waktu, ia sedang sibuk dengan proyeknya di bidang property. Bukannya ia membawa saya makan Rendang di restoran Padang, ia malah membawa saya makan Rendang di Burger King yang ada di mall Ang Mo Kio tersebut.

    Teman saya mengatakan “Gak usah jauh-jauh makan rendang cari restoran padang, apalagi sampai ke Orchard rd, di Burger King juga ada burger dengan daging rendang ASLI rasa KHAS Singapore.“

    Saya kaget juga dengan apa yang saya lihat “Haaaa, apa saya gak salah liat nih? Bukankah rendang asli Indonesia, tepatnya dari Padang?”

    Teman saya menjawab “Jangan asal klaim, apa buktinya kalo Rendang asli Indonesia. Apa kalian punya hak paten atas rendang? Kami di Singapura sudah makan rendang sejak dulu. Makanya burger King saja berani katakan The Original Rendang Is Back, the taste of Singapore. Kalo menurut saya, Rendang itu asli Singapore. Kalian dari Indonesia aja suka ikut-ikutan.”

    Mendengar perkataan teman tersebut, hati saya mendidih, jiwa nasionalisme saya tersentil, saya gak tinggal diam, lalu saya mengatakan kepada teman tersebut dengan semangat 45 ala ala Soekarno dulu “Kita memang berteman, tapi kalo bro mengklaim Rendang asli singapore, terpaksa mulai sekarang kita tidak berteman lagi. Saya yakin rendang itu asli Indonesia, asli Padang, semua restoran di Indonesia pasti menyediakan rendang. Kalo sampai restoran padang gak ada rendang, rasanya gak nendang.”

    Mendengar jawaban aku yang serius, temanku jadi kaget, dan dengan suara pelan dan hati-hati dia mengatakan “Sabar bro. Masa gara-gara rendang kita jadi tak berteman. Ya sudah kita gak usah makan rendang singapore ini, nanti suasana jadi gak enak. Kita makan di restoran Jepang aja, sushi dan sashiminya terenak di Singapore, ada geishanya juga, tercantik di singapore. Yuk kita pergi dari Ang Mo Kio.”

    Dengan senyum terkembang, saya menjawab “Ini baru namanya teman, ngerti banget sih bro.”

    Kitapun meluncur ke restoran Jepang dimaksud.

    Selamat siang Indonesia

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    EDITOR’S NOTE

    Jangan terlalu emosi. Ini kan cuma iklan sahaja dari Burger King.

    Semua orang tahu rendang itu asal dari Padang. Memang banyak makanan yang kita makan di restaurant juga menghidangkan lauk-pauk Padang. Tidak usahlah isu seperti ini sampai orang Indonesia mahu sensitif pula dengan orang Singapura. Isu remeh ini.

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  • Importance of Good Netiquette

     

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    EDITOR’S NOTE

    Rilek1Corner would like to remind all our readers about the importance of observing good netiquette on the Internet, including on Rilek1Corner’s website, Twitter and Facebook Page. 

    Online posts are easy to dash off and virtually impossible to retract once published. Many people don’t realise the potential consequences of making fun of others especially public figures on social media such as Facebook and Twitter.

    Netiquette is important as it reflects your character when using the web, thus affects the first impression people have on you when they see you on the web. When posting something on the web, ensure that there is no vulgarities/obscenities/any inappropriate content as that would cause people to think you are uncivilized and uneducated.

    As Muslims and Malays, we are all well-known for being polite and courteous. Let’s continue to maintain our good image, shall we? 🙂

    If we ever have that strong itch to slam and say nasty words to someone, think again about what happened to our friend who became famous for the wrong reason, landed himself into big trouble with the law, and became unemployed overnight.

    Always think before you say something.

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