Tag: Singaporeans

  • A Chinese-Singaporean Husband’s Dilemma – ‘Sorry Your Wife Is Indian. Landlord Won’t Rent To You’.

    A Chinese-Singaporean Husband’s Dilemma – ‘Sorry Your Wife Is Indian. Landlord Won’t Rent To You’.

    Darius Cheung, founder of Singapore-based property listing site 99.co, is married to Indian-Singaporean wife Roshni Mahtani, who’s also an entrepreneur (she started parenting portaltheAsianparent).

    Late last year, they began searching for a property to rent, thinking that an oversupply of apartments would make it easy. They were wrong.

    You see, as a Chinese Singaporean man, Darius had been sheltered from the everyday racism felt by minorities. He was about to get an education.

    “I began to notice something very odd as we went for these viewings, something I never encountered before in the dozen years that I’ve been renting,” he writes on the company blog.

    “On several occasions, the agents seemed eager to end the viewings quickly, sometimes without even discussing the offer. I would text them afterwards to negotiate on the price, but one of the responses we got was a shocking ‘Sorry your wife is Indian, landlord won’t rent to you. Next time please indicate earlier, so we both don’t waste time.’”

    He did precisely that. True enough, 20 percent of their enquiries were rejected right away because Roshni was mentioned in the text message.

    “In one case, after the typical vague response of ‘profile doesn’t match,’ I pushed harder to ask ‘Is it because my wife is Indian?’, and the response was a dead-pan ‘yes, thanks for your understanding.’”

    They ended up paying 15 percent more than what they should have because of their difficulty finding a place.

    The event led to some soul-searching. They wanted to include both parents’ surnames in their daughter’s name. They thought about dropping the Indian surname to protect her, but decided against it.

    So Darius sought to do something about racial discrimination in the property market. He writes:

    If you google ‘No Indian No PRC’, you will find actual rental listings in Singapore in the top results. The problem is so prevalent that even BBC had extensive coverage on it some time ago.

    Enquiries about rental properties often come with a series of profiling questions that includes ‘What race are you?’, ‘Where are you from?’, or outright rejection by stating ‘Profile doesn’t match.’ The top two groups of people who receive discriminatory responses are Indians and PRCs (referring to those from the People’s Republic of China).

    Landlords often cite reasons like “lack of cleanliness”, “likelihood of damaging the apartment,” and even “I don’t like them.”

    99.co is now tackling this by introducing an “all-races-welcome” indicator on its website. What this means is that agents and landlords can positively indicate that their properties can be rented by anyone regardless of ethnicity. Such listings will get prominent placing on the website.

    “The idea is to give renters peace of mind during their home search journey – reducing instances of rude comments and unpleasant experiences while enquiring about listings.”

     

    Source: www.techinasia.com

  • Singaporean Women Wrongly Accused By Airbnb Host Of Sleeping With Her Boyfriend

    Singaporean Women Wrongly Accused By Airbnb Host Of Sleeping With Her Boyfriend

    She returned home from a vacation, only to find a shocking message from her host.

    We are all familiar nasty online reviews. All over the internet, restaurant-goers decry bad service, film critics baulk at plot holes in the latest movie and holidaymakers point the finger of blame at their vacation hosts for all their travel misfortunes. But the tables were turned on me during my holiday to a quaint city in Southeast Asia.

    Any ordinary holiday

    While chatting online with my friend Alice*, who was backpacking on her own across the region, I decided on a whim to go on a short getaway myself.

    “Fly up and meet me in this city! You can settle all of our travel arrangements during that leg of my trip,’ she said. I didn’t mind doing all the work so I started making the necessary arrangements. I booked my flights and found us an affordable place to stay on vacation rental site Airbnb.

    The guesthouse was a gem of a find: it was located near the city centre, looked spacious and comfortable, and renting a room cost less than $15 a night I contacted the host, Gen* and managed to secure my booking for two nights.

    A week later, Alice and I met at our destination. When we arrived at the guesthouse, Gen was nowhere to be seen. In her stead, was a Caucasian man who introduced himself as Antonio* and the owner of the property.

    He told me that he ran a tour agency from the first floor of the building and I simply assumed that the woman in the Airbnb profile picture was one of his staff.

    Antonio was warm and friendly. He helped us to settle in and recommended various places of interests and good eateries. So we did our sightseeing, shopped and ate to our hearts’ content. We had a great time.

    On the third and final day, I said goodbye to Alice. I had planned to spend the day at the spa before leaving for Singapore, whereas she had decided to head to her next destination right away, so we went our separate ways.

    The unexpected review

    I returned to life as usual in Singapore and got back into the daily grind. Alice had not contacted me since we parted ways, but photographs from her travels appeared on my social media feed every day or so.

    Two weeks had passed since I arrived home when a notification popped up on my smartphone. It was a computer generated message from Airbnb that read, “Gen wrote you a review. Here’s what she wrote…”

    Curious to know what Antonio and his staff had to say about me, I opened the message and was horrified by what I saw: “She came to our home. She booked two nights, but stayed an extra night in my boyfriend’s bedroom and slept with my boyfriend while I wasn’t there.”

    Above the text was a statement from Airbnb to say that the review would be visible on my public profile. This meant that any potential Airbnb host in future would read it!

    I gaped at the message and read it two more times to make sure my eyes were not playing tricks on me. Who was this mysterious woman and why would she accuse me of something so blatantly untrue?

    I wrote her an angry response, demanding an explanation.

    “Look, I don’t know who you are but I definitely did not sleep with anyone’s boyfriend. I stayed in the city for exactly two nights and came home to Singapore. I am furious that you would say slander me in this way!”

    Within minutes, her reply came through.

    “I am so sorry if you’re the one who left after two days,” she began.

    Uh-oh, I thought, as it dawn on me what had happened. On our second night, Alice had spent a good hour or so speaking with Antonio at the front desk. She’d told me that she needed to ask for directions to her destination and that I should go back to our room first. Had she lied to me?

    The truth at last

    Gen continued: “Your friend was the one who stayed. I don’t live in the city – I only visit about once a month.” She had learnt about her boyfriend’s betrayal from some neighbours.

    “They told me my boyfriend took a customer around the city and had dinner with her,” she told me. “It all sounded very strange to me, so I checked with the staff about your booking and found that you had only reserved two nights at our guesthouse. We had no available room for a third night.”

    It turns out Antonio had taken Alice for a tour of the city and then to dinner. After that, they returned to the guesthouse and shared a bottle of wine. “He confessed to all of these things and to letting her sleep in our bedroom but denied having sex,” Gen wrote.

    “I feel so tired. You cannot imagine how heartbroken I am. Maybe they really did not have sex, but your friend is single and can do whatever she wants. We had planned to get married but I’ve called it off and ended our relationship.”Gen ended her note by apologising for the trouble she had caused and promising to write to Airbnb to remove the review.

    From one accusation to another

    I stared at Gen’s outpouring onscreen, reeling. I recalled that Alice had mentioned meeting various men in her travels – they had taken care of her, carried her things and planned her routes. “I get a different boy for each leg of the trip,” she had joked.

    I wondered if perhaps I had not realised the implications of what she’d told me at the time. Was she giving sexual favours in exchange for their care and attention?

    I contemplated confronting Alice about the incident but decided against it. After all, I had been completely outraged with Gen’s accusation. She’d acted rashly and without any evidence. What gave me the right to hurl the same accusation at Alice? I decided to let the matter rest but made a mental note that I would make sure to properly introduce myself to my next Airbnb host, just in case.

    *Names have been changed.

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    Source: www.stomp.com.sg

  • Adi Putra Married Second Wife In Secret Ceremony?

    Adi Putra Married Second Wife In Secret Ceremony?

    His marriage has become a red-hot topic over the weekend – but no one is talking about his wife of a decade.

    At least, not directly.

    Instead, both curious netizens and fans of Singaporean actor Adi Putra are more interested in unconfirmed news of a secret second wife that the Kuala Lumpur-based star allegedly took in a small closed-door wedding ceremony recently.

    But is there any truth to this?

    Yesterday afternoon, both Adi, 35, and his wife Aida Yusof, 41, posted a happy photo of themselves on their respective Instagram accounts.

    Adi Putra and his wife of 10 years Aida Yusof smiling happily. PHOTO: INSTAGRAM/ADI PUTRA

    The photo, as if to dispel the gossip, was simply captioned with a smiley.

    It drew mixed reactions from Instagram followers.

    Some voiced their support and joy for the couple, while others questioned his true intention for uploading the photo.

    Other dissenters mocked him for being “unfaithful” and making the wrong move.

    The shocking rumour of his alleged second marriage rocked the Internet and was backed by viral photos obtained by Malaysian media.

    Malaysian infortainment portal Astro Gempak claimed it received two photos of the alleged solemnisation ceremony between Adi and his new wife, a 33-year-old single mum.

    Malaysian media also ran a third photo of him kissing her forehead.

    What added to the speculation was a note posted by Adi himself on his Instagram page last Saturday, hastily cancelling a Hari Raya and fifth anniversary gathering with his fan club, 1HotLovers, last Sunday.

    He apologised but did not state the reason.

    Malaysian news site Utusan Online identified Adi’s rumoured new bride as Norshahida Zolkafly and reported that she works in the corporate department of a government agency.

    It also reported that the pair have a joint business venture which started over a year ago.

    Adi, whose real name is Mohamed Hadi Putera Halim, tied the knot with Madam Aida in 2006.

    They have a four-year-old daughter.

    KEPT IN THE DARK

    When contacted by Utusan Online last weekend, Madam Aida, who is also based in Kuala Lumpur, refused to elaborate on the situation.

    “Please give me some space for now. I hope all parties can understand the situation at hand,” she said simply.

    Malaysian media ran reports that she was kept in the dark about Adi’s new marriage.

    Prior to this incident, the couple’s marriage hit the rocks in 2012 when he filed for a divorce but retracted it shortly after.

    In an interview that year following the drama, he told The New Paper that his marriage was “getting good and is better than before”.

    The following year, his name was dragged through the mud when he was accused of exchanging lewd photos and messages with an unknown married woman.

    Again, he told TNP that he and his wife were “fine” and that she was “calm and cool because she knows me”.

    TNP was unable to reach Adi, who has not directly addressed his latest scandal publicly.

    Ms Norshahida has also chosen to remain tight-lipped, telling Malaysian newspaper Harian Metro: “I apologise. I cannot comment on this issue.”

    However, on the day Astro Gempak received photos of the ceremony, it also received screenshots of a Facebook status allegedly written by her ex-husband.

    The long message made a reference to a woman who chose to follow her heart after she found a man she felt could guide her, without giving due consideration to her own young child.

    Fans and detractors did not hold back with their comments.

    Twitter user‏@AsyEynaz wrote: “Adi putra kawin lain ye (‘Did Adi remarry?’ in Malay)? I thought he (is) such a loyal husband to his wife.”

    But @AhBee_ADP pledged his support for Adi, writing: “With all the rumours I will still support you.”

    A Malaysia Gazette commentary even asked what the fuss was about since Muslim men are allowed to marry up to four wives.

    It suggested it was better that “Adi get married than have an extra-marital affair.”

    “Please give me some space for now. I hope all parties can understand the situation at hand.”

    – Madam Aida Yusof, who married Singaporean actor Adi Putra in 2006

     

    Source: www.tnp.sg

  • Is My Intolerance Of Your Intolerance, Intolerant?

    Is My Intolerance Of Your Intolerance, Intolerant?

    Imagine the scene: a small group of opinion writers from major newspapers in the United States sit in a meeting room in Riyadh with robed and keffiyeh-wearing officials from Saudi Arabia’s Ministry of Education. The subject is intolerance. As a syndicated columnist and editorial writer, I am among those journalists. Our questions focus on textbooks used to educate millions of Saudi children in public schools.

    Why, we ask, are the books so full of intolerance toward people of other faiths? They reek of degrading and insulting descriptions of Christians, Jews, and anyone who doesn’t subscribe to the Saudis’ strict brand of Islam. The textbooks condone—nay encourage—violence against people of other faiths, claiming it is necessary to protect the integrity of Wahhabism. We ask: Aren’t you planting seeds of hate and setting up the conditions for young people to be more easily recruited by terrorist organizations?

    Relevant questions. The year was 2002.

    We’d heard a lot of Orwellian thinking during that trip to the King­dom of the House of Saud. Veiling women is a form of freedom. Mossad was behind the events of September 11, 2001. Islam is a religion of peace. But what we heard at the education ministry was right up there on the delusion-meter.

    We were the intolerant ones, they said. Our impertinent questions were proof. How dare we question their cultural and religious traditions? Any suggestion that their textbooks smacked of bigotry was an affront to their sovereignty and a form of religious intolerance.

    We were being intolerant of their intolerance.

    You can see how this distorted view can happen in a theocratic monarchy such as Saudi Arabia’s. The Saudis have a lot riding on trying to convince the West to keep quiet about the ugly attitudes and backward rules that shape their country—a system built around religious pronouncements that women are less than men in law, commerce, and the domestic sphere and that anyone non-Muslim is worthy of persecution and, in many cases, death.

    You would think that the best Saudi Arabia could hope for would be to keep its head down while asking the West to ignore its peculiar institutions. But that’s not Saudi Arabia’s MO. With preachy sanctimony, the Saudis proclaim that any criticism of their system violates international norms of human rights.

    Last year, at an international summit in France, Saudi Arabia lashed out at the media and countries that value free speech for allowing religious criticism, according to the Saudi Gazette. “We have made it clear that freedom of expression without limits or restrictions would lead to violation and abuse of religious and ideological rights,” said Abdulmajeed Al-Omari, director for external relations at the Ministry of Islamic Affairs. “This requires everyone to intensify efforts to criminalize insulting heavenly religions, prophets, holy books, religious symbols, and places of worship.”

    This from a country that doesn’t allow Christmas trees, teaches the Protocols of the Elders of Zion as historical fact, and in 2005 sentenced a schoolteacher to 750 lashes and three and a half years in prison for praising Jews and discussing the Gospels. (The teacher was pardoned after protests.)

    In Saudi Arabia today, atheism is legally designated as terrorism. Earlier this year, a man who tweeted on atheism was sentenced to ten years in prison and two thousand lashes. The Center for Inquiry (CFI) has been advocating on behalf of Saudi poet Ashraf Fayadh, who was sentenced to death in 2015 for apostasy, then resentenced on appeal earlier this year to eight years in prison and eight hundred lashes. CFI sent a letter to President Barack Obama to urge him to push for Fayadh’s release during his visit to Saudi Arabia in April. And CFI has been drawing international attention to the case of imprisoned Saudi human rights activist Raif Badawi, sentenced to ten years and one thousand lashes for insulting Islam. The charges stemmed from articles Badawi wrote criticizing religious figures on his website devoted to free expression of ideas.

    When, in 2014, CFI representative Josephine Macintosh spoke before the United Nation’s Human Rights Council, drawing attention to the desert kingdom’s brutal and repressive treatment of religious dissenters in general and of Badawi in particular, the representative from Saudi Arabia interrupted Macintosh three times. This attempt to shut down Macintosh’s critique was unsuccessful after other member states, including the United States, Ireland, Canada, and France, expressed their support for the right of Macintosh, CFI, and other nongovernmental organizations to speak.

    And the Saudis claim we are the human rights violators.

    This pity party would be a party of one were it not for a borderline-pathological alliance some on the political Left have made with this way of thinking. Bizarrely, a subset of progressives has bought into the idea that any criticism of the tenets of Islam is an attack on Muslim people. The two are not the same, of course. Discriminatory ideas found in the Qur’an and practiced as part of Sharia law—such as that women’s testimony is worth only half that of men’s—should be open to criticism. And the critic is not a bigot for saying so.

    Perhaps the most famous example of this conflation was the attack on Sam Harris by actor Ben Affleck on Bill Maher’s HBO show Real Time. Affleck’s apoplectic reaction to Harris’s criticisms of Islam as “gross and racist” reinforced the point of the conversation, which was that the Left cares about women’s equality and homo­sexual rights except when Islamists are the ones oppressing women and gays—then the oppression is excused out of hyper-cultural sensitivity.

    Consider what happened last De­cem­ber to the courageous feminist crusader and Islamic critic Maryam Namazie. During Namazie’s talk on blasphemy and apostasy at Goldsmiths University in the United Kingdom, a group of young men from the school’s Islamic Society entered the room with the intention of making it impossible for her to continue. They laughed, heckled, and generally disrupted the talk, at one point turning off her projector when a slide depicting a cartoon of the Prophet Muhammad was shown.

    Rather than defend Namazie, the Goldsmiths Feminist Society issued a statement standing “in solidarity” with the Islamic Society and condemning the student group of atheists, secularists, and humanists who invited Namazie to their campus. “Hosting known islamophobes [sic] at our university creates a climate of hatred,” the statement read.

    I’d like to take these Goldsmiths feminists on a tour of Saudi Arabia to see what they are fighting for. The gleaming office towers of that country don’t have ladies’ rooms. There’s no need, since women are not permitted to work alongside men.

    Blasphemy laws are the legal extension of this Goldsmiths no-one-should-ever-be-offended attitude. Used as tools of repression to keep the faithful in line, minority faiths small and quiet, and nonbelievers in the closet, blasphemy laws are a menace to enlightenment values. CFI is helping to lead the international effort to vanquish them.

    Defenders of Islam’s untenable dictates on women, gays, atheists, and members of other faiths have only one arrow in their quiver, which is to try and silence their critics because they have no valid responses to them. As much as they would like to convince us that our intolerance of their intolerance is a form of cultural hegemony, we’re not buying it.

     


    Robyn E. Blumner is the CEO of the Center for Inquiry and the CEO and president of the Richard Dawkins Foundation for Reason & Science. She was a nationally syndicated columnist and editorial writer for the Tampa Bay Times (formerly the St. Petersburg Times) for sixteen years.

     

    Source: www.secularhumanism.org

  • Failed Coup In Turkey: Returning Travelers Recall The Fear And Chaos

    Failed Coup In Turkey: Returning Travelers Recall The Fear And Chaos

    With helicopters buzzing overhead, the sound of gunshots and soldiers in full battle dress with weapons at the ready – it was total chaos at Istanbul’s Ataturk airport in the hours after Friday night’s attempted military coup in Turkey.

    Singaporeans who returned from Istanbul to relieved family members yesterday described scenes of fear, with travellers hiding in toilets to wait out the siege.

    Jet planes would take off and thunder past so close that the windows would vibrate.

    “It sounded like explosions,” said Ms Joanne Lim, 33, who is in between jobs.

    She was one of the Singaporeans who arrived home yesterday evening on a Turkish Airlines flight. She spent 24 hours waiting for a plane out of Turkey after her initial flight was cancelled.

    Another Singaporean, Ms Grace Feng, 33, said she was at the airport waiting for her flight to depart at about midnight, when all flights were suddenly cancelled.

    Ms Feng, a teacher, said it was “a huge mess” and that travellers were piecing together what happened from television broadcasts and news on their mobile phones.

    People also started running in panic after a glass wall broke at the airport, she said.

    Ms Feng said that what was “most scary” was the sense that “anyone could just walk in” to the area where travellers were huddled in the airport in the middle of the night. She added that people were sleeping at restaurants in the transit area.

    At Changi Airport yesterday, travellers were also faced with a frustrating wait at the baggage belt, as luggage from their flight went through additional screenings.

    At the Terminal 1 belt, security staff were also seen scanning people with metal detectors.

    Two hours after the flight landed at about 8pm, families were still waiting anxiously for their loved ones. Some, like Ms Feng, shared a tight embrace with family members after finally coming out of the baggage area.

    Many family members said they were worried after hearing about the attempted coup and the airport being closed.

    Musician John Chua was waiting for his cousin, who told him that bombing sounds could be heard at the airport.

    “We were worried, we also weren’t sure if he was telling us everything that was happening,” said Mr Chua, 31.

    Mrs Lyn Sam, 71, said her son – who was returning from a business trip – had to queue for more than three hours to get his ticket revalidated for the new flight.

    “It sounded like a harrowing experience, with the helicopters and soldiers standing outside the glass door with guns,” said the housewife.

    Earlier yesterday morning, a group of 10 ITE College Central students and their lecturer also arrived back from Istanbul via Kuala Lumpur.

    The group, comprising students aged between 18 and 21, were stranded at Ataturk airport for about 13 hours and had hid inside a toilet, said an ITE spokesman, who added that they were relieved at the “safe return of all students and staff”.

     

    Source: The Straits Times

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