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  • Berlumba-Lumba Hantar Anak Ke Kelas Tuisyen

    Berlumba-Lumba Hantar Anak Ke Kelas Tuisyen

    Pagi ini, saya mendengar sebuah stesyen radio membincangkan isu kelas tambahan atau tuisyen untuk kanak-kanak seawal 4 tahun. Macam biasa, ramai parents membuat call memberi pendapat dan rata-ratanya bersetuju kanak-kanak perlukan tuisyen.

    “Malu lah kalau anak saya tak pergi tuisyen, kawan-kawan sy semua hantar anak pergi tuisyen.”

    “Tuisyen kan sekarang trend. Kita kena follow trend.”

    “Daripada membazir masa di rumah, elok lah hantar anak ke kelas tambahan.”

    Owner pusat tuisyen pun siap called ni,

    “Bagus hantar anak ke pusat tuisyen, sekurang2nya anak-anak tak terkejut bila masuk ke pendidikan formal.Senang lulus ujian Linus. Masuk kelas first.”

    Pemikiran ibu bapa di Malaysia hari ini sangat menakutkan. Berlumba-lumba bersaing untuk menayangkan anak siapa paling cepat pandai. Untuk apa ya?

    Dan kebanyakkannya adalah ibu bapa di kalangan golongan yang agak berada dan berpendapatan tinggi. Tapi, malangnya keberadaan dan kemewahan yang dikecap, gagal ditancap sebaiknya untuk membuat mereka cakna mengenai kepentingan dan keperluan anak-anak yang betul-betul di perlukan.

    Alhamdulillah, sejak dari dulu rakyat Malaysia sedar mengenai isu penderaan fizikal. Mendera dan mrotan akan memberi impak yang berpanjangan kepada perkembangan anak-anak yang berterusan.

    Tapi kita terlupa, selain fizikal, kanak-kanak juga terdera EMOSI dan MENTALnya. Percayalah, penderaan mental dan emosi adalah lagi teruk dari penderaan fizikal. Fizikal kita boleh nampak luaran, mental dan emosi kita tak boleh nampak.

    Kita marah ibu bapa yang dera anak secara fizikal. Tapi kita terlupa pandang diri sendiri.

    Dan minggu ini, pelajar seawal 11 tahun membunuh diri akibat kegagalan beliau di dalam peperiksaan. Sebuah sistem yang membentuk intelektual kanak-kanak, tapi gagal membentuk akhlaq dan sahsiah. Di dorong oleh ibu bapa yang jumud jiwa nya.

    Bila kita nak sedar?

    Tak kan nak berhenti bila di dada akhbar terpampang

    “Pelajar Tadika bunuh diri dan membunuh rakan lain kerana gagal membaca ABC dan membuat kiraan mudah 1+1?”

    Berhenti lah ibu bapa. Semua ini salah. Kita semua salah.

    Ini semua malapetaka. Berhentilah.

  • “Wahai Lelaki, Tolonglah Jangan Pakai Tshirt Atau Jersi Bila Pergi Majlis. Biadap Tahu Tak?”

    “Wahai Lelaki, Tolonglah Jangan Pakai Tshirt Atau Jersi Bila Pergi Majlis. Biadap Tahu Tak?”

    Gambar sekadar hiasan. Lelaki oh lelaki… Bila bercakap soal fesyen, lelaki memang jenis suka pakaian yang simple, kasual, dan senang. Berbeza sikit dengan kaum hawa yang begitu particular dan teliti tentang fesyen.
     
    Setiap hari, perempuan mesti akan fikir nak pakai baju apa, nak pakai colour apa, nak match-kan dengan apa, nak make up macam mana, nak bawa handbag yang mana, nak pakai kasut apa, style tudung macam mana, rambut nak ikat ke tak, dan macam-macam lagi. Banyak betul benda yang bermain di fikiran kaum wanita.
     
    Kalau lelaki pulak, asalkan ada baju dan seluar, sarung terus, dan siap! Tak payah pening-pening kepala nak fikir macam-macam. Janji pakai baju. Lol.
     
    Tapi masalahnya… Bila dah terlalu biasa dengan sikap “asalkan pakai baju”, lelaki akan jadi tak kisah tentang dress code atau etika pemakaian, terutamanya bila pergi majlis. Hari-hari pakai tshirt, hari-hari pakai jersi, hari-hari pakai jeans, hari-hari pakai selipar, hari-hari pakai seluar pendek, hari-hari selekeh dan tak kemas, sampai pergi majlis pun tak reti nak pakai elok-elok.
     
    Paling mudah dan paling common yang kita selalu pergi tentunya majlis perkahwinan. Boleh kata hampir setiap minggu mesti dapat jemputan ke majlis walimatulurus pasangan pengantin baru. Tak kiralah sama ada majlis kahwin kawan baik ke, majlis kahwin kawan sekolah rendah ke, majlis kahwin ex ke, majlis kahwin saudara mara ke, atau siapa-siapa kahwin sekali pun, inilah majlis yang paling biasa kita datang.
     
    Dan dalam setiap majlis pun, mesti akan ada orang yang boleh buat kita sakit mata bila melihat. Saya tak pasti dengan korang semua. Tapi saya memang suka perhati cara pemakaian kaum lelaki bila di sesuatu majlis. Pada saya, kalau nak datang ke mana-mana majlis, lelaki mahupun perempuan kenalah ada etika dan cara pemakaian yang betul.
     
    Malangnya, ramai yang tak kisah pasal ni. Perempuan tak ada masalah sangat. Yang masalah sekarang ini ialah kaum Adam. Macam saya cakap tadi, perempuan memang sangat teliti dari segi pemakaian. Bila pergi bersukan, mereka akan pakai baju sukan. Bila pergi kelas, mereka akan pakai pakaian yang sesuai untuk dibawa ke kelas. Bila pergi majlis pulak, pastinya kaum perempuan akan melaram sakan.
     
    Namun lelaki… Pergi bersukan pakai jersi atau tshirt, pergi shopping mall pakai jersi atau tshirt, pergi kelas pun pakai jersi atau tshirt, pergi sana sini semua pakai jersi atau tshirt, termasuklah pergi ke majlis. Perasan tak? Seolah-olah lelaki macam dah tak ada baju lain nak pakai. Pergi majlis pun nak pakai jersi atau tshirt bulat tak ada kolar ke bang? Seriously?
     
    Dear men, Tolonglah serius sikit dalam bab etika pemakaian ke majlis. Nak pakai jersi pergi bersukan atau pergi shopping mall semua tu tak jadi masalah. Tak ada orang kisah pun. Tapi tolonglah berhenti pakai baju-baju macam tu bila pergi ke majlis.
     
    Biadap tahu tak?
     
    Kalau anda nak tahu, sesebuah majlis yang dirai semestinya didatangi dengan etika pemakaian tertentu walaupun tidak disebut di dalam kad ucapan. Dan etika pemakaian tersebut sudah tentu melarang tetamu daripada memakai jersi ataupun tshirt yang dianggap tidak sopan.
     
    Sekurang-kurangnya, pakailah pakaian yang lebih proper seperti tshirt polo berkolar. Engkau tu nak pergi majlis, bukan nak pergi melepak. Lagi sedih bila tengok lelaki datang ke majlis pakai tshirt atau jersi bersama pasangan yang berpakaian serba elok
     
    Pasangan bukan main cantik, pakai pun proper, siap make up, siap pakai tudung branded mahal, setting rambut cun-cun, siap pakai heels sebab dia tahu dia rendah, ditambah pulak dengan clutch di tangan. Memang stylo dan sangat lengkap.
     
    Tapi yang lelaki? Tak kisah langsung. Main sarung je mana-mana tshirt atau jersi yang ada, pakai jeans, pakai kasut sport, settle. Pada dia, mungkin dah elok sangat dah cara pemakaian dia tu. Bang, tak nampak ke pasangan kau tu gigih gila dress up nak pergi majlis dan nak jumpa kau? Kau takkan la tak ada rasa malu langsung?
     
    Hmmm…Mungkin ada yang bertanya, “Habis tu nak pakai apa?” Ini antara 6 senarai pakaian yang sesuai untuk majlis:
     
    1. Tshirt berkolar atau Tshirt Polo berkolar
     
    Tak semestinya brand Polo. Yang penting ada kolar. Tapi, bukan baju kolar kain jersi tu.
     
    2. Baju kemeja
    Lengan pendek boleh, lengan panjang pun boleh. Kemeja memang pilihan paling selamat.
     
    3. Nak lagi up, pakai siap dengan blazer
    Hanya untuk yang berani sahaja.
     
    PENTING: Segala jenis pakaian yang kau nak pakai tu mestilah bergosok dan tak renyuk.
     
    Sebab pernah je jumpa sebelum ni, pakai baju seluar semua dah elok, tapi langsung tak bergosok. Facepalm terus. Oh lupa, jangan pakai topi, pouchbag (perokok atau vapers suka bawak), dan pastikan rambut kilat berminyak. Nak lagi style pakailah pomade. Hehe.
     
    Bukan susah pun. Serius tak susah. Kalau perempuan yang nak kena bersiap berejam tu pun sanggup pakai cantik-cantik, kenapa lelaki tak boleh? Tapi untuk lelaki sebenarnya tak payah spend time sampai sejam pun. Soal pemilihan pakaian je yang kena ubah sikit.
     
    Come on guys, you can do better than this. Harap lepas dah baca artikel ni, korang akan ubah mindset dan segera perbaiki cara pemakaian.
  • Commentary: Retired Military Generals Are Only Familiar With Simulated Situations, But Not For Real Life Issues

    Commentary: Retired Military Generals Are Only Familiar With Simulated Situations, But Not For Real Life Issues

    The long time practice of putting retired military generals to take charge of public institutions that are vital to the social and economic lives of citizens – even if they had volunteered for the job – may not be the wisest thing to do after all. They may be scholars no doubt, but if they had spent all their working lives running military outfits, day in and day out facing simulated situations, they may not find it easy to adapt to real life issues.
    For example what technical experience does an ex general have to run a train system that is increasingly sophisticated and vital to the economic and social lives of the nation? What we need for the job is a first class engineer with good management experience who, if necessary, is prepared to even defy his political bosses with sound and practical solutions.
    The same thing goes for the management of our national shipping line which went to the dogs when a military general was put in charge. In spite of his scholar reputation I am quite sure he would have zero knowledge about shipping which is a world of difference from what he had been accustomed to.
    It is very easy to sit in your comfortable offices and earn big bucks but if you know nuts about the bolts (and nuts) of what makes the company tick, you are not the man for the job. Simple as that.
    If we see no change in the way appointments are made, be prepared for more cock-ups.
    Our selected president who is supposed to have the power to veto appointments should look into this.

     

    Source: Mohamed Jufrie Bin Mahmood

  • Fundraising For The Late Finn Dawkins’ Wife And Son

    Fundraising For The Late Finn Dawkins’ Wife And Son

    On the 12th of September, a family’s world was irrevocably changed due to the sudden and unexplained death of Finn Dawkins. He has left behind his loving wife and wonderful little boy who at the tender age of 4 struggles to understand the finality of their circumstance. Finn Dawkins served his community with a measure of loyalty and compassion that was both selfless and constant.

    Everything he did was only carried out with the best of intentions for anyone he came across or helped. This was a humble man of his word that would go above and beyond for the ones he held close, even putting aside his own wants or needs to help others in their circumstance. There are many in the Perth community who will confirm that his presence left an indelible mark on many families, especially those who required his legal support and compassionate advice.

    But his passing has also left a mark of grief and severe hardship for his devastated wife and son, Maryiam and Laith Dawkins. Maryiam herself endures ongoing physical pain of living with multiple severely debilitating health conditions which impact her on an almost daily basis, and with long-term implications this also prevents her from securing suitable employment that she would be able to withstand.

    Despite her own hardships, she has always given everything she can back to the community and has even coordinated emergency relief and aid to hundreds of families in need. Never would she have thought that she would find herself in such a difficult circumstance for herself and her young son, facing not only unforeseen future of health-related impacts, but also now untold expenses due to outstanding debts and funeral related expenses, which make looking for a new place to call home incredibly difficult.

    The generous nature of this beautiful family and their work did not always allow for a comfortable profit margin nor a future-proof safety net. We are asking for all those who have been touched by Finn’s legacy or Maryiam’s courage to donate however much they can spare to ensure her time in need does not go unnoticed.

    This community can never repay the Dawkins for the advocacy, activism and charity that it has facilitated and truthfully neither Finn nor Maryiam would ever expect a single thought in return. However, it is time to show a family that is close to the hearts of so many, that they’re not alone and they don’t have to struggle. The goal is to get them on their way to thriving, rather than just merely surviving while the funeral related grief and expenses continue to roll in. No amount is too small or too great.

    Those who want to donate, please go to: https://www.gofundme.com/support-maryiam-and-laith

  • Malay Woman Teach Thousands Of Non-Chinese Students Mandarin

    Malay Woman Teach Thousands Of Non-Chinese Students Mandarin

    From teaching Mandarin to her non-Chinese colleagues and neighbours a decade ago at her house in Taman Scientex, Pasir Gudang, Azlen Sugito now has five centres in Johor, Melaka and Selangor.

    The 33-year-old has introduced her own teaching modules and guide books to teach non-Chinese students Mandarin at her centres in Taman Bukit Dahlia, Pasir Gudang; Bandar Baru Utama in Johor Baru; Taman Saleng, Kulai; Cheng, Melaka; and Taman Puchong Utama, Selangor.

    Azlen said she has helped thousands of students, mainly Malays, Indians and people from Sabah and Sarawak, converse in Mandarin.

    From teaching Mandarin to her non-Chinese colleagues and neighbours a decade ago at her house in Taman Scientex, Pasir Gudang, Azlen Sugito now has five centres in Johor, Melaka and Selangor.

    The 33-year-old has introduced her own teaching modules and guide books to teach non-Chinese students Mandarin at her centres in Taman Bukit Dahlia, Pasir Gudang; Bandar Baru Utama in Johor Baru; Taman Saleng, Kulai; Cheng, Melaka; and Taman Puchong Utama, Selangor.

    Azlen said she has helped thousands of students, mainly Malays, Indians and people from Sabah and Sarawak, converse in Mandarin.

     

     

    Source: The Star