Tag: Muslim

  • Hizbut Tahrir Malaysia: Muslim Men Do Not Require Wife’s Consent To Have Sex With Her

    Hizbut Tahrir Malaysia: Muslim Men Do Not Require Wife’s Consent To Have Sex With Her

    BANGI, April 27 — A Muslim does not need his wife’s consent to have sex with her as marriage gives a man a right to his spouse’s body, hardline Islamist group Hizbut Tahrir Malaysia (HTM) has claimed.

    HTM spokesman Ustaz Abdul Hakim Othman said it is sinful for a Muslim woman to reject her husband for sex and that Islam only permits her to do so if she is “exhausted”, not “merely tired”; ill; or if intercourse will harm her health.

    “Even if it’s by force, it’s not sinful for him; the sin is on his wife,” Hakim told Malay Mail Online when met at HTM’s headquarters here yesterday.

    “But if he hits or kicks his wife in order to have sex, that’s wrong. You have to look at the level of their struggle — if it doesn’t harm her, it’s okay; but if it harms her, it’s wrong.

    “The wife, though, must know that it’s wrong to reject him,” he added.

    Several Muslims said on Facebook recently that marital rape does not exist in Islam even if a Muslim has non-consensual sex with his wife.

    They were responding to DAP’s Damansara Utama assemblyman Yeo Bee Yin’s rape awareness campaign called “Rape is rape. No excuse” that lists as rape — sex with an intoxicated woman, sex with a girl below 16 years of age, sex with one’s own wife without her consent, and sexual assault by strangers.

    Hakim said marriage legalises a Muslim to have sexual relations with a woman.

    “Your body is to be used by your husband, to put it crudely. When you marry a woman, there’s no need to get consent [for sex], no need at all,” he said.

    He also said a Muslim woman cannot reject her husband’s sexual advances on the basis that she has “no mood”, but stressed that a Muslim man is similarly obligated to fulfill his wife’s requests for sex.

    “Those are the rights of husband and wife…When you have premarital sex, it’s sinful. But if you do it with your wife or husband, you get blessings,” he added.

    The spokesman of the conservative Muslim group told a forum earlier that according to several hadiths, a woman who rejects her husband for sex will be “cursed by angels throughout the night”.

    Hadiths are sayings and actions attributed to Prophet Muhammad.

    Association of Women Lawyers president Meera Samanther said marital rape is not a criminal offence in Malaysia, noting that Section 375A of the Penal Code only criminalises the act of a husband hurting his wife, or putting into her the fear of death or hurt, in order to have sexual intercourse with her.

    “It’s not the act of rape that’s an offence; it’s putting the fear,” Meera told Malay Mail Online.

    “There’s this view that women are property of husbands. That archaic view is still there,” the women’s rights activist added.

    Meera also said the Joint Action Group for Gender Equality, a coalition of women’s rights groups, has been lobbying since the 1980s for marital rape to be criminalised.

    Criminal lawyer Datuk Geethan Ram said he knows of cases where both Muslim and non-Muslim women lodge police reports about being raped by their spouses, but the complainants do not continue to have their cases prosecuted in court.

    “In most instances, they want a report to be used in their divorce application or proceedings,” he said.

    The former deputy public prosecutor said women do not want to proceed with prosecution of their rape complaints because some of them are homemakers who are financially dependent on their husbands and noted that even when their spouses are charged with rape, they still have to continue living together.

    “[There’s also the] misconception that they are duty bound to ‘provide’ sex since they are married,” said Geethan, noting that this misconception is not unique to Muslim women but is prevalent among “most women, even the educated”.

     

    Source: www.themalaymailonline.com

  • Bursting The Muslim Bubble

    Bursting The Muslim Bubble

    Malaysian Muslims in general tend to live in bubbles.

    Due to their dietary requirements, they isolate themselves in a bubble so unnecessarily strict and complex that it is now a burgeoning industry of its own.

    They need to live with constant reminders to pray, and daily break periods to fulfil those prayers.

    They require to be judged on certain issues with laws of their own, with a separate legal system with separate judges and separate courts.

    Sometimes, these bubbles are even carried overseas together with them, whenever they travel abroad.

    Students tend to stick together to preserve the bubble, to protect them from the wicked world outside that wishes to entice them away.

    When travelling in tours, they find it easier to stay in the bubble and repeat their daily routine instead of directly participating in different cultures.

    At best, keeping themselves in these bubbles polarises non-Muslims as outcasts, and always as “the others.” At worst, by retreating further into their own shells, Muslims leave non-Muslims increasingly uncaring about their affairs, with both having fewer and fewer things in common.

    Bigger problems, however, will inadvertently arise when Muslims try to expand these bubbles everywhere, and make others live inside these boundaries they have created for themselves.

    Take the example of the do’s and dont’s of entertainment according to federal Islamic authorities Jakim, which is already in the second edition this year. If you think it only applies to Muslims, then you are far too hopeful.

    We recognise that some Muslims have different attitudes towards entertainment. But even then, such an attitude is hardly shared among all Muslims in the country.

    If that is the case, then why is Jakim being given the authority to draw umbrella guidelines for the industry, just based on the moral outlook of several clerics who sit in the fatwa committee?

    The guidelines came only in one flavour: Islamic. The crowd must be segregated according to gender. Jokes must not lead to “excessive laughter.” Song lyrics must contain elements of “goodness and pure values.” Music should “motivate positive atmosphere.”

    It was clearly a matter of the clergy class poking their nose into something it is essentially clueless about, and has no business regulating.

    Under fire, Jakim then clarified that the guidelines were exactly that: guidelines. But that was the simple fact of the matter: Islamic authorities just cannot enforce those restrictions.

    But Jakim’s defensive reply rang too hollow, when the hawkish Islamic authorities are infamous for overstepping their boundaries with zealotry, in more ways than one.

    We know the drill all too well. As much as as Jakim wants to hide it, the guidelines themselves specified that any entertainment event must be referred to the authorities for guidance.

    Especially after the furore involving a K-pop mini event, event organisers are just prey waiting to be wolfed down the moment they as much as sneeze in the wrong key.

    If Jakim says the guidelines are not obligatory, then we must keep them to their words, and never back down.

    After all, are fatwas not supposed to be nothing more than learned opinions? Instead, that is not how it is in Malaysia. As the bubble grows, what is right now is at the mercy and whims of the Muslim community.

    Which brings us to the issue of the church in Taman Medan, that was forced to remove the cross from its facade by no more than an angry bunch of Malay-Muslims.

    Under public criticism and mockery, Malay supremacists quickly jumped on the news that the church was deemed illegal by the local council.

    Almost too conveniently, they quickly forgot the fact that the initial protest had nothing to do with legality, but laughably a stark fear that such public display of the Christian cross may affect the faith of the Muslim community.

    The Malay-Muslim community in the area did not even try to hide that fact, with an interview by Malay Mail Online this week showing them admitting that they were genuinely afraid that Christianity might appeal to the locals, and how the cross was “provocative.”

    Even after it was advised by state lawmakers to replace the cross, the church did not do so. The facade had stayed bare.

    But this fear and cowardice is only too common. Two other houses of worship in the same area, another church and a Hindu temple, pride themselves on being discreet so as to not “offend” the Muslim locals.

    Were they to blame? After all in 2013, Islamists Ikatan Muslimin Malaysia (Isma) complained that a RM10 million temple renovation jeopardised Malaysia’s “Islamic image.” Earlier this year, a Muslim consumers’ group complained of a picture of Batu Caves on mineral water bottles.

    There is a reason why churches are being driven away to shoplots. Because when it becomes a free-standing structure, it may face even bigger protests from Muslims just for being “too huge.” Not to mention the possible hurdles it faces to get built in the first place.

    Some Islamists just want to see religions other than Islam being reduced to the domain of homes.

    Like Brunei, will we see public celebrations of Christmas and Chinese New Year disappear from the public space? Already, there are complaints that shopping malls are putting too much money and effort into grand celebrations of non-Muslim festivities.

    While Islam might be the religion of the federation, does it give absolute impunity for Muslims to carelessly expand their bubbles at the cost of others? We should not let this illusion cow us. It falls on us to prick those bubbles.

    * This is the personal opinion of the columnist, Zurairi Ar.

     

    Source: www.themalaymailonline.com

  • Taman Medan Church Pastor Forgives Protestors

    Taman Medan Church Pastor Forgives Protestors

    Overwhelmed by support for his church, the senior pastor of Taman Medan’s Community of Praise Petaling Jaya church Pastor Paul Packianathan choked back tears as he thanked Malaysians for standing in solidarity with the congregation and said the church had forgiven protesters who demanded the removal of the cross displayed on the outside of the building.

    Speaking after the Sunday service today, he said the church had forgiven the protestors who staged a demonstration outside the church last Sunday.

    “That’s what my Jesus taught me. On the cross, Jesus said forgive them father for they do not know what they are doing. We do not hold any grudge.We pray for forgiveness for all. That is why we forgive them.

    “If they are here I will hug them now,” he said.

    Also present was his wife Victoria, who is also a pastor, members of the congregation, and other members of the public.

    Victoria had been the pastor in charge last Sunday when a group of 50 Muslim residents from the Taman Medan community protested in front of the shoplot where the house of worship was located and demanded that the cross affixed to the building facade to be taken down.

    They said the cross was a challenge to Islam and would sway the faith of youth in the area.

    The church, however, has not decided if it will return the cross back to its place on the building.

    “We are waiting the Lord to direct us what we should do next,” Paul said, when asked if the church’s leadership would put up the cross again.

    Selangor Menteri Besar Mohamed Azmin Ali earlier this week said the church should put back the cross on the building’s facade, as there was nothing wrong in doing so as it was the symbol of Christianity.

    Paul today thanked Azmin, and also Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Razak, for speaking up to defend the church on the matter.

    The pastor said removing the cross from the building had been the “right thing” to do at the time of the protest.

    “Last week at this time she conducted the service. The worship cannot be stopped no matter what. But she also had to consider the safety of everybody,” he said, referring to Pastor Victoria.

    “I fully support her decision to take down the cross at the time. Being a keyboard warrior is easy as you did not experience what happened,” Paul added, referring to those who had criticised the move to take off the cross last Sunday.

    The pastor also defended one of the protestors, an Umno branch chief Datuk Abdullah Abu Bakar, and said news and photos circulating of him being in a casino was “wrong”.

    “That is character assassination. It’s very, very wrong. What does it have to do with any of this?

    “The news also said he was very ‘angry’ when he was here. There was no such thing. Pastor Victoria mentioned everything in a police report she lodged recently,” Paul said.

    Abdullah, the elder brother of Inspector-General of Police Tan Sri Khalid Abu Bakar, had told the media subsequently that he had been at the protest to help keep the situation calm.

    Police are now investigating the demonstration, and have interviewed several protestors, including Abdullah.

    Khalid, who at first cleared the demonstrators of any wrong, has since said that he will not interfere if action is taken against his brother.

    Najib in a statement on April 21, said the Cabinet had directed the police to investigate the protest and warned, that action could be taken under the Sedition Act or other existing laws.

    The Selangor government has also clarified that churches do not need permits to hold worship services in shop lots or commercial properties, and that only a notification of their activities to the state’s Council on Non-Islam Affairs, was required.

     

    Source: www.themalaysianinsider.com

  • Outrage As Filipino Eats Hotdog At Halal Arnold’s

    Outrage As Filipino Eats Hotdog At Halal Arnold’s

    A netizen, DjNiqzam DjNiqzam complained on facebook that he came across a Philipino lady eating her own hotdog at the Halal Arnold’s restaurant in Yishun on Saturday.

    The netizen had taken a photo of the woman eating there and shared it on the Arnold’s at Yishun Facebook page.

    He explained that the manager at the store, who was also a Philipino, did not do anything about the woman eating on the Arnolds plate.

    Understandably, netizens were not impressed. His post received close to 100 shares in half a day and many commented that this was not acceptable:

     DJNiqzam later also explained in further detail what the manager on duty did:

    “What i can say here is that, the philipino manager did not do a proper job in handling this matter cos he himself a Philipino and is Not a Muslim. He cant feel what we Muslims feel and futhermore this thing happen in a Halal restaurant! What he did is that, he took an oil strainer paper and pass it to the lady to place the hotdog on it since it cannot be place on the plate! WHAT??!! When i raised my voice towards them then they packed the hotdog back into their bag! My 2nd comment asking for some to share my post as to create awareness to others to show abit of respect towards Halal restaurant. What should not be done! Some may know and some may not.”

    Netizens commenting on the thread said that it is important to highlight issues such as this so that people know the rules and needs for Halal restaurants. However at least one person also noted that we shouldn’t be jumping to conclusions as it could actually be a halal hotdog:

      

    In response to the doubt about the meat used in the hotdog, DJNizqam said that it was still a concern:

    In fact, it seems he is right as according to the MUIS Halal certification terms and conditions at s2.1, doubtful food items cannot be brought onto a Halal food premise at all:

    2.1 Doubtful and non halal products/raw materials must not be stored, used, sold or brought into the presmises applied for certification.

    What is still worrying is the way that the Arnold’s Manager handled the situation when they are also unlikely to know the meat used in the hotdog. Should managers in Halal certified eateries be better trained to know how to handle such situations?

     

    Source: www.therealsingapore.com

  • Confessions Of A Minah Tudung: Disappointed At The Script For Beer Chugging Antics On Stage, Sadder That Muslim Friend Cheered Them On

    Confessions Of A Minah Tudung: Disappointed At The Script For Beer Chugging Antics On Stage, Sadder That Muslim Friend Cheered Them On

    Admin jangan marah saya nak luahkan perasaan sikit.

    Tak tenteram fikiran saya.  Satu malam tak boleh tidur dibuatnya.

    Semalam, saya dan another four of my girlfriends pergi tengok concert The Script at the Indoor Stadium. Kita dah lama kenal each other…sejak dari madrasah dulu. We all buat lain pekerjaan sekarang. Satu masih lagi studying in private uni – lets just call her M.

    Kita semua love sangat dengan The Script.   They are a mature band and their songs are full of meaning.  No contest between them and One Direction.

    Tapi yesterday our patience betul kena test.  Kata concert start at 8pm tapi the show start lambat. Kita tunggu punya tunggu punya tunggu, tak start jugak. I rasa the concert only eventually started around 930pm gitu. Apa tak darah up?!  Tapi kita sabar jugak. Amazingly, other people pun sabar jugak and were having fun among themselves.

    Only later they explained ada technical problem dengan he big screen.  Hai.

    Tapi tu bukan the worst part.

    Yang buat kita uncomfortable and disappointed ni, one-third through the show, they stopped to interact with the fans.

    Kalau interact je tak kisah lah kan…Tapi the singer, Danny (O’Donoghue), and the guitarist, Mark (Sheehan), ada macam drink-off competition. Diorang minum beer on stage one after another and urge the crowd cheer them on as they try to drink a whole bottle of beer without stopping. Subhanallah.

    People around us semua started to cheer and encourage them like it was the most fun thing to do.

    Me and my friends tak kena gaya because kita were very uncomfortable by their drinking. What they dd in their personal life is their choice. Tapi kalau they do it at a concert macam gini, it makes Muslimahs like me think twice about attending another concert, even though we love, love, love their music.

    Yang lebih mengelirukan, si M pun dengan ghairahnya pun ikut sama cheer diorang minum beer. Awkward sey…I coud feel the may stares we were getting from being this mostly-hijab clad group with another Malay girl boisterously cheering the drink-off.

    Tak tau lah if we’ll ever go to another concert again. Even if The Script comes back.

    But what’s bugging me now is, how do we tell M that kita tak senang dengan perangai dia?

     

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