Tag: Singapore

  • Muslim converts to Catholic

    Semoga Allah memberikan pedoman kepada mereka yang tersesat jalan.

    ——-

    I am a born Muslim and now in the journey of getting myself baptized in the Catholic faith. I went through many years of hesitations and I’ve finally find myself at peace with the catholic faith. I’m hoping that everyone around would assist me in this journey towards the path of god. I’ve received my calling and I’ve felt god in ways I’m unable to describe. I want to build a relationship with god and not fear him. But as I go more in depth in the catholic faith, I realize that the transition from being a Muslim to a Catholic is not easy. I’ve receive my share of trials and challenges. My dear brother/sister, are you able to assist me with the following queries:

    • How discreet would me as a convert be between my family and me? I do not want to disclose any information regarding my faith to my family yet as I do not wish to jeopardize my close knit relationship with my mother. I understand that its not easy for any Muslim parent to be able to receive the news but I’m head strong with my decision in my faith. I believe I’m past the legal age to make my own decision and I do have my legal rights to keep this matter from them. I love my family but I’m loving god more.

    • How do I go about this journey legally? I’ve heard from past converts that MUIS will want to meet me personally for a few counseling sessions – is this true?

    Isaac Cassanova

    Sumber: http://bit.ly/1eFBIj7

  • CONFESSION: REGRET WEARING HIJAB

    I have considered for a very long time before writing this. It is personal and extremely controversial especially at this moment but I just want to share my story. While writing this brief life story, please do not judge me for my action.

    I am a Muslimah and I want to take off my Hijab. I have been thinking about this for years.

    I started wearing the Hijab when I was still in my early teens. A few of my best friends had been talking about it because there were very few people around us were doing it. We thought that it would be unique and we will be taken noticed by people. Being young, we soon decided to do it. After toying with the idea for weeks, I went to my friend’s house for a visit after school one day and it was then that she decided to dressed up and put on a Hijab. I decided to do it too and borrowed a Hijab from her. We left the house feeling extremely proud of ourselves. I felt so excited about wearing it unaware of the consequences more so when close friends were also wearing it.

    I went home that day and told my family of my decision to wear the Hijab. My father was surprised but felt that I was not ready due to my tender age but my mom was indifferent about the issue. There were those who asked if I was mad but I had do it. My close friends were wearing it and I didn’t want to be an outcast. Eventually, my father relented. I was so happy and I was busy matching my clothes with a pretty headscarves. There were people who called me stylish and pretty. I saw it as a major way of getting compliments and I realised I could get boys’ attention easily. Sadly, I didn’t do it for Islam or Allah and I sure didn’t understand the real reason behind the Hijab. I just wanted to be different from most other girls. It felt I was celebrated when I don the Hijab, I received so much flattery and encouragement that I felt that it was just the right thing to do.

    As any teenager, I faced the usual highs and lows of teenage life. Although Hijab was not a hindrance to my life but I am unsure if it was the right decision then. At first, it was like good. The attire kept away evil eyes and give people the modest impression. It enabled me to get the attention from boys that I fancy and I was still able to go out as normal with the boys. After a short few years, I started considering removing the Hijab. I felt unattractive, boring and restricted by the way how people perceived I should behave. It was not that I wanted to behave slutty or whatsoever but I just felt so bounded by the society. I cannot be myself. I cannot be the noisy, happy, funny girl when I’m at home. I felt that I was losing my sense of individuality and identity. I felt just like one of the girls. I began to dislike leaving the house. I felt ugly but after wearing it for years, I have no real reasons to remove it. I felt that there was pressure as people around me will start questioning me if I remove it. I felt an immense pressure to conform. Even when I leave the house, I walk with my head down and my eye fixed on the ground. I lost my self confidence and constantly feeling unsure of myself. I really have no intention to do anything haraam and I dress very modestly.

    I worked hard in school but I realised I started to have very low self-esteem. It was only later that I realised some Muslimah are hypocritical. There were those who wear the Hijab but with really tight clothing showing their figure. There were also those who wear clothing that shows faint outline of their G-string or those who unbutton their top revealing a little cleavage. Just the other day, I even observed a man ogling at a non-Muslim girl in the presence of his wife who dons a Hijab. I now realised that I didn’t really doubt Allah. I was questioning the reality of Muslims nowadays. I want to remove all restrictions and relive, relearn, realise the true face of my religion without any feelings of suffocation. I know I could be despised by the society but I’m sure Allah will understand and eventually forgive. He knows deep down why I am doing this.

    I had been having this continuous struggle for years and thinking of it every single day. The thoughts of removing off the Hijab are haunting me. If Islam is really about patience and merciful, I hope to eventually find peace with Allah but away from restrictions, especially the rules created by the society. All I want is to rediscover Islam without any frustrations and the freedom to differentiate what Allah told us to follow and what the community is currently doing. I know I will become close to Allah and truly understand the meaning of a true Muslimah.

    Diana Ibrahim 

    Sumber: http://bit.ly/1aP6QBm

  • Melayu Paling Miskin di Singapura?

    Dorling Kindersley Limited dari London telah menerbitkan satu buku teks yang menerangkan bahawa orang Melayu adalah yang PALING MISKIN di Singapura.

    Malays poorest in Singapore

    Malays poorest in SG_1

    Malays Poorest in SG_2

    Di tengah hiruk-pikuk gara-gara kenyataan ini, seorang anak melayu bernama ‘Fadhil’ setuju dan menambah bangsa Melayu memang ramai yang beragama Islam. Anda setuju dengan pendapat Fadhil ini?

    http://www.facebook.com/liyana.fadhil
    http://www.facebook.com/liyana.fadhil

    Before i start commenting, i would apologize 1st. My comment might hurt others and might be agreeable with others. Hear it goes…

    Its a known fact that generally Malays are poor. Generally Malays in SG are Muslims. So the fact that Malays are generally poorer is because

    1. They tend to leave it to fate. Always citing its fated that my future will be like this. What’s your effort in making a difference in your life?
    2. They spend on impulse & love showing off thus making them poorer due to never ending debt/riba’. We can see and hear from marriage consultants where weddings are paid on credit. Some even ended up with bad debts and bankruptcy.
    3. Islam is a rich religion and it advocates business but many are laid back and choose to grab a 9 to 5 job. Our Prophet PBUH used to ride on a camel called Buraq and the price of that camel, which is the highest grade today, is almost the same as a Ferrari in Dubai.
    4. Some fail to give their parents money thus not getting enough blessings.

    Im a human and reminding myself too. And if the comments about Malay being poor hits you as being poor materially, spiritually, emotionally, status symbol, socially or even physically, the responsibility for a change is in your hands. When an opportunity to change is present, act.

    Again Im sorry for the hard truth.

    Fadhil not Liyana

    *Foto kontribusi Shila Lada

  • Government’s Stance on Hijab Issue: No Change for more than 10 years

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    Splashed across two main papers today, namely Berita Minggu and the Sunday Times, were the government’s position on the hijab issue. Never has a piece of cloth generated so much buzz online and offline with polarized responses in support or otherwise.

    The government, true to its style, in a closed door dialogue with “community leaders”, reiterated its position once again. In gist, it’s akin to saying, we understand the concerns and aspirations of the community, yet for now, we are still unable to accede to that request.

    PM, in his dialogue was reported to have said, “the issue is broader than the hijab itself. . . It is about what sort of society we want to build in Singapore” (ST, 26Jan 2014: 1). My question here is this, what sort of society exactly is he referring to? One that separates totally the secular from the religion? Or one that sees the Singapore community as a homogeneous community?

    What is problematic about the stance that the Singapore government is adopting is, while it claims that it is building a multiracial society “where everyone has full and equal opportunities, the minority community can live its own way of life, practice its faith to the maximum way possible and not be . . . marginalized by the majority” (ibid), it is going against the very exact grain of that statement.

    There has been no thoughtful, insightful and intellectual rationalization of the hijab not being allowed to be worn in certain segments of the workplace. Highlighting that in the past 10 years, we have seen more agencies being flexible and allowing or incorporating the hijab at the workplace is a mere red herring to the bigger issue at hand. In fact, what it does show is that wearing the hijab is not an impediment or posing a problem to the worker or agency itself.

    Short ofcalling this a racist marginalization of a minority community, this reluctance to allow the hijab in various sectors are clearly bogged down by baggage from the past, stereotypes and the government’s obsession with uniformity and homogeneity.To them, having an outward show of religious symbols, would not exemplify Singapore as the model nation where it is secular yet still allowing the various religions to practice it in their own private spheres.

    There is a bigger problem, one that stems mainly from a prejudicial majority view. It is the wanting of minority communities to be assimilated into the culture of the majority. To them, if we can keep our religions to our private domains, why can’t you do the same? Without doubt, this attempt at the sinicization of the minority groups couched as building a multiracial society is clearly at odds with each other.Multiracialism should support diversity, and not creating one homogeneous society with only certain traits plucked and mixed together from the various societies.

    To date, we have not been told or it been clearly explained to us what this push back from other communities may be and frankly, had this been such an issue or point of contention with the other races, they would have made their sentiments known.Their nonchalance or perhaps non response on this issue points to 2 things: 1) either they really don’t know that the Muslims are facing this issue or 2) they really don’t care. Either way, the hijab issue to them, is a relatively minor issue or not something that is of grave concern to the other communities that it was pictured to be.

    The hijab issue must be made clear. Muslims are not asking for ALL women to wear hijab in ALL sectors, rather we are asking that for those ALREADY wearing the hijab, to allow them to continue wearing it. More importantly, the sectors in which Muslims are asking for are in the public nursing sector, the secular schools and certain frontline duties. I mean really, would Singapore suddenly become a Muslim country if the rule changes overnight?

    What is even more disappointing is when the Muslim community’s own leaders, and here I’m specifically pointing to the political leaders, who have time and again tried to placate the masses by telling us that they are doing something behind closed doors and that all these online calls, movements, rallying etc are only hurting their attempts. Look, if the last time this issue was brought up in 2001/2002 and the next time it sparked such a furore was in 2013/2014, what have you guys been doing for a good 10 years? Really, I genuinely wonder. Do you guys go to the PM and say “can we start allowing nurses to wear hijab this year? Ok, no? Ok we’ll try again next year.”

    How many times have this happened? You told us you did something, yet because we voiced our concerns in public, the government is backing down. It’s like saying to us,we almost had it there, but you guys had to spoil it. Now the blame is placed squarely on the shoulders of the community who voice their concerns because many of us see that no ground has been made by the Muslim political leaders. How easy it is to start pointing fingers at the very community who you claim have been supporting you all these while. Talk about biting the hand that feeds you.

    To those who have criticized the Mufti, and insulted him for his stance, I urge you, be conscious of Allah. Clearly, this only reflects on the immaturity of you guys for doing so. He has clearly stated that this issue now is not an issue of religion because no one disputes that it is compulsory for a Muslim woman to don the hijab. So do not misconstrue his words as if he is saying that the hijab is not an issue of religion. All he is saying is to tackle this issue with wisdom and maturity. One may not personally agree with his stance as it may seem to be regressing and Muslims need to continue to push. However, we must also understand his position, that being part of the government, he is still tied to the policies/regulations that the government has in place. Even if you don’t agree that as the Mufti he should be doing that, at the very least, hold your tongues against insulting a fellow Muslim. I personally wish that PERGAS would be more vocal of this issue as they were in 2001/2002. They are in the best position to give their honest views and continue to fight for the Muslim right to wear the hijab in the various workplace and/or institutions. However, PERGAS have been seen by many as already being co-opted by the government and is now also another mouthpiece to placate the masses. PERGAS needs to re-identify themselves and recalibrate their position so as to perform the duty of checks and balances to MUIS when the need arises.

    Amidst all these, we must understand that this (hijab issue) is a small battle that we are facing. The hijab issue must not, at the same time, detract as from facing issues of education, socio-economic standing, social problems etc that are persistently present all these years. That said however, this does not mean that because we have bigger battles to fight, we ignore the smaller skirmishes. The hijab issue is one that is close to the heart of Muslims. By telling the Muslims that you are not allowing them to don the hijab in certain sectors, you risk further alienating them from the mainstream society. This would only perpetuate further the long held view of the government that Muslims are distinct and separate. Allow the Muslims to don the hijab, and make the others understand why Muslims need to and do so, and perhaps you may then truly create a multiracial society that is all tolerant and understanding.

    Muhammad Haikal
     
  • Aftermath of Closed-Door Dialogue: Muslim Leaders on Hijab Issue

    “I sincerely apologise on behalf of some of the Malay community who might get carried away by their emotions in expressing their thoughts. They might not understand how difficult it is to solve the issue. I regret that their usage of language is inappropriate,” said Singapore’s Mufti Dr Mohamed Fatris Bakaram.

    “PM Lee shared examples when some participants picture us as ‘sparring partners’, but PM Lee in all honesty said we are not a sparring partner but a dancing partner,” said Haji Mohamad Hasbi Hassan, President of Pergas.

    “This is a larger issue that concerns the type of society that you want to become. While we can pretend that we can remove any vestiges of race, language and religion, it is still below the surface,” said Dr Yaacob Ibrahim.

    “I think that is something that we cannot ignore. And I think people recognise that because when you look at it from a single perspective, you think it’s about your rights, but when you look at it in a wider context, where other people have other rights also, it becomes a battle of who is right and who is wrong.” said Dr Yaacob Ibrahim.

    Madam Moliah Hashim, former CEO of Mendaki, said: “My hope is we exemplify what it is to be a good Muslim woman. Not only in the way we… dress but in the way we… work, the way we uphold our integrity, in the way we are competent in whatever assignment we are given. That is to me is much more important than wearing the hijab or not.

    Dr Intan Azura Mokhtar, MP for Ang Mo Kio GRC, said: “I think we need to continue this dialogue so that we understand one another better, not just from the community, to the government, through the MP, but also from the perspective of the government, the challenges that it faces and how the community and the society can understand those challenges better.”