Recently, a young Malay woman Xiaoxiao Budaqqkecik posted a comment and uploaded a video of a Chinese funeral that lasted for several days at her void deck.
She also brought in example of how Malay void deck weddings would not be easily tolerated due to the noise, and questioned how this could easily escalate into hate comments and complaints from residents who would call the police. To know more about Xiaoxiao Budaqqkecik comments, click here.
Several Chinese Singaporeans have also expressed their views on the video. Here are their comments:
Some chinese won’t agree with this doe .. but all I’m saying is you respect my culture and I’ll respect yours. Malay wedding is not the same place every week. And we only do on the weekend. Same as chinese but they weekdays also have yet we don’t complain much. It’s just that we really want to get along and respect each other culture. Not comparing but this is the fact that is happening in singapore you guys always complain but when one malay speak up, you just can’t seems to agree. Like that then very hard lorr. – Authored by Xiaoxiao Budaqqkecik
Every culture has its own quirky display of happiness and sadness. Certain occasions, we can be loud and flamboyant; at times we embrace it quietly. And that’s what makes us uniquely Singaporeans. Singaporeans have high tolerance towards many things. We earned it!
Let’s face it guys, we live in HDB. We share common spaces, and that’s the great thing about living so close to one another. We learn to accept each other’s erratic behaviour and admittedly we grow fond of it. When it comes to sharing, we must give and take.
Let’s not bicker on the issue of tolerance and question our steel hard social cohesion.
Our parents have done it peacefully, why can’t we? Think about it.
Credit: Berita Harian SGhttps://www.facebook.com/galaxytrioterbaik
At first when Rilek1Corner published articles on a MLM/Pyramid/Ponzi/GRQ company, I was furious becos I had just joined in and it would affect my prospecting.
True as it is, the prospects started canceling meetings and there were even people who stood me up. I just had a newborn baby and had to leave her for this meeting every night to accompany prospects to view the presentations. I took cabs there. I needed to pay for the trainings that they provided which is just to teach you how to use the website and how to persuade your family, friends and strangers to join in as well which requires you endless of postings and the annoying random tagging Facebook friends (Ya that was taught in the training).
And if you need flyers that only published some Caucasian family with USD notes in it (it was said that the company is branched out into Asia regions and the base is here so why not picture our locals and not some photo ripped off from Google) and name cards, you also need to pay for that. They are all not inclusive in their expensive membership fees. The application forms for your prospects are also DIY and you need to print them on your own. Rich company with cheap ideas.
It was a requirement to have such huge capitals to join. There were small and big boards. Sound like a money game right? That is why some individuals have views that it is similar to gambling which is quite true to me now. You risk thousands of dollars in it and if your board is stuck and no one in your board recruits anyone, you will forever be at the same position you joined in and don’t get any returns at all.
The people who take photos with lots of money make it looks so easy. They are people who already have connections with people who have money. Thus they can create their own network bigger and faster than the ones who do not have connections. Sometimes it is also becos they were from a different MLM company and dragged the others to join in the new ones. It is like a fad. These group of people will keep changing their attentions and try all other platforms in MLM industry to make money out of others’ hard earned money.
This particular MLM company has their members posting that you need not sell anything when their membership is inclusive with “motivational” ebooks written by an author who is a Minister in the United States in the 16th century. They said it is not an MLM company becos it is not like other companies that requires you to sell various products with targets and the uplines profiting in your sales.
How can it be not an Multi-Level Marketing company when they have 4 levels in each board?
And in order for you to get your payout you have to be at the top and it does not matter if the vacant boxes are filled up by you or other members in the board. Once you are at the very top, and the empty boxes are filled, you get your payout.
So aren’t you profiting on other member’s efforts? If it is not pyramid scheme, why is the board in a shape of a pyramid?
A matrix board system is a modified pyramid scheme. They claimed that the company originated from Canada for 26 years but the company registry was done in 2013, also in British Virgin Islands. Contradicting isnt it? When asked where the other members in other parts of the world other than Asia, they will say we can only access the website which is only in our region. Strange isn’t it now? Members also asked who the founder in Canada is. No one has the answers and instead we were told that we are not allowed to acknowledge who the founder is becos afraid that competitor companies will spoil the market. More question marks now.
Till date, no one cld tell any truth about it. When someone tries to speak up, they will threaten you that they file a lawsuit against you for defamation. If it is legal and lawful, why is the company not registered in Singapore itself after so many commotions? They will tell you it is becos SG will tax us and we will receive low payouts. So? If anything happens, you have no one to turn to becos it is not a registered company here.
The thing is with people who are involved in MLM, they will fish you in by sweet talking, be it family members, relatives, friends or just strangers. Telling you that there are no other “good” platforms as such anywhere in the country. When you join, they leave you 100% on your own and expect you to do your work. If you don’t get to recruit anyone, they will accuse you of sleeping or not doing your work. Trust me, it had been dozens of times me going up and down their office to accompany prospects and many turned me down.
Criticisms over the social media on what I was doing. It was a waste of so much money. People joining in with hopes to get rich but in the end losing money. What the pioneers or the successful ones are doing, they just keep going and leave the unlucky ones behind. Telling you it is all rezeki/fate that you dont get your money back. If you give up, they even block you in FB becos they deem you as a negative person.
Seriously? As uplines or pioneers, you should guide and help. Not leave us. Clearly shown how people can be nice to you for money and nasty when they receive your money. Instantly you become an enemy to them. Why show others photos of the same people? How about the unsuccessful ones? They tell you 1k-2k members has gotten their payouts so why is it less than 1% of the “successful” members’ testimonials published in the website?
Again Rilek1Corner would like to take this opportunity to remind dear readers about get-rich quick schemes (GRQ) and its many guises – MLM, Pyramid, Ponzi, Board, Matrix, Pigeon, etc.
Just like human beings, these GRQs come in many fancy names. But there will always be two constant characteristics: (i) the recruitment of new members, and (ii) you are required to pay some money upfront. This money can be in the form of membership fee, registration fee, or some admin charges. It is just a simple reason for them to take your hard-earned money.
Remember, your hard-earned money is your money. Learn to appreciate. Instead of giving to strangers, might as well spend it on your family and loved ones. Unless you strike a lottery, no one gets rich in an instant.
If people say they are wealth experts, why are they still staying in public housing? Why aren’t they employed as ministers and coming out with policies to help Singaporeans if they are really that great? Why aren’t they being headhunted by banks and other MNCs to help generate money?
Instead they target commoners like you and us.
Please save your money. Keep it for rainy days.
Ramadhan is approaching soon. Let’s not fool our friends, relatives and those poor elderly people who have little savings left to spend during their silver years.
Not trying to be racist or rude here but what if this were to be a malay wedding?
Confirm people will complain till the police come. I won’t talk about how bright was the light and people talking loudly last night and the other night.
But hey, what if that was our “rewang”? Confirm you guys complain and police will come also. This is noisy but I don’t mind at all, I don’t mind since early in this morning till now about this noise.
I don’t mind my son afternoon nap is being disturb. I don’t mind about my health problem due to this noise. Cause I respect your culture. Even if this noise will end for few days.
But just imagine if this were to be a malay wedding …. I believe there will be alot of complaining. I’m gonna keep this and last night video in case on my wedding day there will be complains.
All I asking is for everyone to respect each other culture and stop complaining!
If I can respect yours why can’t you??
Authored by Xiaoxiao Budaqqkecik
EDITOR’S NOTE
This is the reality living in HDB.
The principles of coexistence and tolerance are important as bases for building mutually acceptable relationships between highly diverse communities within a larger society.
Singapore is a multi-racial and multi-religious society. Different racial and religious groups have their own beliefs and practices, understanding one and another can build networks of trust across different communities. Being mindful when speaking can also avoid clashes – a careless comment may ignite an argument which may in turn snowball into bigger-scale disputes.
We would think that the strong bonds and trust between people was the key.
Hopeful parents who have pinned high hopes on their children to win a beauty contest, unfortunately were left confused, shattered and clueless as organiser refused to reply their calls and messages. The beauty contest for children is known as Prince And Princess Asian World.
Several parents emailed Rilek1Corner to express their anger and disappointment towards a Singaporean beauty contest organiser named Sarina Yee, or more popularly known as Rina Aura who has gone MIA (missing in action) since Mar 2014. Some say their calls and messages were ignored as early as Jan 2014.
Sarina Yee is the founder of Makin & Sorfina Productions, a small company that organises mini beauty contests in Singapore. The company is located at International Plaza.
Angry parents claimed that Sarina Yee took all their money and fled. Rilek1Corner has tried to contact Sarina Yee through her mobile number and Facebook but she remains uncontactable. We also called the office, but no one picks up.
It was gathered that Sarina Yee likes to mince her words and always over-promised but under-deliver.
Other miniature beauty contests such as Battle of the Queens in 2013 and Peoples’ Association Hari Raya North Bazaar in 2013 were also organised by Makin & Sorfina Productions.
These miniature beauty contests for both children and adults seemed to be very popular among the Malay contestants.
There’s something we need to confess to you. We, straight Muslims, do not hate you. In fact, we have never hated you. True, we may seem aggressive with our acts of eradicating LGBTQ from the society but it’s not because we hate you.
So my dear brothers and sisters, how can homosexuality ever be acceptable in Islam?
Allah’s wisdom is so great that nothing can surpass it. We’re always talking about hijab. That’s why we even need to hijab when we’re in the same room with the same gender. Both men’s and women’s aurah when in front of the same gender are from the navel to the knees (knees included). We cannot be naked in front of anyone, except for your halal wife/husband. That’s the beauty of marriage. MasyaAllah. How much details Allah SWT has put into the rules and guidelines for us to live our daily lives and not even a single loophole in Islam.
Allah SWT even forbid us from cross-dressing. A lady can’t dress like a guy and a guy can’t dress like a lady. Even if a guy wears the headscarf just for sake of fun, it is haram. SubhanAllah. How strict our Lord is when it comes to this.
Again my homosexual brothers and sisters, we’re not against you. We will never humiliate you. Those who humiliate you are not one of us. We are here to give constant reminders to you. It may be hurtful going through the process of purification. No doubt, it will be very very hard to contain those urges and desires. But just think of your parents, if not for them, you’ll not see the world. You need both mother’s and father’s love and attention. You know both of them play very different roles. Can you imagine yourself being brought up by same sex parents? And knowing that you’re either adopted or your birth isn’t normal? Not knowing who’s your real parents or who your dad is? If you can’t imagine, then please spare the emotional torture from your future child(ren). Plus, you know how important breastfeeding is to newborn. How can you have the heart depriving a newborn of the best nutrition?
Allah is great. He wants to protect us. Have we not read of the statistic that proportionally, more homosexuals are infected by HIV than heterosexuals? Can’t you see how much Allah SWT, the One who created you, loves you? He knows you more than you know yourself. He forbids homosexuality as He knows how much detrimental effects it will bring to you, to the community.
It’s not too late, my dear brothers and sister. You may have a very dark past. You may feel that your sin is too big for Allah SWT to forgive. But know that the only sin that Allah SWT won’t forgive is syirk (associating partners to Allah SWT). Allah SWT says in the Qur’an:
“Allah says: “O My servants who have transgressed against their souls, do not despair of Allah’s mercy, for Allah forgives all sins. It is He Who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” (al-Quran 39:53)
Remember that whenever you wanna repent and there’s something inside you saying that you’re not deserving of Allah’s forgiveness, that’s not your voice. That’s syaitan who’s whispering into your ears. You’re better than syaitan and iblis. Know that while you’re struggling to stop loving the same gender, there’s also a straight person who’s struggling not to be in a haram relationship.
I know this post may not change you, but my only hope is that for you to keep seeking the truth. My only advise is that to not miss any prayers. I remembered at one point of time how far I was from Allah SWT, but I keep telling myself that I should never miss any prayers. How difficult it was to find the time or place to pray, I still struggled hard to stop making excuses for myself. At that moment, I didn’t know what actions will make Allah SWT happy, but I knew the things that Allah SWT hated. So I tried my best to refrain from doing things that brought pleasure to me, but hatred to Allah SWT.
If you always club, drink, smoke, have promiscuous sex, or any sinful acts, avoid it one by one. No one is asking you to change drastically. For drastic change will bear drastic impact. If you can handle the drastic impact, then Alhamdulillah for you. If not, then do it one at a time. What’s most important is that you have the intention to change, only for the One. Keep making do’a to the Lord of the universe. Know that if He can control the entire universe, controlling your heart is just a small matter. Just ask for it. He doesn’t need you to survive, you need Him to survive.
Life is just a challenge. Everyone has their own challenges. If you think your challenge is the biggest, know that there’s someone else in this world who’s struggling to live; no food, no place to sleep, no parents, don’t know if tomorrow a bullet gonna pierce through his/her head.
You can be the happiest person. You don’t need a human’s love to make you feel complete. All you need is Allah SWT’s and Rasulullah SAW’s love. To have your halal spouse to love you, is a bonus. You choose your own happiness.
“A happy person once said: “The beautiful day is the day on which we have control of our affairs and our affairs do not control us. It is the day on which we control our desires and we are not controlled by them like slaves.”” (extracted from the book ‘You Can Be The Happiest Women In The World’)
Last not but not least, be friends with those who love Allah SWT. Be in the environment that gives you the positive vibe. Know that if someone loves Allah SWT, it doesn’t only come from the heart. If someone truly and sincerely loves Him, from the heart it will automatically show through from one’s appearance and actions. Be with those who truly and sincerely love Him.
How contradictory and hurtful it may sound, but know that those who support your sinful acts are actually the one who don’t love you. Those who stop and acknowledge you are the ones who truly love you. Life is temporary and we don’t want you to live “happily” only for a short period of time. We want you to be happy forever, now and till the Hereafter. InsyaAllah.
May Allah SWT guide us always and never make us go astray.
